Due in June - Thread 8!!!!! Boy can we chat!

[Lua]

All right, a brand new and fresh thread...

I am so toroughly depressed now. I didn't know bubbles. Never talked to her. I've never heven heard of her until I went over to look at that thread. Her husbands post was so obviously written by a man of great strength. IF it was me, I'm quite sure I wouldn't be able to pull myself together to post that message for some time. It just leaves wanting to saqy to him... OMG, What happened? I gether from his post that he feels they should have moved to caesarean much faster (within the hour). Oh how terribly sad.... sniff sniff....

Tea - I'm 24 weeks and 3 now. But I just was so unrealistic; here I am moaning about my bad back and it could be worse

Lippy - The bras are ridiculous it seems the only ones that have the support I need are Anita ones. I have a couple of other cheapy ones but if I walk quickly It just plain hurts, Not to mention I have 2 black eyes. I am begrudged buying them now though cos if I am an F before the milk comes in what the hell is gonna happen afterwards. Not to mention who wants to spend £30 on a bra???? I want to go out for lunch not spend my money on industrial investments for my boobs

KATZ - oh well done!

TEA!! BEHAVE!! That thread is buried in the past Ooh - are you Hungarian by the way? How fab. I'm an eigth Manx you know...

Yes lippy - I see this thread as my "home" thread, somewhere no-one's going to be mean or sanctamonious

KVG - I think we should make a pact to remain on the Due in June thread until we've ALL had our babies, then just change it over to "June '05 post natal Club or something?

Lua - I'm sure it won't all be plain sailing for hardly any of us in the months to come so I hope we can all be here for one another even if we have to deal with the nasty stuff

Pink - I (hope) I've slowed down weight wise for a bit - but I dont htink for one second we'll off scott free from the rapid wieght gain at the end...

Hmm - Cheese fondue then Chocolate fondue for pud!

I call my mum "mother" because it's exactly the kind of mum she is. She tried to install herself as grandma a while ago, and I vetoed it and said, oh no your are "Grandmother".

I, on the other hand, will never be called Mother. It is forbidden. I'd like her to call me mummy but somehow she has picked up the American Mommy. I think the nanny says mommy. I can live with that, though.

Oh I know Uwila - It seems it just went on so long and they were both so big too - couldn't that add to the distress of the situation twins are so difficult to carry anyway. Gosh

It mirrors what I have been reading in 'The reading group' by Elizabeth Nobel but it is real this time. Infact the reading group has had me caught up for days. I was feeling crap enough about fiction but Bubbles is real I expect her husband is kinda not even really taken in in yet. You know sometimes you register something has happened but you rationalise and intellectualise before you feel the full brunt of the pain. I know I'd be like that - I wouldn't want to live with it fully until I had to. He's a guy to - we expect them to be strong. Poor things

Charley - I'm a rascal me, he he he! Yep I'm half hungarian - mum is a little brown haired version of zar zar gabor, complete with funny accent (oooh she'd slap me if she saw me writing this!)

Hey, I am a fourth hungarian!!!
Can you speak hungarian tea???
Its funny that I am a complete mutt, but I still call and identify myself with one culture - brazilian and am adamant my kids will speak it like it and call themselves brazilian - although they will only be 1/4 brazilian themselves !

Has anyone else noticed the thread getting rather slow?

Anyway I am off now I have been procrastinating - I have to go out for my walk and do the postal returns. Plus I have work for college that needs to be in tomorrow.

KVG - it gives you heart failier doesn't it. I stayed up poking him the other day cos he had been so still for a couple of days, only the odd movement. But now he seems to have perked up a bit.

Lua, no can't speak it - she tried to teach me when I was little but apparently I just laughed at her (cheeky even then!) - but I do know the odd word/phrase - some of which she won't translate but I'm sure they're swearing as she only shouted them at us when we were naughty!

I'm a complete mix too as dad is 1/2 english. 1/2 canadian and we were all born in Africa!!!

so can you speak any hungarian Lua??

Sorry Charley I also think it would be nice if we all stayed on this thread and then moved as one when the last bubba arrives

TEA - I was a naughty kid too... My father tried to force me to speak english when I was seven and I just plain refused! What an irony, han! Now I speak english allmost all the time, and boy would be much better at it if I had learn as a kid! The hungarian was lost the generation before because during WWII my grandparents wanted to mingle in as much as possible.
My kids don't have a choice though. When DD talks to me in english I pretend not to understand...

Just read the original post by Bubble's DH - it made my chest hurt so I didn't read anymore

LOL hungarian tea!!!

No bilingualism in this family for the kids - unless you count the fact that dh thinks my oxforshire twang is another language, he he he!

But I believe you're right the best way is to each speak a language or use both languages alternatively for things...our greatest capacity for learning new languges is when we're begining to talk...shame for ds that him mum's capacity isn't that great, so he'll have to make do as a hertfordshire/oxfordshire cross!

KVG, my sister and her H (who is soon to be x and doesn't deserve the DH title)did that. He is mexican. So, he spoke in SPanish and my sis spoke in English (okay American). The child was bilingual by about age 2 1/2. She started to talk a bit later than her monolingual peers. But, she has come along way since. She is now 9 years old and has fantastic language skills. My sis says this technique is definitely the way to go... at least it worked for them.

Charley it's sooo sad isn't it. Basically one was breech, and the medics wanted her to have a c-sec, but she wanted to try for a normal delivery if poss, and go for c-sec as a last resort...but I presume from her husbands comments the medics at the time had concerns but still waited 6hrs before going to theatre

KVG - Yes, DD is bilingual now. The hardest thing I imagine will be to keep up with it. As she develops friends and more vocabulary in english, her portuguese shrinks... I am hoping when DS comes along we can have more people speaking to keep us all going! DD is not a good portuguese speaker but he does his best. We assume she'll get english from school, so he tries to weigh in the portuguese side.

It make s me so mad on this poor woman's behalf. It is precisely what I'm talking about when I say caesareans get a bad wrap. No boubt, someone (probably lots of someones) encourage this woman to naturally because after all nature's way is best.

Okay, okay I'm doing my best to keep my mouth shut. But I just can't understand it. I just wish people would listen to consultants rather than telling mums to be that there consultants are knife happy idiots.

Alright, before I go on and on... I'll just shut up.

I don't know how things like that can happen these days - surely both heartbeats were being monitored? I should read the thread I suppose.

I don't want to judge or cast aspersions (sp?) but I'm with you on this Uwila...so so

Right that's me off home now too. Have a good evening all, and I'll 'see' you tomorrow

I think we should definitely keep going on the June thread until we are all through to the other side (so to speak).

Lippy, I call my mum Mum and my dad Dad, but I also have a step-dad and step-mum (who I call by their names, obviously). To avoid having to say "my mum and step-dad" I just refer to them as "my parents" - although rather embarrassingly I have been known to refer to them as 'my parents' to my Dad, oopsy! (My step-dad has been much more of a dad to me than my dad, but I don't like to overstress that point to his face!).

However, dh has not quite grasped all this yet, and tends to refer to my step-dad as "your dad" - leading to mass confusion and occasionally returning phone calls to the wrong person. So now he refers to them as "your dad ('DAD')" and "your dad ('[my step-dad's name]')" - this makes it easier for him somehow

Grandparent-wise, fortunately my mum is Granny to all my nephews and nieces, whereas the MIL is Grandma to dh's niece, so we won't have any Granny/Grandma naming conflicts to deal with, which is good.

My mum has been a bit funny about being called Granny or Nan as she thinks it makes her sounds old.

Our bubba is her second grandchild. My brother's baby girl is being trained to call her Nandy (her name is Andrea).

Guess it will mean my MIL will have a free choice over names.