Due Sept '08: Bring on the babies!

[LittleConnie]

Well that was cutting it a bit fine...

oh crap, I have been off for a couple of days and I'm afraid I haven't had time to catch up properly!

We saw the consultant yesterday and will be having c-section on 4th September . Bit stressed at still having 2 weeks to go though as my heartburn and breathlessness is awful. Don't want stretch marks either .

DP has been kicking off again and has decided he needs anger management. He was ranting about nothing all day sunday and punched a hole in the wall and scared the hell out of me. Hopefully he is getting a top up session from our Relate counsellor this week while we try and get him some proper help. Hardly suprising my blood pressure was higher than normal yesterday. Thankfully he know's he's been a twat so he might sort himself out.

Mum has just taken DS out so I am going to do some tidying now. Hope everyone has a good day. x

munkimom,
i'm from texas and i think mellabella is from minn.

are you in london?

nevermind munkimom,
just saw your profile.

[hugs] meglet. I don't know what to say. Except that we are here to unload on. I think you are probably aware that pg is an all too common trigger for this sort of behaviour to come out or intensify in someone who is prone to it. You can also confide in your midwife to seek urgent help if necessary.

thanks kissidee. He was bloody scary. All my family know whats happened and are local so they are being great. But at the same time they aren't being nasty to him and are trying to support both of us so fingers crossed it will be ok. Last week DP found out that he might be losing his supervisor job (leaving us in near poverty) and he realised his parents really couldn't care less about him as they wouldn't visit him when they were in town, so he has been miserable and cracked up a bit. His job looks like it might be ok now though, and he is refusing to tell his parents when the baby is due. Frankly I don't blame him as I have never been their greatest fan and do not want them gawping at me post c-section when I should be resting.

meglet - i do hope your Dp gets help for his anger...and there is a lot on his plate as well as yours but he need to deal with the pressure.

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

exactly biglips . He has a total inability to deal with day to day pressure, fingers crossed he'll sort it. If not he'll be packing his bags.

Mamamufin and others with the pillow sculptures - I am so with you! It started off with two pillows, then three, and now I am up to five!! They have to be arranged in a very particular way or I am a tired, desperate wreck at bedtime.

Thanks all for the concern about the SPD etc. Yes, it's going to be an elective c-section, and is booked for 9 Sept. I forgot to update that since I transferred hospitals the help on the SPD has been really great! The new physio is marvellous and knows all about the Pelvic Partnership guidelines (AND supports them!). She has arranged to visit me on the ward the day after the birth to start my recovery exercise programme, so I feel confident that I will at least get off to a good start on that front!

hopefully - I am the queen of chicken stock and always have some in the freezer - it makes such a difference to the flavour of risottos, soups, caseroles, etc if you use stuff you have made yourself. Just smash up the carcass, put in a very big pot with roughly chopped onions, celery, carrots and any other bits you have about - even off cuts (green tops of leeks are excellent, as are broccoli stalks). Herbs - whatever you have, e.g. sage, rosemary, thyme and bay leaves. Salt and pepper. Fill up the pot with water, put a lid on and simmer very slowly for 2 hours+. Then just sieve once cooled and pour into zip lock freezer bags or other little containers. It won't be as salty as commercial stock so adjust for this when you use it. Yum, now I want to cook a chicken...

morning everyone

thanks hopefully we will be sticking with william this time

feel loads better today than yesterday my opelvis doesn;t feel as achey but i look like an old lady when i get upto pee in the middle of the night

fingers crossed heartburn seems to have stopped for the moment hope this may be a sign that the head has finally gone down

just three weeks to go so i think today as much of the really dusty work has been done i will bring the sterilizer and buggy downstairs to clear a little room upstairs - plus need to familirize my self with the sterilzer!! might set all bottles up in it ready to go then i can make a couple of bottles up when my waters break

Welcome Munkimom - See you're in North Wales, like me! Which hospital are you going to? I am in Connah's Quay, so on Cheshire border and using Countess of Chester hospital. As far as I am aware they have birthing balls, electric beds, birthing pool etc but they don't offer labour ward tours, which disappointed me.

Had a crap night last night myself pitufina. I slept on and off from 2.30 and keep waking up feeling sick. DP thinks it's low blood sugar so I forced 2 slices of malt loaf and a glass of milk down me at 4.30am.

Heartburn still bad - maybe I should see my GP.
I've really enjoyed being pregnant but these last few weeks are haaarrrdddd.

meglet lots of hugs & sympathy. My ex husband had anger issues - twas when i told him I was leaving him that he got really bad and scary - ended up locking myself in bathroom while he trashed the garden. He slapped me a couple of times and pushed me over.
It's bloody hard, especially when you love someone so much, so try to keep strong. I kept blaming myself as I was the one leaving (ie I was causing his pain) - complete rubbish. I did leave him and now couldn't be happier with DP - not saying that's what you should do but you do have options and time to decide - there is no rush (unless you geninuely feel in danger).

Sorry to hear your toe is still bad becaroo
mellabella are you still ok to meet up?

Jearund StarlightMckenzie I am glad I am not the only one not washing the brand new baby clothes. I went out to the children library with ds. It is probably the last day I go out with him by myself!!!!!!!! Next time I will be wearing a gorgeous sling with a BABY GIRL inside!!!!!!. I have to get used to it.
Did I mention that both my slings are red!!!!

On the way back I bought some baby conditioner to use if I wash the new clothes. But I agree with you Starlight, they look so good now, all ironed and new.........

i haven;t washed any of the new baby clothes apart from the ones mil bought as they srink of smoke

just brought down the new buggy and it won;t fit in my handy little buggy space where i invisioned we would keep it, so i have had to spend all afternoon rearranging the bottom of the stairs and pantry, but now the kitchen is full of the crap out of the pantry (mainly dh's tools) and my pelvis is killing me and i don't think that i can finish oh well that'll be a treat for dh when he gets home

Kiskidee ~ sorry, i should've been less vague. I meant extras as in classes, ward tours, parentcraft, etc. But i agree 100%, they'd never hear the end of it from pregnant
mums if the women weren't allowed to move as they felt the need!

eandz ~ Howdy! ((sorry i couldn't resist)) I am originally from texas (dallas), but raised in california from age 11 onward... and you've already figured out
i'm not in london.

imoscarsmum ~ hellooo! lucky you! I'm in meliden, between dyserth & prestatyn. so that puts me right in with glan clwyd.
i know they have a birthing pool, but much like most of my pregnancy, midwife has left out alot of info. so if i don't remember to ask, i can pretty much assume i wont know until i'm smack in the middle of it all!
i'll have to put my gym ball in the car when we head to hospital, just in case. But its been the same for glan clwyd with the ward tours, and all ante-natal classes.

i did have all the classes with 1st pregnancy, but was later told
i was to have Cs due to breech...sooo, everything i learned in the classes went out the window, really! i don't remember much at all.
((except the back massage part, of course!! ))

on that note, i suspect it's about that time to get the hospital bag ready.
oh deary, i forgot about writing a birth plan. necessary, really?

....goodness! must really do something about this heartburn.

poxtola I do wash new clothes but only because I think sometimes they smell a bit funny straight from the shop - perhaps its just me! (or the shops I go to!!)

Feeling very weepy today...got a water infection which I've had for at least a week and only found out yesterday (by chance at my ante natal appointment)) but the meds they want me to take are flagged up as not suitable for 3rd trimester of pregnancy. Sigh. Shouldnt some midwife or doctor know WTF they are doing?

Sorry....dont mean to be a moaning minnie, but you are the only ones who listen!!!!!!

meglet your dp sounds like my brother. Last time he punched something it was a mirror and he was lucky to keep the use of his hand - he had to have microsurgery.

Is drink involved at all? I only ask as my brother is AWFUL if he has been drinking, and to a certain extent it can help to know that that set him off (although I suspect he needs anger management help like your dp).

Its very hard and upsetting - hope things calm down for you x

becaroo they are crap arent they!!

meglet hope things get better soon

Poor you meglet, I feel for you having that to worry about as well as the closing weeks of pregnancy. Hope your DP manages to sort some kind of anger management and pull himself together.

I have been washing new clothes, but only because I am such a lady of leisure (maternity leave, no other children!) I have time to do it. Otherwise I suspect it might fall by the wayside...

Ponymum my stock isn't exactly perfect (should have boiled longer), but I'm really pleased with it as it's my first ever attempt! Am hoping it will make yummy soup and DP will be souper (gee, I'm such a wit) impressed.

Ooh, in other news, we found a house to move into this morning! Really nice little terraced cottage in Chichester, traditional flint front, and really nice flagstone floor through some of it, and new carpets through the rest. Teensy weensy little courtyard for a garden though! Current plan is to move on 1st October (due on 8th Sept, so baby better be prompt), enlisting help of many family and friends.

becaroo actually DP had been drinking on Sunday, which I think caused him to be really dumb and hit the wall. He still has anger problems when sober, but has never caused any damage. He's not really a drinker though thank God. Don't want more problems to deal with! TBH he needs some way of burning of stress too, he never does any exercise. He thinks playing with DS in the baby pool counts as exercise .

re: washing baby clothes. I have never done it . Just got them all put away nicely and sorted all the donated ones into sizes / months. I think the nusery will explode with them all!

potxola I haven't washed any of the new stuff either. I washed the things from ds that had been in the loft but that was it.
Must remember to buy more non-bio washing powder, I use bio but don't think you're meant to with babies clothes are you?

We still haven't made a name decision either. Think we're down to 2 for girls (Emily or Ciara) but really struggling with boys.

feeling very of those of you who can sleep for long enough to have funny dreams!

Apologies if this has been posted before. I'm only just getting myself organised! If you're interested in real nappies and are in London, I've just discovered that you can apply for a £40 grant if you're in one of the participating boroughs. Have a look here for info.

I still need to get our nappies from last time out of the loft (or rather dp needs to, as I can't get up the ladder), but that will have to wait till the kitchen building work finishes. Anyway, I know I don't really have any newborn stuff, as we only started with reusables at about 3 months.