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Due June 08: A few eggs have hatched, we wish the rest would GET CRACKING!!!

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systemsaddict · 10/06/2008 15:15

Let's hope the rest of the eggs get cracking very soon!

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aberdeenhiker · 22/06/2008 07:55

josey - you're a superstar and I'm sure if you want/need to stop pumping, Olivia will be fine, you are definitely dealing with a lot already and pumping is so hard.

I'll keep my fingers crossed that Olivia can come home in a week - that would be so great.

Amberc - I was exactly the same with DS1. In hindsight I can see that it was a combination of being scared and anxious as well as worn out from a not-good birth experience and that led to a long period of insomnia. This time I'm using homeopathic remedies to help me sleep and even though I'm still having bouts of insomnia (up from 1-3 last night), I'm much calmer which makes it easier to deal with. Last night I was dozing through my awake period instead of being upset that I wasn't asleep.

Also, I had a really bad case last time and did not get PND - I was exhausted, but still bonded great with DS1 and was happy to be a mum. I know it's hard to relax, but this doesn't mean you'll get PND and it will pass eventually.

PiggyPenguin · 22/06/2008 10:29

Josey, you are doing fantastically well, I think ou need to do what is best for Olivia and your other children, and if that means a shorter bfeeding time than you planned then you should do that.

Jamie was horribly sick during the night, twice. It was so violent it was pouring out of his nose as well as his mouth but we don't know why he was sick. Has anyone else had random sickness? It wasn't possetting either, but a full feed, and he was wanted to feed afterwards so didn't seem to be ill as such? I'm very confused by it, and a bit scared as it was awful.

ktpie · 22/06/2008 11:05

Debs - good to see you back on the thread!

Sophie - congratulations!

Pedilia - congratulations! Sounds very dramatic, have scared my DH by telling him about it.

Josey - Hoping that you get Olivia home soon, sounds like she is making progress.

DQ well done for updating the list, I totally wimped out! Happy due date to us! No change here, LO still staying put.

Sybil - the sickness sounds horrible, hope you manage to sort it out.

bitofadramaqueen · 22/06/2008 12:31

Happy due date back at you kypie and also to upsidedowncake. Am not expecting anything to happen though

Been a bit headachy of late - anyone else getting this? Also had the period type crampy pains on and off for about a week now too. There's something ironic and terribly unfair about feeling pre-menstrual when you're waiting to give birth.

sybil - hope Jamie is ok this morning.

ktpie · 22/06/2008 12:47

DQ - have been feeling periody for a while, goes on and off. Feel a bit nauseous sometimes as well, hoping these are all good signs.
Once DH gets back from his bike ride I will let the baby know it can come out now, not sure it realises that it's presence is expected.

katyjo · 22/06/2008 13:24

Congratulations Widgeon, pedilla, Looney, Peartart and Sophie!

Amberc My dh used to do the same thing when I had ds, so annoying if I could have switched off I would have done. I found my head was swimming with everything (birth, baby, feeding etc) the best advice I can give is write things down, if something is bothering you. I am sure you won't get PND but I suffered badly with post natal anxiety, everything worried me and I would get really weepy.

Paro don't worry too much about the wind they do look like they are so uncomfortable but they are just passing it in their own way. Heat always helps so strip off (you and baby ) and cuddle upright on your chest. Lying baby over one knee helps their tum a bit as well, legs between knees and rub back. These things work for my babies anyway.

Been having a few problems bf Mia, couldn't understand it everthing seemed fine, then seemed to have problem with latch. Hv came out on thursday and she is gaining weight fine, and she seemed to think latch wasn't too bad, but advised on ways to reduce friction to the nipple and gave me some Jelonet dressings. Things seemed a bit better but Mia kept latching on ok then dropping back and chomping on my nipple (very sore!). I have decided that we might have thrush, it would make sense as Mia was on such high dose ab and if she has a sore mouth might not be feeding as well. I have got some daktarin gel and cream so hopefully that will help, otherwise I don't know what to do! Wish me luck.

thegreenfairy · 22/06/2008 13:27

sybil wind seems to be the issue of the day here, and I do wonder whether jamie just had bad wind? A full feed on top of a big air bubble would be enough to send the vom flying! Storm managed to send hers half way across the bed when I once put her down without winding in the first few days...
Also, if he really gobbled that would probably be enough to do it as they take in so much air when they do that.

Re the baby yoga position - I think you just literally bend their knees up to their chest gently and back down again a few times. Think of it as how they would look if they were able to stand and then squatted down. Haven't had much success with that one myself.

There's also the 'tick tock' method - hold LO firmly under the arms and support their head and neck with your fingers. Then gently sway their lower body - you need to make it a bit of a game as I think it's a little uncomfortable. Probably no good if they're mega wrigglers.

Or sit them on your lap and, again supporting their upper body fully, twist their torso slightly to one side and then the other.

Or hold them over your forearm, head in the crook of your elbow, and massage their back gently - this sometimes produces incredible farts!!!

Or, if the wind just won't shift, I lie her on the changing mat or under her mobile or in moses basket for a few minutes - often when I pick her up it then comes out.

Storm does get bad wind, and we did have real difficulty putting her down to sleep last night because of it. In the end DH managed after two attempts, but I'd already tried six times and was at my wit's end.

I think sometimes having DH take over helps as, if she has wind then her tummy hurts, and that feels so much like hunger that she asks for food, which then starts the vicious cycle again. Having someone without breasts take over means she sometimes forgets about that option - which if she was genuinely hungry she wouldn't.

Also, I always wind Storm during a feed as soon as she gets 'fussy' rather than trying to get any more in her. Sometimes this means every five minutes (like this morning) which is intensely frustrating, but it does work.

I also think wind can take a bit of time to come up, so perseverance is the key - walking up and down stairs with her on my shoulder sometimes helps.

Phew. Didn't realise I'd got so many tips until I just wrote this. But really, sometimes nothing works and I end up crying with frustration!

josey glad to hear olivia didn't protest too much at the bath! So hope you can take her home soon.

thegreenfairy · 22/06/2008 13:31

amber also just occured to me re the lack of sleep, are you on any painkillers? Hosp gave me diclofenac and it took me a few days to realise it was making me really wired. I almost felt high at times and would get really strong images when I shut my eyes. The feeling went away when I stopped taking it and I slept better.

katyjo hope the BF gets easier.

Happy due date to all those still waiting. Maybe we'll get a new baby today?!

bitofadramaqueen · 22/06/2008 18:03

It's quiet here today! People off having babies or something?

PearTart · 22/06/2008 18:35

OUCH!
I'm having a painful day today
Milk has come in so boobs are heavy and I've got more than baby's taking right now, and forgot to get cabbage leaves.
Nipples- OMG- cracked and sooo tender, sniff.
Fanjo- stinging when I wee.
And this f*cking low back pain that started a few weeks ago is making just walking/ stairs/ everything agonising. I want to cry.

ktpie · 22/06/2008 18:48

DQ - not me! Went for a walk to try and jiggle it out but it is staying put. Think everyone else is busy with their babies!

Peartart - sounds like you are having a bad day, hope it improves.

Amberc · 22/06/2008 19:02

greenfairy I'm only on paracetamol - decided against morphine as I had it before and it gave me nightmares. Just all over the place that's all.

Am waiting for my boobs to stop making milk but they keep leaking. Put in some breast pads - seriously do people actually wear them out of the house? You can clearly see them and they look ridiculous! Two big white circles!

bitofadramaqueen · 22/06/2008 19:11

Ouch peartart - how about an icepack or cold flannel on your boobs as a temporary measure? I've also seen squirty bottle with warm water and few drops of tea tree oil recommended to squirt on your fanjo while peeing to help relieve stinging.

No babies here either ktpie. DH was taking it easy over some killer speed bumps earlier and I'm like, go faster, bounce the baby out of me!!!!

Have still not been drinking RLT or doing anything to encourage the baby out. Cant be bothered and convinced that it will only come when its ready whatever I do.

However, I have actually put clean sheets on my bed that haven't been ironed for the first time ever. Despite the 'reduce crease' function on washing machine and tumble drying they look awful. But I really couldn't face standing for an hour ironing them. Some of you may recall that I'm firmly in the 'iron nearly everything' camp. It nearly killed me putting crumpled sheets on my bed. Maybe the shock will encourage the baby out?

libralady · 22/06/2008 19:23

I'm trying to have my baby and have been in the latent phase of labour since 3am yesterday morning.

It's really demoralising and DH really doesn't want to head back to London tomorrow for the week, so we will proactively be doing something about it later on tonight

Will keep you guys posted.

poppy34 · 22/06/2008 19:34

bdq -reverse nesting I like it.. know what you mean about binning raspberry leaf tea etc. Am in same boat - having thought things were starting to happen ..maybe yesterday.. nothing today and know I'm being unreasonable (plus know nothign will get done for at least a week as doc put my due date per notes at 25 june).

amberc sorry you're not feeling the best.. although your post re breast pads did make me giggle - when I bought them it did occur to me that its a bit like being a teenager again and stuffing tissue down your bra (or was that just me)?

libra sorry to hear abotu your slow progress -have you tried caulophyllum 200 - homeopathic remedy that is meant to speed up contractions. At that you're at least latent although sure you feel thoroughly pissed off. Fingers crossed things kick off again soon with your special measures

Amberc · 22/06/2008 19:36

Good luck Libralady the laten phase is horrid but hopefully yours won't take too longh. My MW said that the longer the latent phase the less time in labour!

poppy34 · 22/06/2008 19:40

amberc if this is not true, can we know where you mw is to have a go...

Amberc · 22/06/2008 20:17

She said that the latent contractions were softening and effacing the cervix (saying that my latent phase was 2 days and I was in established labour 20 hours and then had a section so she's clearly talking bollox).

libralady · 22/06/2008 20:18

Amberc

Thanks for thant. I was in latent for 12 days with DS and labour itself was timed at 5 hours 25 minutes. Not bad for a 1st.

We've notice tonight that my bump has dropped considerably. I can reach the sink now and the pressure between my legs has certainly increased. Here's hoping for a quick resolution

sophiewd · 22/06/2008 20:22

Hello and congratulations to all the new arrivals. I am home from hospital, I did try to post from their but my patientline internet was rubbish and then it died completely. So to bore you all with another birth story.....

arrived in hospital at 7.30 am last Thursday and started seeing MW and anaethetist from 8, was tyold we were first on the list but there was a possibility of an emergency (turned out to be a friend of my sisters) but she was OK in the end. We were taken down to theatre at 9.15, had the spinal and the Sebastian Wilfrid Joseph was delivered at 9.59. Was sown up and back in my lovely room by 10.45. DH did first feed while I was being sorted. Threw up a few times so was given anti nausea drugs but that settled down very quickly. DD managed to empty most of my catheter bag when she came to visit in the afternoon , was up and about the next morning and now home and doing fine.

Sebastian is lovely, sleeps for England like his sister, and feeding well and fairly regularly, DD is quite taken with him although there is competition between him and her doll for the moses basket. Will be taking it easy this week and then guests arrive on Friday. Will catch up properly tomorrow.

Amberc · 22/06/2008 20:36

I took Luke out for a walk in the pram for the first time today. Potentially overdid it this soon after a c section but needed some fresh air and wanted to get the first time out of the way. It feels so weird - still feels like he's not mine and i've borrowed him from someone who might come and take him away. Good news is that he loves the pram and fell fast asleep - definitely fewel more confident now. Cannot imagine how anyone looks after a newborn and a toddler at the same time.

DP still pissing himself laughing after seeing me with breast pads in bra. Said it looks like something from a carry on film.

Libralady drop in bump sounds like good news!!

josey · 22/06/2008 20:43

Hi everyone.

Amberec please dont let my posts make you feel bad...this is just a free place for me to let it all out...all baby problems big and small make us all feel cruddy...sounds like the crying could be down to colic...do his lips waver when he crys? if you take your to fingers and walk them in a rainbow round his tummy you should be able to feel little bubbles if there is wind and the motion should help....also lying flat holding legs together and bring knees up to chest....hold your nose on that one

Also Im not very up to date but if your waiting for milk to go a good way to get rid is bind yourself with something tight and you will wee it out!!!! Hope you get some sleep

Well what a day it has been today....when we phoned the hospital Olivia had a small seizure but was ok....her temp has been a bit better today....but when I had her out her cot her stats were perfect so we managed to get her off the flow which is reminding her to breath.....we got visitors my DD with Grandparents and we were aloud to take Olivia to the family room

When we took her back I asked them to clear her mouth as she builds up quite a bit of muck.....anyway she gagged and coughed....this might sound silly but this is a huge thing....this means one day I should be able to feed her with out a tube...trying not to get hopes up but Im so chuffed....She was also more responsive today which was lovely.

Thank you all for the support re feeding...spoke to the MW looking after her and she will get every 3rd feed formula to see how that goes hopefully I will manage to keep up for a bit longer....My main issue with not giving up is BF will be harder for her to master now but will be safer if she can feed without a tube....as the flow is less so she would be less likely to fill her lung in a misshap.

Ok I have posted far to much again love to you all xxx

Amberc · 22/06/2008 20:59

Hey Josey - just meant that I can put my troubles into perspective - it sounds like things are moving in a positive direction for you which is great news - my DP still asks for updates all the time on you and Olivia!

Thanks for the advice - have made my bra way tighter now - hope that'll do the trick. DS's lips do quivver - have been doing the legs thing all wrong - more of a frog movement! Will try your way as not made any farts yet and am very much looking forward to one!

thegreenfairy · 22/06/2008 21:06

Evening all

Storm has been feeding/ windy/ crying the last four and a half hours. Big sigh.

DH has just put her down for about the 12th time. Let's hope it works. She's definitely got horrible wind - I can feel the bubbles in her tummy. It's so upsetting seeing her in pain.

sybil clearly something in the water - Storm threw up an entire feed about an hour after I last posted! Quite shocking! I think she was a bit hot and a bit full, but it did trigger the above nightmare...

josey That's GREAT news about olivia's gag reflex . Am so pleased that positive signs continue to appear. She is really proving the consultants wrong - you must be so proud of her. Do email me your address when you get a chance - will send the sling straight away - it's packed up and ready to go. It's roseedotbrownatgmaildotcom.

amber I'm sure the intense feelings will pass. Storm is three weeks old today and even though we definitely have hard times with her, life feels relatively 'normal' now and I don't feel like a nutter any more! Can't believe how mental I felt the first ten days or so. Felt at times like I was losing my mind and definitely had many moments of wishing we'd never had a baby... I wish I'd known how sh*t I'd feel...
The walk sounds lovely. DH and I took Storm out in her pram for the first time six days after she was born -I almost threw up about half way around!
We take her in her sling now instead, as she doesn't jiggle around so much.

I have disposable breastpads and material ones - the material ones are bloody massive and the disposable ones are rubbish - just can't win!

libra my bump did exactly that two or three days before Storm was born - fingers crossed.

sophie glad to hear it all went according to plan - good luck with your next guests! I don't know how you do it!

Okay, time for a nap I think. Sorry about the marathon post.

bitofadramaqueen · 23/06/2008 00:03

Gone midnight so now officially overdue