Wagon-Waddlers ante-natal for the ttc'ers. With others hot on their tails, hopefully!

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I'd better be over here soon!

Tut TTC thread even.....

Just looked

So so excited for Gruffalo

I had my mw appointment today. She said i looked very run down and tired, she is testing for annemia (sp?). She has taken the bloods and we had a lovely chat as it is the same one I had for dd. She reasured me re birth and I feel a lot happier now. I am going to same hospital as when I had dd so that is good as they will have all notes on dd birth there.

She said that she probably wont hear the hb as I am only 11 weeks but she tried and found it as soon as the machine went on. So happy it is really strong.....

I feel a lot happier now just want to get ds screening out of the way now (being done on thursday) and I can relax........

Anyway enough about me how are you all!!!

Helllooo!

Thanks for the welcome decorations Gyo. i am stepping aboard tentatively!

Woke at 2.30 am feeling like I was going to puke! Was so scary. Was shaking and sweating. Managed to get myself back to sleep but was so close to having to go to the bathroom. Sorry to be so negative but not coping too well with the sickness thing and starting to wonder what the hell I've let myself in for...

Cosmo, you are not the first, and won't be the last to think that! I know that doesn't help much, but seriously, this stage doesn't last long, I know it seems it at the time, but you can and will get through it.

With DS2 I had an irritable uterous, started at 33+6, it was basically regular, strong, painful contractions that went on til I was induced at 41 weeks, once I got over the 'OMG this baby is never going to stay in there, he will be prem' the thought of having the rest of the pregnancy with less than an hours sleep most nights, looking after DS1, getting him up and ready for school, not being able to catch up on sleep in the day because the contractions were just continual the whole time. I was exhausted, in pain, every night we had to decide whether 'this was it' we daren't start cooking dinner or going anywhere, or doing anything in case it started, I had a home birth planned which I was absolutely terrified of, but had no choice because my MIL (who was the only person even remotely able to look after him), who had agreed to look after DS1 when the time came, didn't want to come and look after him when the contractions started at 33+6, so we had to plan for the worst (that DS1 would be around for the labour) Those 7 weeks were just an absolute nightmare.

Looking back now, although I can still remember all the fears and let downs, the 7 weeks themselves seem so unimportant, and this is what the morning sickness will seem to you once you are through the worst of it. If you have ever had a really crappy time that went on for weeks, looking back on it, none of it seems to matter does it?

The sickness won't last forever, if it gets very bad it would be worth talking to your GP, he can give you something to stop it. Maybe think about having some dry snacks next to the bed so if you wake up feeling like that again you have something to settle your stomache. It always feels worse in the night/morning because you won't have eaten for a while so sugar and energy levels drop.

Other than that, as depressing as it sounds, there is not a lot more to be done, it is just one of the many many stages you will go through now and when the baby is born. Luckily it is normally one of the shorter lived parts!

Thanks Nat . Really appreciate your advice. I know you are right and this will all be a distant memory soon. Guess I just feel a bit disappointed in myself because I should be excited/looking forward etc..and all I feel is ambivalence and 'what have I done?'....I know i should be grateful that we were so lucky to get pregnant this quickly.

Sounds like you really went through the mill with DS2....sounds awful..Guess the reality is just hitting home and I'm wondering if I have got what it takes!

Bit worried too that am only 6+3 and they say the sickness/nausea peaks at 9 or 10 weeks....Don't know if I can stand for it to get any stronger...

Sorry to bring the mood down peeps...

It is absolutely perfectly normal to wonder what you've let your self in for! Even I have those thoughts and I know what's coming!! That doesn't mean you don't deserve to be pregnant or become a mum, in fact I'd say that those few people that take it all in their stride are often the ones at most risk of falling apart.

Being pregnant and becoming a mum is the most difficult, scary, daunting thing you will ever do in your life time, but it is also the most wonderful, happiest, lovliest thing. At the moment it is all lows, lows of feeling sick, lows of hormones taking over your normal bodily functions, lows of all the 'what if's?' and it doesn't matter how many times people say the usual 'you'll do it' 'your be great' 'it'll be fine' it never ever seems that way, but you know what, one day you wake up and you have done it, you will be doing it, you are doing it right this very second

The highs will soon be kicking in, you will stop feeling sick, your energy will come back, you'll start getting a big bump and feeling kicks and seeing scan pics and all the rest of it, it suddenly becomes worth it again.

I think one of the first things you learn is that no matter what is chucked at you, you get on with it, sometimes it is bloody hard, but the next week can be the best week of your life so far.

And hey it can't be all bad, chances are give it a couple of years (or less, I told DH we were having a DC3 about 20 minutes after DS2 was born!) you will be doing it all again! Glutton for punishment?!!!

Hi Cosmo
sorry to hear that you are feeling poorly

Not sure how much I can help as I dont think i've felt it as bad as you but sending lots of virtual support instead.

Maybe try having a small snack just before bed- might stop you waking up feeling dreadful?

As Nat says Im sure it will soon pass

Is it affecting your work?

Thanks GYo - yeah it is affecting my work really. Just so hard to concentrate with the nausea, fuzzy head etc..
Nat - you had me in tears at my desk just now reading your post! Bloody hell, I am an emotional wreck at the minute. Those pregnancy hormones have a lot to answer for!

Having a bad day at work today too, which is not helping with the tears! Thankfully no one else is in the office right now, so need to pull myself together before they get back!

Sorry didn't mean to make you cry....

Not your fault . I am just an emotional wreck is all, and your words were very moving... I have decided to watch a comedy or stand up tonight. Some laughs are long overdue!

OOh yes, least its Friday.

Do either of you have good plans?

No plans really, just so glad the weekend is here. This has been the longest week ever! I do need to tackle some housework tomorrow which I am dreading.... Friends over for dinner on Sunday with their DD 14 months. She is a midwife so I will be picking her brains and demanding her to tell me the nausea will stop at week 7 . How about you?

Dinner with friends sounds fun

Not much planned really- need to get some bigger trousers but not planned much. Been hestitating to arrange things with people that dont know as Im convinced I will be vomiting and have to cancel. Which is silly as Im OKish so far.

Also need to do cleaning.

the baby just MOVED!!!!!!!

Hello everyone.. Nat I am so pleased for you I can not wait to start feeling mine.........

Cosmo What you are feeling is very common I f you look back over my posts at your stage I was going through the same thing and having the same feelings. However I woke up today and didn't feel sick. I have a coffee today with out being sick and it is now 6 o clock and I havent felt sick yet sooooooooo I am hoping that this is it..... ANd believe me you will be going through this stage before you know it......

Also remember the worse you feel the better the baby is because the more hormones you are producing.......

That's so great Nat!!! - [grin[

Thanks LB - I am going to go back to the old thread and read your posts. Fingers crossed it is stopping for you. It is just a lot crappier than I thought.......and the thought that it will prob get worse is really worrying me. Managed not to be physically sick yet, but have come close.

GYo - I am with you on the bigger trousers - all my clothes are tight now So not feeling the house cleaning tomorrow but has to be done...

Cosmo it may not get worse. Mine started at 5 weeks and has been bad from the start. It didn't get worse or better until today... Remember that the feelings you are having (aside from the sickness) are also to do with hormons. I went through a really dark stage as well at about 6 or 7 weeks I was crying all the time and at the worst I wished I wasn't pg and felt the whole world was against me. I see now that that time was when my hormone level was sky high as baby needed them....

I have only been sick a couple of times but have felt sick all day long up till now. It is hard but you will get throught it I promise and you are not alone it is normal to feel this way....

Try to drink lots throughout the day. Eat little meals but often dont eat 3 big meals a day. keep dry crackers or sucky sweets with you all the time (tick tacks are good for this as are rhubarb and custard sweets). Never let yourself get really full or really empty as this make it worse and most importantly rest as much as you can. Being tired makes ms 100 times worse so if the house cleaning can wait let it wait and have a snooze....

I am really showing now I have a massive bump and look 5 months gone..... I am now in maternity trousers and normal tops.....

Morning all,

Oh LB I really hope it doesn't get worse...I've been reading too much stuff on the internet and scaring myself because it says stuff about hormone levels peaking at 9 weeks....
I've already been saying stuff to DH about this being our one and only child because I don't want to go through feeling like this again! He thinks I am over-reacting of course.....but for someone who is an emetophobe (afraid of being/feeling sick) this is pretty horrible. Horrible even for people without the phobia.. Haven't vomited yet but sometimes I think maybe I would feel better if I did. Might take the nausea away for a few hours at least....

Am going to attempt some housework but won't push myself too hard today. Feel sicker than normal this morning, it has usually been worse in the evenings so far.

Cosmo have you tried the travel sickness bands? They can really help with some people.

No, I haven't actually. Might see if DH can get some for me today.....has got to be worth a try I suppose.

Hi everyone- hope you are all enjoying your w/ends

Just catching up

Nat- so pleased the baby moved, thats fantastic news. Anymore movements since

Hi LB, Cosmo

Re bigger trousers, I've noticed a reasonable change since last w/e. And its definately worse in the evenings.

I bought some maternity trousers and maternity sleep bras today. Bras are fab but the trousers are bizarre (probably normal to those who've done this before!) but they have elastic that buttons at different lengths. Have to have them quite tight so they are quite gathered at the back! Might need to get some longer cardis to cover that up, but they are very comfy.

I just feel a fraud browsing at maternity wear, as Im just looking a bit porky!

Tried the sea bands - don't work for me .....When I first put them on thought they were doing something, but wasn't to be. Going to try tic tacs and mints next...something has to work!!

GYo - feeling and looking very porky too. My hips seemed to have ballooned so the whole middle section just looks wobbly and large....most attractive!

Seeing my midwife friend today so am going to see if she has any advice for getting rid of the nausea.....it really is making me so miserable......

Morning Cosmo

Bad news that the seabands dont work- someone on the TTC thread mentioned that they didnt think they had worked til they took them off- maybe its worth wearing them anyway, might help prevent it getting worse.

Fingers crossed the MWife can help.