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Due Dec 2008: The second thread!

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JollyBear · 23/04/2008 11:06

I thought I'd better start another thread as the other one was full to bursting!

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msdynamo · 15/05/2008 05:00

Hi Flumpybumpy, I am shocked by your story, which sounds like a case of bullying on the part of that woman. How dare she betray your confidence in that way and then accuse you of upsetting her, when she's upset you during your fragile first trimester. I would try not to impose your worst fears on your other colleagues. After all, would people really judge you for having an early termination? I think not. It may be they feel a bit embarrassed by TMI, but I doubt they would be critical. And anyway, you've decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. It sounds like quite an unpleasant work environment. I think that woman owes you an apology for betraying your confidence. What I would do is find some allies, and try to forget about her. Assume that others are not going to be involved, and probably don't have feelings either way. Sometimes people who have been TTC for a long time can become like religious zealots. It's your body, you have a right to choose what you do. It's nobody else's business. Next time she accosts you try turning the tables on her, she's double crossed you and been incredibly selfish and inconsiderate causing you no end of stress.

Try to stay strong. You have done nothing wrong. Hopefully this will soon blow over and you can start to enjoy sharing your good news.

minster · 15/05/2008 08:12

I have my scan in 3 hours have gone from feeling like I was going to die three days ago to absolutely normal today. Trying to prepare dh for not good news

snorris · 15/05/2008 08:20

Still lurking to (try) to keep up. I haven't even had a date for my scan yet so I'll have to chase that up.

Gemenaux- I have twins too. When you feel up to it come over to the Multiples thread here.

Thinking of you today minster.

kayzisexpecting · 15/05/2008 08:21

Minster I hope everything will be ok. How many weeks are you? Its quite normal for symptoms to just stop.

Strikey Hello and welcome. I hope you'll start feeling better soon.

I'm so tired and fed up of waking up early. I can't wait for 12 weeks, I'm hoping the tiredness will just go away like it did with DS.

southernbelle77 · 15/05/2008 08:37

I hope your scan goes ok Minster.

I'm feeling ok at the moment. Nausea comes in sweeps at the moment. Just to make sure I eat little and often. I feel really sick if I don't eat for a while and really sick if I eat too much. Was worried I would be the size of a house, but have actually lost a couple of lb's so just going to see how it goes!

Went and had my hair cut yesterday. It was just so lovely having an hour and a half being pampered ALONE! No kids running round my ankles! The best hour and a half I've had in ages!!

I'm seeing the midwife again on Monday. Hoping I will get my scan date as I just want to know when it is!!

EffiePerine · 15/05/2008 08:44

Minster: hope the scan goes okay

Artichockes: poor you, I'm finding the pg symptoms are much worse when I am tired and broke nights are a killer, esp with no respite during the day. Do you have a friend you can swap childcare with? I hope you're letting your husbanbd know how bravely you are soldiering on

Flumpy: that is shocking . The only thing I can think of is that the other pg woman is suffering from mad pg hormones and is lashing out irrationally! I'm sure no-one is judging you for considering a termination, maybe they're just a bit embarrassed.

Strikey: the thought of going from 1 to 2 is really scary, and this one was planned! What does your partner think about it? We haven;t told anyone either (we didn't with DS until about 10 weeks) - in some ways it;s easier cos you don't have the endless questions: are you hopnong for a boy/girl this time, what about your first, are you planning to carry on working blah blah blah

EffiePerine · 15/05/2008 08:45

re cheese, I'm assuming that cooked unpasteurised cheese is OK? Tucked into toasted brie the other day and cheese soup yesterday (gruyere, emmenthal and cider, lovely).

Thena gain I'm more relaxed about food this time tound...

suey2 · 15/05/2008 08:50

hey effie,
I am a post natal dec 2007 person.
YES, you cn have cooked unpasteurised cheese- i had a lot of goats cheese and red onion tart when i was PG.

EffiePerine · 15/05/2008 09:35

Good-oh

BeckyBendyLegs · 15/05/2008 09:43

Ooooh goats cheese and red onion tart sounds lovely! I want one now!

It is raining, raining, raining here today. It's just dismal. I've just dropped of the DSs at the childminder / preschool. I'm working in front of the TV this morning (bad employee!).

Minster good luck today. My symptoms vary quite considerably. I felt like I was dying last Thursday (watching them drink wine on Brothers and Sisters making me want to spew) and by Saturday I was down the pub feeling fine with everyone drinking wine around me. Reduced symptoms isn't necessarily a sign that something is wrong. I had a missed MC three years ago and I had pregnancy symptoms up until the day after the D&C.

Becks you feelings are totally normal. I was really nervous about having number two when I was pregnant with number two and when my DH went back to work after his paternity leave I was really scared! But it all worked out. In fact you might find yourself looking back and wondering what you were so worried about, at least I did.

I should be working....hope everyone is ok today.

hattyyellow · 15/05/2008 09:57

Morning all..

Gemenaux as Chutney mentioned I have twin DD's who are now 2.9 years old. If you have any questions do fire away? Are they in the same sac or different - do they think they are id or not?

My girls are ID but were actually in different sacs so it was treated as a non-id pregnancy. I was suprised by how smoothly the pregnancy went - my consultant couldn't believe I was still there at 38 weeks and I had the girls at 38 weeks and 3 days! I felt a lot better after the first trimester was over.

Minster loads of luck today. My symptoms vary loads too, I was convinced it was all over on Tuesday as I had bad cramps and my sickness was gone. I was delighted to wake up feeling rough today, it made me get out of bed with a smile on my face!

Becks I think the reality of having two is less scary than the imagining - the fear of the unknown and all that.

Artichokes did you manage to all get some sleep?

I am also guilty of ceebeebies time in the afternoon. I fell asleep on the sofa whilst my girls were watching yesterday - only for a few minutes but woke up terrified to see that they were still glued to the screen, drooling slightly.

Becky working from home is a killer isn't it! I'm so braindead, it's sunny here, DD's are at pre-school as well and I have so much to do! Instead I am sitting on mumsnet having done a cheeky stop off at the local coffee shop to get a flapjack on the way back!

BeckyBendyLegs · 15/05/2008 10:38

Hattyyellow working at home is a total killer I agree. There are so many distractions: the cat needs feeding, the biscuits need eating, mumnset, facebook, friends to email, daytime TV that isn't Big Cook, Little Cook and just enjoying time at home alone (such a rarity these days).

Bisou · 15/05/2008 10:59

Hi everyone! Well - I'm officially in London. Well, for the next two weeks anyway.

The flight was fine, however unfortunately my second section of the trip with Virgin Atlantic was not as comfortable as the first section with Cathay Pacific. No exit row with Virgin, although they did give me an isle seat. I preferred the food on Cathay too, and they also had a menu so at least I knew what I was up for when I was ordering (with Virgin I just got asked 'beef, chicken or veg' dish?)

I'm feeling a bit crampy today, which of course has got me panicking a bit. I sneezed this morning and it really hurt down where my uterus is. So I'm desparately hoping everything is ok in there after the flight - I was tempted to book a scan for here just to check, but I think if it was not good news it would just destroy me, so I'll wait till I get back as I have my nuchal then and my husband will be with me for support.

So where is all this sunshine you've all been talking about? Just as well I know British weather and have packed accordingly. Although I hope I get to wear my cotton dresses at some stage during my trip!

Kayz your brie story made me laugh, you poor bugger. I'm thinking all the time about the stuff I want to eat but can't - but at least I don't have to deal with it right in front of me all the time! How frustrating for you.

majormoo your friends' experience in Sydney sounds great. I do actually think that health care is generally better in Australia after having put up with the NHS for 4 years, but I guess in every country there are both good and bad experiences when it comes to childbirth. Do you know what hospital she gave birth at, and whether it was public or private? I'm sure snowwombat would be interested to know as well as she'll be in Sydney too next month.

Flumpybumpy I'm sorry about your awful experience at work. I think the consensus here is that you were wronged by both that colleague and your boss for disclosing your private information shared in confidence. Have you asked your colleague if she has mentioned it to any one else at your work? Do you know for sure that they know about your initial thoughts about getting a termination? If it were me I would be mad as buggery and letting her know that her lack of understanding about the situation is disappointing and upsetting. However this could possibly do more damage than good, so only you can judge how you now deal with it. Just remember that despite whatever happens at work, your mumsnet friends do not judge you and are always here for support. xx

EmmaPP that's great that you'll be in NZ, I love it there. When are you planning to travel? Giving birth is definitely free here in Australia unless you go private (in which case you need to pay the difference between the national health schedule rates and the actual charges for obs etc). I think in some areas you may have to pay for a nuchal scan (mine will be free in Canberra) or the small amount of difference for scans if they charge more than the standard health schedule rate. Good to hear yours will be free too!

strikey I hope you're feeling a bit more positive soon, you've come to the right place for support. Feelings of doubt can of course be completely normal - remember your hormones are all over the place when you're pregnant. And it will be different with each pregnancy so don't worry that you didn't feel like this with your DS. And of course 2 children can be a good thing too, I've been told by lots of my friends & family with children that it can actually be helpful when they get a little older as they can keep each other company and not need as much attention from just you. Try to keep your spirits up, and feel free to chat on here when you need a sympathetic ear.

minster best wishes for your scan! I am nervous for you, do let us know how you go. Hopefully it will be fine and you will be reassured that all is well.

Anyway I must get on to doing some paperwork - as much as I'd love to have a relaxing day I need to make the most of my time here! Hope everyone else is doing ok

hattyyellow · 15/05/2008 11:01

Look I did nearly 20 minutes work without logging on! . Laughing out loud at the biscuits that need eating!

Mibbes keep meaning to say my tummy seems to have gone down too. My trousers were tight and my tummy bloated and now my waistbands are certainly nearing tight but my tummy has deflated a bit..

I am craving potatoes and red meat like mad. Had sausages and mash last night, having sausages and mash tonight!Poor DH. What does craving potatoes show a lack of? Also apples.

BeckyBendyLegs · 15/05/2008 11:22

Well I managed...43 minutes! That's good for me!

When I was pregnant with DS1 and working full-time I used to go to the staff canteen at lunch time EVERY DAY and have either backed potato or mash, baked beans, and sausages and I'd pile on grated cheese on top. On to that I'd add ketchup. Yum. We had steak last night. I was craving red meat as well.

Flumpybumpy · 15/05/2008 11:29

Thank you everyone for your kind words and support.

i am going to rise above her and her attiitude and keep myself to myself in future. She is cliquey with a few of the girls (it is a supermarket so there are LOADS of women) and they all keep huddling together and sniggering. I am actually their supervisor so have no way of avoiding them all. One of the nice ladies asked me how I was feeling as she had heard teh 'rumours' and said to not listen as they were just being bitchy.

Another young girl has just lost her baby at 16wks and they said to the nicer lady 'I bet Flumpy wishes that was her!'

I told my boss that I was feeling a bit upset by comments etc.... and she said 'are you sure you're not just hormonal'.

I can't wait to leave I hate it there now.

Anyway, good luck Minster, eveyone is thinking of you and sending good vibes.

Bisou · 15/05/2008 11:50

Flumpy you are very gracious with the 'rise above it' attitude. Can't believe your boss' comment (I would have replied with "are you sure you're not making a discriminatory remark to a pregnant woman?" hehe) Stick with the nice lady, she sounds lovely. Bugger the others, they're not worth it. This will pass, just look after yourself and try to ignore the negativity and make sure you come here for support whenever you need it

EffiePerine · 15/05/2008 12:07

Flumpy, that must count as No 1 thing NOT to say to a pg woman! Ignore them . When are you planning to leave?

I am also eating lots of potatoes. In fact, I am eating lots of EVERYTHING. Apart from meat. Still in pre-pg clothes for a wonder. Maybe I will balloon in a few weeks

Feeling sick and tired today, and strangely pleased

Flumpybumpy · 15/05/2008 12:15

I leave 21wks today, not that I'm couting or anything

mibbes · 15/05/2008 12:52

welcome strikey and gemenaux (very appropriate name for a lady expecting twins !)
Minster I hope al is well with your beany - good luck. I know exactly what you mean about scan and preparing OH for bad news. I am trying to prepare DP for bad news without being too mega-negative about it. I have convinced myself that I simply can't be PG given that I have no symtpoms (except slightly achey boobs some nights) - have started a PG thread for advice as am terrified
flumpy no wonder you are on countdown already - what a bunch of evil witches. You are doing well to rise above themn and their b!tchy tittle tattle - they can't have very interesting lives if they have nothing better to talk about
Ooohhh soft cheese yum ! I am thinking about runny eggs a lot ! and just craving things I like - crisps and sweets !
hatty thanks for belly-chat ! I am stuffing my face with McCoys at the moment to try and re-create the 'crisp-belly' from a few days ago - that might make me feel more PG

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mibbes · 15/05/2008 13:17

Turniphead1 that is so sad about your friend - well done you doing a leg of the marathon - how far are you planning to do ?

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mibbes · 15/05/2008 13:34

Wow Turniphead1 both are really impressive ! I am doing the Moonwalk in June (26 miles) and am worried I won't make it ! You have given me hope ! I used to run pre-PG but stopped on MW's advice when I had a bleed.

msdynamo · 15/05/2008 13:57

Hi flumpybumpy, so glad you are feeling better today. That latest comment you heard about you is unforgivable. What a nasty, pathetic bunch. The less you come into contact with them the better. I hope the weeks roll on quickly. If only we on this thread could all come to your workplace and beat them up for you! Can you imagine, a gang of angry hormonal pregnant women marching into the supermarket ready to sort them out, they'd be terrified!

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