Due November 08 - We're STILL a bunch of worrying fusspots who don't know what we want to eat, but pass us the cheese (and rice if you must ) purlease, while we wait for 12 weeks

[Heartmum2Jamie]

Here's our shiney, new and slightly ameneded thread to reflect our main topic of conversation recently! Really didn't want to mention the cheese and rice in the same sentence, but as it is a favourite with so many of you, I had to add it in, sorry to Hanaflower!

Purlease - I'm so sorry. I had mc last year - I thought all was fine until 11 wks then some very mild symptoms. Was told baby died at 8 wks. It was unplanned pregnancy. Had 2 kids already and I thought I'll be OK with this, I generally get on with things and can cope with huge emotional events. My emotions went out of my control and I felt mentally extremely wobbly for months. I was really taken aback and saw a counsellor who really helped, she was really good explaining to me how men sometimes really struggle with the whole miscarriage thing and the effect on their partners. The thing that really shocked me was that I was physically exhausted for about 4 months and I'm usually really energetic (eg running marathons).
Everyone experiences things in different ways but make sure you take good care of yourself and take time out if you need it. Re treatment I had ERPOC operation as my body was going so slowly and it was freaking me. I was petrified of the operation but it was quick and fine and was the right option for me to pursue.
The miscarriage threads helped me so much as this one does as I try to deal with my fear in this pregnancy that the same thing could happen again.
Take Care

purlease so sorry to hear your sad sad news. Look after yourself.

My pg hasnt been confirmed and wasnt with ds either. Do find it abit odd that they dont personally.

so fed up of feeling like i do. Sounds stupid but i miss being actually hungry and thirsty. I know i should be grateful my baby is so far ok but so sick of feeling like this. Not helping i hear so many people not having ANY symptoms (not a dig at anyone)

I cant bend down to pick things up or anything, just makes me want to heave and makes my belly feel so uncomfortable. Same when im in bed. Already having to support my 'bump'. It isnt even that big. Dont understand it. Midwife didnt seem bothered by my lack of fluid.

purlease so sorry to hear your sad sad news. Look after yourself.

My pg hasnt been confirmed and wasnt with ds either. Do find it abit odd that they dont personally.

so fed up of feeling like i do. Sounds stupid but i miss being actually hungry and thirsty. I know i should be grateful my baby is so far ok but so sick of feeling like this. Not helping i hear so many people not having ANY symptoms (not a dig at anyone)

I cant bend down to pick things up or anything, just makes me want to heave and makes my belly feel so uncomfortable. Same when im in bed. Already having to support my 'bump'. It isnt even that big. Dont understand it. Midwife didnt seem bothered by my lack of fluid.

thanks cricr I think development stopped at 8 weeks so probably not too different to your experience. Have had some heavy clots this afternoon - may have been urged on by internal scan.

Thanks for the link - I may join them and let you all get back to talking about blue cheese.

Now what's for dinner - rare steak with a blue cheese sauce washed down with a nice glass of red wine...

oops started message ages ago but had to go and pick up DD from nursery - she makes everything better

thanks for all your kind thoughts.

Purlease, just wanted to let you know how sorry I was to hear your news.

Really hope you'll be on another antenatal thread soon.

Hi Purlease - so sorry for you. I had a mc this christmas - started bleeding heavily with cramping on xmas day so knew it was over. I felt quite strong initially but it did drag on a bit and that wore me down a bit. It was only a couple of times when I felt really sad that allowed myself to actually 'endulge' in being sad - as I felt I knew this cold happen and thought I should just feel lucky I had 2 children. Anyway, I had 1 more proper period then fell with this one.

Thoughts are with you - make sure you have a nice glass of wine and endulge in yourself a little. Sounds like your body is already strating to do what it needs to. I would defo try to take just a couple of days off at least - it's not nice having visits to the toilet at work in this circumstance.

right i'm off to play with DD and put flowers in vase (which DH bought earlier). Have decided to tell work as my sister didn't last year when she had a MC and as a result didn't take time to recover.

so sorry to hear your news purlease, take care of yourself. Im glad u have decided to tell work, they need to understand what your going through and give you the time you need. xxx

Purlease - I really am very sorry to hear your news, but like others before you on this thread, I am humbled by your reaction and your positivity. Look after yourself and good luck for the future.....

DM xx

Think that could be a good idea Purlease, to tell work. Some people, understandably so, don't want anyone to know that they have mc. But sometimes, the physical and the mental trauma that a mc brings, it does help, for people have a tiny bit of understanding and comprehension. I told my work when I went for my ERPC and they were so nice about it.

On an aside, do you think we could have a list ?
I know there is the stat thread, but as I am reading everyones different posts, I like to scan down and remind myself when they are due, how many children they already have etc. I know it is difficult becasue we add people and lose people, but I REALLY NEED atelast one list, on each thread that we have.
IS THAT O.K. WITH EVERYONE ????

I agree with you Oblomov about the list. I haven't even looked at the list since it was give its separate home and am losing touch with who is who and whos left given all the bad news we've had.

Good idea about the list.

Just been to the beach for 2 days and am cross that I'm back home to normal life! Not much ms anymore but I'm still absolutely ravenous all the time. It's quite embarrassing being with friends who don't know about pg and pigging out all the time - but there's nothing I care about more than food at the moment! Rice and cheese though - no no no. Spag bol - yes yes yes!

Still can't bear the thought, smell or taste of coffee, olives or oranges.

Sorry to those of you who've had bad news recently. I guess there's a good chance that it will happen to quite a few of us. I've got 12 days till my scan and I'm so desperate to know everything's okay.

So if anyone's doing a list, my vital stats are 27 yrs, North London, first pregnancy, due Nov 10.

Twinkingfairy - how you doing?

It's a pity we can't have signatures, like they have on other message board sites, like the apple site where you list your computers etc. We could put our due dates etc. on it, I'm struggling to remember where people are up to.

Purlease just read back my post to you and it did look a bit as though I was telling you what to do - I was in a rush with my dc harassing me and it came out a bit wrong. A good friend of mine had a mc not long after DS was born, and I can see the dilemma. For us, I think it was good that she told me, it made things a little easier for her, I think, but all situations are different and I shouldn't have been so blunt.
Take care x

Have copied the latest list over for quick reference - keep updating on the other one though - we will bring it over for a new thread or whenever anyone thinks?

I have taken of tammycc and Purlease. Have added my scan date - is in 3 wks time when I should be 12 wks and will be my first scan this time round [chews nails nervously]

Toolly - EDD November? (#3) Scan 22/4
Oliviaelanasmum - EDD ? November (#4)
LittleHarrysMum - EDD ? November (#2)
MummyAnnabella - EDD 1st November (#2)
Jojay - EDD 1st November (#2) Scan date: 21st April
Jaydee - EDD 1st November (#1)
Lilchick - EDD 1st November (#3)
Chickenmommy - EDD 2nd November (#1)
Pinkyminky - EDD 3rd November (#3)Scan Date:June 25th
LolaBella - EDD 3rd November (#1)Scan 23rd April
Heartmum2Jamie - EDD 3rd November (#3) Scan: 24/4
Cricri - EDD 3rd November (#1)Scan: 20/3
mum2becks - EDD 4th November (#2) Scan Date: 25th April
Creena - EDD 4th November (#4) Scan date: 25th April
Renaissancewoman - EDD 6th November (#3). Scan 25/4
Suiledonn - EDD 6th November (#2)
Bettispaghetti - EDD 6th November (#3)scan 25/4
Bubbaz - EDD 6th November (#2) Scan 30/6
Manyhatson - EDD 7th November (#2)
JudyJones - EDD 7th November (#1)
LackaDAISYcal - EDD 7th November (#3). Scan Date 21/04
Stnky Bear - EDD 7th November (#3)
Jackjacks mummy - EDD 9th November (#4)
chocolategal - EDD 9th Nov (#1)
FlightyRachel - EDD 9th Nov (#4)
Autumnlady - EDD 9th November
Lolis - EDD 10th November (#1)
Browny -10th November (#5) Scan 23/3
Trixibelle - EDD 10th November (#2)
llareggub ECC 12 November (no 2)
newtotheplanet - EDD 13th November (#2)
TheDoctorsWife - EDD 14th November (#1)
snookie28 - EDD 14th November (#2)
Kegs82 - EDD 14th November (#3)
Pinkali37-EDD 14th November(#1)Scan26/3 7/04 & 23/04
ELB1 - EDD 15th November (#2)
Bronte186 - EDD 15th November (#1)
SoExcited - EDD 15th November (#1)
Roca - EDD 17th November (#3) sacn 9/5
EButters - EDD 17th November (#1)
emmanj - EDD 17th November (#1)
Dozymare - EDD 18th November (#3)B/A 10/4
hanaflower - EDD 18th November (#1) Scan 2/5, b/a 9/5
Oblomov - EDD 18th November (#2) Scan 31/3
juanitad - EDD 19th November (#1)
Mum2ozzie - EDD 20th November (#2)
Misdee - EDD 21st November (#4)
Tegan - EDD 21st November (#3)
Runnervt - EDD 21st November (#2)
Yorky - EDD 23rd Nov (#2)
Ash80- EDD 23rd Nov (#2)
Thomasina1 - EDD 23rd Nov (#1)
Mad4mybaby - EDD 26th Nove (#2) scan 21/5
Tryingtoleave - EDD 26th Nov (#2)
Ceebee74 - EDD 26th Nov (#2) scan 15/5
Serendippity: EDD 26th Nov (#2)

ok - here's a question (9 wk worries coming on):

I have not had my period for 9 weeks, have been sick, feel queasy most of the time, boobs tingle / hurt, am knackered and had a +ve pg test weeks ago....

Would you say there is most likely something going on in there?!

Who'd have thought I'd even think this way 3rd time round!

Roca- I'm no medic, but I'd say you were pregnant!

Oh Purlease - MY thoughts are with you. I am so terribly sorry. I can't stop crying now. Was this the first scan?

I am still not feeling pregnant. Feel absolutely fine. Well other than tired ay 7pm and feel funny with food. 10 wk 1 day today. I am now very worried about scan on Wed.

Pinkali roll on next Wednesday I think you really need reasuurance that everything is fine so you can stop worrying. You must be driving yourself round the bend. Its not long now xx

I went to see KT Tunstall in concert last night it was brill but I am so tired today, my head is killing me and I just want to go back to bed. I can't even manage 1 night out now and I was at home tucked up in bed by 11!! Poor DS is sat in front of Cbeebies bless him.

Hope everyone else is OKx

Pinkali- I do hope that seeing next week's scan will allow you to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. You are going to tire yourself out with all this worry.xx
Bubbaz- I knoe exactly what you mean, if I go out for the evening, or for the day I am absolutely shattered then next day. Thank god for cebeebies!

Purlease, I am so sorry to hear your sad news, please take care.

I have also not had my pregnancy confirmed, not really bothered either way as I did enough pregnancy tests to know for certain that I was pregnant, even took one with my to the GP, but he said he would take my word for it.

I am feeling crap today, I woke up with the same headache, only worse, that I went to bed with. Yesterday was a busy & stressful day, we had lots of strangers in and out all day. Sod's law they all wanted to come on the same day. The the neighbours kid were playing footy in the street (which I am NOT against on the whole), but I was very annoyed when they kept hitting my garage door with the ball. Basically I have a 2 way shared drive and because of this, when we had the extension built, we had to have the garage door inset a few feet to allow enough parking space. My bedroom overhangs the garage, which is obviously where I go to try and get some rest, but also wil be where my baby will sleep for at least the first 6-12 months of it's life. Anyway. I lost my temper after a bit and went to shouot at the kids. When they hit the garage door again, I ran out and took the ball as it was behind my bins, which live under the overhang, so definately on MY property. It didn't stop the little gits, they just got another ball, kept playing and hitting the garage door, so I called the police, who sent a local office around. The kids did move on, but it won't last. Give it a week and they will be back to using my garage door as a goal. I wouldn't mind much, but these kids are 11, 12 and maybe 13 and there is a grassland/park area about a minute from here or there is a bit of waste grass verge at the end of the close, 10 seconds from here, the parents could still see/here the kids playing from their house. I guess I am just an evil kid hater....... sigh.

Suppose I will have to return the ball in a bit and speak to the kids mother, oh joy!

HElllooooooo

I know you are all right. I can't even tell DH how worried I am every night when I go to bed and the minute i wake up (whether in the night or am). He will get angry with me (not in a horrible way at all) just in a he can't go through another weekend like the one before last (before 2nd scan). I was a nightmare!

I suppose becuase my boobs are not tender and because of what has happened to Purlease and other ladies on here, I have become a bit obssessed. Every scan I have i think it's going to be the last and that I will had MMC. This really can't be healthy. I will mention my fears to MW on Monday. I suppose also, it is a little bit to do with the hell we've been through to get here. Like a lot of people which I never forget I am not the only one. I do feel quite alone, scared to expel quite how I feel about my fears.

So a quick resume to have no feelings at all in tummy is ok??? Have never had any bleeding which is a good sign? with MMC there aren't any signs are there? AGGHHHHHHHH I need next Wed to come before I think I can chill.
xxxxxxx

Yes Pinkali no feelings are fine, If it makes you feel better I had pains with my mmc.
Don't ever feel bad about saying exactly what you feel we are all here to listen and help if we can. Do mention it to MW and see if she can suggest anything. Deep down we are all as crazy as each other in different ways . Do you think we all might actually calm down and chill once we reach 12 weeks???