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thefortbuilder · 24/03/2008 19:09

Pleased to be able to start the new thread with our birth announcement!

Samuel arrived at 1923 on thursday 20th March, weighing in at 4lb 10oz! After a fraught day of trying to find a hospital with a NNU with a cot (our hospital NNU was closed just as we were about to go to theatre), we finally ended up at Epsom General!

Sam is still in NNU but should be coming off his last little bit of oxygen this evening, is off CPAP, and having a go at bf'ing whenever he can (he's being fed by a tube).

I'm home and feeling a whole lot better than I did last time around, although very sore - TAKE THE PAINKILLERS THEY OFFER!!!!!

Jacob not sure about the new arrival although is smitten with his new scooter

will catch up with posts later but thanks for all your thoughts, prayers and good wishes over the last few days

xxx

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Casserole · 22/04/2008 10:12

Otter you can get right back down the queue right NOW!!

Seriously, it sounds like things might be kicking off for you, with the show and the pains.

I'd try and rest some more this morning, esp if you didn't sleep well last night. Whatever's going on, your body will cope with it much better the more rest you can give it. Try and eat something energy giving and get some rest and see how the morning goes, I reckon. That way if you are starting something, your body will be as ready as it can be and, if not, you'll have given it some rest to catch up on itself a bit!

Thinking of you

Casserole

otter1980 · 22/04/2008 10:42

lol - well i've had a look on internet and apparently a show can mean you've got weeks to go still... am nipping up to the drs to get my perscription - nice little walk might help with the back at least...

trying not to get excited as i could still be weeks away from B-day...

Casserole · 22/04/2008 11:06

Well, at least you know your body's gearing up!

Just had a really stupid conversation - we think we have a wasps nest somewhere outside as we are getting loads of wasps buzzing around our bedroom window - which obviously we want to sort before baby comes. I just rang the council's pest control department who told me they don't "do" wasps nests until June as "you shouldn't have any until then"

Um, no-one's sent the wasps that memo.....

So, anyway, ringing a private pest control firm instead but honestly, how stupid!!

otter1980 · 22/04/2008 12:09

lol - maybe you should go let the wasps know?

asicsgirl · 22/04/2008 12:21

Casserole lol at those impertinent wasps! Moved into the area early to secure a des res perhaps?

otter If you have the period-y pains and back pain as well as the show that sounds promising to me... exciting! Keep us posted x

sweetbean so sorry for the stress. It's not what you need, is it. WendyJK's link looks useful - is there any way DH could take a few days' annual leave? or even unpaid leave? Totally sympathise with you wanting him there.

pazza we were ruthless with visitors the first time round, and didn't really have any (apart from my mum) for the first couple of weeks. It was really nice to have the space to figure out how to do things our way. Also I found that while DP was off work I didn't really want/ need anyone else around, but when he'd gone back I was desperate for a bit of company, so it made more sense to put people off till then. Also meant I had got enough of a hang of bf to be able to do it without having to strip to the waist...

oh and re. ladygardens - let it grow I say, I'm definitely not bothering on account of midwives!! Tho' I do remember a MW taking the mick out of my pants last time round (I had a red thong on and she went 'Those aren't proper knickers!'). Cheeky minx.

Pina, sweetbean, pazza - driving hell! Do sympathise. I got a parking ticket the other day and burst into tears. Very nice bloke from the pizza place came out and gently pointed out to me which of the hieroglyphics on the parking sign (which I had read, but obviously hadn't understood) meant that I couldn't park there between 4-6pm. TBH I'm a bit of a liability behind the wheel at the moment I think... talk about pregnabrain.

Well I'm off to finish sorting out the spare room so it's fit to give birth in! Weird thought. I think I'll put some pictures of DS around to encourage me...

goodcatholicgirl · 22/04/2008 13:59

Afternoon all,

Re visitors, A rota sounds like a good idea, but I would say wait and see how you feel at the time too. I know I may well be in the minority but I was on an absolute high after giving birth to DD. We only took a year TTC but felt like an eternity at the time. Also, I was desperate for a girl and got one so nothing was bringing me down off cloud 9. I was actually ringing friends from work telling them to come and visit when DD was 2 days old. I was ecstatic and just wanted to show off my my little girl to everyone. People were still sensible and didn't stay too long etc, but we had probably 2-3 different sets of visitors a day for the first week, which honestly didn't bother me. I realise I may feel very different this time. All I'm saying is, you might suprise yourselves???!!

pinacolada I definitely don't think it's elfish of you not to trim before birth. I'm sure the MW's couldn't give a toss. I have loads of patients apolagise to me cos they haven't shaved their legs or whatever, and I can honestly say, when you are 'treating' someone, it's the last thing on your mind. Saying that, I did have a patient in the hydro pool once who had pubes down to her knees...seriously. I did notice that!!

My worry is that I won't have showered recently enough when things kick off, which I asked MW about. I wanted to know if I could have a shower once waters had broken (cos of risk of infection) and she said yes, it's fine. I am so paranoid about being whiffy 'down there' (sorry if TMI). Think I will just shower twice a day just in case!!! MW said they wouldn't notice or even care. I suppose they must see and have some right sights to deal with.

sweetbean your DH's paternity leave, or lack of it sounds like a nightmare! Poor you, I really feel for you. Can he just take annual leave, or even unpaid leave. Surely most employers would be sympathetic if his wife has just had a baby? Let us know what you manage to sort out.

otter1980 at you getting your show and having a few early signs!! Keep us posted but it sounds good.

This will make you chuckle, I have Robonan's funeral tomorrow, and I was chatting to a friend last night who asked if I was feeling OK about it, and I said I was most worried about having to stand for 20 mins or so at the cemetery while they actually bury her, and how it's gonna affect my back etc. She suggested I take a little fold out chair to sit on, but I said we don't have any, only sun longers for the garden. Then we PMSL at the thought of me relaxing on a sunlounger at the side of the grave while the buriel takes place.....I could get DH to feed me grapes hey??!!

My sister (main on call person for childcare when I go into labour) has just text me to say work have told her she has to go to Slovakia for 3 days next week !!!! I am 39 weeks on Friday, so likely for things to happen next week (she said hopefully!!). Oh lordy!!

GCG xxx

goodcatholicgirl · 22/04/2008 14:02

pinacolada question, do elves have pubes??!! LOL at my faux pas....'I don't think it's elfish of you to not trim' HA HA Ha!! Of course, I meant selfish, not elfish.......

asicsgirl · 22/04/2008 14:32

GCG that's so lovely about how you felt when your DD arrived. Brought a little tear to my hormonal eye!

Re. sights when treating people - I went to see a physio a long time ago about achilles tendon problems and (as a physio virgin) hadn't anticipated that I would end up on my back with one leg bent up to my chest... and just a thong on . Luckily the physio was a woman but still to think of it... I always take my shorts with me now!!

Re. ladygardens, trims etc - did you see this Smack the Pony sketch - love it

sweetbean · 22/04/2008 15:43

HI all

Thanks you all for your support !!!!! XXXXXX

I was about 4 wks preg when DH started this job so we have just missed out !!

I am going to try and stay positive but i know that they are really short staffed at the moment and so i worries me that they will not be so happy if he asks for time off,i know that it might seem a bit irrational for me to be so upset but i just have this picture of how it was with DD and it was lovely i was also on a complete high after i had her and it was just so lovely DH DD and me all together for 2 weeks and bonding with her so i just so badly want that this time as well !!!

Otter1980 OOOOOHH baby on they way i hope xxx

GCG i hope your baba stays in until your sisters back xxx

Thanks again for the support girls xxxxx

Mitchell81 · 22/04/2008 15:55

Sweetbean: sorry about the paternity leave, glad you are feeling a bit more positive and think of a good solution.

GCG: Laughing at the thought of you on a sunlounger. Hope the funeral goes well tomorrow.

Casserole: Hope the wasps disappear and come back when they are supposed too!!!!!

Otter: A show, very exciting

Podglet: You have to stay with us

Pazza: Glad your swim went well

Coolmama: Glad you had a good babyshower and party

Sorry if I missed something, missed my daytime nap yesterday and today and am so tired. I went shopping yesterday for gifts from baby and today spent the day visting my mom in hospital. She is recovering well from bowel surgery yesterday.

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Mitchell81 · 22/04/2008 16:32

Pina: thats funny re: pink thong
Hope you get a referal tomrrow for a growth scan.

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mumofk · 22/04/2008 17:35

Gingerwench and pina- I?m with you on the feeling crappy on Sunday- maybe it was the weather or the wind direction or something?
Aww at these annoying yet cute DDs- I?ll let my DD join the club! She?s adorable, but I can?t play, lose my temper at myself for not being able to do x, then get ratty with her even though its nothing to do with her. I?m starting to want to have a bath/shower loads (its something else to do and somewhere else that is comfy for a bit) and she?s started saying she wants to help, even in mummy?s hot bath/shower (she and Daddy have ?splashy? baths at more ?normal? temps, but she?s surprisingly fine in my ?as hot as it?ll go? baths!)
GCG- I?ve had a real change in mood and I?m not nervous anymore- Miserable Sunday and BH Monday has made me realise I?ve got my head in the right place and this baby could land now- and I?m as ready as I?ll ever be! With all my plans last week I really WANTED to do stuff and was hoping bump would let me- this week I?ve still got plans but really don?t mind if I don?t get to do them (and one is a meal out with friends I usually wouldn?t miss for the world!!). So, I?m putting it down to hormones and realising that days and weeks of feeling like this will make me absolutely crazy- hope I?m not going to have to wait too long!! LOL at robonan funeral seating arrangements- but seriously hope you are ok for the standing bit, and that your sister?s trip and labour DON?T happen at the same time!
Sweetbean- comparing the weight thing- I?d go with whatever you feel like, but the usual would be from before your pg (as not everyone loses weight while pg)- also it depends if this is you thinking of future weight goals. The only thing I can remember about my weight is I lost 10 kg in 10 days (the gap between getting on the scales with giving birth to DD in the middle of that!) with my last pg. And afterwards I wasn?t too bothered by my weight as such (I?m not a diet person) but it took a while to get used to my new shape, and weight loss/gain didn?t actually affect that as much as I thought. It was silly things like Dorothy Perkins don?t make clothes to flatter my new shape, but didn?t know where to shop for clothes to fit me, so everything looked rubbish. I ended up going shopping with a professional shopper which was really helpful! I?m just hoping I?ll be able to use the same shopping rules once life with new baby settles down....
I never gave DH any paperwork about being pg, either this time or last. I know he had to tell his employers he planned to take some, and with changing the LEA he worked for a couple of months ago, there was some question if they?d give him any leave (amazingly they do, and enhance one week to full pay coz they do count his work for the other council as continued service). We did have the discussion about what would happen if he couldn?t have leave- basically even if it went to disciplinary he was going to be off for the labour, he did say he might go in for a day to get things sorted then take annual leave. He only works with one other person (he manages IT in a school) and basically told the other guy he?d be off around this time and the other person was co-operative about not booking holiday, otherwise it?d got rather sticky. Do you have any family or friends who?d be able to be support if he can only get some but not all the time off you need help for? It really is a horrible situation (and for us it didn?t even cross our minds until after DH started his new job).
Pina- at your miserable Monday morning- I know all about the night time aches and pains, but knowing others are suffering too really doesn?t help that much, does it? Glad you didn?t bump your car- I?ve got nervous of driving, I?m making so many errors, pulling out on people, etc. I?m just planning how little I need to go out so I drive as little as possible. I?m just hoping my driving brain will work after baby! About back pain- well yesterday I couldn?t SIT down for 2 minutes without being in agony, standing up or lying down was the only things bearable (slightly worrying as last time I was like that was in labour!) so, sorry, I?ve got the opposite to you! Re:ladygarden, my birth prep will just involve a slight trim with scissors so I can wash easier- TMI but while pg everything just grows soo long....and I?m just past caring for neatness around the edges, and no way am I going to ask and pay a stranger to wax it! I used to have a friend who did beauty therapy, it was ok going to her...
Wendyjk- belated welcome and happy pg days! Hope your working isn?t too stressful, and I too have just about grown out of my coat- I bought a size up when I was 12 weeks, thinking it?d do, but now I can just do it up, but not sit or squat (I tried to look at something on a bottom shelf in a shop today, and had to undo it!)
Pazza- LOL at topiary!
Sweetbean- LOL at lack of motivation, my house did get started with clearing up, so its not too bad but I really feel I?m not doing anymore until pre-labour nesting or after baby happens!
Otter- I know what you mean about bump tightening, period pains and back ache. My list also includes pubic symph pain (especially when trying to roll over in bed) and ?knitting needle in fanjo? pain. The tightening were getting rather regular yesterday, but eased off when I went to bed, but everything else kept going- though I actually had the best nights sleep in ages with only 4 trips to the loo! I haven?t had a show yet, but that can happen a few weeks before it all gets going, can?t it? Forgive me if I?m wrong, and that ?s exciting news!
Casserole- and council not ?doing? wasps until June. FFS!
Right, this has taken me an hour of catching up to do this, I?ve even put it in word so I can copy and paste without losing it all!!
I missed getting online yesterday coz DD was up half the night, and in the morning we realised she?s got conjunctivitis, so cue unable to go to childminder, trying to arrange GP appointment and 2.5 yr old who never wants cuddles wanting to sit on me, be carried and who?d rub her eye and then cry coz it hurt so much. Last time she was ill was xmas (with ?not-chicken pox? as we were so worried it might be) so I?m completely not used to her being all cute, cuddly but in pain. Thankfully my childminder is a star and came over after she?d done the before school run, helped with DD even came to the Drs with us, then could take DD to hers as no other children around and DD stopped being quite so clingy. I meantime was getting regular BH, all the aches I sympathised with Otter above and it actually hit me this, though definitely not serious, could be the start of things. I had a nap, had a shower, it all continued steady- not scary painful, not getting more frequent but definitely still there and stopping me speaking ( oh, and still couldn?t sit down, that?s why I ended up carrying DD around as couldn?t let her sit on my knee ). I then remembered I had planned to go to B&Q for dust sheets for homebirth....so raided the cellar instead and found some-phew! When DH back from work and even having a shower didn?t stop the BH I told him, and he had a minor panic, looking for the moses basket (him: we?d better get the moses basket ready. Where is it? Me: in the babies room, all ready like its been for weeks.Him: oh, yes.) He even went and did some work he brought home straight away. Him: If you do go into labour tonight you know i need to give this person their laptop back tomorrow? Me: you live near enough they can send someone to get it you know, you don?t have to go in!
Right, I?m late for getting DD now, I wonder how many pages this will be on MN????

PazzaPlusTwo · 22/04/2008 17:38

aww sweetbean that's a pain about your dh. are his company going to be that strict? is it too late to just 'assume' he gets the p-leave, let them know the due date as usual and then the ball's in their court to say 'er, no sorry mate' if they really want to be mean - they might choose to ignore it, or they might not even bother to do the maths!

I also have a story from when I was about 18 ... I got pissed with some mates and totally forgot I had a smear test booked for the next morning, suffice to say no amount of scrubbing got rid of the marker pen on my inner thigh with someone's phone number, an arrow and 'more fun this way'...

... it was my elderly family GP doing the smear test

PazzaPlusTwo · 22/04/2008 17:46

otter and mumofk!!! sounds like two on the boil!

I have been booked in for CS next Monday! Feeling very panicky - not about CS as such but about being in hospital for min 3 nights on my own with 2 newborns to feed and look after

Mitchell81 · 22/04/2008 17:59

mumofk: Laughing at your DH worried about taking a laptop back tomorrow if you go into labour

Pazza: thats very funny. Were you always going to have a CS? The midwives will most definetley help you, so no need to worry and by the second day you will be able to move around easier, so able to do abit more, but they will still help you. Monday that is exciting, you are 2 weeks before me. How many weeks will you be then?

Casserole · 22/04/2008 18:06

Pazza that made me laugh out loud, as did the Smack the Pony Sketch, brilliant!

Will laughing a LOT induce our labours? If so let's all trawl the net for clips

Well, you may or may not be pleased to know that I had coffee with a friend of mine this afternoon who's just finished her midwife training and I asked her about the BJ thing - and she's never heard of it. She said the prostaglandins are only given via a gel to the cervix and she reckoned if there was any truth in there'd be a tablet form as well.... so I'm sorry boys, it's back to the drawing board on that one

Casserole · 22/04/2008 19:11

Oh, and Pina - I don't think chest pains are normal - am assuming they're not heartburn type pains? I don't want to sound alarmist but I would get them checked out as soon as you can and REST up in the meantime. Cx

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mumofk · 22/04/2008 20:00

Pazza wow on section date, you'll get support in hospital, expecially with two LO, so try not to worry about that side of things. Amzing to think they'll be here so soon! Thank you for LOL smear story! That kind of thing brings back memories....though I didn't get a phone number!! I'm not feeling 'on the boil' just yet, having a good nights sleep last night helped, and with nothing 'escalating' I reckon this is just getting in gear for the last few weeks. I must admit forgetting this feeling though, until today- bit fed up, bit achey, but better than super-hormonal PMT day I had Sunday (though with everyone here it sounds like it was just that kind of day for loads of people!). I'm remembering that BH can go on for days, and if they do stop when you change activity ( I get them worse washing up, do you think I can get out of it now??!) which happens for me, it just plain doesn't count.
Sweetbean- fingers crossed on the idea they might not notice entitlement dates- just go for it, sounds like a very good plan to me! There is the legal section on here that may have someone who can give examples of how different people have coped with this situation, it can't be that uncommon.
Casserole- thanks for the 'no need for to many BJ' advice! I've never been one for swallowing!
Pina- uurrggghhh on not being able to walk to get your DD- how horrible. So glad you gran saw you when she did, that was really lucky. Tip- keep taxi phone number on your phone for those just in case moments....!
Right, just doing my bit to keep those pages rolling,
hugs all*

otter1980 · 22/04/2008 20:20

hiya all

pazza - very exciting re c-section, PML at the marker pen story...

mum ofk - seriously challenging mammoth poster title...

sweetbean - i started my current job at about 4 weeks so I get full year off if i want it but company pays me sod all... never mind!!! could he get some time off later to have a love-in with you and baby?

well i rung the hospital as am 36 weeks (by hospital dates although we though it was 2 weeks earlier...) and checked if we should be worrying and midwife told me it could be 2 weeks before anything happens... or it could happen now. so none the wiser... hoping pain eases though as i will not love the next 4 weeks it this continues...

brain left me... also should go give DP some attention... will keep you updated
xx

goodcatholicgirl · 22/04/2008 21:05

mumofk OK, I admit defeat, you can have mine and pinacoladas crown as most mammoth poster!!! Just a very polite request though luvvie, any chance of a few double spaces between paragraphs, it makes my eyes hurt....all that text to read!!! (been trying to pluck up courage for ages to ask you that . Hope you don't think I am cheeky!).

I did laugh at all the physio stories. Don't want to worry you all but I ALWAYS ask ladies if they would like to borrow a pair of shorts to wear, as I am well aware there are a lot of thong wearers out there. tbh, I would be embarassed treating someone in a thong, I would rather they wore shorts. Our dept has a stock of all sizes .

I think my best story is one that happens often, we usually ask people to undress down to underwear and then leave them in cubicle and then come back a few mins later. Often you hear the poor young male physios telling their little old ladies with broken arms "OH NO!! You can keep your bra on.....I'll just give you a minute....".
Or one time when a lady came into the hydro pool, took her gown off to get in the pool and was completely starkers!!!! Funny what people think is expected of them.

pinacolada sorry to hear about your walking problems. I too walked DD to her CM today, a 5 min walk. I did manage it, but by jingo I was achey afterwards!

pazzaplustwo Wow! Can't believe you have a date, next Monday!!! Is it weird thinking 'this time next week I'll be a mummy'??!!! Hope you are excited and not nervous. How many weeks will you be?? Make sure you stay on the May post-natal thread (and you too podglet) even though you have April babies .

Oh well, I'd better go and iron what I'm wearing to the funeral tomorrow, and pack the sunlounger in the car .

GCG xxx

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