August Due Date Crew - Where Are You?

[AnnieApple123]

Just wondered how everyone is doing as September draws to a close? Missing hearing from you all.

My big boy has started nursery and is settling well. We’re hoping to be able to do a PGD cycle before Xmas for a summer baby next year. Please keep everything crossed for us.

@Miraclesdohappen88

@MidnightSunshine12
@Spiralout
@DesertSnow , @Mulner88 @Porcupette , @Loudmouth1 @overwork
@BusyBushBaby @jjeanii @CityKity @SnowL2021 @sprollie11 , @ChloeN
@PumpkinEverything , @Chl0o @LS88 @BMK @Alpacabag22 @Amme18 @DomesticElf
@LBF2020 @Desperatelyboredhousewife @BoodifulGoose
@buttercupbee @somuchtolearnabout @Rowanandremy , @TattyTil
@marleyandme
@RGxo13 , @JT2021 @Wineismybestfriend
@VickiGo @Sjw30 @AlexM7
@tax19 @nadsc @Rose05 @sally16
@newmummie ,
@Babykingincoming
@Gizzyanne
@Recoba
@Narwhal88@jollydollyirl @cococat88
@sommeliermama @EsmeSusanOgg
@Firsttimemomma1 @P1pk @Marmaladebear @Stuwe @MartaEly
@BB1993 @BCxx @Justdancinginthedark @honeymirabella @allgoodthings84
@MinnieFirstTimeMum @Owlgirl14
@Daisy155
@unluckyinlife
@MummaYoung2023 @Wife2b @HRSC
@ropo34
@Shinea
@chickpea1982
@froglou

@DesertSnow aww I have been wondering how you are doing. Mental health is so tough. Our minds can do horrible things to us and we have no control over it which is terrifying. Hopefully you find a medication/treatment that works for you. I think for lots of people it starts to lift with time too. Hope you’re feeling better soon

@AnnieApple123 so lovely to hear from you. I am glad your little one is settling in nicely and you are making plans for your summer 2024 baby. I will keep everything crossed for you.

Riley is now 6 weeks and he is doing well. We obviously fell completely in love as soon as he arrived 💙

Also @DesertSnow I am so sorry you are still struggling, but it sounds like you are being looked after and I hope the only way is up for you now. Glad that Luna is doing well despite all the pregnancy concerns x

@MinnieFirstTimeMum I love the name Riley too. Everyone who has shared names has made great choices IMHO.

Thanks @overwork @AnnieApple123 @BCxx @MinnieFirstTimeMum Yes I'm also doing CBT and trying hypnotherapy. I get 5 sessions of CBT on the NHS but then will look into some further talking therapy. Good days and bad days. Being a mum is all I've ever wanted so being hit with PND is a bit of a shock.

@DesertSnow 5 isn’t very many. Hope you can find someone good to follow up if needed. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@AnnieApple123 I've found it quite helpful, and they gave me a helpful booklet that I think they really shoud give to every new mum! Will definitely look into other options when it's run its course.

Great to hear from you again @AnnieApple123 - I hope you’ve been doing okay 💕

I was meaning to message in the original group, but baby Finn was born the day before my birthday by EMCS, after a stressful week of serious liver issues at 39 weeks and an induction that never really got started! I have to say, the EMCS was a really positive experience for me (considering the emergency aspect, it didn’t feel rushed or stressful for me at least!) and I’ve recovered really well which is great for my first time 😊

Finn has been a little smasher too and as much as I’m winging it everyday, he’s a joy and we love him so so much 💙had his first jabs the other day and the little screams were heartbreaking, but he’s all good now!

So lovely to hear from everyone else and hope your little babies are all doing okay! I feel like time is going by so quickly and it feels like he was always here even though he wasn’t!

@JT2021 So pleased to hear you had a positive birth experience after all that. It sounds very stressful at the end. xx

Glad you’re enjoying Finn too. Another great name. xx

@AnnieApple123 nope,still can't read any bar yours!! I am so delighted that you're back/in touch!! I am going to message the powers that be to investigate why this happened, it happened after my baby was born and I thought the thread had been dismantled or something as I couldn't read then either! Really wondering how everyone is getting on. @DesertSnow I don't know what kind of am awful time you've had but believe me when I say you're not alone! Not me on this birth but the last baby. Oh my goodness!! When I get this sorted out I'll be able to actually read the various posts!

@AnnieApple123 thank you for making this thread, it's so lovely to see how everyone is getting on. Sending you all the luck in the world for your 2024 summer baby ❤️❤️

@DesertSnow I'm so sorry you've had such a hard time. I really hope your treatments work out and you get the support you need 💕

My baby girl arrived 31st July, really straight forward birth - so unlike my son's birth which was very traumatic. I was discharged very quickly which turned out to be a mistake - I had to go back to triage that night in agony because my bladder wasn't emptying fully.

Before I was discharged I told the midwives I was doing lots of little wees and they just told me to drink more water. When I went back to hospital there were 1.5litres in my bladder when they emptied it. What followed was 2 weeks of a flip flow catheter and 2 weeks of self catheterisation and loads of hospital trips. So one month of needing a catheter. Very glad to have all that behind me now.

Luckily my baby girl is an absolute dream and was great throughout all that mess. She's now 9 weeks old and I've been really loving the newborn experience this time round which has totally shocked me. Her brother is very caring towards her, it's been very lovely to see 🥰

Excited to see my little girl's personality grow. Feeling very lucky for my little family.

@AnnieApple123 lovely to hear from you and exciting to hear about your future baby plans. Hope all goes well! Will keep my fingers crossed for you!

We had our surprise baby girl on 9th August. So she is just over 8 weeks now. Her name is Fern and she has been doing brilliantly. Nothing quite prepares you for motherhood but we are coping with all of the unknowns as best we can! The advice and support from this group has been great- not sure what I would have done without you all xx

Hi @AnnieApple123 , good to hear from you and best of luck with your IVF cycle.

I had a healthy baby girl at 40+3. The birth was difficult, I had an infection and a post partum haemorrhage, but we've recovered well and my 3 year old had adjusted amazingly to being a big brother. I'm enjoying this maternity leave much more than the last, which was during lockdown.

@AnnieApple123
Thank you for making this thread - so nice to see everyone’s updates.
My little boy arrived 3rd August, 8 days early. I got induced as they said he was going to be big..he wasn’t!! Adjusting to two was hard but it’s getting easier daily.
Good luck with your TTC journey - I wish you all the luck for your summer baby xx

Thank you everyone. It's so nice to hear everyone's updates xx

So good to hear from everyone! Loving these updates 🥰

Good luck @AnnieApple123 have everything crossed for you for and a summer ‘24 baby 🤞

I had also been wondering how you were doing @DesertSnow. I hope you’re ok, wishing you all the best 💕

My little girl is 6 weeks old tomorrow and I have to say it’s the wildest and best rollercoaster ride I’ve been on! I was very lucky and had an absolute dream labour. I was induced and Niamh was born 7hrs later. Feel very lucky and incredibly grateful to my amazing doctor who did everything to make it a positive experience for me❤️ I have suffered with severe diastasis recti however, and am on an intensive physio course to try and sort out my poor stomach. There has been talk of surgery but I’m obsessively doing all the exercises so hopefully it won’t come to that.

Niamh is doing great and putting on weight well - she’s getting little chubby arms and thighs🥺. We have struggled with breastfeeding, it’s been very up and down but I think we’re getting into a flow now. She has started properly smiling which is soo cute and has definitely woken out of her newborn slumber and is starting to fight sleep during the day (as long as it’s not at night😅) even though it’s hard at times I just love being her mum❤️

@AnnieApple123 thank you so so much for this hope you are doing well as well!

I am sat here breastfeeding for the 100th time Ayla is now 7 weeks old and she is a 11 pounds!
she doesn’t let me sleep 🤣🤣 but I do enjoy the day cuddles and naps with her!

She is also constipated at the moment every time I eat chocolate 😩 so I need to stop and her reflux is getting better by the day which makes life a lot easier!

How are you all doing?

@DesertSnow I hope you do feel much better soon! 💕

And suddenly it’s nearly November…!

How are you doing now @DesertSnow ?

I’ve started my cycle and, if I get pregnant this month, my due date would be almost exactly the same as it was last year.

Hi @AnnieApple123 good to hear from you, I will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you. Thanks for asking after me, I'm still struggling with anxiety and depression, but things are feeling more stable now. I think I'm on the right drug regime, and my hormones have settled. I'm hoping things will improve further when Luna is sleeping more consistently. Luna is lovely, 12 weeks old tomorrow.

@AnnieApple123 ahh so excited to hear this. Fingers and toes crossed for you 🤞🏻 how would you feel about the dates being close? Sometimes I think these things can’t be a coincidence and have to be some sort of sign if it happens that way

This is good to hear @DesertSnow . Sounds like you’re getting the right help? I must say that my experience of counselling has been very mixed and others I’ve been talking to in the loss community have said the same.

@BCxx At the moment I quite like the idea of the dates being the same. I just hope I wouldn’t end up regretting that though if it worked as all the anniversaries would be the same. Tomorrow I’ll have the first scan to see how things are going.

Best of luck with your cycle @AnnieApple123 .

One of my previous pregnancies (missed miscarriage) ended on 9th August last year. I had my daughter on 8th August and was pleased the date was different, but ultimately having another healthy pregnancy was the important thing, the dates didn't really matter.

@AnnieApple123 It's been challenging getting to this point where things feel a bit more stable. The psychiatrist I was finally referred to is really helpful and got me on the right course with the drugs. Therapy is definitely a mixed bag. My CBT ends this week. It has been a bit helpful, but a lot of it I find quite vague and generalised. I think talking therapy could be helpful, as there's a lot I think I haven't come to terms with. As @BusyBushBaby says, the dates don't really matter in the end. All through my pregnancy I kept saying I didn't want her to come on my dad's birthday - I have a very difficult relationship with him. Lo and behold, when did she appear? I know it's very different to your situation, but the date doesn't matter to me now and if it happens for you this cycle, I hope that it will either be a positive thing with the dates, or that it won't matter.

@AnnieApple123 how are you doing these days? I have everything crossed for you! My best friend is going through IVF atm and it’s been a very weird time in our relationship I have to say, which makes it very sweet that you started this thread to check in on us. I appreciate my bf is going through a really gruelling time, and don’t get me wrong I’m there for her every step of the way, but at the same time it can feel very lonely with a baby and I just wish we were in the same boat really.

Anyway, all that is to say I really miss the Aug threads, especially as I try and avoid the baby topic with my bf. How is everyone getting on?
We’re definitely in the thick of 4 month regression and I’m more exhausted than ever. I feel like pure hormones and adrenaline got me through the newborn weeks, but now the lack of sleep / autonomy / freedom is really setting in. I obviously love my boy to pieces, but he’s EBF (not by choice, but we started too late with the bottle and he completely refuses to take one), and relies on me for everything and I’m starting to mildly resent DHs freedom to go to social events / exercise etc.
I’m also so sad by how quickly time is racing away, I miss my squishy little newborn sometimes!

@DesertSnow how are you and Luna getting on these days? I hope the new treatment has helped you a few weeks in now.

Sending love and good sleeps to you all!

@CityKity thats a tough one. I also feel that maternity is quite isolating even though I’m lucky to have a nice group of NCT mums and another group from my pre natal yoga class. My regular friends seem be carrying on with their own lives and have forgotten me. Came to visit in the early weeks but now 16 weeks down the line and I haven’t seen them for ages. I’ve have tried to arrange walks and coffee meet ups etc. but now the nights are dark and cold it’s better harder to meet up to get some normality.

Definitely a lot of change happening here too. She has been harder to put down to sleep but once asleep has slept better in all. She is also starting to roll (god help us!) she hasn’t quite managed a full one yet as her arm gets stuck but almost there which I’m sure will make nappy changes more interesting 🤣

I’m also missing the chat. The Facebook group seems to have gone a bit quieter now that there is a WhatsApp group but I couldn’t keep up with that!