Due June 2005, Thread 3

[Uwila]

Time for new thread. I'll add a link on the old one.

Hello
I haven't been around for ages. I have been Busy moving house. I am finally all tucked up cosily in a new flat in Bristol Well the flat isn't new but it is new too me. Things are kinda lonely. I don't know anyone yet other than my neighbours and I am zapped with tiredness. Driving back to Cardiff for College is draining too but I couldn't transfer my courses here as they were doing different books. I am behind with work as moving has been so stressful and I have just got no brain in my head just now. I am so forgetful.

I had my scan a little while ago. It was bizarre; there is really a baby in there. I hadn't really believed it before that. I knew it but it doesn't seem very real.

It has gone back to not being very real again. I am drained and I kinda wonder what it is all for. I am already tired of the pregnancy - I have become very physically uncomfortable, the constipation is unbarable. I think I am developing piles. It is agony. My new midwife is really really nice. I am glad, I was so worried about changing when I moved house.

Eating is getting harder I am pained to admit. Also being weighed at the booking appointment was horrible. I don't ever weigh myself and to find I had grown so heavy made alot of ugly old feelings come up. I know I am not getting fat - it is a baby for gods sake I am currently suppliamenting normal eating with Fresubin nutritional drinks as I am just not managing very well. I suppose I have admitted it now - thats better than I used to be. I'm a bit worried about depression really too. I feel sort of Shakey just now. Having stupid pointless anorexic thoughts have really unnerved me

I am going to start pregnancy yoga after xmas. I am resolved. They have a group quite near fishponds and I'll get to meet some people in the area. I think I need to get properly settled into the new flat - unpack properly. I can't seem to get into the whole baby thing if I am honest. I don't think I'll really believe I am having a baby until it is in my arms. I am keeping up a journal and reading but it doesn't really feel like me. The whole baby thing is just surreal.

I hope you are all ok. Other than general apathy and low feelings I'm ok. Got sort of crampiness at the moment at some points in the day. I am told this is some sorta of braxton hicks contractions. I'll still bore the midwife about it - anything and I wonder if it might be a miscarriage. It is sorta tight, I'm told there is a pretty big growth spurt going on. everything feels way too full already. I don't know where I am going to fit any more baby without feeling constantly physically sick. God I am such a pussy I'm only 14 weeks and I already want it out I'll be lying around moaning later on I can see it now. Feeling utterly and completely sorry for myself.

It was good to see bean - who isn't really a bean any more doing olympic kick boxing on the scanner. I did think it was having a fit though until the consultant told me it is normal. I thought I was witnessessing an in utero epileptic fit. Well I best be off. will look in more regularly now I am settled in a bit.

Bye

Hiya Pink, You sound like you have so much going on, makes me feel very pitiful whinging about the tiniest thing. I just wanted to say that 'yes' pregnancy does sometimes seem to go on for ages!! It is practically a whole year after all. Putting on weight with your history must be a challenge, but try and eat some fresh fruit and veg maybe? Clementines are lovely this year! Anyway, if you're comfortable with it(and haven't already) tell your midwfife, support is essential at this time.
Great to see you back too

Hi all,

Just to say I had my scan today, it was magical. (And not a little bit uncomfortable as she prodded me repeatedly in the stomach to try and get the bean to move position). Everything looks fine and the antenatal clinic have even started muttering about a 20 week scan - hurrah!

DH was able to escape from hospital to come with me to Cambridge for the scan, and I've also managed to liberate him for the night, which is brilliant. Back tomorrow morning for further tests and listening to the old blokes on the ward reminisce about the War. They hope he'll be out before Christmas!

Hope everyone's doing okay.

so glad to hear that scans are going well!! Scraggy has her's today doesn't she!!?!?!?!

Just thought I'd share this story with you all........

whilst watching Holby City last night dd (4.5 Yr) turned round to me and asked "how did the baby get in your tummy"

I couldn't stop laughing!!!!!!! It was not something I was expecting her to ask - I thought she was too young to think about things like that - I guess I'm the nieve one!!!!

I told her to go and wake up her dad who was sleeping on the sofa and ask him!!!!!

He was too dazed and confused to answer her so between sniggers I told her that daddy had put special kisses in my tummy that turned into a baby!!!!!

You just know nect week she'll ask me how the kisses got in my tummy!!!

Bloody kids!!

Uh-oh, those words must be number one in the top ten 'questions every parent dreads hearing from their child'. Sounds like you handled it very well.

Great news on your scan tripbot, so pleased your DH could make it too.

PinkArjuna, so pleased you are back again. Sounds like you've got such a lot on your plate at the moment. We are all here for you if you are feeling lonely - you could also see if there are mumsnet meet-ups in your area too. Would you be able to make the southern girls meet-up in London on 22nd Jan? I understand completely when you say that the baby thing is surreal - it is for me, even second time round. It's such a weird thing if you actually stop to think about it, that another life is growing inside you.

Off work today, DS is in nursery and I am supposed to be going Christmas shopping but I just can't be bothered.

Sorry I spelt your name wrong tribpot!

sweetheart, he he he, I'm glad my ds has only really mastered the art of speaking properly...but I'm sure the questions will follow in due course!

Glad all the scans are going ok.

I had the best birthday yesterday, shopping, shopping, shopping, interspersed with copious amounts of tea/cake breaks and then egg and chip shop chips for tea, great

Pink, glad the move went ok, sorry your old thoughts are invading again - but admission is a fantastic step forward...as lipstick said fruit is a great choice if you can't face too much at the mo - and will help loads with the constipation/piles.

Sweetheart re the discharge thing - I've had alot of this, mentioned it to my midwife at my booking in appointment and she said some do some don't it's perfectly normal.

Hmmm homebirth/hospital/caesar... for me personally hospital, hospital, hospital...I have a hole in the heart so have to anyway 'in-case' but even if not, in hospital;

1. You don't have to deal with the messy sheets/floor/clothes
2. You can tell annoying visitors to leave blaming hospital visiting hours, he he he.
3. The nurses will take the baby away for you to get a nights sleep if you ask.
4. Hospital cooking is better than dh's
5. When you go to the TV room, it's liable to have things on you want to watch rather than (a) football, or (b) Finding Nemo, again!

But seriously I like lots and lots of pain relief, and as said before I'm definitely sure being in my own home would not be enough to make the process calming for me. Re the caesar Uwila I hate to disappoint you but the incontinence comes also from the stress on the pelvic floor from pregnancy and not exercising it properly regardless of type of delivery. So it?ll be a hospital, and god willing non invasive birth, again for me.

Happy birthday for yesterday Teabelly! Sorry I didn't realise.

Hospital for me too probably. Have read the home birth threads and found them thought-provoking and quite persuasive but it's the mess that bothers me too. Wouldn't like to freak out my DS with strange labour noises either!

Still haven't accomplished anything Christmas shopping-related yet this morning - off out for a lunch to meet a friend then will probably drag myself round town for an hour. Sigh. Office Christmas party tonight - a room full of very drunk people, talking about work...should be fun.

Mrs W thanks

On the plus side for your christmas dinner...as you're likely to be the only sober one you can make up scandalous stories about everyone and they won't be sure if it's true or not!

Oh yes, that is a good point. I can be official gossip monger for the evening. Just hope they do something scandalous before 10pm, as I haven't got the energy to stay to the bitter end. Is the tiredness shifting for everyone else? I'm still exhausted.

Afternoon all! This thread is changing slightly as the days and weeks go by, fewer people are moaning about morning sickness, myself included Just the odd wave of nausea sometimes, it's bloody great!!

I'm not exactly full of beans Dubblya, but I can get through most days without a nap now, which is a start, as long as I don't do too much during the day that is.

On Sunday I did a little bit of stocking up with Christmas food big mistake !! I have already scoffed one and a half of the 3 bags of Walkers sensations I bought Now I know why I never have crisps in the house; cuz I'm a big pig!!

After yesterday's glorious scan I am telling everyone about lil babs!!! Hee hee!!! Was so relieved to hear that heartbeat and see everything was ok. You know what I mean.

Off to wrap prezzies and have lunch in front of neighbours!

Well, I'm finally officially booked into the hospital ante natal clinic... yippee. Everything seems official now. I got to see a consultant and discuss an elective caesarean. Basically, she didn't encourage it but said that if I still I want one when I am 36 weeks I can have it. They generally do it at 39 weeks. So, now I just have to worry about what happens if I go into labour before week 39, while I'm at work in Leatherhead perhaps.

Oh, and Teabelly, I think most of the incontinence comes from delivery, although the weight of carring baby around for 9 or 10 months does contribute, but only a small amount. That what the physio woman (who probably has a more impressive title than "physio woman" so I've probably just insulted her) told me in the hospital just after I had dd.

Hellooooooooooo!

Had my scan! Am sooooooooooo happy! We got 4 pictures, so we've got two each to show people. They are just amazingly clear - I'm sure I can even see an ear!!

It was quite funny as baby seems to be a bit of a sloth (takes after his old mum) and wasn't really moving around so the sonographer gave him a bit of a prod and he jumped out of his little skin!!! Made us all laugh!

Also turns out that my mw is very cunning. It seems that you are not supposed to have a 12 week scan here, just a 20 week, but because she ticked the blood screening box for Down's they got me in now. (We're not having the test now).

I feel like part of the club now - glad everyone else's scans went really well.

Happy Birthday Teabelly!

Scraggy, thanks and it's fab when you see them - glad all went ok

Uwila yep I didn't say it didn't - just that depending on the strength of your muscles just being pg can cause it, and of course the more babies the more stress great - just another thing to add to that long, long list of things our mothers never told us about being pregnant!

Well we went for our hospital apt today & it seems that a home birth is out of the question.When I was examined a few weeks back,after the bleeding,a swab was taken.It turns out that I am carrying GBS & will have to have IV antibiotics from the minute I go into labour,to prevent my passing it on to my baby.So my home birth has turned into a highly medicalised hospital birth.

I don't really know what to think now & am very upset & worried.Part of me is glad that they took the swab & found out now,so can be prepared,but the thing is,that to be effective,the antibiotics have to be given for 4 hours prior to the baby being born-my last labour was only 4 hours from start to finish,so I'm scared that I won't get there in time.I will possibly have to stay in hospital for 48-60 hours too,so they can keep an eye on the baby too,as it can cause infections that can be fatal.

The scary thing is-it isn't routinely tested for & it is only by chance that it was picked up.I could have been carrying it when dd was born 15 months ago & would never have known.

Sorry,this is a me,me me, post,but after checking out the GBSS website & reading the info the hospital gave me,I'm scared to death about what might happen to my poor baby,especially if I don't make it to the hospital in time

Hi Mirage. Sorry you can't have what you want. And, pardon my ignorance, but what is GBS? It sounds like the hospital is the safest place, whil eperhaps not the most comfortable for you. At least they are a dressing it giving you lots of time to prepared yourself for what you need to do.

Wonder if they could give you some of the antibiotics in pill form so that you could start to take them when you realise you are in labour, but before you get to the hospital?

Can I just say that my typing skills are utter and complete CRAP!

So sorry to read that Mirage. Like Uwila, I have no idea what GBS is - presumably there is a reason why it can't be treated during your pregnancy? Sending you a big hug, sorry you have this to worry about.

Great news about your scan Scraggy! Very pleased you've been able to have a peek at your baby .

Sorry Mirage, I don't know what GBS is either..?

I was disappointed last time not to have a water birth (epidural), but in the end I just went with it. Obviously, going from a home birth to one with quite a high level of medical intervention is very different.

All I can say is try and make it as much like home as you can. Music, aromatherapy, all that kind of stuff. the most important thing is safe Mum and baby

Ooooh, good point lipstickmum. If there is stuff at home that makes you more comfortable, bring it to the hospital. They will probably let you bring it into delivery. We bought an ELC cd player, and my DH made some music CDs for me to listen to whilst in labor (of course they didn't do a whole lot of good when I was knocked out under a general for an emergency C... but we did listen to them up until then). And this time, I plan to bring my own very big v shaped pillow cause the hospital ones are rubbish.

Oh, and NEVER EVER let your DH/P tell you you are packing too much. My DH had this grand idea of going through my bag and weeding out the things he thought I didn't really need. Lucky for me, I stopped him dead in his tracks. I'll put the kitchen sink in if I think I might miss it!! Silly man. And this time, I plan to do some cooking before I go, so he can just heat it up and bring it in to me every day.

Hi All!!! Havnt been on here for ages i know - mainly because we hadnt renewed our Antivirus on the pc... also been so busy getting ready for xmas and feeling so sick and tired to the point where i didnt even want to talk about it to anyone
Anyway i am 12 weeks today and the sickness definately seems to be going this time!.
Had my scan a couple of days ago and all is well - i was so busting for the loo that i didnt enjoy my scan as much as i thought i would and as soon as she was done i whipped my trousers up and made dash for the loo!!
Havnt had time to read everything and catch up but i hope you are all well

Oh btw - my due date is 29th June!

sorry to hear that mirage-i also dont know what GBS is! great news about your scan scraggy and yours too tessiebear-i know what you mean about needing the loo-i had to stop at the park on the way to the hospital as i was bursting.
and what a great due date...my birthday!!
ive got my hospital appointment tomorrow to get the results of my bloods and to see the doctor so not really looking forward to that BUT i have got the whole day off work so that can't be bad

Finally Tessie re-emerges!!! We were all wondering where on earth you'd gone. Sorry you were feeling so bad, I think most of us are over the worst of it now and I'm glad you are too. I had my scan yesterday too, it was lovely!!! Interestingly though, the sonogropher told me to go and empty my bladder because it was so full! So now I'm a bit confused about whether you need a full bladder or not !