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Due April 2008 - the food porn thread for expanding waistlines!

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SantasGotABigFatEllieG · 10/12/2007 16:28

Hello

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santagitta · 13/12/2007 13:30

It might be worth adding that your hormones are shot to shit at the start too. It's not just sleep deprivation that hurts - I don't think I stopped crying (well, screaming really) and threatening to leave DH and DD until she was at least six weeks. I didn't realise I was going to be so mad, and I wish someone had told me.

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 13/12/2007 13:33

dd slept through about two weeks after coming home, she came home at 4 weeks, so slept through at about 6 weeks. DS I can't really remember, but we co-slept so it was almost like sleeping through.
DD stopped sleeping through at about 5 months though, for playtime at 3am
I agree with what Soph said, you wake up one morning and panic as to why it's morning and you've not been up in the night, run through to baby who is fast asleep and breeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeathe

northfeastmummy · 13/12/2007 13:48

Ha ha ha - everyone's done it haven't they, woken up thinking uh oh ... something's up! I was too scared to go and check DD the first time it happened and sent DH! She still does it too me now and again when I'm fully awake and there's still not a sound from her room. My imagination runs wild ...

Ellie - I am full of admiration for you. I just don't know how anyone survives being a social worker. I would be in bits (cue daily choke from reading heartbreaking/touching/happy stories on MN and trying not to cry at work).

Santagitta - was it you that was looking for tips on sleeping without a cot? Did you make any progress? I was wondering, could you get a bed guard that would fit on a normal sized bed (I'm not really sure how they attach). We're planning getting a bed for DD over the weekend and trying her in it next week. Could be fun

SantasNotSoLittleHelper · 13/12/2007 13:49

Going now - I love these things See you tomorrow xxxx

santagitta · 13/12/2007 13:57

NFM - yes, it was me. It was for last night as we left DD at a friend's. It was brilliant - she slept on her mattress on the floor all night (well, fell off once, but didn't wake up!)Maybe she's ready for a bed...

ScamparumpapumpMum · 13/12/2007 13:58

Echo NFM's sentiments exactly, Ellie. I'm just glad that little girl has you now.

I still panic about DD too, and send DH in! Not just in the morning, either - sometimes if it's 10pm or so and I'm still up (by myself, DH been working really late) reading MN or watching Hollyoaks on 4od I just suddenly think to myself 'how can she possibly still be OK in there? she's been all on her own for such a long time!' and have to fight hard to resist the urge to go and scoop her up and squish her in a cuddle (which would be the same as lovingly crafting a rod for my own back). Usually just go and listen outside the door for her cute heavy breathing instead.

northfeastmummy · 13/12/2007 15:22

Isn't it amazing how they can be so independent (and so asleep) for such a long time? And aren't they so utterly, amazingly gorgeous when they're sound asleep? (not that I don't think DD's gorgeous when she's awake )

northfeastmummy · 13/12/2007 15:24

That's brilliant news about your sleepover Santagitta. I'm terrified about trying DD in a bed - we're going to give it a go over Christmas while we're both off work. Planning a trip to Ikea this weekend to get a bed - it's impossible to get a bed anywhere else without waiting weeks!

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SantasGotABigFatEllieG · 13/12/2007 15:33

VS - I'm sorry no one was there for you when you were little. We always, always see the child by themself in a safe place away from the home so they can talk if they want to safely. Rubbish that you couldn't.

Job is getting harder to do while PG though - am much more emotional and that's not necessarily good. Had to deal with a shaken baby the other day and all I could think was 'Poor little baby! Poor little baby!' and was nearly crying at the sadness of the whole situation (very poorly Mum with PND - felt ever so ever so sorry for her as well). Not the most useful response really. Am glad am only working for another 11 weeks!

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SantasGotABigFatEllieG · 13/12/2007 15:34

I'm a bit scared of the early days and sleep deprivation - I mean, I'm mad enough at the best of times....

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santagitta · 13/12/2007 15:39

Probably not as mad as you will be...(me too, by the way. Bonkers at 20 wks, will be off the scale by May )

NFM - we are thinking of getting a sort of bunk bed for DD, with a cot underneath which can be converted into a bed for LO later. Do you know if they exist, or am I going to have to get DH to make one?

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SantasGotABigFatEllieG · 13/12/2007 15:50

I am very sad about cece too. (PG after MC thread). She has lost her little girl at 18?/20? weeks. I can't imagine how horrid that would be, after feeling her move so much.

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scorpio1 · 13/12/2007 15:52

i read that ellie , was so so sad.

dp had a dream last night that we lost Millie and said all he did for the rest of the night was touch her, and he asked me straight away at 630am had i felt her yet. i think these dreams are normal though?

northfeastmummy · 13/12/2007 15:59

Santagitta - that sounds like a great idea. I haven't seen anything like it although one of my friends described a bed you can get in Ikea that has another bed underneath and when you pull it out it's at the same height as the original one. I haven't seen it yet and your idea sounds much better - maybe you should patent it!

I just can't imagine how awful it must be losing a baby. It's bad enough miscarrying but to actually feel movement, imagine their little face and then have it all taken away must be unbearable. Sadly there are just too many stories like this around.

santagitta · 13/12/2007 16:05

Just read Cece's posts. Am now sobbing...I can't imagine what it must be like to go through the labour, knowing that LO has died.

Need a cup of tea and a flapjack.

northfeastmummy · 13/12/2007 16:28

I've just read Cece's posts too. I am absolutely horrified that her baby died because it got wrapped up in its cord. How could nature do that?

santagitta · 13/12/2007 16:34

I didn't know that could happen either. Scary thought.

Like the idea of getting my bunk cot/bed patented, NFM

MassiveMollyfloss · 13/12/2007 17:07

Hi all, I read Cece's post too - so heartbreaking. I cannot stop crying.

Ok, to change the subject, did anyone ever use one of those co-sleeper cots? The on'es you can put down one side and have it right next to your bed?

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 13/12/2007 17:18

santagitta, I had one of those midsleepers for DD that ahd a chair type thingy underneath, butit was removable, so I removed it and put a cot thereinstead. I'd have thought you could do similar.

TheChristmaskedPoster · 13/12/2007 17:49

Hello ladies ... found you at last. Hope all are well. Apologise for my absence, but I seem to be running around doing a lot of festive stuff at the moment and when I get chance to sit down - I tend to stare blankly into space (ie the telly) or play on my nintendo ds.

Had a check up with GP today and heard the heart beat again (lovely) - and then she measured me and started wittering on about how innaccurate the measurements are etc, THEN told me I was measuring slightly small - but nothing to worry about... So what am I doing now?? Worrying .
Everything else fine though, so I shouldn't - but I can't help it. (measuring 21cm at 23+6)

I will endeavour to catch up with posts now - but there is dinner to cook .. dd to get ready for bed etc etc etc ... where does the time go??

tmp x

chipmonkey · 14/12/2007 01:09

Hi, I had a visit with my obstretician today and all is well! Was advised against VBA3C as I expected, mainly because of my previous scar rupture and failure to progress on ds2. Happy to find that the placenta is high up as on ds3 I had placenta praevia. Couldn't tell the gender, though but am now almost in 2 minds about finding out anyway! Don't have to go back now till the end of January. Just hit me that we will have a new baby in our bedroom and I had better get ds3 out into his own room as deffo don't relish 4-in-the-bed scenario!

eva07 · 14/12/2007 06:49

hi peachy, hope you are ok again!
I tried to CAT you but it didn't work. system says there is no one called Peachy
if you have a spare minute I'd love to meet you between christmas and new year

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SantasGotABigFatEllieG · 14/12/2007 08:51

Hey y'all - nice to hear from you tmp - glad all is well with your LO - don't worry about smallness, is perfectly formed, and just means it will slip out nice and easy. (Hopefully!)

I've got another scan! They wrote back to me after my complaint and my lovely consultant has made an appointment for me to have a scan with her next week with DP and DSD. Am very excited as get to see LO again!

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northfeastmummy · 14/12/2007 09:47

That's such good news Ellie. It would be horrible to just have that awful experience to remember. And a lovely christmas pressie too!

Santagitta - I'm hoping to see you on Dragons Den before long .

MMF - my cousin was talking about getting a co-sleeper recently but I'm not sure if she did or not. I'll check with her and see how she's getting on.

VS - what's a mid-sleeper? I'm intrigued by your explanation!

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 14/12/2007 10:01

this
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but tbh, you'd probably be better off with a high sleeper so you don't bang your head putting baby in the cot