Due August 2021 - Welcome to the World!

[PurplePansy05]

Welcome to the chattiest birth club on MN! Newcomers always welcome 💐

14 gorgeous new babies have joined us already, welcome to the world 💖💙🥳

@Smurf123 - Welcome to the world, baby Sophia 💖
@wimbler - Welcome to the world, baby boy 💙
@Jessicapebbles - Welcome to the world, baby Ebony💖
@Inmypjsagain - Welcome to the world, baby boy💙
@PurplePansy05 - Welcome to the world, baby Leo Alexander 💙
@WinterBabyof89 - Welcome to the world, baby Rosie 💖
@Winecoffeeteamum - Welcome to the world, baby Emily 💖
@Ready2020 - Welcome to the world, baby Rowan 💖
@Magik01 - Welcome to the world, baby Isaac 💙
@Hoares3 - Welcome to the world, baby Ellis 💙
@Daffodil21 - Welcome to the world, baby Elliot James 💙
@sarah13xx - Welcome to the world, baby Freddie 💙
@Biscuitcat - Welcome to the world, baby Rowan 💙
@Whatshouldbemyusername - Welcome to the world, baby Arya-Nyah 💖

Counting down until we welcome 20+ new arrivals:

@MrsB2019x - Induction w/c 9 August, Girl 💖
@Dia12 - EDD 8 August, Girl 💖
@Aaaaa1519 - EDD 13 August, Girl 💖
@Angelesque - C-section 16 August, surprise 💛
@lucyrp - EDD 16 August, surprise 💛
@livingwithbees - EDD 16 August, surprise 💛
@BertieBotts - EDD 16 August, Boy 💙
@WolfMother - EDD 17 August, Boy 💙
@Caz1226 - EDD 17 August, Boy 💙
@Millymay13 - C-section 17 August, surprise 💛
@RandomCatGenerator - C-section 19 August, surprise 💛
@Smallbean27 - EDD 19 August, surprise 💛
@Sheisfee - EDD 19 August, Girl 💖
@Alittlexmasmagic - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛
@LottSE20 - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛 @notinthestarsigns - EDD 23 August (but likely to be brought forward induction/C-section), surprise 💛
@Fran919 - EDD 25 August, surprise💛
@Ava50x - EDD 25 August, Boy 💙
@ame88 - EDD 28 August, Girl 💖
@HopefulB - EDD 29 August, surprise 💛

It's officially THE month! Watch this space! xx

@Inmypjsagain our HV suggested that dd has infant dyschezia which apparently of really common and is when she is straining to poop/ pass wind. HV said it's a very fancy way of saying they just haven't figured out how to tell the muscles down there to relax and go and they learn it in t I me. Also said that baby is only constipated if you when they go it is solid enough that you can pick it up and throw it .. which is definitely not the case here though she can spend seemingly hours straining off and on, pulling legs up, crying, red face trying to go and then when she does it is perfectly Baby normal
We find her vibrating bouncy chair seems to help a little

@Inmypjsagain our DSs sound soooo similar. I could have written your post re sleeping and wriggling myself. My personal view is to roll with whatever keeps them calm and happy at this age and then I am hoping to introduce a routine from 6 weeks onwards and I'll be trying not to feed just before sleep, so to do feed-bath-sleep for example, at a set time in the eve. From day one he is used to household noises and he sleeps through it all. Loves the hairdyer, sends him to sleep straight away! Probably because I use it for a long time and have throughout my pregnancy 🤣

I think there's definitely something in what some of you have said about dark room, low lights and silence in the night that makes newborns more confident and awake. But I'm not sure what's best, the advice I read was to introduce the difference between day and night from the start, particularly in terms of feeds, so less chatting and interaction at night, minimum light etc. And I also hate sleeping with lights on. DS might be calmer if I leave them on though. Not sure what's best

@RandomCatGenerator I use MiniMani and it's excellent xx

I have an app for white noise which is pretty good called baby sleep. Icon is a purple baby.

Also yes to infant dyschezia! They don't know how to coordinate the pushing and relaxing bits so they are just straining really hard with no result. The crying is due to effort rather than pain.

Really can’t complain about my little one’s sleep, he’s been great and is generally very sleepy. The main problem seems to be putting him back down after a feed during the night. My partner is back to work tomorrow so I’ve been taking him through to the nursery to feed and change him since that’s what I’ll be doing to try not to wake him when he’s working but I must have put him back down about 5 times last night and every time within 2 minutes he started crying and frantically wriggling in his swaddle again. In the end up a (second) bottle was the only thing that made him go to sleep. Considering trying the bags that are like swaddles but let them have their hands up, don’t know if he’d prefer them. He does seem to like being swaddled and stays asleep for a while (after he is sleeping) but it’s just actually getting him to fall back asleep that’s the issue. Still very early days and I’m not forcing a routine or anything yet. Trying to do the bath routine at least so he has some sort of awareness of what’s about to happen every night.

Anyone else waking up during the night imagining they’ve fell asleep with their baby in their arms? 🙈 I think the constant weight of him in my arms is making me feel like he’s still on me when I’m sleeping and I’m waking up frantically searching the bed for him, only to realise he’s safely asleep in his crib 🤦🏼‍♀️

So OH and I are going to try being in the same bed tonight seeing as I've got Rowan to go down in the snuz pod. So instead of him being in the spare room and getting a full night's sleep he'll be doing the night time nappy changes and I will be doing the feeds. I'm not sure how I feel about it tbh. On one hand it'll be nice to have the help, on the other Rowan and I have gotten into our wee way of doing things, plus I have the bed to myself to feed her as I like.

We'll give it a try anyway and see how it goes. I'm worried we'll just both feel like crap tomorrow!

@sarah13xx yes I can have that issue of feeding her to sleep then she wakes up again 10 minutes later. I've taken to leaving her tbh as she's not crying, just eyes open watching the world. If she does cry I just shush her a bit or just feed her again until hopefully she does sleep properly!

@Ready2020 for the last 2 weeks we’ve been doing everything together at nights. At first it was because I was struggling to do a lot of it after the section but then I suggested we did one each and somehow instead we’ve just done every one together 😂 From tonight I’m doing them on my own though (he’s back to work tomorrow) and I actually quite like that I’ll be able to do it on my own - as long as I’m only up a couple of times anyway! I’m just going to try and have a nap later in the afternoon every day or go back to sleep at 7 when he leaves for work, if Freddie will sleep again then

@Ready2020 really don’t want him getting in to the habit of it but it’s so hard to know what else to do when they’re screaming the place down and you have only one choice 😂 I’ve got Ewan the dream sheep so I’m trying to get him used to hearing that and associating it with going to sleep, hoping that it will work in the middle of the night too

I haven't changed a single nappy in the night, DH always does it if needed. I've concluded it's most definitely enough that I'm awake breastfeeding I don't know how you're all coping doing it all in the night, wow. I really don't care if DH gets up once or twice a night, even if he's working, he's still a dad and I won't be the only parent up at night when DS needs one of us and I'm back to work full time so he better get used to it...I never considered this harsh but I feel a bit bad now xx

Oh I definitely agree there is no right way to parent and everyone should do what’s right for them. I actually had a cry this evening as ds woke up 30 mins after he fell asleep after I put him down. I didn’t realise how much anxiety I had around the whole sleep thing as ds was so terrible and used to wake up after 30 mins. You could set a watch to her it was insane. DH went to settle him by rocking the Moses basket and he did go back to sleep but then I cried again because I was so proud of ds for falling back to sleep.

This newborn phase is crazy isn’t it?!

We don't have a routine yet.. dd sleeps a lot during the day and then feeds a lot during the evening/night.
I do change them nappies at night also if I'm already sitting up to feed so I may as well change the nappy while I'm at it. Dh says he wouldn't mind doing a night feed with a bottle but I don't know the reality of that.
I have a half eaten Chinese sitting in the kitchen as I sit with a cluster feeding baby!

Whoever does the feed at night does the nappy change here, but that's only possible because we're FF at night

Hmm we seem to be back tracking into me just doing the night shift again. Once we've realised how much bed space I use to feed we're not sure how practical it'll be to have me squished into half a bed. OH tends to have her late and early on so the night shift isn't too bad. I've not really expressed enough milk though for a proper early shift so I'll need to be up to feed her anyway. It's so tempting to just give formula so I can get a proper sleep and OH take over.

@PurplePansy05 oh if I'm back at work as well this would all change though I'm on mat leave for 9 months so I'll probably not be breast feeding still by then. I don't intend to anyway. So any feed will be shared by then. In fact I have it in my head to stop breastfeeding as she starts weaning and she'll just get formula feeds eventually.

I find cosleeping gets me enough sleep so I don't really mind doing it. I was exhausted this evening though and he just really wanted to feed - DS2's bedtime was a bit of a nightmare with screaming baby in the other room and living in a small flat makes it difficult to keep the sound apart. But anyway I took A to bed with me at about 9 and DH came to bed at midnight. He was still latched on but I'd been asleep the whole time! Absolute lifesaver IMO. I'm totally happy to think short term with it, and change if/when it becomes a problem later.

I only change a nappy at night if there's been a leak or if he's unhappy and feeding doesn't put him back to sleep. Would defo ask DH to do it if it would get me more sleep but I don't think it does, so it's not really a priority for me. I don't think it's harsh to ask at all though! Why shouldn't he share really?

I personally do all the night feeds and changes. DH gives him a bottle of expressed milk late evening so I can have an early night then will bring him up. I’m such a light sleeper I know that if DH was to change him I would be awake anyway and I think it’s pointless is both being tired the next day when we have two kids to look after.

When I go back to work though he will be expected to do some as I won’t be here as I work twilights anyway 🤣

Hope everyone’s night is going okay. Keep trying to put baby down but he’s having none of it.

Rowan has had a good night and slept well, but I seem to be wide awake. Hate when that happens.

3 year ds decided to wake up 3 times last night too I've no idea why so added to the 3 night feeds I'm knackered and we are supposed to be spending the day at the beach an hour away with friends today 😴

I had a tough day and evening until midnight, Leo was feeding constantly and all he wanted was either boob or cuddles with me, he wouldn't even sleep without me. And then miraculously he's slept all the way through and is only waking up now. Someone said earlier newborn stage is crazy, it definitely is no two days are the same here! @Smurf123 Nap in a car??? 🤷🏼‍♀️😴 xx

Sorry to hear so many of you are struggling through the early newborn stage. Its definitely not an easy time but it flies so fast and you forget about it! (Or at least you forget just how hard it was!!)

@lucyrp I'm due on Wednesday

I think I've lost my pumping mojo. I'm just pumping as and when I need to but I'm sure I'm meant to be doing it at a certain time or something. Maybe my supply is levelling out as I don't seem to be getting as much as I did previously.

@Ready2020 I don't have a pumping time table either. I just do it at some point roughly every 4-5 hours, sometimes longer but only once over night (10 mins only in the middle of the night) and not strict. I usually wake up with slightly fuller boobs but nothing uncomfortable. I'm also not breast feeding other than this as he won't latch, so that probably makes a big difference.

Just had our first visit from the health visitor - she said how we might find he settles better with dad than me. DH said 'yeah we found that out yesterday didn't we' 🙄 F off 😂 but sounds normal anyway at least

This is probably a weird one, but has anyone had ringing/buzzing in their ears since birth??

I did with my first birth but I screamed a lot it went away after a few hours.

It can be a side effect of some drugs/medication if you're on anything?