Due in December 07 - that's next month!!

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Thought I'd start a new thread

Oh you're here Insy! am I right that your ds is also about 17 months?
DD also has the only mummy will do thing at the moment-hoping she gets out of it soon!

Insy - I am with you on only mummy will do at the moment. We really struggle to get DD to agree to DH doing her bath in the evening, and I don't think he has been able to put her to bed for months. So just as I really need to sit down and put my feet up, I have to do all of the bathtime routine as well.....

Skid - funny what you say about thinking sleeping is somehow your responsibilty, whereas everything else is the childs choice. I think exactly the same - but about potty training! So the one thing we have had the least success with, I beat myself up about (in my view it is because I have been lazy and not perservered enough etc). I think we just got lucky with the sleep thing - nothing to do with me! As for walking and talking, a lot probably depends on who they mix with etc. She definitely started speaking more (in little sentences rather than just words) after we went away on holiday with her older cousins.

Insy is DS old enough for a bed. DS wakes alot happier since he has been in his bed as he can just get up and play or come into our room to say good morning.

Mine is the opposite - DD is daddy's little girl and she needs him for bath and putting her to sleep at night. We've had a couple on incidents where Dh has gone out for the evening and she has really played up with the whole bedtime routine as she needs him. Saying that she loves coming to me for playing games and is always hugging and kissing me

Why do people eat the placenta? Do some people have their appendix out and think "hmmm, nice with a few chips"???!!!

Sex - mmm, still possible - I know it was a good few weeks after the birth last time before I felt up for trying again, so enjoying all I can now - once or twice a week if neither of us is too knackered!! (NB for all first-time breast-feeders - make sure you wear a bra & pads at night when baby is born as otherwise you could be sleeping in a puddle as your boobs can leak when, um, "aroused" ...)

Quick question... have my 34 week appointment with (rubbish) MW next week and wondered what you guys discussed at this point feel like there should be more to it than just blood pressure...heartbeat and urine.

Should we be discussing birth plan?
Organising tour of hospital
Ante natal classes, do i need these as it is number 2?? Dont need to meet people as we will be moving (but still giving birth at the same hospital). Any ideas?

Housemum that mad emme laugh out load.

clairey - that's exactly what I was saying to Dh last night - at least broken nights won;t be a shock to our systems

insy - I think your ds is definitely picking up on new baby vibes. My dd is the same with only mummy will do atm but we are just harsh with her and every other night dh gives her a bath and puts her to bed - it will probably nearly every night once the baby is here so although it feels a bit mean we are determined to stick to it

that is interesting claraq about you feeling like that about potty training - maybe we are just masochists who enjoy beating ourselves up over anything and everything? I definitely think potty training comes from them though - she won't poo in the potty unless she wants to - mind you I suppose you could say the same about sleeping

clairey - yes he's 17 months

MM - we finished painting the cot bed last night - I say cot bed it was mine when I was little so its really just a toddler bed, it looks very cute and I'm hoping ds will be in it at the weekend so fingers crossed maybe it'll help?!? am ordering a matress tomorrow, he's still in a growbag tho, I tried PJ's and it was a nightmare he's such a wriggler that he just got really cold and woke up loads so we thought stick with the bags and do the cot move and see what happens, guess that means he won't be getting out of bed easily.... hmmm need to give that some thought as can see him tripping over it!

just me on the horrible belly button then?

MM - I still haven't discussed my birth plan with anyone (including DH ) and I am 36 weeks - I would def ask though if I were you

MM - you may have seen my post following my 34 week appointment about my midwife. Basically it was no different from any other appointment with her, blood pressure, urine, quick feel and measurement of the bump - she did not even ask how I was. I was pretty cross about it and after I posted a few people said they had had the same experience. I don't think they take the birth seriously at 34 weeks - even though you really are at a point where it could happen any day. So I would say ask any and all the questions you want to.

I am now nearly 38 weeks and still have not disussed a birthplan with her. And now doubt that I will....

my belly button looks quite gross insy but feels fine

housemum you are the current leader in the impressive sex life stakes

Hi guys. Sorry been AWOl for a while now. Mum was up last week - tidying my house for me - wonderful but depressing as withina few hours of her leaving place a pit again!! I've had a quick flick through previous posts - no LO's so far?? Must admit I'm on real countdown down - 16 days to EDD and keep reminding myself 2nd ones come early (generally - I think - may be just imagining that stat to make me feel better.

MM - had all the same sort of queries myself this time too - not been to any AN classes - and at my 34 wk apptmt didn't really get very far - crap MW (Team based up here so random really!). At 36 weeks saw very nice one and did ask about poast natal care, would DH be allowed up to ward etc etc. Am seeing Doc this time on Thur and want to ask about mobile Epidural - forgot last time - feel silly going in with list of ??s Just go with it I'd say - never a daft question in my book.

36th birthday tomorrow and silly I know but had hoped Button would arrive before I hit 36 but not to be now.

DD1 came out with a good one the other day too - Baby Button is going to be a little girl baby and if it's a boy she will change it anyway to a girl with her magic wand !!!

Anyway long post - sorry. Hope you are all doing well and all that - really do need to make more of an effort to log on daily to catch up

All that remains is - PELVIC FLOOR

frankly i dont really feel like i need to discuss it with her anyway as i have already done my bits and pieces but just feel like she should now be providing me with the "service" IYSWIM.

skid - that was the routine we'd hoped to get in place, I think I should just stay downstairs so he doesn't have an option and can settle into the routine - dh was doing loads of baths before tho so its not like its a new thing, me being stressed prob is the issue - feel so bad for him as not doing a good job of anything at the moment just rushing from one thing to another!

housemum - I can kind of understand eating placenta as thats what other mammals do, its meant to be full of good hormones and for animals who are prey it clears up the mess and they don't have to go hunting that day - still think its gross tho for humans as quite frankly we can go to the fridge would love to know who takes a cool bag with them to the hospital so they can take it home

MM - for 34 wk app I don't think you need to worry about birth plan unless you have special requirements or questions, i.e. maybe you want to do something diff this time re pain relief or 3rd stage and need more info to make decision??
I guess if you know your hosp then a tour is unnecessary
I'm doing refresher ante natal for no 2 and finding them very calming as I swear I've forgotton most of it, also its lovely to take some time out just to think about this baby which I don't think I've done enough of

Thanx guys... wont need to ask the very unhelpful MW anything then, you guys are so much better than her... she has to prod around for ages to get the heartbeat.

hi beanster - I knew there was someone who hadn't been around for a while but i couldn't think who!

Glad all is well with you - 16 days until EDD, how exciting!

insy - yes, I just stay downstairs as DH drags her upstairs crying, no mummy do it, mummy mummy in this folorn little voice. It does tug at your heartstrings but within a minute she is giggling and having a great time and I think better to do it now rather than have her associate the baby with me not giving her baths

BTW has anyone bought a present from older dd/ds for the new baby? If so what?

Skiddadle - we did a big mothercare shop the other week and DD had th trolley and chose the bath (no idea where her's went!) and some sleepsuits etc. On advice from colleague, we chose (with DD) a big Zebra for DD and smaller one for LO - she's been scarily adult about it all (at 2yrs 5mths - bit too much at times!) and has stated quite happily that she will give Button their little one and she will then show then how to look after it with her big one!! We're also hoping that with Xmas pretty close too that the prezzies etc and general spoiling from GP's etc will help allieviate some of the possible issues.

Hvae to laugh at all the 'Mummy do it' LO's you guys have - complete opposite here - as I've become less able to bounce around etc DD has become even more of a Daddy's girl - I still get some cudddle time but she seems to have clicked on that Daddy is a far better choice for play and carrying around etc - it's that attachment that we're a bit worried about TBH. Not complaining though when at 4am and duvet kicked again onto the floor there are the insistant cries for Daddy

Skidaddle - yes we've got a new doll for the baby to give to my DD, she absolutely loves the dolls in ELC or Mothercare etc when we go in there so hoping this will be well received. Since it's so close to Christmas I think she'll be confused by all the gifts anyway!

It took a while but now DH always does DD's bath and bedtime. I was just feeling so tired that he took that bit over. Sometimes he misses it if he's late in from work but he usually gets home before her bedtime. There were tears to start with but DH then started his own bath fun with her plastic animals and she takes some plastic musical play things in with her that now she really looks forward to her time with Daddy.

Welcome back Beanstermummy, 16 days just sounds so close! It will be great logging on and reading about everyone's new arrivals - it really is just around the corner.

Trying really hard to resist scoffing the 2nd GU cheesecake, I ate mine earlier but this one was for DH.... well he wont know I bought them if I hide the evidence surely??!! Oh how I am going to regret all these indulgent treats once the baby isn't hiding the flab!

i did that wiv a packet of cream horns the other day

Bouncing - I've just finished my hospital bag because it was easier to get it over and done with!

i've just finished my tea, and am looking forward to another night on my own,dh works shift pattens 3 on 3 off and has been out wiv mates all yest and most of today, i feel so alone and scared im gonna go into labour and ne on my own cuz i wont be able to find him.

i can see myself driving to hosp on my own, i feel really crappy x

wher is every1 its really quiet?