The babies are here! September 2020

[LatteLover12]

Hi all 👋🏻

Here's a new thread so we can keep chatting through the sleepless nights and the many outfits they've already grown out of... 😄

@WillowT haha that’s so true - it really is like they know you have some kind of plan and suddenly decide they need you to hold them even if they were Seemingly asleep in their crib just moments before.

Hopefully hospital appointment will be no drama - he came out breach so he needs a hip ultrasound to check for dysplasia. Don’t think they’re expecting to find anything, just being cautious as I understand it. Hospital is a maze though, biggest challenge will be finding radiology on time for the appointment!

Aw smiles 😊 I get excited even by the little cute wind smiles!

After 4 really good nights of only waking 2/3 times last night we decided sleep was boring and that J just wanted to cluster feed allll night 🙄
Hoping at least that means he'll have gained weight. I'm being double attacked this morning by the midwife and the HV and it's my first day on my own... Eek! I've got a friend coming to visit this afternoon which will be nice (before my hometown where all my friends live probably ends up in lockdown after the announcement today) she's already said she's going to social distance and won't be holding the baby as she's a doctor and works in a hospital and doesn't want to put us at risk, so there's no pressure on me to let her hold him, and it will be nice to have company!

Good luck today @MooseWL. Its my first solo day too and have a friend coming round to keep me company!

@ShiningStarz I've just asked on the group about letting new members onto Facebook. I'll let you know

I shed a few tears on our first solo day! It felt so daunting but come the second day we had our little routine established. DP is on leave again as his industry has been impacted by the level 3 restrictions here - it looks like Ireland will be heading to level 5 and a strict countrywide lockdown very soon.

@Sara7455, I have to carefully time getting ready and hope for the best while trying to be as quick as possible! L is due to have an ultrasound on Wednesday for HD too as I had it when I was born. They didn’t screen my firstborn all those years ago (12) and she’s fine, pretty certain the littlest one is too but I suppose it’s best to err on the side of caution. Really fed up of our hospital at this stage though 🙈

@glasha87 that’s reassuring to know. The neonatal doctor said the breach risk is in case being sat that way for a while at the end of pregnancy has put pressure on and caused the hips to set weirdly (or something like that) but he was born so early he was still swimming about and it was random chance when they delivered him that he was that way up so not likely to be a real risk.
It’s at a different hospital to our usual one - partly why I was so concerned about getting lost!! It’s a small local hospital so there’s a lot of winding empty corridors and it’s a bit confusing

@Sara7455 I hope your appointment goes well and that you find your way around the hospital. My son was also breech and I remember him having the ultrasound to check his hips and it was all good.
Good luck on your first solo day ladies! I had to ask my mom to fly over from France to come help me. She got a one way ticket and has to self isolate at my house now. My dad couldn't come because of the rule of 6, so he will be coming next. My family in law are in Northern Irland and we haven't seen them in a year now. I hope it won't be too long before they meet our little girl but in reality it will probably be next year

@Lilice thank you! All done now, very quick process and luckily an easy department to find in the end! He’s absolutely fine as suspected.
This pandemic is so awful for families, they’re really who gets punished with the restrictions aren’t they. Lovely your mum has managed to come over but so sad your dad can’t just yet and that your in laws are stuck. My niece is 7months now and has never met her family on her dad’s side. She was born just as lockdown hit and they live in one of the north of England local lockdown areas so they’ve just not had chance sadly.

@glasha87 @WillowT @MooseWL @ShiningStarz and anyone else I've missed. If you want to join the Facebook page send your Facebook email link to crazymummyto4 and she will add you.

Thanks @Roxy8203 - think I’ve done that now!

Thank you, @Roxy8203 - hopefully I will be able to figure out how to do that 🙈❤️

@Sara7455 and @Lilice, it really is awful. In ‘normal’ times I really did take so much for granted. Lilice, it is great your mum can be with you but it must be hard to not have your Dad and your DH, his family. Well will it end? 😫

Great news re: your boy, Sara! It seems to be a tick the box exercise. As I had it I guess my little one is more at risk so hopefully all will be well for us too 🤞🏻

@glasha87 hopefully your little one will be fine too 🤞. Bit of a relief to have the box ticked even though I was pretty confident it was going to be fine anyway.

Thanks @roxy8203 think I've done that!

So my parents and my partners parents are in tier 2 so won't be able to visit us this week as planned which is really sad 😔
@lilice glad your mum's been able to make it over!

So how am I meant to shower now my partner is back at work? What do I do with the baby haha do I need to bring the moses basket in the bathroom with me?!
Also has anyone taken their babies out in the car on their own yet? I hate the idea of not being able to see him whilst I'm driving and he's in the back. I feel like it's something I just need to bite the bullet with and do...

@MooseWL I put the Moses basket by the door so I can see him but he won't get splashed. And I have a mirror on the headrest in the back so I can see him
In his car seat

@MooseWL I leave him in his snuzpod in our room if I’m honest or in his crib in the nursery as the crib mobile is there and buys me time to use the toilet. Nurse did suggest bringing him into the bathroom for the steam but it’s a small room and I worried about tripping over him 🙈. I know you aren’t meant to leave them but it’s like 10mins and I make sure there aren’t any hazards. If he’s having a day where he won’t be put down though I evening shower and DH watches him when he’s back from work.
I also have a mirror on the headrest for the car. It was like £9 on amazon. Does mean I now know for sure that although he’s quiet he’s definitely wide awake in the car!

@WillowT do you think the guilt feeling might be anxiety? That's how I get it sometines. But honestly all your baby needs at this stage is cuddles, kisses and to see your face. Do you have a sling so you can wear the baby and hold him while he's napping if that's how he sleeps best? And have a look at safe cosleeping, that's what we do and honestly is the best way to get as much rest as possible. Hope you feel better soon, these first few weeks are hard.

@MooseWL I bath at night!! My DP takes baby for her 9pm feed and I go up and have 30 mins to myself in the bath.
Some mornings if I'm up early enough I'll grab a quick shower before he starts work! I haven't tried putting her in the bouncer by the bathroom door!! I probably will in a few weeks when she is 2 months. It's sooo hard!!! Who would have thought shower and a pee would be hard to
Navigate!!! Haha I literally set her in
Snuzpod and run to loo!! That's about as long as I can leave her.
In saying that Iv noticed now she will sleep in snuzpod at night and wakes every 2 ish hours for feed. From last couple days she has started settling in her bed in living room during the day. It does get easier x

@ShiningStarz that sounds like excellent progress with her sleep! So much easier when they’ll go down in the snuzpod for a few hours at night!

@Roxy8203 forgive me for being technologically behind but how do I find my Facebook email link and how do I send it to crazymummyto4?
Hi everyone.. my little one went through a leap last week and it was just HORRIBLE.. the tears and fussiness, the not being able to do anything to help him.. i didn't know what was going on until I downloaded the wonder weeks app. The leap actually started before the app predicted.. but it was nice to know what was happening. He's back to his sunny side again now.. I'm enjoying all the toothless smiles.. Since the leap I noticed that he is now more aware of his hands, e.g when his dummy is falling out of his mouth, he will use his hand to try and push it back in and sometimes he succeeds.. lol. It's amazing to watch them developing like this.
And re sleeping.. He also won't sleep in his basket anymore.. he did in the first 3weeks, but now won't. We have now been co-sleeping. I don't listen much to all the do's and don'ts, I just do what works for us in a safe way.. Babies dont form bad behaviours before 3 months anyway, so just go with it. Being mummy is hardwork but I love it. Its been five weeks and I still ask myself.. is this really my child?? Lol.. so proud of myself and him.

@Smilymami if your on the Facebook app click on your profile. Next to the bar that day add story there are three dots. Click on those. It should give you lots of options but at the bottom of all of those should be your Facebook link.
I think to message crazy mummy you need to be on the desktop version and private message her

Ahh i think I'll put the moses basket in the shower doorway.
My parents ended up popping down today as the rules don't apply until tomorrow (so ridiculous) but i wanted them to see him whilst they could.
We also went for our first solo walk - only 20 mins to the corner shop in the sling. I was so nervous though I swear I stopped every 200m to check he was still breathing!

I also think he's got longer overnight. Gone really suddenly from up to one month to 0-3 clothes. He's so long! He also is obsessed with this creepy badger! 😳

Aww @smilymami I've bought the wonder weeks book and started reading it during the night feeds, it's so interesting! Nice to know why they get fussy as well. Bet its lovely them being more alert/aware afterwards!

@MooseWL I stop all the time when we’re walking to check he’s breathing too - ridiculous but he’s a quiet breather so I feel like I have to double check!

At least yours is obsessed with an actual toy! Mine is obsessed with lamps, genuinely caught him grinning away at a bedside lamp this morning. Funny little boy

Hello everyone! I’ve just found this thread again! Hope you are all doing ok. DD is 11 days old now, she’s been quite windy and very upset in the evenings/night by it. It sometimes sounds like she’s choking in her sleep poor thing and it scares the life out if me! She’s formula fed so trying her on a slower teat today- so far so good. She is currently asleep whereas she has been very fussy and wide awake at this time the previous few nights. Fingers crossed she settles ok for the rest of tonight!

Also, I’ve been having a bit of baby blues. DD doesnt seem to like to settle for me sometimes and just cries and cries, which then makes me cry cause I feel like a failure. Also made slightly worse by the fact that if I give her to DH she seems to instantly calm down. I feel a bit jealous, which is ridiculous I know. Bloody hormones!