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Expecting twins in 2020?

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Passionfruit20 · 16/10/2019 07:37

Is anyone else expecting twins (or more!) in 2020? I just found out I am. They’ll be our first. Technically due in April, although reality means probably March. Would love to share with other mums in the same situation as I’m now reading a whole new set of baby books and articles!

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LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:11

@Bubble29 sorry to hear the tiredness has returned 😢 that was the worst part of T1 for me. I hope it doesn't last for the whole trimester for you. Can the midwife or anyone prescribe you some iron tablets or something to help with it? Thats fab news that you have a date in the diary - love how you effectively get to pick your baby's birthday 🥰 hopefully they both turn back again though so you have the natural birth you want xx

LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:14

@Beth804 ahh bless you! 😢 sorry to hear you're in pain - at least it's not long to wait now though. How exciting!! Bet you can't wait to meet them ❤️ have they put you on bed rest to help ease the pain or does laying down make it worse? X

Beth804 · 19/07/2020 21:33

@LittleMiss7 No bed rest, actually lying in bed isn't comfortable at all, sitting is definitely better! Anytime I've mentioned the pain to a midwife/consultant, they're just like, 'ah poor you - but it's normal' 🤷‍♀️ My poor DD has just come to terms with the fact I'm really slow now and can't get on the floor/go out to play 😢

I definitely remember feeling breathless from quite early on - needing to sit down as soon as I'd climbed the stairs! Hopefully you feel better soon 🤞😬 (we can always hope!! 😘)

LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:34

@ChampooPapi I've done a little bit of research in the sense that I know the recovery time is longer with a c section over natural birth and that I'd need an epidural but that's fine - I'm not gonna play a hero. Gimmie ALL the pain relief 😂 but admittedly, I do need to do a bit more research so I can go in armed with facts back up my reasonings more. If it'd been a single pregnancy, I'd of been happy to go with a natural birth but 2? No thanks! I'm absolutely petrified of it! I also suffer from something called labrynthitus (similar to vertigo) which flares up for me when I get stressed or worry about something over a period of time. I need to know what's happening (as best as you can with childbirth anyway!) so I can prepare myself mentally. When I have an attack, I physically can't walk for a few hours, the room spins... sometimes I'm sick and it brings on a panic attack - it's awful. But then after the attack passes, it takes a good 3 weeks or more to fully recover from it and will sway when I walk, lose my balance and generally need bed rest in order to recover - all the things I won't have time to do with 2 babies to look after. Having a plan relaxes me and will mean I feel more in control although I appreciate childbirth doesn't always go to plan. There seems to be less chance of too much changing with a c section though in comparison to a natural birth. Im not due to see my midwife until a week tomorrow so will brush up a bit more on my facts. I've not met my consultant yet - the consultant calls me after my midwife appt. the midwife always implies that they prefer for people to have a natural birth and then when she last brought it up (despite telling me in the same breath that we won't discuss birth plans until wk32!) she said if 1 were to come naturally and the other were to turn, then the 2nd one could come by c section. Erm hang on... I'm not gonna recover 6wks from a c section AND potentially have to recover from a tear too. I'm quite stubborn at the best of times but I'm waiting for the convo to come up properly and then I will be putting my foot down. Would be so much easier if my husband was allowed to come to the appts with me to back me up as I can't stand confrontation but surely it's my body so I should get to choose what happens to it? X

LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:37

@Beth804 I can't believe there's nothing they can do to make you more comfortable - that's a little disappointing. Still, as I said at least there's not long to wait now. You'll be feeling as light as a feather and skipping round the room once they arrive 😂 well... maybe not straight away lol! X

LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:37

@Beth804 I can't believe there's nothing they can do to make you more comfortable - that's a little disappointing. Still, as I said at least there's not long to wait now. You'll be feeling as light as a feather and skipping round the room once they arrive 😂 well... maybe not straight away lol! X

LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:38

@Beth804 I can't believe there's nothing they can do to make you more comfortable - that's a little disappointing. Still, as I said at least there's not long to wait now. You'll be feeling as light as a feather and skipping round the room once they arrive 😂 well... maybe not straight away lol! X

LittleMiss7 · 19/07/2020 21:39

Sorry - posted the same message 3x without realising 🙈

ChampooPapi · 19/07/2020 22:12

@LittleMiss7 I absolutely agree with everything you've said, and to be honest if you just say this to your consultant, perhaps ending with 'and I won't be considering any other options from now on, this is what is right for me and I want to sign off on it'. Then I'd say it's a done deal. Be strong, be firm, trust me in the moment you have got this 💪, because in the end just visualising a emergency section plus a vaginal delivery in your head will no doubt be enough for you to say everything you have just said to me and more, with confidence, and with absolute certainty. Your next conversation needs to not end with another, let's see how we get on sort of thing, of that's said to you after everything you are going to need to broach changing consultants as your getting so much anxiety about this part of the pregnancy, sleepless nights ect (lay it on thick woman!), That you need to know that you are supported in this decision and that the consent forms are done. You will not walk away without it sorted then I promise you.

It's two babies and you've made your decision so it will work out how you wish, it's just a ball ache and a stress that they haven't made it an earlier conversation isn't it?! I mean you have an actual condition, and I bet your consultant hasn't birthed two babies from their vagina 🙄.

Your body and your rights. That's what the nice guidlines say anyway, they will absolutely grant it, they are just basically waiting in case you have a change of heart which I assume most women don't, or your are somehow persuadable potentially.

You will get this sorted I promise, keep us updated, and look into the natural c sections, they are brilliant! Though not sure all hospitals do them but think a fair few do, see operation obviously but the babies push themselves out of the wound without being forceped out and they can lift the screen if you and your partner wish to see them born this way too ☺️

user1487755366 · 01/08/2020 19:17

Just discovered this thread and hoping I can join too. I'm 21+2 with DCDA twins- both boys.

So far (touch wood) things have been going really well but I've recently been struck down with the most horrific heartburn and also sickness after some meals. I had nausea but 0 sickness in the first trimester but this is nasty. Anybody else? My GP has prescribed Peptac for the heartburn.

Also I'm hoping I can have the discussion about birthing options at my next consultant/midwife appointment as I am 95% sure I'd like a section.

ChampooPapi · 22/08/2020 10:19

How is everyone? Waves @user1487755366 , how's the heartburn?

I'll be 27 weeks Tuesday 🙌👣👣

MilsCookie · 25/08/2020 18:15

How are you getting on @Moo2019 ? Xx

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Moo2019 · 19/09/2020 13:13

@MilsCookie I’m ok thank you. How are you? We’ve had a few complications and unfortunately my waters broke at 20 weeks. But I’m 25+1 now and these babies are still holding on x

MilsCookie · 19/09/2020 22:36

@Moo2019 oh my goodness how scary for you... so glad they are still holding on for you! does the fluid rebuild after it's broken? We've also had a very rocky journey so far but I'm 24+5 now and hoping we make it to a c section delivery between 32-34 weeks...

16 weeks - twin 1 diagnosed with type 1 sIUGR due to small growth. She also has a single umbilical artery and absent ductus venosus. These two cord abnormalities increased our risk of their being a genetic disorder so we were offered amniocentesis. Told the risk of miscarriage in mcda twins is 1/50 - 1/100 from having the procedure. We debated it but decided we'd wait for the 20 week anomaly scan to see how things were.

20 weeks - everything looked anatomically as it 'should' in both twins so decided to decline amniocentesis. Twin 1 showed some instability in her cord so we were asked to come back in a week.

21 weeks - some absent/intermittent flow in twin 1's umbilical cord. Diagnosed with type 3 sIUGR. Given the horrible statistics about 1/5 babies with this type not passing in utero and then that having a knock on effect on the other twin causing neurological damage. Told we could 'selectively reduce' to improve chances for the healthier twin if things don't improve. Put on weekly scanning.

I'm now almost 25 weeks and have had 3 scans since then and the blood flow to our sIUGR twin has been positive since. So we're holding on and hoping that it stays the same. We still have the worry about there potentially being a genetic disorder but we just felt that we would love these babies no matter what. I've been told that due to the sIUGR I'll deliver between 32-34 weeks, but if at any point they decide they're safer out than in then I'll have a c section before that point.

It's certainly been a rollercoaster!! Hope you're holding up okay Moo2019.

How is everyone else doing? We must have had some babies born recently? ❤️❤️

MilsCookie · 19/09/2020 22:39

That should have said 'passing' without the 'not' !

Moo2019 · 20/09/2020 08:07

@MilsCookie ah I’m sorry that all sounds terrifying.

So I lost my waters but both babies have some fluid around them still so hopefully they’re still developing ok. They’ve said I’ll also get a couple section around 32/34 weeks - if they don’t come before then. My main risk is that I will go into labour or an infection will get in through the rupture in the membrane. So I’m at the hospital sometimes a few times a week to check up on everything, but felt huge relief when we got past 24 weeks and have heard success stories of babies born very early, so hoping we can still bring our boys home. They think their growth has slowed a bit recently I’m praying they’ve just had another growth spurt and all will be ok.

I’m so sorry you’ve been going through all these ups and downs too. I don’t think anyone can understand what it’s like not knowing each day if you’ll be able to get your babies home safely. Have your hospital been good? It sounds like your babies are doing really well and so I have everything crossed for you all xx

Moo2019 · 12/10/2020 21:14

@MilsCookie how are you doing? I ended up going into labour last week at 27+3. Both babies in NICU and stable but had a few scary moments x

MilsCookie · 13/10/2020 07:42

Oh my goodness @Moo2019 I'm so sorry I didn't see your message! I don't get notifications so somehow missed it 😞 wow I can't believe your babies are here!! That must have been scary for you but they're definitely in good hands in NICU. I've heard so many amazing stories about babies being born even as young as 24/25 weeks and being absolutely fine. How are your boys doing? What sort of support do they need at the moment? And how are you, how was the c section?

We're doing okay thank you... I had a couple of hospital trips last week where I thought some of my waters had gone and I was having cramps so had to be checked and all was okay. Then two days later I had a bright red bleed so went for more monitoring and was kept overnight. But luckily everything was okay and they said sometimes it just 'happens'. No idea what the water was either, they said my cervix was closed. They said it could've been urine 🙈 delightful!! I'm still having weekly scans (I'm 28+1 today) and still hoping to make it to 32-34 weeks.

Really hope you're okay, it's a stressful time but it will all be worth it!! 💗

rosegoldivy · 17/10/2020 21:50

Hello everyone,
I've just found this thread and I've not quite read through it all.

After a visit to EPU today I had an internal scan and was suprised to find there are two babies hiding in there. I'm only measuring at 7+3 and the consultant did say at this stage that it's still common and very possible for one pregnancy to not be viable. Which obviously made me hit Google and now I'm worrying about the vanishing twin.

Don't know the point in this post, Just looking for a bit of reassurance really, I don't know. I also have DD1 who turned 1 in July so if twins arrive in May I will have 3 under 2 🙈

MilsCookie · 17/10/2020 22:39

Hey @rosegoldivy - your journey so far sounds like the very beginning of mine! I'm 28+5 and was told the exact same thing but I was 6+2. Both of my twins are still going strong! Did they say how many placentas there were, and if only one placenta did they say if there was a membrane between them (mcda/mcma?) please feel free to ask any questions! It's a scary time finding out you're having twins! Also wow - 3 under 2 will be hard work but AMAZING!! 😊 xx

rosegoldivy · 18/10/2020 00:00

@MilsCookie thanks for the reply. So good to hear you and the twins are doing well. Won't be long now until they arrive!
I honestly didn't hear a word she said after "twins"... there was a trainee doctor there and she was pointing out things to him and talking but I honestly could not tell you what was said.
We have a private scan booked in 2 weeks so I will defo be more prepared with a line of questions as have been reading up on all the different types of twin pregnancies.
Just need to stop googling all the bad stuff

MilsCookie · 18/10/2020 13:13

@rosegoldivy I remember feeling totally overwhelmed and was shaking when they told me!! Was your partner there? Mine wasn't allowed to come in as we were still in lockdown when we found out. So do you know the type of twins you're having?

rosegoldivy · 18/10/2020 14:41

@MilsCookie nope I was there myself at EPU, they had told me on phone partner would have to wait outside the ward so I didn't see point in him coming.
No idea what type of twins or anything, I can't remember what she said to the other doc as all I heard was twins. She only really said at this stage that it's common for one not to be viable so just to hold on until 12 week scan until they confirm two pregnancies. Obviously I can't wait 5 weeks so ive booked a private scan for 1st November and I will be a bit more prepared of what kind of questions to ask

MilsCookie · 18/10/2020 16:16

@rosegoldivy did they give you any notes? If they did they should have written either DCDA, MCDA or MCMA on there... that will tell you what type of twins you're having. If not I'm not surprised you've booked an early scan! Feel free to ask any qus in the meantime, and try not to google!!