Due April 2008

[Rainbowdays]

I am a little nervous about starting this thread as I was previously on the March 2008 thread but m/c'd. But I got my bfp this morning and although still faint it is clearly there.

Anyone else coming to nervously join me?

Lemonaid, I don't think that four small glasses of wine spread over the second and third trimesters poses any risk to the baby either. I was talking about a more regular consumption of alcohol which I would just not be willing to risk. Maybe I will end up having a glass myself on a special occassion but if I manage to abstain completely it will be a big deal for me as it will be by far the longest I've ever gone without wine!

Does anyone know what is the exact deal on cheese? I was told that you can have soft and semi-soft cheese if it is pasteurised. True?

By the way, Becks Alcohol-free beer is actually rather nice (sampled a few types of alcohol-free before I started to feel really sick and stopped fancying it). In fact, it got me through one evening of "not telling" when some friends came over for dinner. DH opened a bottle of wine and I said "do you mind if I'm terribly uncouth and have a beer instead?" and went to the kitchen and sneakily poured myself an alcohol-free one...

Molly, i have heard that about cheese as well, no blue-veined cheese, no brie is what does me in, but it should generally be safe as long as it is pasteurised.

Lemonaid- that's the worst part about submarines... i don't know when he'll be back, they give me a 3 week window, but they won't even do that until it gets closer. So frustrating, and very difficult to explain to ds.

ahhh! nice one lemonaid! will have to remember that one!

i had alcohol free beer last time i was pg in the hot summer....was just like the real thing!

also a bottle of white schloer can look like you are drinking white wine....Coke can be vodka and coke.

im sure i may have a tiny glass on xmas day....

Becks is quite nice. When I go out to dinner with friends and dh I accept a glass of wine and when dh is finished his glass he subtly switches with mine. Makes me look like I've drunk it. Also, when I've gone for cocktails with friends I order the non alcohol fruity ones. Everyone assumes it has alcohol unless of course the bar man points it out when you order it!

It will be a lot easier when we have bumps and can stop pretending !

I think soft and semi-soft if pasteurised and not mould-ripened, i.e. not Brie or Camambert or blue cheese no matter how pasteurised it is.

what about mozarella? didnt really eat it when i was having other dc's

the dr told me that mozzarella is fine (but if you are using it at home, best to use it all at once - the liquid it's kept in can go off apparently).

thanks

FYI, as a teenager, used to work in a shop that made fresh mozz... you can ditch the liquid, and put in in fresh water if you need to save it, but it only really lasts another day then. ;)

Molly - I know my friend was lucky and I do know it's different for each perosn.
I hope you guys didn't think I was suggesting we all go on the lash this weekend - I was just saying it's such a difficult subject to be sure about - but I am with most of you - better safe than sorry (trying to make that antibiotics line work for me over the next few weeks).

On cheese... I am doing the same - better safe than sorry.
You can have most 'hard' cheeses - the pasteurised ones are okay.
Also things like cream-cheese and boursin are fine and actually a good source of calcium.

www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/nutrition/foodsafety/cheeseexpert/

I am so so tired. wana go sleep....

2 hrs 40 minutes before sleep time.. and counting.

Been away for a while but will try and catch up (propably won't have time for apologies for ignoring old comments!)

I'm with you on the exhaustion. Bed at 9pm for me (although DS likes to be up at 6am at the latest so no lie in!)

How is everyone feeling - I'm feeling very sick but luckily not actually sick. Strangely all I fancy eating is avocado, crips, flapjacks, beef with horseradish and ginger biscuits - balanced diet me thinks!

Oh, see, now I am starving! I am convinced all I really want to nectarines, how odd. But now that you mention beef and horseradish... mmmmmmm.

I'm pretty much doing nothing and eating nothing that I shouldn't, I figure better safe than sorry. Have given up smoking, which is my favourite thing in the whole world, although I did have one for old time's sake last week (at lack of willpower). But that was the last one ever! So think am doing pretty well.
Am such a grumpy cow again today! Made muffins with DSD cos DP has gone out to play golf (we're off work this week) and I had to keep biting my tongue not to nag her every time she split something, poor thing. And then she was doing indoor gymnastics (which had told her not to cos always ends in her breaking something or herself) and she fell on her arm and started howling, and I just said 'Well I told you you'd hurt yourself' and then felt really guilty, so gave her a cuddle. And then she turned round all watery-eyed and said 'I love you Eleanor', so I felt completely shitty! Horrible, horrible step-mummy. We're off to ice our cakes in a mo and am going to try and be nicer.

Ellie-im a step mummy too. it can be hard sometimes, cant it.

Yes, it is sometimes. How many step-children have you got?

Just the one, a dss, aged 5.9

he lives 300 miles away from us, so it takes alot of ££ and time for DP to see him (every school holiday). he stays here sometimes; sometimes dp stays at his mums with dss.

he is going next weekend-aarrgghh so tired, but its important for them, and im so pleased that dp is such an 'honourable' father, iyswim?

Cheese not an issue ehre, as I am daitry (casein to be specific) intolerant, the dietician said to have goats cheese 9even if soft) rather than be deficient in calcium, but I will doa s I did with the others and ignore her (take supplements but keeping them down is another thing..) until much later on. Cooked soft cheese is OK anyhow, and just as good.

The alcohol thing i will also do as with the tpehrs... couldnt stomach it atm, but probably a glass at Christmas, new year and Dh's birthday which is also our wedding aniversary, small glass of something low-ish in alcohol.

Whipped ice cream is another no-no isn't it, for the same reason as cheese- the bacterial risk.

I'm doing christmas this year and I was looking forwards to the full gourmet.... ah well looks like I maya s well got to dad's for the trad after all LOL!

Yes, it's good that he makes the effort, too many separated parents use their children as pawns or don't bother when it gets hard, which isn't fair on the LO. My DSD lives with us - her Mum died about 3 years ago (before I knew them) so I am the only Mummy she has, and I'm going to be adopting her when me and DP get married next year, which she is really chuffed about, bless her. She is lovely, so am lucky, but it has been hard building up that bond with her, which has taken time.

i have known dss since he was a bump....dp and his ex split up when dss was 9 months....then me and dp got together.

i too find the bond thing hard.

although dp and his ex dont always get on, they always manage to keep contact about dss and time to see him, etc, and dp pays her ££ every week without fail. my ds's love my dss.

i think dss will live with us one day; prob when he goes to secondary school.

my eldest ds's bf is not very involved, not even a phone call or birthday card. bit sad really, but to be fair, my dh has taken over role beautfully. ds loves him to bits, and dh loves him bakc, no one would be able to tell you they weren't father & son, bless.
and both boys get along as well, of course youngest ds is only 9 months, so we'll see how that goes, LOL!

oh boy, i had forgotten that i agreed to have my MIL & SILs for boxing day... to be honest, i had a menu all planned out, guess that fried camembert is off the menu... besides, it's overdone anyway! lol
wonder what i should do instead... ohh, maybe get out of it!

Is it only whipped ice cream from machines that we can't have? Just realised that I ate ice cream made from Goats cheese the other day... is that bad? dh got ot for me as a treat. He is sooo supportive!

Was lucky enough to be able to take a 3 hr nap this afternoon but I feel like I could go straight back to bed! I don't know how some of you can be planning Christmas dinner! All I can eat now are the basics - yoghurts, milk, bananas, ginger biscuits etc. I'm in week 7 so all going well I guess I'll be feeling exhausted and anutious for at least another 5 weeks!!!

navymummy fried camembert is fine as it is cooked.

And its only soft frozen ice cream, mainly from machines but some supermarkets sell it as well. Normal ice cream is absolutely fine. IIRC its to do with the temp at which it is p[repared.