September 2019 babies - thread #4

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Starting a new thread before the old one gets filled up!

I'm struggling to do much, still getting so light headed and dizzy just from picking up and carrying DS about. I have been doing a bit just at home though to keep toned.

My exercise is walking the dog... generally hibernate anyway dec- jan! Won't start jogging again now pre birth but will probably start swimming again some time soo, and have a couple of yoga dvds that I love so will dust them off. Everyone else that's managed more, and / or existing dc wow! I've been so wiped out from working and light house chores that's about all I have managed Monday - Friday!

Off to a wedding reception this evening... would far rather put on pjs and snuggle dh and doggie on the sofa 😬

I feel like crap. Head is banging and i want to sleep. Home alone with dc so that is not happening

I received my NT results from my 12 week scan through the post today, low risk for Downs, so happy with that

Has anyone heard of the theory where the HCG and Papp A levels indicate sex of the baby? Apparently high HCG means girl and lower HCG means boy. It was right for my DD, my HCG level was 2.5 or something, and this time my HCG level is 3.4 so thinking this is another girl! Just thought it was interesting

My exercise has gone to pot! I was park running weekly and a few times runs a week and now nothing, occasional dog walk (oh does the majority she isn't neglected!). I can barely lift DD also 2.5, she went her leggings today having a wee outside because I couldnt hold her up.

Told my inlaws yesterday, firstly they were thrilled and MIL made only one slightly shitty comment about how long it took us to name DD so we really should find out the sex - maybe it was 8-9days. Like it's up to her.
But today she has messaged to say she hasn't told my SIL and kids but has found it very hard and it's unfair on her. FECK OFF! You have known 16hours!!!!

My step mum told the family when we told her and DDad about DS' pregnancy BBell2 ! She said it was unfair we told her such stressful news so of course she was needing to unload it!!!

Hi all, I've been trying to read back through the chat. I have stopped my dance classes now. Was trying for the first few weeks but it didn't feel right and I was scared to push my body too much. I also felt hideous in a leotard. I cycle everyday back and forth to school, nursery, shopping, meetings etc but it takes a lot out of me and I find myself out of breath quite quickly, especially if the kids are in the bike too and I'm rushing. What you say @happydays00 resonates, I am determind not to be swollen at the end of this pregnancy! I am not drinking bottled water and moving as much as possible without over doing it. I heard that the sodium levels in bottled water can cause the swelling and that would make sense as I drank a lot of Evian with dc1 preg.

To those wondering about good pregnancy wear, I can definitely recommend asos for pregnancy clothes. Brands like Hope & Ivy Maternity are really flattering, Jojo maman bebe looked like they had some nice things online and if you have a big budget Seraphine is definitely worth it. I am quite small (164cm) so no maternity trousers I have found work for me, if anyone can recommend some for petite ladies I would be grateful.
I am glsd to read how you are all feeling. I have been having similar symptoms. I have felt very faint movement (am 15 weeks now) but I also considered buying a doppler as I do worry all the time. I think the more babies you have the more sensitive you become, especially with all the horror stories I've heard about birth now from others. I certainly worry more now than I ever did before and realise how precious and fragile life is

All my mat trousers are H&M challengeyourreality and I'm only 160cm (size 6/8) so certainly work for us petite ladies I reckon.

I was just looking at a local childminders website just out of curiosity and it says full time cost £125. Does that seem right? I thought it was going to be much more expensive purely from so many people saying its not worth paying for compared to their earnings from work

164! Try being 152/154 lol

whisky that is very cheap, what hours is it

Thanks @TwittleBee I'll have a look at those.
@Whisky2014 that seems very low, most childminders I know are about 6-8£ an hour

@IVEgottheDECAF I rarely meet a smaller woman than myself!

My 11 year old is taller than me if i slouch! It is terrible.

Newlook do different leg lengths in lots of maternity trousers

It just says "full time" so not exactly sure.
Ok I think I earn £16.50 an hour so it's always going to be worth me working isn't it? I wanted to go part time but my husband isn't keen haha he says I'm to go back to work. I was hoping I could justify the difference in cost of me being home with baby but actually, I don't think I'll be able to.

@whisky2014 that does sound very cheap. Our nursery is about £190 full time. Does it say if it includes meals and snacks?

If you want to go part time and can afford the drop in income, you should do it! I lost my job when i asked to go back 4 days a week but I felt very strongly that I needed the balance of at least one day per week with DD. Everyone is different but you might not know how you'll feel until closer to the time.

I say all that fully aware that we are.in a very fortunate position that we could afford me to drop my salary, but it's hopefully not forever.

Childminders here are £3.50-£4.75 p/h. The higher hourly rate includes food, the lower rate ones charge extra for food. Average is £200/week so yours sounds very cheap!

Nursery is £40-£60 per day, discounted if they are full time.

I will definitely be back to work as earn more than double DH. Hoping to reduce slightly from full time although full time is better financially as childcare cheaper!

Ok i found a second nursery and it says full time £198.
I don't know what I was thinking but I honestly thought it was going to cost alot more than this.
I think I could afford to drop a day at least, possibly 2 though because I want to spend as much time with my child as i can bit also maintain some independence.

@Whisky2014
£198 for nursery is about right for the towns near here, its more in the city. They usually charge for 51 or 52 wks, so the monthly figure is the weekly x 51 or 52 / 12.
4 days is proportionally more, about £180pw or £780pcm

Do you also get tax free childcare on top? Thats another £2k off the annual bill for me.

I’m hoping to go back 4 days (32hrs). My job doesn’t allow more p/t than this but the mortgage would be buggered if I dropped any more pay anyway when fixed rate ends.

When DS went to a Childminder's she charged £5ph And only included 1 meal a day, I had to provide breakfast and a packed lunch Whisky2014 and that seems the going rate where I live so £125 full time is a bargain! If you want to go part time I seriously suggest to do, if you can afford to cut your salary a bit then certainly do it. I was the bread winner and DH still agreed to letting me go part time after I returned a few months of mat leave. I really missed DS when I went back full time and really regret how much I missed out on him. (Just for further comparison our nursery he is at now is £260 a week full time). Many people say it's hard with nursery because many people still earn closer to minimum wage which means it doesn't work out for them by much, especially if they have more than 1. My sister has 2 under 2 and so her fees would be doubled and be way more than she would earn. For us nursery fees bite because we have a stupidly high mortgage and have to take into consideration the commutes too which eat into the nursery time.

Dusty I'm on Monday too. Today needs to go quickly!
FT nursery here is about £800 a month.
If anyone enjoys exercise at home, there's always YouTube. There's some great pregnancy exercise videos on there.

This year we havent had to pay wrap around care for the older three dc. When we did our childcare bill was more than my wage.

I will either not work after this baby or go very part time 16/20 hours a week. Partly because i will have childcare costs for dc4 and baby. Partly because i struggle to balance things now let alone with another child!

I am doing a degree with the OU so my plan is to do that full time for atleast the time i am on mat leave. If i just do one module a year it will take 6 years, every year i can double knocks a year off. Each module is equivalent to about 16 hours study per week.

Full time nursery here is £190 +

@twittlebee your step mum?! That is beyond unfair. It should be your news to tell when and how you want.
Today's wonderfull so I'm going to take some pics off DD with the baby scan and send to siblings at the same time, take a printout for my grannies that's enough.