Due October 2007 ~growing little piggy bumps

[J20BABY]

well needed to start new thread, sorry if title is rubish (refers to the chinese new year) if people aren't keen, we can do another one!

well i went to boots, but they didn't have any, apparantly the store wasn't big enough, so went to McDonalds instead!

going to try and order from the website, only want a little starter pack to have a nosy, as i only intend to use them when i'm at home not out and about.

honeyapple, will let you know what type they are and good luck with maureen

glad to here all is well pheebe

car seats

buffy, your life is so complicated!!! how do you cope. I hope your ds realises the error his ways. I think you definately did the right thing, better to be hard on him once than let things get out of control.

Nezi hope your first day back at work goes ok.

alicet, its your scan today, I didnt realise - good luck, you must be very excited

Hi all

Haven't been around much recently as has very long and urgent report to finish for work, now done thanks godness but have got stinking cold now! taking the day off today to rest a bit as energy level is negligable at the moment.

Have scanned through thread but no chance to catch up as its HUGE!

We are borrowing a three wheeler/pram from SIL if we don't like it we can then look at buying something else. Well that was the plan but I have also ended up buying a M&P Ziko pushchair because it was half price and looked really cute - I know this is wrong and we will probably end up buying a Maclaren anyway - so everyone tells me - but as this is my first I feel I am allowed to get overexcited and buy the wrong thing - oh have just read Kezza's Which thing after I typed this and it says it is a best buy so not feeling so guilty now.

So excited to see everyones good news from their scans, ours is Wednesday can't wait but pretty nervous too. Good luck to Alice for today

Buffy - sounds like you did exactly the right thing to me don't listen to your mum

Hi Buffy

I think you did exactly the right thing too. Behavioural problems or no learning right n wrong is such an important lesson. I doubt very very much your ds will rebel against you. Quite the opposite in fact, you seem like such a loving caring mum that you'll be able to explain to DS you did it because you love him and don't want him to get into trouble. Lots of loves and hugs and praise over the next few days though maybe, as much for yourself as ds

oh yes forgot to say good luck to alice!!

thanks kitti and kezza,i feel like i did the right thing,but you know what mothers are like!!mine tends to look down on everything i do,but the sun tends to shine out of my brothers rear ends so they cant do no wrong!

pheebe youve made me cry!thanks you (not for making me cry,but for your support!!)

Hi Everyone,
hope you all had a good weekend.

Welcome to all the new people.

Floria - fingers crossed this prgnancy goes without a hitch.

HMP - I'm glad you can relax with your dogs. One of mine (a rather naughty border terrier) has realised that I'm not as quick as I used to be and has taken to running off at every given chance. He is on strict lead curfew from now on!!

Nezi - welcome, hope all is going well.

EJT - I can't believe how awful your work is being. I would take this further if I was you.

I'm just counting down the hours to my scan. This time tomorrow I should have had another peek at the little tinker that keeps me up all night!

BTW, just took delivery of the best invention ever. A pregnancy pillow called a dreamGenii. It took a few days to get used to it but it is so comfy now!!

Buffy - I think you did the right, most definitely

Good luck to those with scans coming up.

thanks mrsfish.my mums just really wound me up about it.hoping ds will behave now he knows if he doesnt i will ring the police.little bugger!!

buffy I think it is easier to regret the things we havent done ifswim. If you didnt call the police and his behaviour got worse you would always look back and wonder what if, but as it is you have clearly set the boundaries and let him know what is expected. If he still gets into trouble you will at least know that you did your best. I imagine things were different in your mums day and gp's are always softer than parents so I would stick to your guns.

thanks kezza.ds has had behavioural probs since he was little,and my mum has always said im too strict with him,but i think because of the way he is,ive had to be.she doesnt live with him and doesnt see most of his bad behaviour.she just sees him every couple of weeks when hes having a good day.a few years ago he used to say he was going to get a knife and stab me when i was in bed!when a knife went missing i refused to go to bed and had him sleep in my room!!hes done so many awful things,mainly to me,but my mum still says im too hard on him!i cant win with her.

ds sees a psychiatrist who has been as usefull as a chocolate teapot,and he said ds's behaviour was his way of testing boundaries.whilst in the room with him though,ds tried to climb out of a first floor window!psychiatrist told me to leave him as he wouldnt do it!!i was mortified,grabbed ds and stormed out!!!

another thing ds did,when he was in hospital one time for an op,he jumped off the trolley when they were wheeling him into theatre!all i saw was this little bare bum running off down a corridor!it took 3 of the theatre staff,me and a nurse to find him!!he wasnt scared about going into theatre,he wanted to play hide and seek!!!

Morning all - am just about to go to the mw and 'request' my physio referral.

buffy - I really, really, really think you did exactly the right thing as far as ds is concerned.
Many of the children I teach have behavioural and learning difficulties, and much of the time I find that they are compounded by their parents making excuses for them. By showing ds just how serious his actions were - and reminding him of the difference between right and wrong, you have helped to make sure that ds can function better in today's society. I just wish that more parents were like you!

good luck to alice for your scan today - and good luck for betsycoe for your scan tomorrow.
Doubt if i'll be able to get on here again today (out tonight to say au revoir to the French assistant)

As for car seats I can't remember who was talking about having a 206 and the problems with finding a booster type seat to fit it! (tell me about it!) I had the same problem - a 206, and a taller than average child, and found that the Bébé confort hipsos was perfect. It fits the 206 - and, which is even better, it has a special strap that you can thread the seatbelt through so that it fits your child - piccy here

take care all.

Thanks Alice for the pram info I can see I'm going to have a good time shopping around Have a lovely scan today...I've got to wait another 48 hrs for mine.
Nezi, I hope the first day back isnt too tiring and flies by for you.
Buffy I think you did just the right thing...if you warn a child and they get away with ia misdemeanour they think they are invincible and the problem can escalate....my Mum once warned my cousins 2 yr old not to touch a hot surface, when the child attempted it again she was told that if she burned herself she would be smacked for disobedience too, she burned her finger (she had at least listened enough not to put her whole hand on) and she got her hand slapped too, Mum said it hurt her more to slap the child than the child hurt from receiving it but once you promise a consequence you have to follow through but the child is now 18 and has always listend to my Mum from then on; sometimes you just have to follow through with a threat to prevent something worse happening next time....We have a lot of police in the family and I know they would rather help a parent with a warning for a misdemeanour now than deal with a delinquent later. When I lived in Glasgow a neighbours teenageson shot an air rifle through my kitchen window,(he had bought it to impress his new "friends"), his mother instantly reported him to the police, got him cautioned and the gun confiscated...she saved him from getting in deeper with a local gang who all ended up in prison! Dont worry about your mum reaction, you know your son and you are doing the very best you know how for him.

Kezza; Thank you so much. I can see I'm going to have a lot of reading/researching to do Internet shopping is much more fun and certainly less tiring than traipsing round the shops...so I'm off for some fun!
Thanks again

Here's a question for you.. I'm not sure how to take it, so kept my mouth shut at the time, well it was 7:15 this morning and I was half asleep still

DH said to me this morning... 'I was thinking maybe we should get a cleaner in to help you whilst you are pregnant'

Now, is he being an incredibly thoughtful husband and thinking of me, or is he trying to say I am not doing enough around the house?

Over to you, how would you have taken it?

Morning all! I have no chance of catching up properly, but have had a quick scan through. Will try to measure my waist and add my details to the list! Got my maternity clothes down from the loft at the weekend and only just fit into my trousers this morning, so am resigned to having to sort out and iron my mat. clothes tonight for tomorrow...

MrsFish - if my dh made an offer like that, I would grab it with both hands. I found it quite difficult to fit in housework, but it was never one of my strengths, even pre-babies... Dh doesn't want anyone in doing anything though!

HMP - congratulations and welcome to the thread!

Will try and keep up with this thread, but think catching up on what has happened over the weekends is impossible!!

Mrs Fish, my DH has suggested that too. I think its a bl**dy marvellous idea. Don't care whether he's being really caring or its just a veiled complaint about the state of the house, anything that means I don't have to use horrid chemicals or lug the hoover about will be lovely now and fantastic when I'm a huge lumbering elephant in a few months time.

I'm from a working class family and I work full time myslef. my mum had a cleaner in once a week too as she had three of us to look after and a part time job. She always said the cleaner was worth every penny. Also, as me old mum pointed out, the cleaner doesn't tidy up for you or do all the washing and ironing so there's still plenty to do if you feel the need to nest

Going to ring someone this pm

Buffy, sorry I made you cry [big hugs], I think you did an amazingly brave thing for your son and as someone else has said if there were more parents like you there'd be less crime!!!

buffy I also think you did exactly the right thing for your son and agree 110% with all the other supportive comments. Esp from ejt how parents always make excuses for their children especially if they have behavioural problems. It sounds like even if this might be the case with your son he knows enough to understand right and wrong. And if he wasn't taking what you said seriously then you did absolutely the right thing to get someone who he would listen to to reinforce what you were saying. Not sure I would ahve thought to call the police but its a great idea - will store that up for future reference!

Thanks all for good luck messages for my scan! Its at 2.20 - will be back on later to let you know how I get on! MIL arriving this evening too but although I never look forward to her coming to stay actually she is great. Not sure would be up for longer than the 3 days though....

Must go feed ds...

Crikey - there are loads of scans this week - must have been looking at an old list! Good luck to everyone!!

And the cleaner thing (think it was Mrsfish...)- I too would grab with both hands! We have a cleaner and she is the best money ever spent. She is on holiday at the mo and I really REALLY miss her! Who cares what your husbands intentions are? If he's having a dig at least he's sensitive enough to know you're doing your best and he can't ask for more!!!

Afternoon all, just taking a sneaky catch up in work so will have to be quick, good luck to those with scans today and tomorrow I hope that if you want to find out the flavour of your LO that they play ball

MrsFish, I can see how you wouldn't know which way to take the question/statement from your husband but to be honest I would say yes that is a great idea when do you think they could start I am very lucky in that my DH does a lot of the housework but I don't see why he shouldn't we both work full time and I told him a long time ago that if he wanted me to do all the cooking, cleaning etc then I would but I would be giving up my job and he could support me to stay at home

I just feel like I should be able to do it all myself as I don't have the excuse that I work too, I am at home all day after all

Yeah, but a baby takes up an awful lot of time and if you have a nocturnal baby, the last thing you will want to do during the day is housework!! Better to have it lined up and decide you don't need it than stress yourself out trying to keep up and then finally admit defeat... Might suggest it to dh, in fact, on the basis that I will be there so there is no chance of the cleaner taking the mickey...

MrsF if you can afford it dont worry about it and just enjoy the pleasure of not doing it yourself.

It is a valid job for someone to do, I send out my ironing because I hate doing it, others get a gardener or some other help around the house. I do know what you mean about feeling you should do it yourself but if you dont have to grab the chance with both hands

thank you so much all of you for all your supportive comments.in my head i know i did the right thing,in my heart i think im just sad that i had to take such drastioc action to make him understand.and my my mums words didnt help.dh ahs told me to ignore her and let her think what she wants.

mrsfish,i would definately snap dh's hand off if he offered to get in a cleaner!!im lucky though atm,as dh isnt working anymore,hes taken over as dd's full time carer,as i care for ds1 (the naughty one!)plus doing dds physio was getting hard for me,as she doesnt want to keep still.so with him being at home,he does do alot of the cleaning now.i wont let him touch the wahsing though as he sticks as much as he can get into the machine in one go so it comes out with dry patches!!think he does it on purpose so i wont ask him to do it again!

but if i was you,id def get a cleaner.think about as you bigger your not going to want to be bending over cleaning,so get someone else to it for you.plus once baby arrives you wont have to stress about tidying up before people visit,you'll have someone else to do it for you!!(just dont do what a friend of mine used to do...clean up before her cleaner arrived!!)

Ha! My house is too messy for a cleaner... they wouldnt know where to start... I also would have to go around tidying up before he/she came... so kind of a pointless exercise. I get a bit shifty when DP starts cleaning... he always puts things in strange places...