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'Doing it' again after a big age gap - who else?

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Hopeitwontbebig · 05/04/2007 20:42

Thought it might be an idea to set up a thread for those of us that are having babies again when we thought we were 'done and dusted'!! My youngest is 8, eldest will be nearly 11 when this one's born, due September.

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Uki · 05/04/2007 23:49

I'd like to do it again with big age gap, i think it would be fab. Your dc will love it.

There are others on here though. In my antenatal class a mother was having third with two older children 18 and 19, they seemed more involved then the dh. It was so wonderful to see

Jbck · 06/04/2007 18:12

DD will be 6 when LO arrives, not a great big gap but still daunting thinking about having to go back to nappies & sleepless nights, just when you feel you've kind of got your life back. Actually DD gets up more now than when she was little except she just wanders about, changes beds & you never know what room she'll be sleeping in when you get up, this morning I found her downstairs at 6.30 watching the tv with the lamp on (cos it was a wee bit dark she said). That's cause it's blinkin' bedtime!

Klaw · 06/04/2007 18:52

I'm not pg just now but my ds was born in Sept 1993 and my dd was born in June 2005. I am desperate to be ttc again for my 3rd but dp has other ideas...

Anyway my ds and dd absolutely ADORE each other, it is sooooooooooooo lovely to watch them together. Just thought I'd share.

redshoes · 06/04/2007 19:01

8 years between my first and second - it was fab, ds was at school all day while I doted on the baby. No sibling rivalry. Harder as they get older though, to find things to do as a family that they both enjoy. Plus - in a few years your eldest will be able to babysit!

powder28 · 06/04/2007 19:03

I would love to have another baby, its just the being pregnant part im not keen on.

SquonkyDonkeyHotCrossBuns · 06/04/2007 19:08

10 and a half years between dd1 and dd2

If someone had told me I would be dealing with teenage tantrums and the terrible twos at the same time, I may have thought twice!

Dd1 very, very jealous of dd2, but ok with ds who came later.

auntymandy · 06/04/2007 19:10

8 years between my 3rd and 4th.
My eldest is 16 youngest due in june!

ShoshableEggEater · 06/04/2007 19:18

I had 13 years between 1st and 2nd!

fizzbuzz · 06/04/2007 20:15

12 years between ds and dd.....however ds adores dd, and is very good in-house clown, entertainer, and babyminder.

Wouldn't have deliberately chosen 12 year gap however....

Caroline1852 · 13/04/2007 21:21

I have DSs 15 and 11 and a daughter 1 and a new arrival due in July. Biggies are brilliant with LO and are looking forward to the new arrival. It all seems more relaxing after a big break - makes me wonder if I was one of those awful competitive mums with my older two.... yeuch!

RGPargy · 01/05/2007 16:55

So far i can beat you all lol. My DS1 is almost 17 and i am now 10 weeks pg, so there will be a 17 1/2 year age gap between DS1 and DC2. DS1 is extremely chuffed to bits at getting a new brother or sister tho, which is a huuuuge relief!!

CristinaTheAstonishing · 01/05/2007 17:06

DS will be nearly 8, DD will be 2.5. We've given away all baby clothes, toys, maternity clothes...

RGPargy · 01/05/2007 17:24

Cristina, the only things i have left are photos and one babygrow!! Everything is different now from how it was in 1990. You even get two scans!!!

Back in 1990 you got one scan at 20 weeks and that was your lot!

MamaMaiasaura · 01/05/2007 20:51

big age gap here. Ds will be nearly 8 when this one arrives. Ds really excited although very early days in pg. He said good morning baby and then mummy this morning. I think he will be a fab brother. He is always my super special little boy and I will keep telling him

MamaMaiasaura · 01/05/2007 20:52

I kept all his nice baby stuff too knew i would want another but fate didnt allow it till now!

justbeme · 01/05/2007 20:55

I'll have a 12 yr gap when my Lo is born june/july. Would never have believed it, but have come to the conclusion that nothing in life can be planned and you never know what is round the corner!!
Typical though - I saved EVERYTHING clothes/toys for nearly 10 yrs and then gave them all away when i moved !!

Hassled · 01/05/2007 21:00

I'm NEVER having anymore babies so don't belong on this thread but thought you might like to know I had DS2 when DS1 was 11 and DD was9, then had DS3 when DS1 was 15 and DD was 13. The downsides are that I've been dealing with teenage strops, late-nights and general angst while dealing with toddler tantrums, plus the younger ones have no respect for the older one's need for privacy. The thing I never anticipated was the total trauma for the younger boys when the oldest went to Uni last September - almost like a parent had left home. The positives outweigh the negatives by far, though - I have to say it's been fantastic on the whole and I recommend big age gaps - the constant stimulation for the younger ones, the extra attention they get, plus the almost free babysitting The best of luck.

Gingermonkey · 01/05/2007 21:02

Jbck there's 6 years between my 2 and it's great. DD loves him so much, there's none of the jealousy I expected and she treats him like he's her own baby. Today she even made his breakfast when she got her own (he's now 18mths, she'll be 8 in Aug). I want another one but I am tempted to wait a bit until we try again. Oh, and my DD sounds like yours - she wanders about the house when it's nearly morning, because she's a bit hungry (she says). Bless em!

giddy1 · 01/05/2007 21:05

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PurpleLostPrincess · 04/05/2007 12:37

My eldest was 13 last week and my second will be 9 when baby comes in September - they're soooo excited! I have to say I am wary of having the teenage tantrums as well as the terrible two's wrapped into one LOL!

duchesse · 07/05/2007 01:22

Well, if it ever happens again, there would be a massive gap between my first three and the last one. There was only supposed to be a 6 year gap, and that was nearly four years ago. My youngest will be 10 in July, her sister is 12, and my son will be 14 in July. Quite some gap then, but not by design. I think it could be quite lovely though. If it happens.

agalch · 07/05/2007 07:23

I have a 15.5 ds,a 11.5 ds and dd's of 2.8 and 9 months.

There are good and not so good things about having big/small age gaps.It is lovely to see my great big hulking ds1 coo over his baby sisters tho.Gives me a lump in my throat every time.Has also been a very very good contraceptive as he says he isn't having children till he's at least 25/30 if ever.

DH had a vasectomy in December last year or we would definitly have had more .Have to stop somewhere don't you?

One thing we have noticed tho is if ds1 and his gf take the girls for a walk or to the park etc they get a lot of looks from people who think they are teen parents.

zookeeper · 07/05/2007 07:52

Hi, just wanted to say that my sister is nine years older than me and I love her to bits

Kaloo · 12/06/2007 16:33

Hi, I am new to the forum. My eldest will be nearly 13 and my youngest 10 when baby comes around November. I am hoping that I will be able to really enjoy this baby as I am hoping that there will be less jealousy going on!

fizzbuzz · 12/06/2007 17:09

12 years between dd and ds. Ds dotes on dd and is fantastic entertainer. He loves throwing her round, and having crawling competitions