Due in May - Week Commencing 12/03/07

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Morning.

Afternoon all.

Pebble - so sorry to hear about what you've been having to put up with. The way your DH is behaving could be described as selfish at the best of times but when you're heavily pregnant and in physical pain, it's just inexcusable. I really do hope he sees sense and the error of his ways very soon. I think you'd be absolutely in the right to try the boot on the other foot, so to speak; if he fails to do things that you've asked him to, like cut down on time spent in the pub, spend more time with his family etc, you should stop doing all of those things that he has come to expect and take for granted, like cooking his meals for him, doing his ironing etc. Tell him the reason why - you're 'going on strike' until he starts putting you and his family first! In any event, you're in a lot of physical discomfort right now and you should be resting! Besides, he's a grown and able bodied man who's more than capable of looking after himself and pulling his weight, especially now that his support is needed. I really do hope that things get better for you, Pebble.

Not much to report here. Still struggling with baby names. Am thinking of taking the tour of the midwife led unit I'll be delivering in this Saturday. I've never been there before and would rather see what it's like there sooner rather than later just in case I change my mind (fingers crossed I won't, though)! Might also try to fit in a bit of shopping for the baby this weekend too, DH's mood permitting. I'd like to at least buy the changer/drawers unit we've picked out; then I'll be able to launder and put away all of clothes, bedding and stuff I've bought for the baby so far. Will feel like progress!

There were 75 cupcakes sitting on the side.......

ohmigod

Where is everyone????!!!

You're a saint, LG&T.

Pebble - does your DH have broken arms? Why on EARTH would he moan to you about being hungry? Is he incapable of making toast? I have a sometimes- useless DH, so I don't mean to be judgemental here, but if you're telling us he expects you to run around after him, then you deffo need to put the foot down. It's bad enough him not spending time with you and not being helpful, but if he expects you to run around after him as well... Sorry. Like I said, I'm trying not to stick my oar in TOO much, but don't be running around after him.

Going on a silent strike can be very effective... Makes them realise how good they've got it.

Big hugs love. I hope you get some rest.

I'm here! I'm here!

I've been... working again today.

Pebble - sorry to hear your dh is being an arse - I am afraid to say I know excactly where you are coming from - I have been sooo ready to leave recently, hugs to you, dont know whats wrong with them - glad your pains are better atn tho

Welcome Daisy, good luck with your section xx

LGT cakes look yummy - mmmm let me at em

My hospital back is finsihed yipeeee, finally got some pj's and a dressing gown from primark (£2 for dressing gown how fab), just picked up a baby bath, bath seat and top and tail bowls from my friend also bought her little bear vibrating rocker chair from her - she was going to ebay it but it is lovely so i nabbed it Just a waiting game now isnt it - twiddles fingers - am finishing my housekeeping job tomorrow - eight weeks 5 days and counting altho I am sure it will be earlier than that, this pg is going exactly the same way as dd - pain has been much much more managable today so got load done even went for lovely walk down the river

Evening all.

Still very tired so will have an early night tonight. Had a tutorial with one of my tutors today and they are so ruddy bloody useless! Asked her about what I'm going to do exam wise, ie can I take it early - 'Oh I don't know!' That's all I ever seem to hear. It's been the same answer for over a month now. I keep asking and asking, I just wish they'd listen to me and take me more seriously. I'm more than willing to do things and try hard and work etc, I'm prepared to do the exam earlier if I can which would mean I've had less prep time than everyone else, yet they keep fobbing me off. Might just have to get all hormonal on their ass', they'd soon give me answers

Bad news on the dad side of things. Found out tonight from my mum that he has a collapsed lung. All I could think was 'of course he does, what else.' Am starting to feel very out of control with everything at the minute and I don't like it, everything keeps going tits up! I've completely lost my appetite and haven't eaten any proper food in 2 days, am starting to think it may be stress related...... Feeling very sorry for myself, but then I feel even worse cause there are people with far worse things going on in their lives and here I am moaning. But I feel like everything I've been working so hard for is crumpling, and I'm almost at the 'what's the point in trying' stage!

I also keep getting unwanted attention from people who keep touching my bump, asking me what name I've picked - BABY BABY BABY! I'm sick of it, leave me alone! I feel like just hysterically laughing most of the time, curling up in a ball and hibernating until the end of May sounds good too.

Pebble - I'm very sorry to hear your feeling bad with regards to your DH. I agree with other posts - go on silent strike. Don't cook for him, don't do his washing or his ironing, don't clean up after him, make plans to do things (with or without him - show you can get on fine without him) - see how long he lasts. He'd be the first to cave I bet. Not my place to say at all but it sounds like he's maybe taking you a little bit forgranted. He should be helping you more not only because your pregnant but because he's a husband and a father. Go team pebble, will be thinking of you x

LG&T - 75! What are you? Your not human that's for sure, your like the superwoman of the cupcake world!

TYG - working, AGAIN? Is there something in the water, or has LG&T been feeding you her super cakes?

Indith - thanks for popping in and sharing that, have made a note of everything you said and will be looking into it all. Just something else to add to the ever growing list of things to do!

Glad to here SOH and MrsJB are having nice relaxing times, think they both deserve it.

Oh and welcome to daisy

Right, tonight I must eat! But what?????

s'ok. Does your uni not have a summer resit period? I've been told I can sit my exams inm August if need be.

Really am going now (if I stuff ds up my top though I could pretend to be pg.....)

Hello All!

I hope everyone is doing ok. I'm feeling good.

I went over my birth plan with her and a few of the things I want are not available. I said that I wanted to be able to eat and drink if possible, she said "No, not even water, and another Dr. in the practice doesn't allow ice chips, in case I need anestesia" Apparently that's standard. I asked for intermittant monitoring if baby and I are ok. She said, "No, after 4 centimeters it's constant monitoring" so I asked for a walking monitor to which she said, "if one is available and working", there were a few other things, but I was a little upset that the natural birth I wanted will be turned into an unnatural experience.

I told her that I dilated very quickly with ds and wondered if that was normal for an induction (4-10 centimeters in 45 minutes) She said no, and that is what my body would have done anyway. She told me to go in as soon as I know I'm in labor. Now the usual is when contractions are 4-5 minutes apart, since I went from 4-5 minutes to one on top of the other very quickly and I live 30 minutes from the hospital, I'm a little worried about giving birth in the car (which would be a very cool story to post).

Dh doesn't get what I'm worried about, he doesnt' see the big deal. Oh well. I'm glad I was able to vent to you guys.

Yes they have one in August but I'll be moving back to scotland over the summer and I'm at uni in Bristol so it'd be easier to just do the tests before I left at the begining of May. Don't know if they'll let me though, they won't give me any answers!

Thanks for all the support re Dh being an arse. I had been right he did wake up just as i got back from taking ds2 but he had the sense not to ask for me to cook him anything, i told him outright i was going to have a nap and that was that. Before he left for work he started going on about his paternity leave, I know it sounds horrible but I dont want him to have any time off. If he was going to be helping me then thats a different matter but I know he will end up going to the pub every night leaving me on my own so he may as well just carry on at work. The way i see it, the times i will need most help is during the day when im trying to entertain two children and look after a newborn but dh is at home then anyway, by the time he goes to work it will almost be time for them to go to bed so whats the point of him having time off.

Ive just bought a bath support for bubs, decided against a baby bath this time around because ds2 never liked his and i thought if i get a support seat then it will be easier to involve ds2 at bathtimes. Must check what other essentials i need, i think its only a few small bits now but you can bet there will be something i suddenly remember 1wk before that i have to rush out and buy

Has anyone had an email from Mars yet, i know she was hoping to send out them out tonight but so far ive not heard anything, maybe her client did go into labour afterall

MKG - I know it's not the done thing to go against the medical establishment in the US, but surely they can't force you to have monitoring???

Can the consultants refuse to treat you if you go against their wishes? It seems a bit odd. You know, you're paying for a private service, so you're the customer. They're supposed to do what you want (within reason of course). I'm sure it mentions in the Hypnobirthing book/ class that you can say, ask not to be prepared for an IV drip on arrival. That kind of thing.

I can't get over them not allowing you to eat. It's crazy. Stay at home as long as you can I guess. They can't stop you from eating there! Hopefully you'll be 8cm by the time you arrive.

You sound very together about it. I'm probably too stroppy. Hope you and DH are getting on ok. THe last time you were on you were pretty annoyed with him! Home to see you on here again soon.

for you Pebble. I wish I could give you a magic fix for this. Well, it's not really our place is it and I know even when you're annoyed with your DH, that sometimes it can make you feel worse when people go on about it. Suffice to say, I'm glad you stood your ground and had a nap. Hopefully next time it won't be a battle.

I hope your Dad gets better soon LW. Take care of yourself won't you? And the Uni will have to get their arse in gear soon. I don't suppose they can send your papers to the new Uni for you to sit there late summer? I'm sorry, I don't really know how Uni exams work. I suppose I'm saying think as laterally as possible. I'm disappointed in them that they're not helping you more. It still makes me mad, how they're treating you.

Okay all the email are sent out for the Secret Shower!

Let me know if you didn't get yours (after checking your spam bin etc).

Remember: The person you are sending to IS NOT sending to you!

It would be good if you put a little clue in the parcel that you send.

Have fun and I hope you get good gifts.

MarsLady

Mars - you are a star. Thank you for organising this for us all.

I now have to go back through the threads to see if i can pick any clues up

Got up at 6am with ds and have so far unloaded/reloaded the dishwsher, cleaned the kitchen, wiped the fridge out, put the recycling bin out and have now just started to munch my way through a bowl of honey nut loops.

Hoping to have a relatively quiet day today at work as bosses are going away for the weekend. I need to try and get myself sorted for my replacement that starts on Monday. Am starting to feel quite nervous about the whole thing now. When i went on leave last time i knew i was coming back and was like a spoilt child having their toys taken away from them But htis time i dont know if i am going back and that makes me feel weird for a different reason. My boss wanted me to hand my desk over and everything on it as of Monday so that the new girl can settle in straight away. Wasnt happy about it so called him last night and told him that i wasnt prepared to move until i actually leave as i havent had time to sort though my files etc and as i am still there for another 4 weeks it wasnt practical. Surprisingly he agreed.

I know this all sounds incredably trivial compared to some of the worries/issues you are having, so apologies, but i just needed to get it off my chest.

LG&T, when you heard from MrsJB was she on her french mobile? I messaged her the other day and last night and wasnt sure that i had the right number.

AM Wow you have been busy!! I was up 4 times with the poxy dog barking - he had raided the bin and wanted to go out, stuck to my guns and made him stay in bed, but he eventually got hs way at 7 grrrr flippin creature, glad you get to keep your desk tho

Have you aall seen snow forecast for monday - after all this lovely sunshine noooooooooooo

Off for my cuppa chat later xx

SNOW - surely not! Thats just wrong!!

Really must get ready for work as my boss called me yesterday morning asking me to actually be on time.......whoops

Hello all!

Not much to report here again today. What was a lovely sunny day has now become grey and overcast. We've had snow predicted for the next week too - can't quite believe that!

Pebble - just wanted to say that I hope you're feeling much better today. Also, my post yesterday was meant to be supportive and helpful; I really hope that I didn't cause you any offence. I certainly didn't mean to appear judgemental or to stick my oar in or to go on about your situation. If I have offended you, then I am truly sorry for that. I hope you're ok and physically feeling more comfortable today.

Its quiet on here again today.

Glucose Tolerance Test came back negative so all ok. Just eaten two cream slices and feel a bit sick now!

Was hoping it would be my last day (few hours) today but been here since 9.30 and still a while to go. My mat leave cover replacement is very good though its just that we have lots to go through still and the person who does the other three days resigned yesterday so we are not sure what we are going to do long term!

Very jealous of those finishing work.. my last day will be May 1st!

Well, went back to midwife for BP again and its gone up in a week from 80 to 82. She said if i see stars or feel ill to ring the labour ward direct and not to bother with the surgery and waiting for an appt! think that alone has pushed it up another few notches.

Nice corgi man came round today to do our fitting for the new gas hob. very excited. think we may have the kitchen finished by next weekend - will then post before and after photos. you can let me know whether to quit my day job and become a kitchen designer .

Just got home and think that might be it for work! Yipee I've finished until 24 January 2008 (unless I get called in next week Thursday or Friday as not supposed to finish until next Friday).

34 weeks today and counting.

Decided not to worry about what will happen at work - got lots more to think about.

Nearly New Sale tomorrow, hoping for a moses basket. Offered to help but didn't really expect to get a job on the list. Will be packing at til for an hour from 10 to 11 then on info table and sorting tickets which isn't so bad. Get to shop for 20 mins before the sale starts if you help so taking my mum to make the most of it (used to be in NCT and run the sale but gave up about 3 years ago - now need it again but will not be joining NCT again or getting that involved)

Evening all. Have yis missed me. I've been WORKING. AGAIN!

What's to become of us? Just leaving now. Poor boss is stuck in Paris for the night as all the trains were cancelled and every flight full. Worse places to end up, of course.

Off home now, once I deliver an eticket for a flight tomorrow to someone in the pub. I'm SUCH a nice assistant. Must be why they're buying me such nice pressies. Not that they know that I actually picked them and told my friend what to buy from the collection money of course.

I joined the NCT WEEKS ago... Not heard anything back yet. Hmm. Maybe it was only 3 weeks ago. I think they said 3-4 weeks for the pack to arrive.

Talk later ladies. Mwah!

Congrats on starting your maternity leave Sky. I wish i was still finishing work next Friday Good news about the GTT results though.

BB, i hope your bp doesnt go up too much. Try and take it easy with the kitchen!

Pebble, hope you have had a better day today.

Got home from work to discover that dh had started the painting early. Hallway is no longer sickly pale green and is now white (undercoat) and ready for the Magnolia coat tomorrow.

Good lord TYG working 3 straight days in a row!! I hope you have an easier week next week Not holding out hope of a leaving present as i am still waiting for a wedding present and that was 3yrs ago. What makes it worse is that a colleague got married in december and she has had her present!!

Can I be smug for a minute? Can I? Can I please?

I picked this Timi & Leslie Bag

and this Cashmere Shawl

and am getting John Lewis vouchers too!

Chuffed to bits. I do run around after a load of City-types and put up with their nonsense, so quite right they should put their hands in their pockets!

Wow TYG they are beautiful. Wow looks like you had a big collection!!