May 2017 #4

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Oh, obviously I do know how!

Nurse told me 20 weeks for whopping cough.

Had 16 week mw appointment yday. Checked BP, urine, blood results from hospital and all looked normal - phew! Reviewed screening results which were fine too. She was a stand in mw and much friendlier than my normal one. Let me hear the heartbeat which was lovely. Can't believe how fast it must be pumping away in there.

Mrsjw mw told me yesterday it's any time after 20 weeks for whooping cough. She said to book in after scan.

So after feeling fat and bloated for weeks I wore a new top today and all of a sudden have a proper bump! 16+4 today - here it is!!

Mine also said 20 weeks at the booking in appt.
She also said its up to me to remember,they won't send me any reminders and I am to book it myself at my surgery.

I reckon I'm having another boy. I don't know and I'm not going to find out but that's my guess. You don't care by the time you've been through labour anyway! The only downside i can think of to boys, and this is a massive generalisation, but when they are grown with their own families they (the family) tend to be closer to their mother's side.

Hi all, I'm 14 weeks tomorrow and have begun monitoring for a possibly incompetent cervix. Just wondered if anyone had any experience of this or any advice?
Thanks :)

I was monitored for that last time paige. Scans and cervix measurements every two weeks. No advice other than what my consultant told me. So no exercise, no heavy lifting and no sex. It was fine in the end. They monitored me closely and said there was no need for any intervention.

newbie and others. I won't be able to make coffee. Have to do the nursery run as dh has a late meeting. It's a constant juggle. Next time hopefully.

No sex!

Yep fox. It was a very long four months...

How can they tell there's a cervix issue this early?

Re whooping cough, my green notes say 28-38 weeks but there's a newer looking pamphlet in there too saying anytime after 20...

Does anyone else find the medical terminology around pregnancy odd.... who decided to call it incompetent?! I'm impressed they picked it up so early Peas it's good that they will keep an eye on you!

On whooping cough I have that same leaflet Tea, so I have it on my mw question list for my 16 wk appointment next week

Oh and ASOS tights... rubbish worn them twice and I have holes in 2 pairs!!

Sorry Paige!! How did my phone make peas from that?!

Here is my bump shot, first one is 14 weeks and the second is 16 weeks. Shocked at the difference.

Today I'm 16+4, felt a few flutters today. Had a few good days so hoping my sickness is over.

Got my midwife appointment on Tuesday.

nervousnelly not sure about tights but I just ordered some navy and grey leggings from New Look (was planning to use as tights under knee high boots)

1004Rise , laughing at "peas"! They've not picked it up in this pregnancy yet, they're unsure if it was a contributing factor to losing my first quite late back in April so are, thankfully, keeping an eye with fortnightly scans etc. I'm walking on eggshells wondering if there's anything else I can do to help myself but guess it's still just a case of trying to chill and not stress out too much.

Does anyone else find the medical terminology around pregnancy odd

Yes... Not only 'Incompetent cervix'... It's also a 'Geriatric pregnancy' if you're over 35! or only slightly better 'Advanced maternal age'

My favourite odd/gross pregnancy term though has to be "mucus plug"

adventure, bless you, sounds like it's been a bit of a confusing, overwhelming time for you! Totally understandable you had a melt down and I really appreciate your honesty in here, I'm sure you're not alone in feeling the way you do. As others have says I'm sure hormones are playing a big part alongside "what could have been". I bet when you meet that little person all will be well and you'll love eachother to bits. I have in my head that we're having a girl however i then think about how much my DH would prob love a boy to rough it down the yard with him (he's a mechanic). Mums and sons do have a special bond though :) like dads and daughters. Hope you're feeling a little better x

So it's not just me feeling fat and bloated then! Am I the only one who still try's to hold their stomach in?? I am a plonker. I'm pregnant!!!!

Anyone else feeling a bit detached from their baby? I'm guessing it's self preservation but hoping to feel more of a bond soon.... felt a bit sad about it this eve Feels a bit like a weird limbo land at the mo...

So I'm not usually bothered about weight but I've put on 7kg (15lb)
I shouldn't really be surprised since I can't stop eating without feeling sick so I've made the most of toast, but that's ridiculous!

Badger I didn't bond with 'baby' until it arrived last time, I think it's sort of not counting my chickens. Before birth it was just something inside me, not a proper 'baby', if that makes any sense? I expect it will be the same this time.

Autumn I put on over 15kg last time (!) - that's the last time I weighed myself and I think that was 3 weeks before he actually arrived....

Yes I've been a bit of an emotional mess for 48 hours. Everything everyone says to me makes total sense and I'm sure I'll be fine. I need to stop thinking so far into the future and just think about now !

Aww adventure I sympathise hugely, I had an irrational thing about having a girl last time and was a little deflated when we found out it was a boy. However finding out so early was really positive as I had ages to get used to it and it didn't matter a jot once he was born. I think I will feel briefly similar if we have another boy this time but I know little boys are awesome and DS fills me with joy every day!

Geriatric is terrible terminology! Do they still use elderly primigravida? Hope it's been (haha) retired! My doctor told me they've upped the 'older lady' limit from 35 to 38.

Haha badgerbird I could have written your post. Literally just yesterday I think I accepted that I'm pregnant n not just getting fatter. I was also feeling detached - since my sickness stopped a couple of weeks ago I was getting more nervous that I'd imagined everything. Hearing baby's heartbeat yesterday really helped and I think feeling movements will make me feel better too. Hang in there for another couple of weeks!

nelly I remember that exact feeling. It hadn't occurred to me that dd would be a complete stranger who I'd have to get to know. I remember when they moved us to the post natal ward, they wheeled me first in a chair and then dd and dh followed after, and I was scared I wouldn't recognise her when we got there.