July 2017 babies

[Diddlydokey]

Any joiners?

This will be dc2. Edd of July 2nd.

Not one symptom yet. Going to enjoy that and hope it lasts!

whyistherumgone I know it's so hard but please try not to worry, have you told anyone in RL that you can talk through things with? Is this your first DC?

Also whyistherumgone I think that's normal about your doctors appointment. I remember feeling very underwhelmed when I went to mine with DC1, I think it's more of a formality until they book you in to see a midwife.

Seahawk, the benefit of Harmony/Nifty for us was that it gave us a pretty much definitive result (99.99%) as opposed to the risk factor of 1:1700 (which is pretty low considering I was 40) that the NHS screening tests gave us. Plus it's non invasive, unlike amnio or CVS, and they can also tell you the sex from 10/11 weeks if you want to know (we didn't).

A friend had been given a fairly low risk by the NHS a few months earlier and the shock when her baby was diagnosed as having DS at birth took her a while to get her head around so I was especially keen to know as much as I could in advance.

I'm almost 43 now, and DP is 40, so we'll be having it again for that reason mainly. Last time we had it done at the FMC on Harley St. We did it at 15 weeks, so it was £500 for a package of mini-anomaly scan and the blood test. If it comes back positive I believe they will do an amnio/CVS free of charge. If you have it done between 11-13 weeks I think they do a nuchal translucency scan instead of the mini anomaly and it's a little cheaper. They were great and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend them.

We are fortunate that our local hospital now offers it as standard to mothers over a certain age, so we'll be able to save a bit of money this time around.

Hi mummy thanks :) Yes it is my first, can you tell?! Haha. We were thinking about starting to try next year so this was a little surprise - to be honest I think we are both still in shock even though we're married, financially secure etc

I veer between feeling very surreal and not really grasping that it's happened to feeling very anxious and 'expecting the worst'. I sort of wish I hadn't heard my friends' stories in such graphic detail now.

My DH knows but he is very much still getting his head around it too - we've had chats about how I feel quite anxious, but he's generally more laid back than me and has a (sensible) 'it's out of your control so we just need to wait it out for the 12 week scan' attitude. Feels like such a long time though!

Feel better for joining this thread though, it's nice to be able to have another outlet to chat about it, especially since I'm not planning on telling anyone else until we're as close to 12 weeks as possible or after we've done a 10 week private scan - currently weighing up whether it's worth it. Not sure if we get there and it's all well, it will make it worse if we get to 12 weeks and there's a problem.

Sorry to be so doom and gloom, I'm trying very hard to be a bit more laid back about it and not worry so much - it's crazy because I'm never normally a worrier, so that's new as well!

Welcome and congrats to new joiners for the jolly month of July!

Seahawk, that must have been quite some moment to get through, so glad it all turned out well.

Nothing to report here except nausea kicked in yesterday which is good news, but I'd forgotten how hard it is. It's the balance between getting breakfast in before I vomit, then keeping breakfast down and not vomiting. All about the not vomiting!

whyistherumgone I think it's very natural to feel anxious, I always think the surge or hormones cause a great deal of it so in a sense, we can't help but worry. Do keep letting your dh reassure yoh-this is number 4 for me and I have a daily 'please tell me why everything will be ok' session with him. I am worried about different things this time but it's all worry nonetheless.

Greesyduck thanks for the harmony info-you've made up my mind and we'll go for it. Wish my hospital did it for free though!

whyistherumgone I believe if there is a heartbeat and baby is measuring about right for your dates at 10 weeks your risk of miscarriage drops to 1℅, it's 2℅ from 8 weeks. That was the decider for me booking a private scan at just under 11 weeks. I figure it gives me a couple of weeks to get my head around any potential bad news before Christmas and also allows us to tell family at Christmas.

Thanks mummy yes it does seem that the news has come with a burst of immediate anxiety so maybe it will calm a little. I will speak to my m/w if I'm still feeling bad with it by the time I get to talk to her/see her.

Oh that's interesting thumbsup - I think it might swing my decision. I just figured that if we got to ten weeks and it was bad news, we'd at least know before Christmas so don't have to tell our folks, let them get excited then find out at the 12 week point.
I'm found one at the FMC in London that's £99 so might give them a call if we get to 8 weeks or so.

Hope everyone is feeling OK today, I don't have hardly any symptoms yet aside from feeling just not quite right and having VERY tender boobs (DH gave me a cuddle last night and it was agony! Poor bloke wondered what on earth he'd done!)

Happy Wednesday all...looking forward to chatting to you all in the coming weeks, already feel better for being here :)

How far along are you Mrs?

That should have been Thanks mrs in earlier post - oops, definitely feeling the effects of no caffeine! :p

Yeah that is annoying MrsBobDylan. I'm not sure if more NHS hospitals do actually offer it now and just don't advertise the fact on their websites. I only know that it's available at both of the London hospitals we are contemplating using from friends who have had it there. Certainly the hospital I had DD at didn't offer it two years ago, so it seems to be being taken up gradually.

I am finding that the wait to 7/8 weeks for a viability scan is doing my head in. Just want to know if there's a hb or not and, if not, to get it all sorted out asap. Just before Christmas is a tricky time. Do I want bad news beforehand - at least I'll be able to drink, or do I want to fret and worry all through the festive season. ARGH. It's my DD's birthday in a couple of weeks and I'm way too preoccupied with this!

Greedy thanks for the info that's really helpful. Which London hospitals were you looking at that do it? I'm currently veering towards Lewisham as I can literally walk there for appts and it's easy to then get to work but if I can get the harmony test elsewhere it's worth considering.

whyistherumgone - reading your post made me think I had maybe been sleep typing! Very much in the same position as you are: married, financially stable (well apart from me having just embarked on a life as a student) and we had always talked about kids as part of our future I just didn't realise it would be so soon. Once I had got my head round actually being pregnant I then began to feel nervous for the big life changes ahead but also super excited but and then you realise it is far too early to be thinking like that - like you, I have had friends who have struggled with mc and it is very confusing because you feel as though your in emotional limbo not knowing if you need to think and prepare for life with a baby or not(or atleast I do), all the time your body is quickly preparing! I am know 7 weeks and got my first appointment with the midwife today, we decided in the end to tell family as we live very close to all of them and felt that there support is important however things work out. The thought of waiting 2 weeks to see the midwife when I first found out felt like an age but has come around remarkably quickly!
Thinking that we are going to do a viability scan next week - I have read somewhere that a heartbeat at 8 weeks brings the stats of mc down - any views on this?

I have a viability scan this coming Sunday, I will be 8+1 then.

Dying with a cold at the minute too, doesn't help with the nausea in the mornings but trying to plough through.

Hi FiFi - yep exactly the same. I know exactly how you feel. I'm only 5 weeks and keep saying 'IF we get this far' etc
But don't feel like I can start planning or anything yet.
When I looked on the FMC website they do viability scans from 7 weeks - but Thumbsup up thread also posted to say your chances reduce at 8 weeks if there is a heartbeat and all well, and then again at 10 weeks, and then 12....

I have no idea when to expect my first m/w appointment, I found out quite early so guess I will be low priority for a little while - doctor said I would get a letter - unsure if that will be with a date of appointment or whether I will have to organise it myself off the back of that letter.

I feel like I can't think about anything else, and yet at the same time, I want to focus on other things so I don't worry and the time goes quicker!

Oh feel better Luci I've only got the sniffles and a bit blocked and that's bad enough.
How far along are you?

Sorry for the multiple posts - so scatterbrained today. Just seen that you've put how far along you'll be Luci (Doh!) good luck for your scan.

Seahawk, I think it's age dependent as to whether you're offered it, but the Whittington and UCLH do it. However, if you are south, I would try Kings . It may be referred to as NIPT rather than Harmony.

Hi Ladies, thank you for the statistics about how the risk of mc decreases dramatically after 8, 10, 12 wks, etc. This is the moment that it all has fallen into place and I actually feel very calm knowing that the chances of me carrying my baby to term increase at such an early stage. This is the type of information that will give us more reassurance more than anything else.

The nausea was quite severe yesterday and it was nicely finished off with heart burn in the evening. I have never had heart burn before and I wish not to have it again. Today I have had a strong(decaf) tea with crushed ginger in it and I think it is helping. I normally have a tsp of sugar in it but this time is actually going down very well without the sugar.

I will update the list later on today when I get home.

Thanks greedy Kings is my other option. I've been to the gynaecology / epu there a few times and they are great (apart from yesterday's disaster but they were lovely about it) so I'll do some research. DH was born there so could be a nice option!

whyistherumgoneI'm 5+6 today - I've been worrying about the lack of symptoms, then yesterday morning and evening felt very icky and wished I'd appreciated feeling more normal!

Hey - can I join please? I got my BFP yesterday not sure how the whole weeks / due dates work though. Online calculators put me at 3-4 weeks pregnant and due around 22nd-27th July. I know I ovulated 2 weeks ago tomorrow and last period begun 17th October. All the online calculators are asking for average cycle length but I'm finding this hard to work out as this is only my second cycle in 11 years as I was previously on the depo provera injection. My last (and only complete) cycle was 26 days with only an 8 day luteal phase so I'm surprised I've got pregnant on the second cycle - and now panicking about my :S

I'm waffling - sorry - just wanted to say hello lol!!!!

ah I'm similar mrs - 5+1 and no real symptoms apart from
feeling uncomfortably bloated (thought I had a bit longer before I had to worry about fitting in my clothes!) and boobs. But maybe I should just enjoy the feeling ok time?!

Hi cat congrats! The doctor worked out my due date by adding 40 weeks to the first date of my
last period. It's weird to get your head around as I was already four weeks when I found out although technically only two weeks from
date of conception!

I'm also 5+4 and barely feel any different, slightly sore boobs but that's it, even my bloating seems to have died down since Monday (although I'm pretty lardy so maybe it's just not so noticeable!) I keep freaking out and dp keeps reassuring me that I was exactly the same last time at this stage. You are all reassuring me.

Hello! I'm like CatRash, online calculators put me at end of July. However, I have a bunch of ovulation tests which I have never got round to using any of , and my periods have been a bit wonky over the last year. So I might have to change bus at some point, but here I am for the moment with my fingers crossed that everything sticks. This would be my second baby, the first is 3 now.