Due in April - blame it all on the hormones

[Katy44]

Inspiration at last!

Hello ladies thanks for all the pram tips I will be looking into it soon.

BIG MOAN ALERT ! ! !

Went to see my MW today it didn't really go as well as I hoped it would, in 2 weeks my blood pressure has risen by 6 points, so I am only 4 points away from being made to have complete bed rest for the res of the pg, which is around 10 weeks.

So it looks as if I will be starting maternity leave next week, and also getting a cleaner in to help me.

I haven't been able to get hold of DH to tell him the good news yet, but when I do I am going to have to lay down the law, he either gets someone in to help him with the rest of the building work that need to be done on our house or he stands the risk of losing both me and the DT's.

I know that may sound a bit dramatic but with my history of Mc's and still birth I don't want to risk these babies one bit.

It has put the shits up me something terrible, since she said that I can feel my heart beating all the time, I am trying to keep calm but it is really hard to do so.

On a lighter note the MW measured me and even though i am only 28 weeks i am measuring 34, lets hope that measurement mirror's how long I have left to go.

I totally agree that you need to put your feet up and take it easy - I know how knackered I am just carrying one and looking after me, never mind 2 and a toddler!!!

Has the nephew moved out yet?

11weeks - your comment on that thread made me laugh, did I finally make you crack??! I´m sorry but my bloody indecisiveness is famous and drives even those closest to me nuts! Your offer is very very sweet and generous, I´ll drop you an email shortly..

birdiebump - MEH is a great word! Sums up the feeling perfectly!

Ib3 - sorry about your bp but try not to get stressed over it (as always, easier said than done) and just see it as an early warning to ease off on EVERYTHING, as boring as that will probably be. The whole point of these appts is to catch everything early so we can do something about it, so try not to let your mind run away with possibles xx

I had my midwife appt today too, have put on 1.7 kg since last appt so just under 10kg (1.5 stone?) so far at 28 weeks. I am perfectly happy with that. Of course she went on again about how I should only look to put on 11kg in the whole pregnancy! We ended up having quite tense words where we more or less agreed that she would tell me what she had to tell me and I would ignore her completely unless there was any other indicator apart from weight that might point to a possible problem. Bitch.

1b3 - aww poor you honey. Others have already been more eloquent than me, but think your plan about ML and the cleaner sounds good and that you can sit down with DH and work out ways to make it easy on yourself. Hope he realises you are doing an amazing and mindblowing thing growing two babies inside you at once! I am in awe of you from what you've posted here - I'm already finding I have to take things easy and I have only 1 baby in there, work part time, and my DD is 4 already, so what with 2 babies, full-time(?) work, a toddler, the lovely nephew in tow, and the building works, you are doing so well to be even standing!

Maveta - well done for standing up to bitch midwife, you know you are right and she is just SOOOOOO wrong. Hang in there!

1B3 - well now your dh really has to listen and just let you rest for the remainder of this pregnancy. And no more of the bleedin' nephew. I hope you are able to just put your feet up and rest as much as possible - is there someone who can take dd off your hands each day?

MIABT - I can only echo what others have said about your neighbour. She is suffering from grief and wants to vent against someone, and that someone is evidently you. Could you bring yourself to talk to her face to face about this, or do you think the sight of your tum would just make things worse for her?

Well I've just seen my MW and I have to say she is completely fab! She is the same lady who delivered dd and she is just so easy to get on with, although she rips the piss out of me something rotten...she is totally pro a home-birth and says that I've got to make sure she's on duty when it happens...apparently all the student MWs love a home-birth too, so am likely to have one of them along for the ride. Had my bloods and anti-D done (ouch!), and although my bump is big (bigger than the other SE meet up's?), she thinks the baby is quite small (from feeling it) - lots of fluid, muscle (eh?), and me (i.e. blubber) making up the size of bump. She has put me in a really good mood, so yes am much happier than I was yesterday.

I think the thing that is going to be the hardest is poor DD, the MW has said that i can't even pick her up.
Yeah easier said than done.

Just spoke to DH and Iam quite impressed he has agreed that we do need to make some changes, he has even said that he will get someone in to help with the building work

1b3, Hope you get plenty of chances to get your feet up. My ds is going on four and I am struggling to keep up with him just now so you deserve a medal with everything you have got going on. Good that dh has taken what you said on board. Just make sure that he delivers on his promises now, we all know what men can be like!

Was chatting to my neighbour this afternoon who has had a for sale sign put up in her garden. Didnt realise she was even thinking of moving but it turns out that her dh has been having an affair while she was at home with her 2 ds's and its being going on for ages. Really felt for her, cant imagine what she has been going through lately and will be sorry to see her go as they have been lovely people to live next door to.

1b3, so glad your DH sounds like he's being sensible & hope he keeps it up. I'm feeling so unwieldy & it must be much harder with two inside. I don't think men can appreciate what a huge strain pregnancy puts on you physically, not experiencing it themselves. It would be OK if you could take your bump off from time to time for a wee rest but it is just relentless.

MIAM, big hugs for you - it's just horrible when you know someone has got things so wrong about you. Tili, am thinking of you too.

All quiet here. Just phoned my sister to wish her all the best for her induction tomorrow & hope she has quick labour.

Hi all

Miabt - Really feeling for you. I can't really think of any words of wisdom, just lots of to you.

Maveta - Lol at your cat stories

CD - Well done on passing your test!!!!

1B3 & Mammyjo- Really hope you both take it easy. Take care sweeties

Met my friend and her lo yesterday. We hadn't seen each other for nearly a year. She is due next Thursday, and I'm bigger than her Her dd is 5 mths older than Joshua, and they played so well together. She tries to mother him, and he tells her to go away LOL

Agree with all those feeling very uncomfy at the mo. This bump certainly gets into the weirdest positions - my tummy looks like it should be in Alien! Dh keeps saying he's sorry for giving such a big baby to carry told him if he wants anymore after this one, he can be like a seahorse and carry it!!!!LOL

sorry if I've missed anyone.

Going to have a cup of tea before my mum drops Joshua off. Making the most of "me" time!

xx

1B3 - hope things improve for you - not easy carry twins and having No. 1 to think about -I can relate to that totally

CD - congrats on passing your test

Mammyjo - I had low BP with ds through out the pg and with this one until 14 weeks - hope you feel better soon

Not sure how much longer I can last at work (only do 16 hrs over 3 days) it's not the work that the problem it's having an energetic 3 year old!!!!!!!

Hi everyone,
MIABT - feeling so sorry for you. I understand that it's fair enough to write what you think in a diary even if you're wrong, but it should be private - not on the internet! I think you need to avoid the situation for the sake of your own pregnancy, to avoid stress and upset.
Tilli - hope you are coping. Sorry to hear things have got so bad - please come on whenever you are able to and let us know how you're feeling.
Thanks to everyone who reassured me about the 6 hours - if it's all staring at the baby and taking photos then that's fine. Now justto wish for an uncomplicated birth!

Meant to say - 1b3 glad you've found out now and are taking it easy. I think it's the least you're due as you will be giving birth to 2 babies!!

Evening everyone. Have missed loads! Dh has been working from home today and has hogged the laptop all day - boo hiss! So, have now taken an age to catch up, but have made notes! Here goes:

MIABT I am so sorry to hear of the situation you are in. I remember you posting about going to the funeral and how dreadful it was. By the sounds of it, you have been incredibly supportive. I can appreciate it must be horrendous to lose a baby, but I thnk this is very unfair for you. I don't know what to suggest really, but I would keep her at arms length as I think you have done all you can and have enough on your plate. Huge hugs to you sweetheart.

TILI - I am pleased to hear you had a good birthday, but very sorry to hear things aren't good for you at the moment. As others have said, we are here to listen if it is of any help. Thinking of you.

FLUMP - glad the trip to Bathgate went well, albeit with your ds ending up in A&E. Hope he is ok, and good luck with the move when it happens.

MAMMYJO - sorry to hear you have been experiencing low bp, but great that you have been signed off and can relax. Take it easy.

TWINKLE - hello! I was wondering where you had got to!

BIRDIE - sorry to hear you are poorly again - you seem to be having a real run of it. Also, hope whatever troubles you have are not getting you down too badly. Again, we are here if you need us. xx

1B3 - Really hope you can get the rest you need. Sounds like dh is being sensible too which is always a help. Take it easy.

EMMY - really pleased the mw appointment went well. You sound really upbeat today.

And, lots of hugs to everyone tha I haven't mentioned!

Not much going on here. Had a crap night last night - couldn't get comfortable and ended up going to the spare room, as the sound of dh breathing was annoying me!!
Feel v v v tired and so uncomfortable as well. Everyone says how neat bump is, but I feel so heavy. I keep dropping stuff as well, and getting down and getting back up is killing me! Cannot wait to get it out now.
Dh is ot being v helpful either, as he is working like a dog. Worked until midnight last night and probably the same tonight.

Right, whinge over. Time to fill my face!!

Evening all - Reflux is v.bad this evening, Bump is wriggling a lot and I am v.uncomfy and tired - Yuk! Feeling a bit like a crappy mummy cos I just want some rest and peace and quiet!!!!!!! Not going to get any though ......

Ahem.

@ monster ear infection Twinkle - Good to "see" you though honey! Hope it clears up soon, poor thing. [hugs]

[[hugs]] to everyone else feeling ill / crappy as well!

1B3 - @ your high BP - hoping and praying it doesn't raise any higher; but like others have said already - not a huge surprise is it!!!? I admire your tenacity, diplomacy and strength coping with everything on your plate - You are amazing!! You always sound so positive! Has N gone yet?? Yey for getting a cleaner and starting maternity sooner - fab - make the most of it!!!!!

I want a cleaner!!!!!

LOL @ "seahorse" comment runny .... I bloomin' wish.....

,,,,and I can vouch for EmmyMummy's big old bump - It was truly magnificent!!

Hi all
MIAM - you've been having a crap time recently, I see; I am so sorry I think you'll just have to let the friendship go entirely, and that includes not reading the blog...although how many of us could honestly say we know we'd manage to do something as sensible as that???

I have been feeling a bit low, with yet another cough (my third) and my tooth playing up again. So I ordered my Amby Nest and accessories, and an electric breast pump and accessories, so at least I feel I have achieved something . I had a hand-pump when bfing DS but tbh that wasn't my best buy, and I hear great things of the electric. I don't need to express copious amounts (unless things go drastically wrong, of course!), just enough to cover a couple of bottles a week, so this was terribly extravagant and I don't care!

eca Cambridge is really nice, isn't it? Maybe a good place for a post-natal meet-up of East Anglians?

[[hugs] to you Bugmum - hoping the nasty cough goes away soon!!

Thanks, CD. Tbh, I'm more bothered by the tooth. Dear oh dear, there's always something, isn't there? In retrospect, I sailed through my pregnancy with DS, in comparison to this one, and I can't even say I'm having a particularly bad time, compared to many.

CD - Big old bump???? How very dare you!

good evening folks just spent an age reading posts from past coupl eof days - copious notes taken so here goes....

MIAM - poor poor u with the dog and then the neighbour. not the kind of stuf you need at all. i cant add anything to do but just re the neighbour / friend - somethines its better not to get sucked into others issues. she is going to have to find the support to deal with others being pg and having babies. u need to look after u. xo
liath - good luck for your sis - hope it goes well. have dropped you an email. loved the idea of yr Lo being a teabag with a wig!
11weeks - hope u r ok. glad u still got yr hideaway in teh spare room now that mum isnt there to stay?
birdiebump - hope you are ok and i do for tili. hugs, hugs hugs
eca - i have bought a hypnobirthing book - which isnt really me but it came with a cd. i have been listening to it on my comute and it is fab. totally chills me out - email me if you want a copy? L dot thompson773 at hotmail dt com

flump - fab bews that the house is great i know i felt a wave on monday! looking forward to seeing you up here
mammyjo - glad you are now of on maternity- feet up and rest!
maveta - i agree - yr MW is a bitch. PAH to her.
1b3 - glad dh is being on the ball and hope u r gonna be able to rest up.
ellie - glad you had soapy bubbly fun at the weekend with dp lol lol lol at the tumbleweed!
no doubt missed some folks out - pesha - where are you??

oh - meant to say - we went to our class last night. really glad we did. didnt learn anything that i hadnt heard on here or read about but it was nice to be among other bumps. dp was great - really pleased and proud of him when he led the blokes discussion. I was a bit at tales of other dp/dh behaviour so dp gone up in my estimation. (one woman has been given an allowance of £300 to get everything for the Lo whilst hubby is saving for new golf clubs and car!) the class leader was a bit scatterbrained and kept getting lost in what she was doing but pleasant jolly lady.
roll on class 2 and stages of labour!

Emmymummy, lol at "how very dare you"! I love Catherine Tate, particularly the "what a F** liberty"!!

I can often imagine people saying that behind people's backs!

WO, really glad the class went well. I found that I knew a lot of what was being talked about, but it was quite good to listen to questions from others that I hadn't thought about - and of course the social aspect!

anyone on here? stopped crying enough to type and need a chat

EllieK, so sorry there was no-one on last night. What's happened? Hope you're OK
I'll be around until about half past 8 if you want to talk and by then I would imagine there'll be lots of people on.
Sending you hugs xxxx

ellie - sorry i missed you/ hope you were ok. will be around off / on all day . xo

I'm here too now Ellie... you ok?