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Due in February 2017....thread 5!

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SkyLucy · 30/07/2016 15:39

Thread five for the chattiest bunch of preggers ladies you've ever had the pleasure of encountering. We're greeting the second trimester with excitement and apprehension, and lots of questions, humour, reassurance, empathy and advice.

Fourth thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2684139-february-2017-thread-4-are-we-the-chattiest-bunch-or-what

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Shellbell0403 · 07/08/2016 09:25

So this morning I have caught myself looking at cribs and cots and what scheme I'm going to have 🙈 Oh dear! Haha xx

Dreamingoutloud7 · 07/08/2016 09:28

shell I've been doing that for weeks, secretly so as not to tempt fate Wink
We have a lot going on from now until Christmas though so we are going to have to be really organised at getting ready, so really it's just sensible to do early research.....Grin

Shellbell0403 · 07/08/2016 09:37

dreaming i cent decide between a moses basket and a swinging crib 😂 if only that was the only thing I needed would worry about haha x

LaceyLee · 07/08/2016 09:40

shellbell I would definitely recommend a swinging crib. We had a Moses basket that our dd hated being put in to. Eventually got a cheap crib and it made such a difference! I'm not even bothering with the Moses this time, swinging crib all the way.

I'm excited that I'm in the 2nd tri now, 14 weeks yay! Hope everyone has a good Sunday.

Shellbell0403 · 07/08/2016 09:42

lacey are they heavy to carry like between rooms etc?

Wonderlust123 · 07/08/2016 10:08

Lacey Lee, I'm now finishing 12 weeks, but feel so much better about everything now the initial worry is over, have started telling people etc, even started thonking about names. Enjoy your 2nd trimester :)

Bumblebee33 · 07/08/2016 10:12

I will get a Moses basket for sure. It made it so easy to carry my daughter between rooms during the day and then upstairs at the end of an evening. We used it so much that it was listing to one side by the time we moved her into her cot, which is why we will need to buy a new one. It was a very sad day when we got rid of it!

Ubercorn · 07/08/2016 10:17

Diva, Google the Family Information Service for your area. It's a council run service that has details of all the childcare providers in your area. There'll also be a support team you can contact for further information. Often I'll get an email from my local support team that's been sent to all providers in the area saying things like "family needs childcare for two children aged xx and xx, picking up from xxxxxx school" and then details of the hours needed. If anyone can fit the bill then they email back and the support team passes their details to the family.

www.childcare.co.uk is another good place to look for providers in your area.

All chilinders set their own fees and to a certain extent their own policies (there are some that you must have by law and the rest are up to yourself) so lots do charge a retainer in the holidays of half fees to hold your place open for you. I don't charge in the holidays, I have young children so holidays off is a bonus to me. I know own I'm not the only childminder who does this so definitely worth checking the above sites, most who do it will have something like "term time contracts available" as part of their listing.

Scottish, it's worth visiting some settings to get a feel for which you like best. Trusting your instinct is important when it comes to choosing childcare. Someone could have an outstanding Ofsted report but if they rub you up the wrong way then you're not going to be happy leaving your child with them and, ultimately, you do need to be happy leaving your child with them. Nurseries and childminders should be able to arrange visits for a look around so once you're further down the line, make a shortlist of a few different providers and see which you like best. You'll know your baby's personality by then too and will know which setting would suit them best.

LaceyLee · 07/08/2016 10:37

Shell that is an issue as we could really carry her in the crib we got. But we never really could either with the Moses cos she didn't sleep well in it. Maybe get both if you can get them cheaply enough.

wonder that's just how I'm feeling Smile

ScottishSnowflake · 07/08/2016 10:42

Thanks uber, that's really helpful!

SpinALittleFaster · 07/08/2016 10:53

shell we used the pram bassinet downstairs so didn't need to move anything. Tbh though she spent more time sleeping on us during the day than anywhere else. She was a reflux baby and hated being flat on her back.

Dreamingoutloud7 · 07/08/2016 12:21

We're looking at getting the Chicco next to me, and using the Pram carrycot throughout the day (which is safe for overnight sleeping) have heard the sleepyheads are really good too.
I have a feeling whatever we buy the baby will want something else!

Wonderlust123 · 07/08/2016 12:42

So many choices!

SBSparkles · 07/08/2016 12:48

Ubercorn what did you have to do to become a child minder? I was thinking of doing it so I can work but still be with my baby. My house/ living room is quite small and I don't drive. I am a qualified early years teacher with QTS and I'm DBS checked.

wispaxmas · 07/08/2016 12:56

I can't recommend bedside cribs enough on this topic. We rented a bednest and it was fabulous last time. I'm going to either buy or rent similar, if not the same, this time. My DD would have outgrown a Moses basket within weeks as she was such a big baby and never lost weight. Also, during the day I had planned for her to sleep in the carrycot from the pram, but she had other ideas and decided that she would only sleep on my chest, in the sling, or every now and then in the utterly expensive space-age mamaroo. I know loads of people who swore by poddle pods for daytime naps, though. I couldn't put my DD down much at all. She didn't have reflux (not even silent reflux as so many people told me she might have), but was just a really unhappy colicky baby. No known cause whatsoever, but as soon as she was 4 months old she would happily sleep in the cot in the nursery for naps and stopped needing to be held upright all the time. Weird. Babies all have such different needs, it's best to be prepared for them not taking to the sleeping arrangements you've set up!

SBSparkles · 07/08/2016 13:39

Anyone else suddenly feel/look really pregnant? My tummy is sticking out even when I'm lying on my back! And my boobs are bigger and harder! (Sorry if TMI!!) im 15+1 today.

Ubercorn · 07/08/2016 13:50

Sparkles, I did a home child care course. It was called CYPOP-5 and I was lucky enough to do it via Banardos because there was a shortage of childcare in my area. Your nearest college or adult learning centre will have details on their website. I had to have a level two paediatric first aid qualification and a food hygiene qualification too. Then once all that was done I needed the various registrations. I'm registered with my local authority and the local food hygiene team, also with the Information Commissioners Office (I hold personal information so have to follow data protection law), and had to take out personal liability insurance. Everyone in the house over the age of 16 has to be DBS checked and registered to the update service too. Then of course had to register with Ofsted once all that was in place.

It sounds a lot on paper and seems quite daunting but it's all done step by step so it's easier to manage. Courses cost around £200- £300 but usually include the food hygiene and some will include the first aid too. Liability insurance is around £50 a year. Information Commissioners registration is £35 a year. Ofsted registration is £35 a year. DBS was £50 when I did mine plus £18 a year for the update service. You can apply for a one off grant of £250 from the government which covers a lot of the costs but only once you've registered with Ofsted.

I can't drive and the house we lived in when we registered had a tiny front room too but I had the kitchen and garden available for work activities and explained that we also made use of local spaces like the parks, library, playgroup and children's centre. Ofsted were fine with that. You don't need a huge house or dedicated playroom so long as you can explain how you'll use what you do have in order to meet the requirements of the EYFS curriculum.

I became a childminder so I could be home with the kids. My mam was looking after them while I worked then while I was on maternity leave with DC3 she was offered a promotion at work but it was full time. When I looked into childcare I couldn't find anyone who could take all three DC or who could start at 6am or who could pick up from DS1's school at 3pm so I decided to do it myself.

gumbootsandjandals · 07/08/2016 13:59

Sparkles I don't tend to get a nice round bump to start with, I just look a bit porky. I suddenly poked out at 13 weeks.

We were given a lovely M&P moses basket for our first. Have used it for both kids but 25th centile DD outgrew it at 8w and (at the time) 50th centile DS outgrew it at 6 weeks. They both then went in a cotbed in the next room, literally 4.5m away from me. I really want something different this time so baby can room in with us a bit longer but hubby isn't keen to buy something new. On the plus side I believe the fact they were in a different room probably helped them sleep through fairly early on. If we move house (which is a strong possibility) and baby's room isn't close by then I will insist on renting a bed nest I think. Unless SIL offers her snoozepod...

Ubercorn · 07/08/2016 14:08

We've got to move DC3 out of our room. He's still in his cotbed in the corner, he starts off in there when he goes to bed at 7pm then gets in with us for the rest of the night from around midnight onwards. He coslept with us, we didn't plan to but he had other ideas, and the cotbed in the corner where he starts off is the stop-gap on the way to his own bed. DD and DS1 are currently sharing a room after they begged for DD to be allowed to have the bottom bunk in the boys' room.

The plan is to redecorate the small bedroom and move DD into there. DS2 will then go into the bottom bunk in DS1's room. Baby will be in a swinging crib downstairs (a friend is giving us their crib) and for upstairs I'll put a moses basket inside the cotbed. It makes it easier for me to lift the baby in/out because I can use the handles rather than leaning over and nights when baby wants to cluster feed I can put the basket in the middle of my bed and just reach in/out rather than constantly getting up and down.

SBSparkles · 07/08/2016 14:20

Ubercorn thank you so much for that very detailed reply! I should probably start looking into it now really! Unfortunately our garden has stones and a pond! So might not be useable but we do have a park nearby. You never know we might move house before then! Thanks again x

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 07/08/2016 14:23

I'm in two minds whether to buy a next to me crib.

We still have DS's Moses basket which was lovely to use during the day, but I found the most difficult part was lifting him from our bed after a night feed back in to his basket. The lifting up and motion downwards alway woke him.

We did end up co-sleeping, but I found I never really got a decent sleep as I was always on edge having him in our bed.

Also, we had the awkward stage where he was too big for his Moses basket (was always terrified that is weight would topple it over) but still too small for his cot-bed.

Wonderlust123 · 07/08/2016 14:45

Excuse the ignorance, but would it be not possible for a newborn to go straight into a cot? Is that because of the size of it?

It seems a bit much money-wise to buy a moses basket or whatnot if it's only going to be used for a few weeks or a couple of months.

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 07/08/2016 14:58

Our cot bed was far too big to go in our bedroom, and I think newborns prefer the feeling of being cocooned rather than left in a vast cot. Although saying that, a friend of mine DS did not get along with his Moses basket and did go in his cot from very early on.

A Moses basket was also very convenient to move the baby from one room to the next. DS Did a lot of his early days sleeping in his Moses basket in front of the patio doors of our living room.

Wonderlust123 · 07/08/2016 15:05

IfAtFirst, how long did you use the moses basket for?

FriendlyGhost · 07/08/2016 15:21

I can't recommend the sleepyhead highly enough. Dd wouldn't sleep in her Moses basket or cot and just wanted to sleep on me. As soon as I introduced it she was happy to sleep in there. I used it for co sleeping and she's now in the larger size in her cot. I'm going to get a co sleeper and use my sleepyhead in that for this baby.