Due in May 2007 - Thread for w/c 15/01/07

[twelveyeargap]

This week.

Morning all

I have had a cough since well before xmas and its now really irritating me, giving me a headache and really sore throat so I've made a Drs appointment for tomorrow. Probably nothing much but at least I'll know.

SOH you could be right about your MIL and its nice of you to try and think of something to include her. My DP is the youngest of 3 and I don't think they ever thought he would leave home and start a family so its been a bit of a surprise/wrench for them. His mum has Parkinsons and lots of related problems and apparently she keeps getting upset because she doesn't think we want her to even hold the baby. I'm quite shy (in RL) and she is very quiet and introvert so sometimes I struggle to even talk to her and she probably thinks I am very stand offish and don't want their help but its just the opposite really.

Gosh, sorry you're all feeling crap.

I am over the moon. We have a very healthy baby and it's got all it's fingers and toes and yes, that extra bit that makes it a boy!

DH is over the moon, I'm still coming to terms with it. But very very happy all is well.

Befnalbub - you were sitting next to me in the waiting roomI think (against the wall), and were called in first?

Hope it all went well for you too.

sorry you lovely ladies are not feeling good.

FIL has gone and now I can relax it has been so lovely having him here but I have had to be less lazy.

Great news on your healthy blue one JL, can't beleive you were in the same room as another May O7er and didn't say anything to each other?????????????????????????????????

I would have been staight in there, excuse me are you JucyLucy, lol, may have produced a slap if I'd have got it wrong. hehe.

Ironing today, boring. Rest up those that feel rough, hope you get better soon.

Congrats on your blue one JL. I probably wouldn't have spoken in the waiting room either - too shy!

Think I came over all shy FSF - not like me normally. Buried my head in the paper (God I'm 13)

Also, didn't know what to say! It's a bit of a funny one. You sort of want to, but don't want to get it wrong! Yes, opportunity missed!

Great news Juicy

Got any nice pics?

a very shamefaced hello . In my pregnancy idiocy I though you had brown hair JL. I was listening out for a loud Geordie accent but all was very quiet and I felt very shy too. On the way back DP said, 'wasn't that her there with the red hair?' as I had read your post to him - he kicked himself for not telling me!

Very odd - at least we know what we look like now so can venture a further meet up more successfully!

Scan went well but avoided down there area completely (even sonographer didn't check while we looked away so if it has problems it'll be my fault for not being more nosey!). Will post photo once its been scanned in.

Don't know if any of you read the Funniest bit of childbirth thread - but it had me in tears of laugher yesterday - definitely a good one if you need of a good laugh.

JL - really sorry to have been so crap - feel a bit of an idiot now...

All - what is the easiest way to try and find a counsellor in the UK? My DH suffers from seasonal depression (in autumn) which is really bad this year and I'm struggling with getting him to deal with it. I'm also having ongoing issues with trying to get him to be more helpful round the house. I think we need a relationship tuneup before this little bean comes along.

I'm not sure how to manage it anymore (hormones aren't helping) and would prefer to have a 3rd party (male - to make him feel more comfortable) there to talk through our stuff and then maybe tackle his stuff on his own.

Any thoughts?

Cinnamontam - sorry can't give you any advise. Hope you find some help. Can't light therepy / heat lamps / sunbeds help with the winter blues - or am I confusing conditions.

Befnalbub - I kept talking to DH hoping he would reply loudly, but he was being very low key (not like him!). We are both officially crap! Will do better next time.

Sorry befnalbub and JL, didn't mean to make you feel embarrased about not talking to each other, I'm just a loud mouth and will talk to anyone, anywhere. lg&t will tell you, I waltzed straight up to her in the park when we met, think I even planted a kiss on her cheek, can't remember now, thats the Fench in me though if I did. I can just imagine the thoughts in your heads, Is that her?, Isn't it?, should I say something?, shouldn't I.

As you say, perfect opportunity for a meet sometime in the future now you've both had a sneak preview. lol

Glad both of your scans were good.

cinnamontam, try a call to your gp, he will be ble to give you some advice. I have no personal experience, but maybe some body like relate may help. You should get a number off the net for them, but your local gp surgery should also have one. Good luck, sure my dad has the same thing he is a pain in the arse and miserable all Autumn and Winter and full of life through spring and summer.

Thanks. Being Australian I figured there was a well worn path for this kind of thing but just wasn't sure of how it worked in the UK.

Congrats JL, a lovely blue one. I do so love boys

FSF and i have shared a kiss... i would have moved in for one too if she wasnt so damned fast

So funny to think of both of you in the same room and not speaking!!!! You should have worn a badge

Im feeling worse than ever, sat down with Hugs at 1030 and woke at 12 to the phone (dh) now i am leaking snot and watery eyes everywhere. I just want to curl up and die, i never get ill. If i do it lasts 24 hours and is gone but im feeling quite ominous about this, not sure why. One of the twins was coughing and said he had a sore throat too this morning so i expect he will be like this tomorrow, the other twin always gets whatever it is within 24 hours....oh bollox. I could be in for some time

Cant remember what anyone else posted...doh! Will look and add more

FSF is right i think, relate may be able to help Cinnamontam. They will at least know who you can ask if they are not sure.

SOH you sound very thoughtful, your MIL is lucky to have you! Im sure she would love being made more involved, does she knit? Im despreate for a knitting granny, i love the Debbie Bliss books for knitting, they are rammed full of cute creations. Taking her to a midwife appointment might also be nice, she would be able to hear the heartbeat and see how different it all is now. My mum still loves coming (when we lived near each other) she talks alot the midwife always laughed. Mine was there when i gave birth (every time) but that may be a bridge too far for you!

Lunch time now, was going to make soup but it's too late now. Am off to raid the fridge.. Can i get anyone anything?

LGT sorry you are feeling pants, you eat so well, are you always like that, I try but am failing miserabley

Creena Dont know what to say about your fella except I understand how frustrating it can be, mine is a lazy so and so with no motivation to self improve and I do think of leaving, but he always seems to redeem himself (just), dont know what to suggest hun, its a hard situation

Juicy congtrats on your blue one, glad all is ok

Befenalbub glad your scan wak ok too

I have just been to my aquanatal class - boy it was quite hard, defiantley felt like I had done something at the end, but in a good way, funny thing was instructor said when you get out of the pool take a moment to steady yourself you will really notice your weight - I felt like ten ton tessie, the water had felt so good and when I got out it was a bit mad - there was only 2 of us in the class, lady who is due march, will definatly be going next week, had to celebrate my goodness with 2 lg biccies from subway, cadburies choc trifle (light of course) and smoked salmon and cream cheese baguette lol - well one must keep the good bad balance

Hope ev1 feels ok soon

I loved aquanatal lupins, i went when prg with the twins. I remember getting out of the water and thinking ohmigod....im sooooo heavy!

I am a food fanatic but i still eat the rubbish too, im ok as long as it isnt in the house. If i shop i dont buy it, the kids lunchbox stuff (i make 4 every day grrrrr) is counted out. They would just eat and eat if i had loads of junk in the house and i would be soooo broke. Thats why i bake alot too, to fill the buggers up and so i can have something nice to munch on

I have just eaten a ham and tom sandwich and rubbish cup a soup. I did buy hot cross buns though (far toooo faffy to make) so they are calling me now!

I am pushcair buying, i lent Hugs mclaren to a friend before xmas and her builders have cement covered it I have a phil and teds but i just need a light one for doing the school dash. Am torn between a quinny zap ( i could put the baby car seat on it after it's born) or another mcclaren? Anyone help with this?

I really want to do an Aquanatal class but they're all in the middle of the day when I'm working!

All this food chat is making me hungry and I've only just had lunch- granary rolls with Chinese chicken, red peppers and rocket. Yummy but not filling enough. Have minty lamb hotpot in the slow cooker at home though so will be having that tonight.

LOL at you shy pair. I'm incredibly shy in RL, painfully so and would have been hiding in the corner too. I'm also shy with my MIL (even after 8yrs) so worry like SkyTV that she thinks I'm stand-offish. I'm not, I'm socially inept which is entirely different. She came to my 20wk scan and I bought her a picture of it so she felt included. Just trying to think of something else to do with her so she can feel involved.

She's not a knitter but my Mum, Grandmas, Aunts and me are. Already have lots of lovely little cardies. My brother (6 foot power lifter, tattoos and piercings) knits too and is crocheting a blanket. I'm knitting a teddybear and making a patchwork throw for the nursery and have some fabric for making slings. It's a hive of activity chez SOH. Apart from in the case of MrSOH who is not making anything other than a mess.

I don't have the joy of buying a pushchair to look forward to- my brother has donated an unused SilverCross, does everything, super-duper travel system to us. Can't work the thing for toffee but I'm assured it's very good. Lupins' question about healthily you eat reminds me of something. Apparently at about 3am today I woke up and had this conversation with DH:

Me: (sleepy) I'm going to be a bad mother
DH: (placatingly) No you're not, you'll be a wonderful mother
Me: (indignant) No I won't. I want to be like LG&T
DH: (concerned for wife's sanity) Who's she?
Me: (exasperated) My heroine

At this point it is alleged that I turned face down into the pillow and went back to sleep. No recollection of this event at all! It's true though, all that baking, cleaning, bike-riding etc makes me feel like such a slattern. You really are Super-Mum. I could make you a cape...

Right come on then, tell me what I can do about this flippin' trapped nerve in my back in absence of ability to take anti-inflammatories. It's agony. Whinge over.

Craving this week: lemon squash.

Do you have any of the Debbie Bliss books? Can you recommend one. Might buy one for my Mum for mother's day.

LGT my concern with the zapp is how flat they lie - even at its flatest its still quite upright, I tried dd in one and wouldnt have been happy with her or especially a smaller chile sleeping in it, have to say tho quinny footmuffs are fab, I have quinny speedi xs, for park, local shops ect, but it is wayyyy to big for the bus, am thinking of micralite with carrycot - again unsure about the lay down thing, I am a stickler for these babies you see sleeping with crookd necks it really bugs me, maclaren - good buggies - just gave my techno xt to friend - would consider another one but would ideally like something differant - if you come up with anything let me know - right better dash late for school pick up lol

lg&t, Grannie is a knitter, she will gladly knitt away for you if you tell her what you want. She's always looking for something new to knit. Be ready for the onlslaught of kntted garments though, I have box full of Grannie knitted cardigans, she gave me another one when we were over in December for No3.

Hello - I don't get on very often but I'm shy too and like to stay in the background (which is silly as it's anon) anyway was reading SOH post about sad MIL - I had the same when I was pg with dd unfortunately fil died when I was 23 weeks gone so mil was obviously grieving but was definitely having trouble letting dh go and start his own family - so I tried to involve her by taking her to scans and to pick buggies etc etc which seemed to really help!

Debbie bliss books I love Baby Knits for Begginers really quick simple patterns, but I have also just got a lovely trendy toys one which I will go and dig out the name of.

Hi guys - ooh soo glad you brought up knitting. I want to give it another go, but I need a bood beginner's book. Are the Bliss books very advanced?? I started a scarf when I was pg with DS and only ever got 4cm into it as the needles I had to use were teeny tiny!!!

Craving: almond croissants - M&S - not just any croissants...

Scan on Fri - can't think about it, so nervous!!!