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July 2016 Babies (8) - 3rd trimester here we come

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Ellizardo · 09/04/2016 08:24

Hoping this works as total techno-luddite! Happy Saturdays all.

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SpeakNoWords · 20/05/2016 13:50

fifi so sorry this has happened, but you are in the right place - I think you did amazingly well to persist with getting checked out.

I hope the doctors are just being very cautious whilst they work out exactly what's going on and what is the best course of action.

Flowers
FifiRebel · 20/05/2016 14:15

Thank you all. It's not too bad in here so far, had one more monitoring session and all okay. Just sitting tight I guess. Hospital food surprisingly okay!

tams13 · 20/05/2016 14:32

fifi So glad you went in and that the midwife thought to send you for a scan. Fingers crossed you find out more soon but at least you're in the right place. Everything I've read about preterm birth has been pretty positive from 30 weeks on (although special care is often used to help them along to begin with) so try not to worry too much about that. Thinking of you. At least your mum is about to help too!

Thom80 · 20/05/2016 14:41

fifi - I hope you are ok and thinking of you. Hope your mum is with you for support. I don't know anything about the condition but it sounds like the clinicians are doing everything they should be & looking after you will. You should get someone to bring you in cake & treats. Let me know how you get. I assume they are giving you steroid injections to help the babies lungs. Sending lots of positive thoughts.
anna it looks like we might be exchanging next week and then moving in the following week. I have little to no confidence in that happening! I am going to go home this evening to fill some boxes.

Lulabells · 20/05/2016 15:39

Fifi so sorry to hear what you have been through the last 24 hours. I'm afraid I don't have any knowledge to offer but well done for going in in the first place! You said you were only 30 weeks and I know it seems really early but my friend had her baby at 30 weeks due to pre eclampsia and all turned out fine (she is 8 years now!).

Sending you lots of hugs. Remember we are all hear if you need us! Xx Flowers

FifiRebel · 20/05/2016 16:00

Okay all caught up!

lulabells I am so jealous of the dyson handheld! I think my friend has the same one, does it have a long handle as normal so you don't need to bend?

Things I'm looking forward to post baby: having a nice glass of wine with a big platter of salami, Parma ham and cheese 😍 and as much tea as I want! Feeling naughty today as I'm on my 4th cup but they keep offering it at hospital so I guess it's doctors orders?!

loopy thanks for tightening from back tip, think I can feel that working.

bluebell love that bowl idea from midwife!! Think I agree with you, not sure I would actually do it but might change my mind if I have a c section

julfin omg don't mention nair! I am horrific down below and now stuffed as I've been admitted! I don't care too much but it is v overgrown. Oops!

I also feel your pain about work. I had a bit of a meltdown the other week and had a good chat with my manager to reduce responsibilities ahead of mat leave. Is there anyway you can do something similar?

tams thank you for reassurance, you've prompted me to do some reading on 30+ care etc. Google didn't really come up with much for the placenta issue.

thom and lulabells thank you too, I'll keep everyone posted.

I'm really touched by everyone's support already. I think I've mentioned before that the baby's father isn't involved at all so it means so much to be able to chat on here.

Has anyone been using coconut oil for stretch marks? I had a jar in the cupboard that I bought to make some food from that lean in 15 book (never ended up using it for cooking) and have seen loads about it being good for beauty use. I've been putting it on my tummy and breasts and it's working wonders! Skin feels so soft. Apparently coconut oil is safe to put on when breastfeeding too.

tams13 · 20/05/2016 16:23

fifi glad that you're feeling a bit more reassures. Don't know anything about the placenta issue either sorry. Haven't used coconut oil yet but bought a jar the other week. The midwife in the antenatal classes was saying it's great and that you can use it as a moisturiser on the baby if their skin gets too dry.

thom good news on the dates set for exchange and completion. Hope they manage to stick to them now!

primarynoodle · 20/05/2016 17:11

As others have said fifi you are in the best place. Ive never heard of a bad outcome when baby comes after 30 weeks especially if you are being monitored before hand (rather than getting help at the last moment). You might end up beating the june antenatal group to it! Flowers and Cake you must be so worried x

BelOfTheBall79 · 20/05/2016 17:26

Fifi hope everything is OK. Will be thinking of you. As others have said you are in best place, take advantage of all the care you can get. Glad your DM is there to support you and we are all here for you too xx Flowers

YouAndMeAreGoingToFallOut · 20/05/2016 17:38

Fifi what a stressful couple of days! I'm glad you are now getting the necessary monitoring and I am sure everything will be positive from here on in.

Ellizardo · 20/05/2016 18:06

Go fifi!! brilliant attitude throughout what must be v unsettling situation. Thinking of you lots and making notes to follow yr example of listening to your instinct. My best friend had her boy Luca at 30 wks in very dramatic circs and he's the happiest & healthiest thing I know. FlowersFlowers

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FifiRebel · 20/05/2016 19:28

tams I'm glad the coconut oil comes

noodle thank you - it has crossed my mind that I might go from being the last in our thread to deliver to the first!!! I am competitive I suppose

bel thank you I am enjoying the meals and tea service! A bit annoying I did a full Aldi spree yday (including lovely flowers for flat as I wasn't going to London next week so could enjoy them!) but most stuff can be rescued by freezer.

youandme thank you

liz thank you - not sure if you remembered but I am also calling my baby Luca so really touched by your story! Praying that my baby has an equally positive outcome and I can make you all jealous with photos of Parma ham and cheese

A few things I've found particularly useful in hospital bag so far:

  • waterproof flip flops (I have havianas) to wear in shower. Shower is clean but definitely felt better wearing those in the shower then walking back to room to change back into slippers.
  • moist toilet tissues. Pretty sure I only read this on here the other day as I bought them in Aldi shop and dumped next to hospital bag! I've had an upset tummy today so they have been brilliant. I've also found I've been going to the toilet even more than usual as trying to drink loads so they have been nice to freshen up with.
  • teabags and UHT milk pots (the ones you get in cafes). I'm an earl grey snob but also hate milky tea. So I've been asking for hot water and making my own. My mum is going to bring in hot choc tomorrow too so I can have something without caffeine
  • new PJs. Obviously my situation is different but I'd bought a few pairs of new pjs in a bigger size than normal (as I thought I'd grow a lot in last few weeks) and had planned to bung old stuff for birth in at the end. I feel so nice in my new pjs and have had compliments from midwifes too! Makes a change to be in a nice matching set haha.
  • prescription meds. Midwives said it would be a nightmare to get them from hospital pharmacy so my mum brought them in for me. Am just taking them myself without any fuss.
FifiRebel · 20/05/2016 19:29

Tams - that was meant to be glad it comes midwife approved!

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 20/05/2016 23:11

Fifi just came on to say I'm thinking of you. In my old group there was one baby born at 27 weeks and one at 29. Not to say they didn't have a shaky start but they are both thriving toddlers now and gorgeous too. You are in the right place. You seem to have such an amazing attitude to it all as well. Hope you mange some sleep.

Cookiesandcoffee · 21/05/2016 00:01

fifi your attitude as great, you're such an inspiration. You are in the best place. Will be thinking of you. Keep us posted. And thanks for the bag tips. I bought most of the stuff for mine today and I'm glad I did after hearing about your situation.
and I've mostly been using coconut oil for stretch marks. I usually use it anyway. On like everything! From hair to cooking all my foods in it ha!

beautican sounds like a great birthday!

anna I'm also a bit of a good rebel so you aren't alone! So there's not much food wise that I want! But to just have a waist again!! I hope DD is ok, and recovers quickly from tummy bug.

going thanks for the pelvic floor tips! Now just to remember to do them..

Had my growth scan this evening. They think his current weight is 5lb 1. Which I felt like was a lot? But apparently fine. They've never estimated one of my baby's weight before. And in fact they couldn't get the leg measurement properly as he was being really awkward, so she said it was longer than what she put down.

Really short of breath and it's keeping me up? I feel like I really can't get a lung full and feels so tight? It isn't my asthma- have taken inhaler. Keeping me awake. As well as the really loud party with music blaring that's keeping my awake. Grr. I'm not going to be a nice human tomorrow.

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julfin · 21/05/2016 00:18

Fifi - sorry to hear your news. I hope you're getting a good night's sleep and relaxing lots. As others have said, you're in the best place. Make the most of being waited on! Thanks for the tips re useful stuff to have in hospital. I always forget to take my own teabags whenever I go away anywhere, and am always disappointed when there's no earl grey Wink

Beaut and Anna thanks for the reassurance re room-sharing. We don't plan to co-sleep (we've been given a crib that pushes against the bed with a removable side). Hoping for a heavy sleeper. He'll certainly get used to noise straight away as we're between two main roads and currently have a building site on either side Confused

My little wriggler hasn't stopped moving all day. It would be nice to have a few minutes when I'm not being simultaneously kicked in the ribs and headbutted in the groin. Felt truly nauseous this pm/eve. I'm starting to feel that there can't be long left now - he's trying to fight his way out!

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dats · 21/05/2016 01:10

Fifi, goodness what a stressful day, you poor love! You sound brilliantly positive, though which is great to hear! So have you had an update about whether you'll definitely have to stay in, now? Are they monitoring you and then deciding? Or have they already decided? Glad you've got your mum there for support.

julfin with DD we were still in our 1-bed flat until she was 13 months, so we were all in the same room until then. We modified an IKEA cot and made it into a co-sleeper. When she started rolling, we put the side back on (i would come to bed and she'd have rolled over into my side!) but kept it next to the bed. And then when she was about 9mo I think?? we moved it to the foot of the bed. I was so happy to have a bedside table again for my book/glasses/kindle! But it was fine - completely doable. She suddenly started sleeping through at a year and has never looked back. When we moved house, she went straight into her own room without batting an eyelid.

Anna that's great that DD is making progress. A close friend has a little boy of 15mo who has never been a sleeper, he had a lot of reflux issues and now allergies and it seems to have really affected his learning to self-settle - either that, or just that some babies just don't sleep, I guess. She's had such an awful time of it and I'm in awe of her tolerance. I'm under no illusion that anything I did had much impact and I'm just grateful (and not complacent) every day for my current situation. You wait, my next one will be a complete bugger, DD will have a massive regression and you'll have a bombproof one just as DD hits her stride and starts sleeping Wink

beaut (I love that short form!) Teddy's birthday sounded lovely, bless him! Don't worry about bf in front of people - I was far happier about doing it in front of strangers in public than I was with family. So I used to take myself off. But that's def a reflection of my level of closeness with my family - we're just not, really. Most important thing is you being comfortable and you won't know that until after number 4 rocks up at the milk bar Wink

On subject of bfing...the last couple of days I've been getting the milk let-down sensation in the old girls (basically when you start to feed, you usually - maybe not everyone - get a tingling, clenchy feeling as the boobs are stimulated and it stimulates your milk flow). I got it regularly when bf the first time, in the early days anyway. But don't remember getting in pregnancy. No leakage of any description, bit crusty but been like that for months (I'm so gorge). Anyone else? Me and my NCT friend used to call it 'wanging'. It's definitely a wang feeling.

Other delights of the week: the worst cramp ever, this morning. In all the opposing muscles of my lower leg and foot so as I stretched one, the other would solidify. I ended up standing up and treading on my own foot to keep my arch on the floor and stop my toes curling - and having to hurriedly explain to DP who came to see what all the heavy breathing was, that I wasn't in labour!

And I have a sore tongue - apparently it's a symptom of anaemia, which I'm currently trying to wipe out with Spatone - but no idea if that's what causing mine.

I've sent a FB request, btw - is that ok? I'm CN Smile

Look at the time, no wonder I'm falling apart. Night night, hope you're all peacefully slumbering and not cramping, dodgy-hipped, restless-legged, stomach acid-choking or just wide awake because like, we don't have enough to deal with, thanks Insomny McInsomniaface

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AnnaT45 · 21/05/2016 06:40

Ha Cookies I love being a food rebel! I'm not stupid I'm just mindful. My boss told me the other day I shouldn't be eating fish when pregnant (was eating a tuna sandwich) why I said? He said no fish when you're pregnant my wife didn't. I just replied with crikey how have the Japenese survived so long eating all that sushi Grin

dats DD I exactly the same as your friends little one! Horrendous reflux, multiple food allergies, asthma. She rarely slept poor little thing (and me lol) we are getting there but this tummy bug has thrown it out the window again. Ah well. I'll be back to those night feeds again soon so need to get used to it!!

thom hurray!!!! There is no champagne emoji but that's what you need! That's awesome news! How you feeling about it? So so pleased it's all going wel! Hope the packing is ok for you guys.
We are probably looking at mid/late June. I'm just not thinking about it now and going to start baby prep to keep me occupied!

fifi hope you managed to get some rest. Love the tip on new jamas. Going to do that!

Really need to get excited about this wedding today. They are very close friends and it will be great. I'm just knackered and want a day in bed instead lol!

FifiRebel · 21/05/2016 07:30

Morning all

beautician thank you for sharing that, glad I'm not the only one that bucks the thread month groups!

cookies thank you. I am a bit scared to try coconut oil on hair incase it turns into grease ball but no-one will care what I look like here. Do you apply it neat? Just to ends of hair?

Sounds like your baby is a good size! I'm not sure what the norm is at that gestation but I was 5lb5 when I was born at 36 weeks. I keep having that short of breath feeling at night too. I was freaking out about it last night but then remembered I've had it for weeks anyway. I find the only thing that helps is taking big breaths and sort of sighing but it makes me sound like I'm really grumpy (which I usually am haha)

julfin thank you, have just made my morning earl! So glad I remembered.

dats thank you. I haven't had any news really. Think they will keep me on monitoring now all weekend then consultants will get together on Monday and decide best course of action. He had a few decelerations last night on trace so they were considering getting doctor but he rectified it thank god. I asked if they would be sending me home and I said I felt more comfortable staying in. I got impression that if I wanted to do that, they'd be fine (I guess a lot of people have other children etc and wouldn't be so willing to stay). The alternative seems to be daily visits anyway so might aswell have my own base. Interesting BF description. I've been having a small amount of leakage and have noticed nipples look a bit like they have dry skin around them on occasion?

anna thank you. Didn't sleep well tbh, think I managed about an hour. My mind was going overdrive. Have fun at your wedding! What are you wearing?

I tried out a pregnancy app that I've had downloaded for a while but never used last night. It's called mindthebump and it has mindfulness exercises designed specifically for pregnancy. I love the relaxation phase at end of my yoga classes so opened it hoping I'd have something to help me drift off in the early hours. I tried the sleep exercise and it definitely made my body feel a lot more relaxed. Didn't quite get me off to sleep but then I do have a lot on my mind. Going to persevere and try some of the other exercises too.

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YouAndMeAreGoingToFallOut · 21/05/2016 08:12

I'm coming to the conclusion that my baby is lazy. He/she doesn't seem to move as much as other babies are described as moving! It's not a reduction in movements concern, as they haven't reduced, and he/she is always fine from scans and dopplers. The midwife told me some just are "more chilled". In particular I don't get kept awake at night by wriggling. I wonder if this will continue outside to womb? Mind you, when I had the growth scan the other day he/she was moving quite a lot but I couldn't feel it, so maybe it's just me!

I didn't get an estimated weight at my scan Cookies. I'm glad really, as it would only have given me something else to worry about!

FifiRebel · 21/05/2016 08:29

youandme do you have an anterior placenta? I keep finding that midwives etc comment all the time on how active my baby is on scans and machines and I never feel any of it.

On estimated weights - have a look at the printed reports they put into your notes. Yesterday's scan was the first time I was told the weight but I have seen it in my report on other scans.

tams13 · 21/05/2016 08:42

fifi glad you still seem fairly positive. Hope you get more sleep tonight though!

youandme It's not just you feeling you have less movement than others. I've got a fundal placenta so should be able to feel lots but I don't and never have. The midwife was annoying the baby at my last appointment trying to make it move and after a minute or two it gave her a massive kick apparently. I didn't feel it at all! Sometimes I feel more with my hand on my belly than actually in my belly if that makes sense.

Does anyone else still have a breech baby? There seems to be a lot of talk about kicks in the ribs but mine seems to be happily and stubbornly sitting up facing my back.

Thom80 · 21/05/2016 10:02

fifi - it sounds like all round it is best to stay in. You know that there are clinicians on hand if you have any concerns and you would be spending all your time there anyway. I have put new pjs on my list now and flip flops. I am going to get my bag ready next weekend. I think that I have been giving far too much thought to the food snack, but then I am obsessed with food! I hope that you have lots of visitors today that bring you treats! Let me know if you have any other tips for long stays in hospital. I am preparing myself for being in for a few days, it is the boredom that worries me. Let us know how you get on.
cookies - at my last scan at 30 weeks, the baby weighted 3.5 kg so sounds about inline. It doesn't quite match with my weight as I have only put on so far 2.5 kg, so something doesn't add up as I definitely haven't lost weight although I did at the start.
julfin - I felt terribly sick last night as well. I slept with a bucket by my bed, although hardly slept. I also had terrible acid reflux. I can't cope with another 8 weeks of this!
anna - I am not getting excited as I am sure that something will go wrong again. We did some packing last night. My OH passed me stuff which I bubble wrap and he packs. Good system!
you&me / julfin - I am finding the movement monitoring really hard. The baby was very quiet yesterday but just enough not to send me off to hospital. This morning a bit but other days it is like a party in there! I worry endlessly about it all. My MW hasn't mentioned monitoring movement to me. Does anyone know how?

Thom80 · 21/05/2016 10:06

cookies - being dumb, switch Kgs for Ibs in my post! Should make more sense

YouAndMeAreGoingToFallOut · 21/05/2016 15:51

No I don't have an anterior placenta. Maybe I just can't feel all the movement through my generous coating of blubber! I do feel quite a lot, but it just sounds like other people have more active babies. Especially at night.