with DD I had the same midwife who I saw most appointments - think there was one time when she was away. Here in Reading we're supposed to have one midwife who sees you all the way through, last time my midwife was on holiday so I was expecting to see her this time. However just got back from my appointment and it was utter crap! (apologies in advance for the rant). was fifteen minutes late and felt very rushed. Went in there and it was a different midwife again, with a student midwife but unlike last time, the midwife didn't bother to introduce herself or explain who she was and just started chatting about how it was my 28 week appointment. I ended up having to ask her where my 'named'/usual midwife was and she said 'oh Claire? she's left, I'll be your midwife now' but didn't really introduce herself or give me contact details.
she made some random assumptions - she was taking my blood and said 'so you don't want a home birth then' out of nowhere - I was like um actually I do want a home birth and she seemed really surprised and said 'oh good, we'll talk about that next time then'. but I don't know why she felt the need to phrase it that way assuming I wouldn't -it's also written quite clearly in my notes that I expressed a wish for a home birth so if she'd just looked rather than assuming... then she asked me if I'd had my whooping cough jab yet and I said no, and she said 'oh, you don't want it?' and again I had to say um no, but that I thought I wasn't supposed to have it yet, which she agreed with and told me that I was supposed to have it between 28-38 weeks. I don't know why she assumed I wouldn't want it rather than more obvious which is that I'm only just at the stage where I would book it. she also started going on about me getting bloods taken before my next appointment but didn't explain why or how, I had to ask what she was talking about and even then she didn't really explain so I think I'll just wait till my 34 week appointment and give blood then.
All was fine with the baby which was good, she's still bum down which I was expecting as I have definitely not been feeling any rib kicks, all down by my bladder! I asked if that was ok and they didn't seem concerned, so not going to stress about it yet, although am feeling a bit worried as DD was such a bugger being back to back and I'm a bit paranoid I have a funny shaped uterus/midriff which isn't very good for baby positioning!
One last thing the midwife did that annoyed me was when she was measuring my bump she commented on how I had many stretch marks from my first baby. It really bugged me and seemed insensitive; my stretch marks don't bother me that much but they do a little bit and I'd rather she hadn't mentioned it!
ugh, so left there feeling a bit annoyed - I know I should concentrate on the positives which is that baby is fine, moving lots, good heartbeat and all looks as it should, but lack of quality of care bothering me!
suz yes I have found DD to be quite unsettled recently and her night wakings have increased - pretty much most nights now she will wake once though usually goes to sleep within 5 minutes (the weekend was an exception). when I was settling her last night for bed she started chatting about meeting the new baby so I think it is definitely on her mind and maybe contributing to her being a bit more difficult recently.