March 2016 Babies!! Thread #7 The one where we all say.... "Stay put Flump!!"

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Stay where you are Flump!!!

maybe wasn't fun but thankful that all is well thanks hun :)

Is anyone else getting impatient, I'm literally counting down the days to meet my girl, I love her kicks but I would much rather be cuddling her :(

Maybe I never thought about that DH's work would need to see my MAT1B form -although his direct manager is one of our closest friends so they know it's not an elaborate ruse for him to have 2 weeks leave. I might ask HR if I can have a copy just in case his employer needs to see a copy.

Rosie I will join you on the impatient bench. I'm excited to meet my baby and to not be kicked the second I lie down and feel pregnant now. I noticed today that I am waddling...such an attractive look

I am currently waiting for our travel system to arrive - I got a text at 8.00 to say it would be delivered today, no sign of it so far!

Hope you're all doing okay xx

Paper I'm waddling too haha safe to say I won't be shaving my legs until March, found out yesterday that it is impossible haha I love the kicks especially when I'm in a meeting its so distracting

haha rosie I sent my friend (a beautician) a text the other day begging for a leg and bikini was appointment as I can no longer bend in the right directions to epilate properly.

I also am getting impatient, and just bored of being pregnant now - seems like it's been forever. Also keep forgetting that I won't be drinking copious amounts of wine while making the dinner xmas day, then I remember and get disheartened about cooking the dinner without wine (I don't drink often I promise, and have had nothing in the 5 months I've known I'm preggers)

Dp sadly only started his job in October so can't have paternity leave but they do offer 1 week 'maternity support leave' on full pay to all employees regardless of service, and he has been advised he can take the 2nd week as annual leave so no MatB1 required for them.
I sent mine to HR 2 weeks ago, just waiting for their response - break up from work 9 weeks on friday

**Wax

Missi lovely photo of Zach, glad to hear that he is doing so well!

Rosie glad that all was well with you guys as well.

I scanned in my MAT1B form before I sent it to HR mostly because our HR director is well know for loosing things or driving round with them in their car for weeks but just in case DP work needed it or something.

Paper it'll probably appear about 9pm or something silly! - some of our amazon parcels from Black Friday rocked up a very strange times although the postman appeared at 8am yesterday I weighed up between flashing some boob just out the shower or collecting it later, went for the second option, didn't want to ruin the poor mans day!

haha I can just about manage shaving with the leg on the bath twisting slightly! I should probably not leave it too long between goes in case I get caught out then!

Q Isn't it a nightmare honestly dp told me last night that my legs are hairier than his haha he's not even lying I also feel like I've been pregers for ages, 12 weeks and 5 days better hurry up honestly!! I'm off on maternity in 9 weeks on Friday too can't wait to start washing baby clothes, bedding, etc. When is everyone starting theirs?

vroc Thank you :) I tried that but I really hurt my back and felt a little bit like a sea lion :( dp suggested to put a chair in the bath, seriously I'm pregnant not 90 years old!!!

I'm actually not too bad at doing my legs, I kind of stand on one leg with the ankle of the one I'm shaving resting on opposite thigh - seems to work! Not doing any bikini waxing or anything (I understand it's a bad idea for labour as it can interfere with stitches etc when it starts growing back) but keeping it trimmed is tricky as I can't see what I'm doing!

I am feeling very unwieldy, I don't remember ever feeling like this last time! I definitely never waddled, and I really want to this time, I keep making an effort to walk normally but it's only a matter of time.

I'm planning to wait until we put the Christmas decorations back up in the loft to get the baby stuff down, Rosie. We have all the big bits and bags and bags of clothes up in my in-laws loft, as it's not our loft I plan to go over there for a whole day and sort through everything with the help of my MIL! She might even let me wash it there... we don't have a dryer or a garden (upstairs flat) so it can be a bit of a bitch getting it all dry. As the clothes were just shoved into bags as and when they were outgrown there will be a lot there that's tatty, too boyish (doesn't bother me massively, but some of the things we had were very very 'boy' and I'd rather replace with something girly) or seasonally inappropriate as ds was a September baby. Sleep suits etc will all be fine, as will spring/autumn things, but summer and winter outfits will be no good.

You're probably right Vroc DH will bust a gut if it doesn't turn up today. He's so laid back about everything but deliveries, for some reason he has a paddy if his delivery doesn't arrive at 9.30am. On.The.Dot.

He will write a letter of complaint to Mothercare - oh I can see it now!

I will probably get a letter of complaint if I don't deliver our baby thirty minutes after they induce me....

missi aww Zach is SO gorgeous! A huge congrats and congrats on managing to pump for him (go boobs!). I'm so pleased you can now hold him. Amazing really when you think about how little he is.

ginger really sorry you are having a tough time. The GP really should help you to access some perinatal care. It must be so hard having to fight for this on top of everything else.

Oh yes to hairy legs. I have memories of contorting myself with a hand mirror and razor in the final weeks of the 3rd tri last time, trying to sort out my lady bits! Not looking forward to that again

My insomnia has re-emerged, waking me at 5pm, but I at least get a decent stretch before then. Sympathies to those suffering. The bloody indigestion really doesn't help. I'm going to try to see a GP to get something stronger than gaviscon.

Anyone else feeling absolutely MASSIVE?! Even my mat clothes feel tight, eek.

Re washing baby clothes, I plan to start about a month before the baby is due, as they'd only need re-doing. I'm not going to do the brand new ones though [bad mum face]

Better get on!

How the hell am I meant to trim my lady bits??? Seriously I'm 27 weeks and struggling how am I meant to do it later on :(

Good idea Crispy I might do them when I'm on my maternity we'll see.

No need to do your lady bits rosie, be natural

Pregnancy - the most unattractive time of a woman's life!
rosie usually get a bikini/lady bits wax every 8 weeks or so, but the one this week is going to be my last until after baby, assume i'll be too preoccupied to care haha!

I am planning to trim and tidy but not do a full on shave of my lady garden after reading about it not being a good idea in case of stitches etc! I haven't exactly been keeping on top of my legs recently either - but that's pretty normal for me in the winter, I live in opaque tights so it hardly seems worth it

Onto the even less glamorous sides of pregnancy, I think I might have piles I'm not too sure as I've never really had them before but something doesn't feel quite right down there and I have been getting a teeny bit of bright red blood when going for a number 2 which is one of the symptoms. Yuck!

Evening everyone.

First off just wanted to say Missi- such lovely photos of little Zach. So glad to hear of his good progress. His a little fighter xx

Managed some decent sleep last night. Slept between 10pm-2:00am and then woke needed the toilet woke at 3:15 and 4:20 ish also but managed to fall back asleep both times. I did take some phenergan last night and i dont know if that made me sleep or not but i dont want to rely on it so trying without tonight. Had a long 45 minute bath before bed and talked to my OH before bed. So no computers etc.

Dreading tonight allready. Had some major leg twitches in bed last night and when sitting down at work. I know I am focusing too much on them and thats probably bringing them own but the thought of a sleepless night is filling me with dread. Come home from work in tears and feel very lost. I dont want to do anything. I dont want to watch tv, i dont want to play a game- I feel very sad and down.
Caught my OH in the kitchen all tearful a moment ago. I asked him why he was upset and he said "I just want to help you, i hate seeing you like this" I thought that was really kind of him. I am so glad for him.
Finishing work at 36 weeks and dreading finishing. I am dreading being home alone. what do people do all day whilst waiting for their partners etc to come home? I just feel it will be so lonely and depressing. I feel like ive made a big mistake and i want my life back to how it was a year ago. I want my baby i really do but i cant help but think what the hell have i done?

RE shaving- I havnt shaved my legs or done any maintenance down below for months lol. I cant be asked with it and OH doesnt mind either way lol

Maybe- I understand completely how you feel. I often wonder what if OH got ill or something happened to him. Its dreadful isnt it. its like the more you tell your self just to relax and you just cant do it. Your baby will be fine. I hope your GP is supportive and pro active.

Just to clarify the number they gave me to ring was to self refer my self to counselling. Which I did yesterday. I have a booking app next Tuesday to see what kind of therapy I would benefit from

Ginger that's great news about the counselling and that you got some much needed sleep!

I just wish I could give you a hug, you sound so down . Life will change for all of us. Having children is probably the biggest adventure any of us will ever go on. I don't know any new mum who doesn't feel like you do in respect of worrying about feeling lonely or depressed. Please don't be offended but I think your anxiety may be depression - you sounded like I did a while back.

Also I don't want you to worry about taking anti-depressants. I take 10mg Citalopram daily. I have a tendency to fall into blackness every now and then, this dosage just keeps me on an even keel. It may be that anti-depressants aren't suitable for you right now, but don't rule them out.

I can't remember who suggested it further up thread, but there was a poster called "sleeplessinnorthrlondon" who went through hell with her pregnancy, have a read of her "thank you" thread if you feel strong enough.

Rosie don't bother, leave your lady garden to over-winter I am in awe of Q for waxing - last time I did mine (September) I thought f* that for a game of soldiers it was soooo painful!

Pushchair has arrived!! It is HUGE! there are three massive boxes in the lounge. It also weighs a ton so DH can shift it in the morning.

I've almost done all the Christmas wrapping up. The kitchen looks like a bomb's gone off but hey ho. I'm happy Christmas is on the way!!

Anyone seen Beautiful I haven't spotted a post from her (or am I going daft)?

rosie just sing to yourself "let it grow, let it grow, I am one with my furry side ..." Seriously it's fine, it's such a short time and you can get back to your usual when you're all healed up after. I get DH to do a little tidy and trim for me every few weeks once I'm too big to do it for myself, but haven't bothered with removing more than is needed for a swimsuit for years. But I was raised by hippies.

ginger I'm so glad to hear you've got a booking appointment to get some therapy sorted. I was off from 36 weeks last time and I napped most days, took a lot of short slow walks, bounced on my ball and did gentle pregnancy stretching. Got through a lot of reading, too. I did try to have one thing to do every day that required me to get out of the house.

paper has your travel system showed up yet?

Cross-post! Yay paper's travel system!

Thanks everyone. I am taking a look at sleepless' posts now.
Paper- You havnt offended me. I do think i have depression. To be honest id like some medication for it. PS- yay on the push chair hope its nice.
mship- i am dreading my mat leave. I just keep thinking ill be watching the clock ticking until OH comes home everyday. I will try to get out but tbh I want to go back to work and have OH stay at home for me.

Oh no me, I hope you don't have them! I've never had the pleasure (so far...) but piles is probably the 'normal' pregnancy side effect that scares me the most!

Really glad to hear you've been referred onto counselling now ginger, I hope you find it helpful.

I definitely have a thick winter coat of hair . Last time round I had a quick shave of my legs while I was in labour so I looked presentable and left it at that.

With mat b1 forms - when do they have to be handed in? I've read some things that say by 25 weeks and others that say at least 28 days before you start mat leave.

I've definitely got them Trinpy looking at the NHS website, it says most will heal on their own within a few days so I think I just need to keep an eye and be careful when going to the loo! ive got a midwife appointment next week so will mention it then. I haven't been constipated so I'm baffled as to why I've got them!

Poor you Me. I've had them in the past too but thankfully not too bad. I'm just as bad on the totally unglamorous pregnancy symptoms stakes though. I've had pretty much constant thrush and now the skin is so broken and sore. Had to go to Drs again today and have been given steroid cream. Altogether very uncomfortable.

Just about managing to shave my legs and keep things trimmed with the use of mirrors, but doubt for much longer.

Missi Zach is absolutely beautiful. I'm loving your pics.

Ginger hope you get some sleep again tonight. I was awake at 3 this morning. So frustrating. Have you tried writing down all your concerns in a notepad before you sleep. Close the book and put it to one side. You will know that your worries are still there ready to think about in the morning, but overnight they stay in the book. This may be far to simplistic to help but I read it somewhere and I sometimes do it when life gets overwhelming. It helps me to shut my brain down at night.

Paper have fun unwrapping your travel system.

Mship I think you've just named our next thread! "Let it grow" I love it!!

Travel system is staying wrapped up tonight as DH is getting drunk in London. I'm not sure where it will go for the next couple of months...probably the baby's room (which looks like Santa's grotto now, it's full of presents)

I'm shattered now and thoroughly bored of wrapping presents. I am determined to do it all tonight. I WILL DO IT!!! but I'll just have a cuppa first

Hi all not been on much recently as been so busy with work and sorting out our bedroom for the new carpet... So knackered and need a break! Can't wait for Xmas as I have 10 days off!

I'd completely forgotten that DP has to inform his work about paternity leave so despite me informing my HR at 22 weeks I'd forgotten to do it for him. Hes going to have to try to do things tomorrow and hope its all ok, but needs his line manager and head of department to sign off on it which will make things more difficult. Argh stress!

Sorry to hear you're having such a tough time ginger, I hope you manage to get the support you need soon.

missi your pictures are amazing! Congrats and I'm so pleased for you that you've been able to do some skin to skin.

Is anyone else feeling absolutely knackered? I find I'm fine during the day and am charging around busy busy busy but as soon as 7.30/8 hits I'm just completely exhausted...

I've been managing to keep ok top of my legs - just about. I've got an electric shaver so can just shave my legs on the bed in a comfy position. As for my lady bits - I've never been one to shave or wax and am mostly natural though I do like to trim to keep things tidy down there and to stop my hair matting (which feels gross, also sorry if tmi). I tried to trim this week and really struggled - not sure I trust DP to do it for me, he nicked my toes when trying to cut my toenails for me when I was heavily pregnant with DD!

Another one developing piles here Me I did with DD but was hoping it would happen later on rather than now with 13 weeks to go... Oh the glamour of pregnancy...