March 2016 #6, we're just breeding here!

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Ooh Marmite, you going to share the name with us or keep it a secret here too? Love hearing what others have decided (mostly as I'm so indecisive I know Flump probably won't have a proper name for days after birth!) also yours totally right with them looking for genitals at 20 week scan, you're friend has obv not been checking her pregnancy apps and seeing when the genitals appear (which is before 20 weeks).

I hate the Americanising of the baby shower here (my online Due date group for DS was on a different site where many mums are American and over there you have devise a gift list for your baby shower much like some people do at weddings). I hate it! I had an Indian Mothers Blessing (I'm not Indian!) with DS which was just me and a small handful of close friends getting together, they did henna on my belly - which at 37 weeks pregnant looked awesome - and we just chilled and chatted babies, no pressure of gifts etc, much more what I personally wanted at that point of pregnancy.

It has been very quiet on here this weekend! I've definitely not been having lots of fun, although DS seems to be on the mend from his hand foot and mouth, his incessant shouting started in earnest this morning rather than being woken by crying at 5am like yesterday. Also he actually ate breakfast and dinner yesterday which makes me feel a lot happier, it's so hard to watch your kids being ill.

I've been feeling movement more and more here which is so lovely. My belly is now moving on a regular basis (although DH doesn't have the patience to sit and watch/feel yet!)

Have a great rest of half term all you teachers out there, and rest of weekend for everyone else.

Yes, come on marmite! We've narrowed ours down to a shortlist but have different favourites, I don't mind DH's, but have my heart set on either Cecilia or Sylvie. Dh not as keen but I'd be happy with either so it's not like he will have no say. Perhaps with DH's favourite, Margot, as a middle name. I will have to insist I think!

Sorry to hear about your nan dobby.

I had a panicky week as my mum was going in for surgery, for some reason I was terrified something would go wrong, but it all went fine.

So sorry Dobby about your nan. Hope you and your whole family are coping ok. Hugs to you xx

for you Dobby so sorry to hear about your nan.

22 weeks today, and I still can't quite believe I am having a baby. I have developed a habit of buying the baby something every time I go in a shop. I suspect we will get quite a few hand me downs (the more the merrier) but I can't resist buying brand new things for our brand new baby!

Oh how life has changed....once I would have bought shoes, wine and cigarettes now I buy muslins, sleeps it's and wipes

Morning all, manic busy weekend here - housewarming/fancy dress party at a friends on friday and spent yesterday sorting out the bedrooms as getting a nursing chair and stool delivered today, a friend only wants £70 for it so works out cheaper for me than the ikea one and the 1 hours drive each way to get there and back haha.
I want to get the cotbed too but don't know if it's still a bit early really?!
21+3 today so still not fully real!
So sorry to hear about your nan dobby, mine died in august, 3 days before our early scan, it's not a nice time at all, I feel for you.

Dobby sorry to hear about your nan - lots of good wishes coming your way.

The baby shower sounds awful! That kind of competitiveness is always awkward. I went to a really lovely baby shower a few years ago where we all decorated a baby grow and played baby naming games and things like that. It was chilled out and lots of fun, and nice to catch up with my friend again before the due date. I was thinking of doing something similar - and who knows we might still need help on the name at that point!

I haven't started buying anything as yet - waiting until scan time on Friday! Can't believe how quickly the weeks are flying by!

Hey everyone!

Dobby - sorry to hear your news and hope you're ok xx

We've been pretty busy here. Lots of Halloween shit and I've been redecorating my bedroom :) well and truly building my nest!

One of my friends has offered to throw a baby shower for me. I want to say yes... to me it would symbolise getting over my terrible anxiety/social anxiety as I would NEVER have done something like that before (and didn't). But I dunno, they seem to be rather frowned upon on Mumsnet...

DH put a song on YouTube last night - Connor Maynard's cover of "Hello" by Adele and then he put his hand on my belly... the baby kicked like never before, really vigorous movements and DH couldn't stop smiling! It really was amazing.

Forget what MN thinks, Beaut. If you want a baby shower, you have one!

dobby sorry to hear about your nan, hope you're doing alright today.

beautiful go on, have a baby shower if you want one. If you think it'll get out of hand or be too much for your social anxiety, you can ask your friend to keep it really low key - think tea/coffee and cakes and either no gifts (cards only), ask for nappies, or set a really low (£10?) limit for gifts.

suz those are all lovely names. I'm partial to Margot but don't tell your DH that anyone agrees with him!

We've chosen Tamsin May for baby girl's names. May is a family name and Tamsin is unusual but traditional enough. I can't remember now who's suggestion it was, but I think it was down to that or Teagan (sensing a theme here) and Tamsin seemed easier to spell.

Thanks guys. Yeh it definitely would be low key, and I'd have to specify on the invites or something that presents are completely optional!

I like Tamsin - she was one of my best friends as a child - and it's never used anymore!

Aww, I'm glad to hear someone has a positive experience of a Tamsin! We'd only heard of the actress Tamsin Greig. My son's name starts with G so we'll have G&T kids, and the whole family will be A&C&G&T, which is highly appropriate given my career. Both these things were completely unintentional but very amusing once noticed.

Tamsin is lovely, I knew a nice one too. And you don't hear it very often!

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I'm doing okay, we've all known this was coming for a very long time, as nan was diagnoised with lukimea over 5 years ago. It became agressive in May and it could have been weeks if she hadn't opted for treatment. So as sad as it is we've had time to say good bye and it's a reliefe to know she's finally at rest after so much confusion over what was going on day to day. We've all got lovely memoeries of her and dd can remember her which I'm really greatful for. Last week I even got to disscus baby names for bump with her while she was breifly lucid. Just dreading the actual practicalities of her funeral, traveling and needing to sit for so long (really don't think the birthing ball would work there!).

q I really struggled when I was pregnant with dd as my grandma died 18 months before hand and had been desprate for a great grandchild. 3 of the grandchildren were married at that point and she was rather out spoken about wanting to know as soon as one of us was expecting. Dd has her middle name but it was rather upseting not being able to celebrate with her at the time.

Mship Tamsin is a beautiful name. I know two, one an adult and one a child both of who are lovely.

beaut sounds like you're having a better few days. My dh is into goa trance and is rather upset that bump doesn't seem to respond to it. But will respond to the rubish chart music dd enjoys. If you want a baby shower have one, it would be lovely to have your friends get together and celebrate, and a wonderful milestone for your anxsity.

suz If bump wasn't a boy we'd have likely ended up with a margot.

We're potentially agreed on name, but will have to wait to meet bump to see if it actually fit. We knew dd's middle name and had a couple of possablities for her first, neither of which really suited her when she was born. She ended up with a name I'd previously vetoed as for seconds in it just suited her. So while we've got a name we thing we both like, Edward, it won't be his until his actually here. He might end up with an extra middle name as Edward with the middle name we've chosen is the same as one of my cousins.

Ha! I love that collection of initials, TheMShip!

marmite I only ever buy small gifts for baby showers. Dh and I prefer to buy a bigger gift when the baby's born.

I don't want one myself, but I have no problem with other people having them. I do find some of them a bit cringey sometimes!

dobby Edward is on our shortlist too! We have a front runner though but I'm trying not to get too attached to it as we have two close friends due before us, neither of whom know what they're having, so I don't want them to have boys and steal the name! But that's why we've got a shortlist of 3.

I'm having a baby shower...one of my friends loves doing them and asked me if she could do one for me. While it's not really my kind of thing I was really touched she wanted to do it.

I did say don't go mad and just keep it to our circle of friends - who are now all looking forward to an afternoon of tea, cake and prosecco!

Beaut- glad you seem better now. How lovely that dh could feel kicks now.

Vomited seven times today and I'm 20 weeks :( I thought it was meant to be gone by now, vomited my sickness tablet straight back up so can't take another one and I can't keep any liquids down today :(.
Also baby has been so active last two days and today I've felt nothing. This is normal so early on though? Hospital said I have fundal placenta. So worried and feel so alone.

We have decided that Louise is defiantly one of the middle names and she may have Sarah Louise as both middle names. However I quite like seraphina Louise but to worried about families reactions to use it. I do like Sophie or Sophia as a first name as well but their fairly common. I liked hazel but have gone of if a bit now

Dobby sorry to hear about your nan.

It has been quiet, I would like to have been doing something exciting but unfortunately just building fencing for hours....

My sis asked if I wanted a baby shower and the answers no but I've made an effort to go to sooo many of my friends who live miles away I'd quite like them to come here for a change (because they're a bit pants at that..) so left it to her to see what happens..

Good initials mship, DH and I met at uni and a few name suggestions do have origins in our studies.. Not sure we're going to agree until we're looking at her though..

Ginger that is pants about the vomiting, hope it stops soon, one of my friends had it the entire length of her pregnancy vomiting the last time on their DC a few minutes after birth... Sorry not want you want to hear.. Their DC has since got their own back...

ginger had the vomiting been tailing off until now? I'd be wondering about D&V bug rather than pregnancy if that's the case. Also Seraphina is lovely and unusual. Families generally get over these things and if they're polite they'll never let you know.

I never did vomit in my last pregnancy until labour started, then it went on about half an hour until my stomach was completely empty. Labour is weird.

It hasn't been tailing off although I've had some good days but this week I've vomited three days outta seven. I think I'm gonna be unlucky and have it throughout.
It's stopped now though so stocking up on the liquids now and had some choc cake

Oh family is not polite on name views they will let us know what they hate. I plan to announce after the birth what she is called to hopefully avoid it

Hey everyone just catching up on the thread after a manic day running around after DD! Went for a lovely walk this morning round a local lake with ducks etc, was nice but then about 20 minutes from home realised I was suddenly at my limit physically and was knackered!

So DD2s potential/hopeful first name is Eleanor And a middle name of Maria (after my mum). Just hoping nobody I know well uses the name before me!

I had a baby shower with DD as DPs sister really wanted to host one for us. I didn't enjoy it that much, not because I think there is anything wrong with having one, but because in general I hate being the center of attention like that (one of the reasons me and DP haven't got married and when or if we do we won't have a wedding as we both hate being center of attention). Also my mum is quite overbearing and I find it embarrassing so just felt stressed. but I think they can be nice if intimate. The problem with yesterday was I didn't really know anyone there apart from one other person. And so I felt more self conscious about my less generous present! At my baby shower people generally just got me one nice little outfit and so there wasn't any one up man ship and it's the only baby shower I've ever been to so didn't know any different! Anyway, beautiful definitely have a baby shower if you want one, who cares what others on MN think!

Thanks marmite - I think I do but like you hate being the centre of attention! DH does too, so we thought we'd never have a "wedding" as such, but we had a small, budget Christmas wedding last year and it was absolutely perfect :)