March 2016 #6, we're just breeding here!

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IndomitablIe - We're in a 3 bed new build too, and the kids will be sharing for a few years although they're different genders. Both me and DH shared with siblings when little (both with younger brothers) and it's really not a big deal. Lots of kids seem to prefer sharing when they're small anyway. By the time DD is ready to take the bars off her cot, DS will be old enough for the top of a bunk bed. We're going to get one of these from Ikea and hack it so the bottom has slats for a proper mattress for DD.

Oh, ours is a 3 bed new build and I love it.
We have 3 double bedrooms, 2 large and 2 normal double though and we chose the plot with the biggest garden we could so we could extend, I would kill for a utility room
As this is child #1 for us it'll be in the smallest of the 3 rooms, the 2nd one is just too crammed with "stuff'
We have been looking to move but only because we want to be about 9 miles further out of town from where we are, currently in suburbs but both grew up in villages further out and want to go back haha.

There was no way I was going to a different room for night feeds with DS!!! And it certainly won't happen this time round. DH did help with nappy changes at night for the first month when he was off work then when DS stopped shitting multiple times at night and DH was back at work it became pretty much my duty always as DH 'doesn't have boobs' (his words) so was therefore useless and pretty much never even woke up! At 7 months after DS first slept through (and kind of proved to me he could!) we did controlled crying - not everyone's cup of tea I know - and we're really lucky in that it pretty much stopped night feeds and wakes in three nights.

I agree totally with Marmite that it's all about the length of the stretches of sleep rather than the sleep total. 3 hours seemed to be the magic number for me. Two stretches of 3 hours and you'd feel relatively human the next day, any shorter (even if you get 3
or 4 blocks of 1-2 hours) and you are zombiefied the next day!!

We live in a three bed house but two of the rooms are pretty tiny. Our family all live a long way away so I'm loath to get rid of our sofa bed in the spare (box) room as there would be nowhere for them to sleep otherwise when they come to stay. I'm hoping to get no 2 to share with DS regardless of gender, although no idea how we will fit another cot in his room! But I'm basically ignoring the issue for now and will deal with it 6 months or so after birth once this one is out of our room! So I have no plans to decorate a nursery. I still haven't even got round to sorting curtains for DSs room although we moved in at the end of feb

I am so glad we moved when we did. We moved from a 1 bed flat to a 3 bed house. DH wasn't sure we needed 3 bedrooms. I dug my heels in and said we absolutely do.

We've given ourselves a bit of future proofing because our smallest bedroom will be fine until the baby is probably 10!

Yep Rosie I felt exactly the same and I managed to get myself worked up into a bit of a panic because I hadn't felt the baby mmove since this morning - although I'm pleased to report that baby Trinpy was just having a lazy day and is now merrily pummelling away at my bladder .

Nice to see some others are planning on having their dcs sharing a room. I hope dc2 is a better sleeper than ds (who still wakes 1-2 times a night at 19 months) or he/she will be in with us for a looong time.

Trinpy we will have three girls in one room! There's no way I'm moving (unless the landlady ever decided to chuck us out - I'd be heartbroken!). We live in a nice village 5 minutes walk from the school and co op, with nice neighbours, and have a driveway, big garden, three large bedrooms, playroom, utility etc all for less than £500 a month. Definitely fallen on our feet here!

Oh no, feel so mean this morning. Last night was DH's belated birthday as he's been working away... he tried to come on to me while I was falling asleep, kissing my neck, you know the drill... and I actually shouted at him well that killed the mood! Oops.

Missikat - I used controlled crying too so totally understand why you did that. I'm already hoping it works with this baby being a SAHM I NEED evenings to myself otherwise I'd just explode I think. I'm no earth mother!

3 bedrooms and a garden for under £500???!! I think I need to move to whichever area of the country you live in Beautiful! I'm not even sure you can rent a 1 bed flat with a damp problem for that round here.

Also, your dh is clearly at fault for trying it on with a tired pregnant woman. Your response was entirely reasonable .

And finally...my scans today! Today! At long bloody last! I can't wait!

trinpy house prices baffle me, I feel like I live in my own little sheltered world - our 3 bed detatched new build was under £160k and people are amazed by that, yet I thought that was quite a lot for up here haha!
Good luck today - bet it had felt like an age!!!

My DP kinda upset me the other night, he said at the moment I'm 'no longer fun, but now functional' made me feel like he didn't want me anymore, but turns out he's just useless at wording things and meant that he's not seeing me as just a girlfriend anymore but now the mother to be of his child and how much more that means to him? Took a tearful moment of me saying 'you don't fancy me because I'm pregnant' to manage to work it out though haha.

Manager has just worked out I told her I was pregnant 15 weeks ago! God it feels like only last week!

Good luck Trinpy!! Haha we live in Lincolnshire - about 30 minutes from Lincoln.

And he definitely should know better but oh god I felt awful, his reaction said it all! He didn't mention it this morning though and if it does ever get mentioned I'll claim I was asleep!

Aww Cucumber, seriously why are men so shit with words?! It's so hard feeling attractive when you're laying down fat and stretchmarks... us women have it tough, ha!

Trinpy that's exactly how I felt kept getting paranoid, but as soon as I felt her I was so relieved. Just wish I could stop having negative thoughts, why can't we have a guarantee that nothing will ever go wrong :(

Q we have a 3 bed house and this is baby #1! Two double bedrooms and a single but you could squeeze a double bed in there, DP has a son already so his room is the second double and we're planning for baby to be in the smallest bedroom too! Also My 3 bedroom semi detached was £200,000 I thought that was cheap haha I'm so jealous!! £160,000??? I'm definitely need to relocate haha

Beautiful haha exactly the same happened to me last night, DP tried it and I was so angry had a go at him and fell asleep! I did feel really bad for him so I apologised this morning

Trinpy I forgot to say good luck :) keep us updated

Haha I think I've kind of inadvertently got DP back for his mis-wording, he's just text me asking why his packed lunch consists of only a sandwich and what did he do wrong for me to starve him - he doesn't take money to work either. Oops

Completely unintentional but i feel so awful now.

rosie we are in the North East in the suburbs of a small town, about halfway between Newcastle and York, it's not the best but we love it haha. £240k would get us the 4 bed detached in the village we want to live in with a lush garden and near to our little village school, but wages reflect this too so they aren't the best up here.

I don't want to give birth anymore, the thought of it is really freaking me out

Can't believe I'm only just getting round to posting on this Fred and we're up to page 16!!

I had my 20 week scan on Monday and all was fine and we're having a little boy We could see his little boy bits so clearly, it was quite funny. We're thrilled - we'll have 1 of each - but I am slightly scared of having to push out a boy, as they're generally bigger than girls!

Interesting to hear of people getting nurseries ready etc. We have a 3 bed (being in the SE I won't tell you how much it cost...) but like missi our families live a long way away and the spare room is invaluable for them to stay in! Think we'll either but the kids in together, or have a trundle bed in the larger room, for visitors. Another problem is that our shower room is off the spare room, so we'd wake them up on work days. Ah well, plenty of time to figure it out!

I think marmite's advice re getting DH involved at night is very wise. I struggled along doing most of it til DD was 6 months and then just couldn't cope, so we shared it. Something I'm v grateful for now I'm back at work. Plus even when not at work, being at home isn't exactly restful! DH actually slept through most night feeds when DD was tiny, so please don't feel you have to go elsewhere. We also got adept at doing nappy changes on the mat on our bed in the night. Basically doing anything not to have to get out of bed!

I've got the bug DD has had all week. It's an evil fluey cold, which kicks off with the shits, lovely eh. Am irrationally worrying it'll affect the baby (Hollyoaks didn't help...).

Good luck tripny! Have most people now had their scans? Think I'm going to try to book a private one for around 29 weeks, for some reassurance. I had loads of scans last time, as they wanted to keep an eye on DD's growth and the placenta and it seems odd to not have any more now!

Good luck for today Trinpy, and great news on your successful scan and little boy Crispy! Can't believed almost everyone's had theirs now. Who's left?

Our house was only £110k for a 3 bed semi with nice garden in nice suburb of Nottingham. Even though both me and DH are southerners it's the reason we're still in the Midlands and not down south nearer our families. There would be no way we could have bought somewhere on our wages in either Devon (where I'm from) or London (where DH is from.) it makes me sad that we can't see our families as much as we'd like though.

Beautiful, your night last night is almost opposite in our house, lol. I'm really up for it at the mo and DH couldn't care less! Doesn't make me feel great. Same thing happened with DS, as soon as I had a visible bump he went right off it whereas I went right back on it! Told him he best make the most of it as once I start breastfeeding sex is the furthest thing possible from my mind!

wow at all these cheap houses! Ours was £300,000 for a 3 bed end of terrace here in the SE, but it does have 3 very large rooms (all doubles). We had to borrow ten grand off DPs parents plus use inheritance money to afford it though . DPs brother lives up north and has said he wouldn't move to the SE where both his and his wife's family live because of house prices! Although he has just bought a second house up there so don't think he couldn't afford it, he just has a bit of a reputation for being a bit stingy haha.

good luck with your scan today Trinpy! and congrats crisp on your baby boy :)

Q I know what you mean about not wanting to give birth; however the way I look at it is that with DD I had an awful long painful back to back birth but I got through it in one piece and you do forget it instantly. and it's worth it!

We're still renting (I won't tell you how much as it's completely shameful ) but our budget for buying (in April!!!!) is £350k. Quite difficult to get much for less than that in reasonable commuting distance of London.

Bricking it about leaving as am such a London girl (born and bred) but we just can't afford anything decent here any more. Also bricking it about the possibility of moving with a six-week-old baby...gulp!

Trinpy best of luck with the scan, and congrats Crispy - welcome to team blue!

Q haha dp this morning said to me that's a lot of food why are you feeding me so much, I was like stop moaning and be grateful that I make you pack lunch in the first place haha I'm in the South East and the prices here are unreal I work in London and for £240k you get a 1 bed flat there ridiculous! I'm not going to lie i'm so scared of giving birth, it's my first and really don't know what to expect especially when all my friends have been through different experiences.

Crispy congrats on your little boy :) I had a 4d scan after my 20 week scan because my baby girl had her legs shut so we had to find out privately but I told dp I want another scan beween week 27 to 29 to reconfirm everything and also see her, 17 weeks is a very long time! haha

Q and others about birth: I had a really good birth experience with DS, though you might not think back-to-back labour, epidural, and ventouse with episiotomy is "good"! However, I felt in control almost the whole time, which is one of the big factors in how you feel about it later. The epidural was AMAZING and I wouldn't hesitate to do it again if needed.

So here's the story: I had a 'Hollywood' style start to labour with waters breaking and straight into strong contractions every 2-3 minutes. There was meconium in the waters so we had to go to the main hospital unit as it's a sign of distress. It took me about 6 hours to get to 4cm, got the epidural, and then went all the way to 10cm in 90 minutes. I had an odd transition, when labour stopped entirely for about an hour, and then I wanted to push. My anaesthetist was superb - I could feel everything and was fully in control of all the pushing but without any pain whatsoever. About half an hour of pushing DS's heart rate was dropping so the OBN came in with the ventouse and he was out instantly. His head was 95th centile, so no wonder it took a little help!

The only thing I really disliked was the opiate injection I had to tide me through till when the anaesthetist was available. That made me feel completely woozy and not myself at all. Gas and air didn't have much effect on me.

My favourite story to tell from labour was when I was pushing and they were messing around getting the ventouse set up. I was being helped in the pushing with a midwife on each leg to brace against, and they were focused on the ventouse momentarily. I felt a really strong one coming and yelled "Let's go, ladies! I'm pushing here!". DH snorted tea out his nose when I told that one to DM afterwards...

Crispy congrats on your boy and Trinpy good luck with today's scan!

Mship that last bit did make me laugh! Its good to hear of positive but not necessarily easy experiences if that makes sense as all my friends have either fired them out like cannons or ended up with an EMCS..

If any of you have tesco club card points to spend their club card boost has just started a coupe of days ago - I was just looking at how much I could save on a car seat.. there seems to be quite a lot of baby stuff in it.

TheMship, fab story! Great to hear that it doesn't have to be a 'perfect', natural delivery for someone to feel it was a good experience! I second Marmite that it's so worth it and you really do forget the pain straight away.

I think the control bit is so important. I felt very similar about my birth with DS, it was only the very end (when they knocked me out and gave me an emergency c-section) that I was out of control (but by that point I was in transition so really didn't care at all, I was just happy they were going to swiftly deal with the pain!) but the other 25 hours I felt totally in control and therefore don't look back on it as a horrific experience at all. (Just sad I didn't see DS born)

I think I'm just scared, no idea what to expect other than pushing a baby out of my nether regions haha.
I have no idea what to do after, I think I'm just hoping to go with some kind of flow and see what happens. No idea how often newborns need to feed, or sleep, or be winded, or changed or fed - and then it overwhelms me and I get scared and run and hide haha!

Just been offered an interview for a role which I am training in, but for another company, I don't know if I should tell them I'm 22 weeks in my response email and see if they still want to offer me an interview.

I wouldn't tell them, Cucumber! Also scared about giving birth. Bet we'll have lots of shared birthdays on this thread!

Also realising how young I was when I had my first baby! It's the equivalent of someone who was born in 1997 being pregnant now... wtf!

To all the new mums, don't worry about not knowing what to do when baby is here. I read all the books I could and was still like a rabbit in headlights! But really, there isn't much you can do wrong by just following your instincts. To begin with, just ensuring they are clean and fed will take up most of your day and new babies have no routine so just go with it. Don't be surprised if the first few weeks are a topsy turvy whirlwind. Just remember it does settle down and try to enjoy it as it goes so fast.

We are lucky to have a 4 bed house in the SE. It cost £245K and is Victorian end of terrace with fairly big rooms and a fab garden that we craved after moving from our 2 bed new build flat. I love it, but mortgage will be a struggle when I'm on SMP (as the main earner). Not too sure how we will cope, but just stocking up on as much as possible now.

Congrats on all the recent scans ladies! and thanks for the Tesco heads up vroc .. scuttles off to search Tesco baby items.

Erm... maybe too much time on my hands today what with the rain and chickenpox but I'm really panicking about our car situation now.

It's going to be an absolute pain in the arse isn't it? Every time we want to go somewhere together and realise we can't. But I really don't want to trade in my lovely car for five years of finance we probably can't afford. The only thing we come close to being able to afford is a Vauxhall Zafira and now they're in the news because they keep spontaneously combusting...

Don't know what to do!