Due March 2007 - Heading for the third trimester

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Thought I'd start a new thread as the other one's about to run out.

Moss - Jan 07.. only 6/7 weeks away !!

Laidback, god that's soon! Are you looking forward or will you be sad to go do you think?

Mixed feelings really.... Sri Lanka is on the brink of civil war. We have a great lifestyle here, but I miss the english seasons and am sick of the monsoon rain, power cuts and the fact that EVERYTHING rots here. They also wanted me to give birth in stirrups

It sounds like you're getting out at the right time I suppose, (and as for giving birth in stirrups, well the thought of childbirth scares me enough as it is without being trapped in stirrups) will you be leaving many friends behind though?

We can always still visit ... and take advantage of their hospitality !!!

Aime Sorry to hear about your grandad

Hello all, I'm 26 weeks and have a question about baby kicks. Do any of you find that your baby kicks loads one day and is fairly quiet the next? I do and i find it a bit disconcerting! is it normal?

hello ladies

well my head is firmly above water. my dd has been staying with my mum the past few days to give me a breather; she came to 'visit' for an hour today, which was lovely but absolutely exhausting i'm going to have to wean myself slowly back onto full-time childcare

amie - sorry to hear about your grandad. hope it was peaceful.

diva - that website for dads looks great - amazingly dp wants to know some good websites to look at so i shall direct him to that one - kind of easier for men to digest than babycentre or babyworld or any of those which even I find a bit too overwhelmingly cheerful! LOL about your pregnancy cotton-wool brain; i feel the same..

and also i am starting to feel enormous too, people keep asking when it's due and raising an eyebrow when i say march, has anyone else had this experience?

kitty, what is this video/DVD? i want to see it! is it you giving birth?? is it a VBAC? i might get very scared

thank you everyone for your words of support at what is definitely one of the toughest times i have faced in my life. i just feel so ill physically it is very hard not to get depressed. i am taking all counsel about rest, vitamins and putting my feet up.. had some blood tests done today which apparently they are going to 'fast-track' (in the NHS does that mean getting them back before Xmas?!) so will await those results and take it from there.. the antibiotics are really exhausting to take as they take away all remnants of an appetite, i just don't feel hungry in the least, i can't remember what it was like to eat for pleasure rather than from a sense of obligation..

so odd to not feel hungry, and yet to look like a beached whale! pregnancy is certainly a strange thing.

laidback - we will be moving at about the same time - early jan? - so can give each other moral support in the chaos! (though i'm staying in the same town, but i've got to arrange it all myself; should think it'll be quite stressful!)

boo - i do a yoga class when i'm well enough to get to it and it certainly does help, also there are some really nice people there who i'm slowly becoming friends with and that will be great when LO is born..

my favourite baby names right now include Conrad. i told dd that it was a secret, and she has told everyone, at nursery, in the family, that we are definitely calling the baby Conrad! so funny. not sure i can get out of it now... i do love the name though it seems like a 'strong' name, apparently it means bold and brave, which he will definitely need to be with my current set-up

is anyone else going to watch the Tsunami programme tonight? i'm in 2 minds. i am crying at Neighbours, so it might just get a bit much on me own !

Ettenna sorry not to see your post, pregnancy brain.. yes i think it's totally normal for the kicks to change in frequency and strength from day to day and at different times of day. however the standard advice is that if you feel a substantial reduction in movement for more than 24 hours, contact your midwife; they can listen in with a doppler really easily and set your mind at rest hope this helps xx

Laidback - wow you two are multi- skilled and entrepreneurial (sp???)! I've been in my field for 15 years and so feel quite limited in what I can apply for.

Mosseltoe - yes Queen Charlottes really do have disco balls, plus lava lamps, CD players, birthing pools, mood lighting and birthing balls . All I need is a Doula and for my placenta to move out of the way so I can give birth in there!!! I want an epi, but reckon if I have a pool, disco lights and a Doula, I might opt to say in the funky room as having the epi would mean moving to a clinical room. After the birth you get to stay in the room and they have pull out beds for partners and siblings so they can stay overnight with you if neccessary!!!

Of course, these things don't always go as planned though...

Etenna - yes babies do have sleeping days in the womb. It'll probably wake up when you are asleep and move without you even realising. Try not to worry too much but keep an eye

Kitty - you're quiet today. Hope you're OK?

Rainbow - Glad your head is above water now and you are getting some rest, your Mum sounds great. I like the name Conrad - it manages to sound modern and old fashioned at the same time Kitty's DVD isn't scary its very inspiring actually. I'm trying to get a copy done for Roasy, so perhaps she can send you it after she's seen it.

Hope everyone else is OK

26 + 2 (baby boy)

awww the doula-who-didn't-turn-up just called me and profusely apologised for her lack of timekeeping last week; so am going to give her another go and meet up for another chat on the 12th (provided she makes it!). she was really apologetic and said she had simply overloaded herself. so i was quite pleased she had called.

x posts foxy, ikwym about the name Conrad it is definlely growing on me! glad your birth plans are going well. i'd love to see Kitty's non-scary DVD!

Rainbow, I e-mailed three Doulas and the one I really wanted hasn't e-mailed back

Perhaps she's dusy doing births or something....

Hope yours turns (up) I mean turns out to be really good.

hello all. I am a bit tired and teary today. Ds2 has been 'playing' with a belt from a gorgeous brand new cardi that I treated myself to and haven't worn 'cos it is a post fat cardi. He's stretched it and I went bonkers. Actually it reduced me to a sobbing hysterical wreck. I have a real hang up/problem with my jumpers being stretched. Bizzare as it might seem I can't ever wear them again if they get mishapen. I've been like this a long as I remember
I think I'm just very tired, I was sobbing in the playground last week over a silly thing.
My normal preg knickers feel tight so I must be extra fat round the bum

Rainbowgirl, it is me and it is a vbac, but it's at home and it's not at all scary

kitty don't worry, i'm crying about the most silly things at the moment as well, including not being able to open a jar of pasta sauce last night

and it strikes me that what you were really crying about imho was the sense of your own personal identity being eroded. not just the belt, but the fact that you had treated yourself to something special and children (bless them) just have no idea what that means! NOT a silly thing to cry over. you need to stash your new clothes in craftier places!

you probably feel overwhelmed and overloaded at times with so many children and with the other problems you've had of late.. but from everything i've read and the impression i get, you're doing a fantastic job, and personally i have much respect for you.

i would love to see the DVD. maybe someone can somehow get me a copy to borrow? do you have it on video? (don't currently own a DVD player tho may get one for xmas)

xx

i've been really tearful about my shape by the way. with nobody to tell me / trick me that i'm 'beautiful' i just feel like a fat heffalump. although my actual weight gain isn't huge, i've put on weight on bum, thighs, arms etc.. so that my maternity clothes from first pg don't even fit me! how depressing is that?!!

kitty you know what? i'd go back to where you bought the cardi and tell a white lie and try to get a new belt. don't even try to wear the stretched one. take it back, or donate it to ds and put it down to experience!

Kitty - glad you're OK IYKWIM.

I hate clothes being ruined too. Sometimes DH mis-washes them (shrinks, stretches, doesn't get the stains out) and I get very unreasonable and scream like a harpie.

Rainbow - no its not a video - sorry. I thought I was the last person to buy a DVD player - we got one about two months ago 'cos DS kept pleading

I'm constantly on the verge of tears too. Its much worse when you're tired isn't it?

Kitty, sorry to hear about your cardie and I don't think you're being silly at all! I agree with rainbowgirl I think you should make up some excuse and take it back to the shop!

Rainbowgirl I am sure you look nothing other than curvy and voluptuous in your pregnant shape!!! Anyway even if you do look like a heffalump, my understanding is that heffalumps are really cute .

Oh and I love the name Conrad!

Foxy hope you get your doula sorted out, maybe she is just busy?

Better go lots of candidates to call before five to eight, I get to leave a whole five minutes early now I am pg, so I can catch a train rather than get the bus. So generous!!!

heffalump

Thanks girls

I can't take it back as it was a one off special at a christmas fair I went to a couple of weeks back. Perhaps it might n ot be as bad as I think.
You are right I should have stashed it away more carefully, but you know it drives me mad. I could understand it more if he was little, but he's 7 and he shouldn't be playing with my things, he knows that.
You are also right that what I'm feeling at the mo is linked with all the upheavals of late. I think you can think things are ok,you know , that you're on the straight and narrow, then a little thing completely throws you and you realise that you're not as ok as you thought you were or something!
Personal identity?, Yes I struggle with that one
I'm really glad you're getting some rest Rainbow, you sound much perkier. If you get a dvd player i'm akso more thann happy to copy it for you. What about you're computer? Has it got a dvd drive?

Foxy, no one is allowed to wash or dry my clothes but me. It's not that I am a super smart beautifully turned out style guru (hardly likey when I spent most of the time covered in a mixture of snot and dinner), well you've seen me, but I hate them being ruined, particularly woollens, which I also happen to adore.
God I could do with drink much more than I'm 'supposed 'to tonight. Hey ho, only another 113 days to go for me according to some strange preg calendar which emails me every week with pregnancy 'facts'. It says this week "Hello Emma, only 113 days to go until March 21st. This week you will be mostly feeling......." I don't know where this calendar come from
23+6 boy

Hello ladies! I am feeling VERY chipper today as had a positive experience at Kings for once, and found out that I am right! She's a girl! Hurray! I'll have a matching set . Hope she sleeps more than her big sister though, currently standing in her cot going "mummeeeeee"! Am trying to ignore it. Only slight bad news is that my placenta is anterior too - hope it shifts a bit as otherwise it'll be in the way for my section. The registrar asked me today if I was going for a natural birth and laughed heartily when I said "no"! Then I told her what DD weighed and she said I was wise. Brilliant, hope the consultant is as sympathetic!

Rainbow, how are you feeling today? Hope you are doing well. Don't worry about being a bit larger - I am the biggest porker in S london! I cannot believe how fat and horrible I feel. DH tells me it's all baby, but it's not and I don't like it. My mat clothes from last time don't look right either and it is supremely depressing. Can't believe I am looking forward to going on a diet !

Big hugs to you Kitty. I am very precious about my stuff too. I bought DD a book about a fortnight ago with flaps to pull etc and she trashed it the first time she read it! I should have known but I went ballistic and really shouted. She cried so much, as did I. We ended up lyingon the sofa with her patting my shoulder as I heaved and sobbed. Not one of my finer moments. One child is more than I can manage at the moment, so I really feel for you. You are doing a splendid job and I really admire you too (and I agree, I too wd tell a white lie about the cardigan!!)

Foxy, I am always close to tears, if not in tears at the moment. I am probably going to dissolve before 25th March. I agree about being tired - it makes everything a thousand times worse. I am reading a book about having your second baby which makes a very good point, in that books and mags try to prepare us for being prgnant women, but we are actually pregnant mothers which makes it harder. I only have 1 to worry about, so hats off to you and all the other ladies grappling lots of kids. I'll pass you a virtual tissue, lend you my ample (if virtual) bosom, pour you a pint of low alcohol wine and we can have a good boo together. Kitty and any other lady very welcome to join in.

Amie, sorry to read about your loss. Thinking of you. XXXXX

Glad to hear you are coming back, Laidback. Can't believe it is only 6 weeks away. Where is the time going?!

Mossletoe - other people should be able to feel your LO very shortly I think. Mine is at the most active if I lie down and have a nice lump of chocolate or a very cold drink to get her going. This might be worth a try.

Hope everyone is OK today. DD is still sobbing so I'd better go....XXXXXXX

Oh yes, I too like the name Conrad, but I am rather partial to names beginning with c or k. Three of mine start with those .
Glad the doula rang back, better luck this time.

Oh yes, I too like the name Conrad, but I am rather partial to names beginning with c or k. Three of mine start with those .
Glad the doula rang back, better luck this time.

hi all,im going to do half a post now then half when ive read the rest of today so i dont forget what im doing

amie-sorry to hear about your grandad.

moss-i had an anterior placenta with both my dds,and nobody could feel them move from outside till week 28 at the earliest.
i have a 'right lateral' placenta this time?!dp felt the baby move last week.

laidback-property is very cheap where i am(the housing assc. told me this large 4 bedroom house was valued at £170k)and there is always lots of work here for probation officers etc,mainly because of the high crime rate and drug problems due to there being no work in any other fields.

anyway,im going to read the rest of the posts now.

24+6