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chopsface · 14/04/2015 20:41

Come put your feet up in the Zen den and let the dh's wait on us hand and foot whilst we nurture the fruit of their loins in our bellies :-)

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wotsits1 · 21/05/2015 08:18

Chops Its reassuring to know that I'm not the only one who is totally paranoid and symptom spotting. I ate toast this morning for the first time in a week and thought "Uh oh! Why can I actually face breakfast again!"I need to shake this paranoia and get a grip!!!!

tessiegirl · 21/05/2015 10:55

I'm exactly the same wotsits Sad I can't bring myself to even think about looking at anything baby related yet in case I jinx things. The reassurance of the 8 week scan was fantastic but that was only 2 weeks ago tomorrow and it feels a lifetime ago. DH keeps saying to me 'you know things are ok, you saw the bean on the screen!' and I say to him 'Yes, I know things were fine then but there are no guarantees that everything is STILL fine' Sad I never even knew that an mmc existed before learning about it on MN. Absolutely terrifying. In a way I wish I didn't know so much about the things that could go wrong, but then again I would rather be prepared Sad

Feeling petrified today. I keep imagining the worse. I keep thinking about the possibility of having 12 week scan and seeing that bean hasn't grown at all. Sorry ladies, I'm in a sad worrying mood today and I wish I could snap out of it Sad

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chopsface · 21/05/2015 13:58

I feel the same! Its mmc I'm afraid of! And yes that I'll go to 12 week scan and its stopped growing! Omg! This is so stressful!

I'm also refusing to look at baby things, or even buy some bigger trousers! My best friend is already picking up bits for me and looking through her attic for baby stuff. I keep telling her to stop! She's even got a cot up there for us! I don't want it in my house!

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tessiegirl · 21/05/2015 15:13

Had a chat with my mum earlier just to get some of my worries out to someone else other than dh. She says it is completely natural to be worried. I have found a scan place here. Am I crazy to be considering going for another scan before 12 weeks? Confused

wotsits1 · 21/05/2015 16:27

Not at all Tessie. I keep poas for reassurance. Not that poas really tells me anything, but it helps a little.

When I had dd I had scans every 2 weeks from week 6 - 12 and it was fab. Wish I could have that again!

There's a place near me that does scans for £40. If I get really tempted after the 8 week scan 8 could always do that I guess.

wotsits1 · 21/05/2015 16:27

I could always do that. Not 8!

tessiegirl · 21/05/2015 17:08

Oh really Wotsits? You have reassured me that I'm not completely crazy! I hope I will feel better after 12 weeks but maybe not??

dojo123 · 21/05/2015 17:16

Hi All

Glad I'm not the only one who is worried about MMC etc.. My twelve week scan is next Wednesday (27th) and I'm looking forward to it but then my next thought is what if it hasn't grown or isn't moving/doesn't have a heatbeat. DH and I do talk about it and do talk to Chip, but I am still worried.
I too check every time I go to the loo for any spotting or discharge, I just can't help myself.
I'm also worried I am jumping ahead on things, my maternity clothes arrived at the weekend. I now have 2no. jeans, 3no. t-shirts, 1no. skirt, 1no. jumper and 1no. long-sleeved t-shirt.

Today, in complete contrast to yesterday I feel fine. No nausea, I'm not eating much as I don't feel hungry or eating to curb the nausea. Chip gives me the odd twinge which must be the muscles of my uterus reacting so I'm trying to take these as all positive signs things are progressing.

Going to have a little pamper later and have my hair cut. Just a trim but it's nice to sit and not think of work or anything for an hour. What have you lot got planned for this evening/weekend?

dojo123 · 21/05/2015 17:17

*heartbeat! Ok maybe I should stop working as obviously my brain isn't working.

tessiegirl · 21/05/2015 17:39

Ah dojo, we are all worrying it seems! I just had some twinges so hoping that it is a good sign too Confused

Oh, I forgot to mention earlier but I have experienced numb hands when I have woken up on my back on three occasions now...I looked it up and apparently it is where the uterus is getting bigger and presses on a nerve. I didn't think anything of it the first couple of time and just assumed I had slept funny but when I woke this morning with the same thing I fretted. So I guess I should take that as a positive that my uterus is getting larger???? Argh!!!!!!

MelonMelon · 21/05/2015 19:14

I've sent off some enquiries about booking an early scan at 8 weeks privately. I'm just so anxious and the knicker watch is extreme!

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 06:54

Booking in appointment today!!!

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 06:56

Dojo I've had to buy some maternity jeans and work trousers as I can't fit into my own!!! And I've bought a couple of baggy tops that will hide my tummy for now!

I can't believe how quickly my tummy has grown this time. Dh looked at me last night and said; "You are gonna be huge!"Hmm

dojo123 · 22/05/2015 07:34

wotsit bless you. I know that women generally show quite early in their second pregnancy so I wouldn't worry but it does mean you possibly can keep it as quiet for as long. I am carrying a little more weight than I wanted to so I just look like I've put on a bit of weight (however I am enjoying the fact that the scales are saying the opposite) though I can't wait to get my bump weirdly, I think it will be another confirmation that this is all happening.

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 07:37

My stomach is ridiculous. I know my friends are all on baby #2 and in remember they were saying how they had to go straight into mat clothes with their second. But this is just daft!!

I'm a little concerned I've got a football team in there!!!

Purplecuddlykoala14 · 22/05/2015 08:03

I Feel strangely calm about things DH is the worrier. The only thing we've discussed is the downs test as I'm higher risk because of my age. I'm not having any needles stuck in my belly that's for sure. Dh has worked with people with Learning disabilities so it's not a big thing for us.
Hope the appointment goes well wotsits

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 09:18

purple how old are you? I'm 35.

I'm not having the downs test. My friends little boy has downs so its not a big deal for me. I'm used to it. She knew that she was a high risk from the nt test (1 in 20) but wouldn't have the amnio because of the risk of miscarriage. She spent her whole pregnancy in pieces worrying.

The NHS are amazing once the baby is born and the support you get is brilliant. The support through pregnancy, however, is non existent.
She always says she wishes she hadn't had it done as she couldn't do anything different and she didn't know for definite.

My other friend was told that she was a high risk (1 in 7) and spent her pregnancy in pieces and the baby was fine!

I wouldn't have an amnio... and I simply can't cope with the stress!

Mummyofonesofar · 22/05/2015 09:30

wotsits good luck with your booking in appointment! Mine is Monday Grin

Re downs testing - I tried to say to DP that I don't want the Nuchal scan, just a dating part of it but he said there is no harm in getting the stats. But we are both in our 20s so can't really see the point and even if for some reason the excess fluid is there then we both agree we wouldn't terminate anyway so there is no point having all that worry!

Mummyofonesofar · 22/05/2015 09:31

And last night I told DP that I felt like a whale already with a band of bloat all along my belly but he told me to stop being an idiot then started snoring.... Not the support I wanted!

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chopsface · 22/05/2015 10:16

Me and dh were umming and ahhing over the downs testing too, I'm 35. We have booked in for it at the 12week but I know I wouldn't terminate either. Told the midwife that it didn't matter but she suggested going for it anyway so you can be prepared. Anyway its booked but we can still say no on the day if we change our minds by then. We wouldn't have further risky testing anyway.

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Mummyofonesofar · 22/05/2015 10:40

But then I also think - if we didn't have the double test then it could be done earlier than 12 weeks and we could see our bean sooner! Plus as we are seeing DPs extended family at 10w +6 and if we could have the scan jsut before that then it would get rid of the need for the private scan I am secretly planning so we can share the news at the party.

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 16:15

My midwife said to me today; "Would you have an amnio?"

Me; "No"

Midwife; "Well the nt isn't diagnostic so what's the point in causing all the worry. If you want to... you can book for private bloods done that are diagnostic but they're £300.

Me; "Yeah I'll leave it thanks..."

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 16:15

I'm not having the double test but they've still only booked me in for 13 weeks. Boooo

Purplecuddlykoala14 · 22/05/2015 17:30

I'm 39 wotsits, I'll be on holiday when I'm 13 weeks so hoping they'll do the scan before I go.

wotsits1 · 22/05/2015 21:05

Oooh fx they do!!

Does anyone know when you actually meet your community midwife? Do I just wait for her to contact me?

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