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Puking our way through the first trimester: It's the November 2015 ladies here! Hand out plenty of ginger tea, cold drinks and some lovely scan pics soon!

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Focusfocus · 31/03/2015 11:46

If you're due in November 2015, well here's your ante natal club! Come and talk about vomit inducing man-scents, cheese roasties you simply cannot do without/or stand, the picked ice cream you must have right now, and the bubbling desire to tell the world but checking dates to restrain yourself!

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HeirToTheIronThrone · 04/04/2015 17:49

We had friends over for lunch today, the slow cooked lamb I lovingly made just made me heave :( But my friend bought home made lemon tart which the baby seems to be happy with, fortunately she left the rest behind Wink

We had some sad news this afternoon, DH's Nan has died. She was a huge part of his life as his DM died young so all quite upsetting. I think the pregnancy helps in a funny way - one life ends but another is just beginning.

cryingbabymess · 04/04/2015 18:01

Sophiaslullaby I think I need to go to poundland tomorrow as all my DP came home with was a pot noodle and a caramac for him! He's just cooked tea and I couldn't manage it so I've just sobbed my heart out on the sofa for the pay 15 minutes as he clears up! ConfusedSad

Heir hope you're ok with the sad news. I think I've just realised just now how much I wish my mum was here. She could always make me feel better when I was sick (mum passed away a year passed January!)

roughtyping · 04/04/2015 18:25

heir really sorry to hear that. My papa passed away just after I found out I was pregnant and you're right, it is quite comforting. I do sometimes 'feel' my other grampa is around - I know that sounds really woo but not sure how else to describe it! - and that my grandparents know how DS is.

Focusfocus · 04/04/2015 21:17

So sorry heir.

Yes the rice and tuna stayed in. As did -- drum roll -- chicken fajitas tonight! With guacamole and salsa!

Having said that I do think my sickness is actually morning sickness, my roughest is from dawn till midday.

I think I would have functioned soooo much better on the diet I was born and bred on I.e. The Indian home diet. Plenty of turmeric, spices, light curries, rice and lentil based meals. Nothing like the "Indian" restaurants here which is frankly unrecognisable to me. But part of living in nuclear western societies with a western husband, is that, cooking tends to become westernised, convenient one pot style meals. So while I've got used to the fish/meat and two veg style of eating, I miss the first 23 years of my life which involved meals to consist if white rice, curried lentils, something fried, fish curry and yoghurt. Every day. Twice a day.

Anyway, sorry for the me post. Was speaking to my pregnant friend in India today and she is being well looked after by mum and mum in law with piles of home cooked food at each meal, freshly made for her, freshest if fish, choicest of veggies, mango from the tropical trees, and I..... Was putting canned tuna into microwave rice. Just felt sorry for myself. But my choices, I live with them.

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sophiaslullaby · 04/04/2015 21:41

Aww Heir I am sorry to her that. Hope the family is coping and I like the way you put a happy light on it : one life has moved on but another is beginning. Strangely it's happened in my family for past 3 generations -elderly person has passed away and someone's then found themselves pregnant...not to get all spiritual on you guys but I find it a comfort and lovely way of looking at the circle of life. And that the unborn child has someone looking after them.

Focus -yes today has been a better day r.e.nausea. (although not drinking Nesquik again...Sad) I ate huge plate of roast veg, potatoes and baked chicken &Parma ham. And no nausea!
Your home cooking sounds amazing...I'd go for it if it'll make you feel better about eating (and keeping it down).

cryingbabymess offering hugs, your sobs are ones I've shed frequently when feeling so blah! Hope the cry made you feel better in the least?

Right my bedtime, Happy sleep (no weird dreams, no constant wees, no sickness sigh) to all.

HeirToTheIronThrone · 04/04/2015 23:10

Thanks everyone. It is nice to think that she is looking after me.

I have been much less nauseous today, until I caused it in myself with too much chocolate Easter Sad

Jucymyname · 04/04/2015 23:39

Heir I'm sorry about the sad news, I hope you're both coping.

Well done everybody who could eat and keep it down, you need nutrition.
I'm feeling rotten, cold doesn't want to leave me, ms starts about lunchtime, I can't eat anything, I'm bloated, crampy, horrible. I can't even drink water, it makes me feel nauseous. I'm just feeling sorry for myself... Easter Sad

TakesTwoToTango · 05/04/2015 01:32

heir so sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you and your DH and his family.

Hope everyone struggling with the sickness is doing okay tonight. I feel rough. Not been sick but just nauseous all the time 24 hrs a day and nothing seems to make it better. Managed a piece of toast for breakfast, soup for lunch and a little bit of chilli and rice for dinner but bleurgh i feel rotten! Still spotting too (two weeks now) and haven't yet got a date for the next check-up (will get it on Monday but it could be a couple of weeks still), so I have this nagging worry that i may be suffering all this for nothing as i have no idea if the pg is continuing as it should (if you remember I had a scan with a hb at 6+2 but also showed bleeding and contractions). 8 weeks tomorrow (theoretically).

mrscatmad31 · 05/04/2015 07:19

So sorry Heir Sad I know what you mean, one of our best friends died just before we found out I was pregnant and it was easier to cope knowing we had something to look forward to.
food is my enemy at the moment, I don't fancy anything but feel better if I eat, have virtually stopped cooking as I can't cope cooking something that makes me feel sick!

Mamama31 · 05/04/2015 08:49

Heir I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope you are both doing ok and supporting eachother.

Takestwo did they not give you a follow up app for another scan? I'm also in my 2nd week of spotting, gives me such anxiety! Have a scan this wed, only saw the sac last wed at 5+3 so hoping to see a lot more this week. So stressful!

flyingsprocket · 05/04/2015 09:34

heir sorry to hear your news. mamama hope the scan goes well on Wednesday.

Happy Easter everyone! I'm not a chocolate lover but have an egg here that will probably last me a few months Blush

Is anyone else on here planning to take advantage of the new shared parental leave rules that come into effect today? I think DP and I are going to do it., we'll figure out how much and when closer to the time I don't get get anything other than SMP from my rather large British employer that employs over 40,000 staff, so financially it won't make any difference to us.

Focusfocus · 05/04/2015 09:37

Yes yes yes flying sprocket to shared parental leave. I am in the public sector and get 26 weeks of good pay so won't sacrifice that. But DH would like to stay home for the first 1.5 months overlapping with me and then couple of months at the end of my leave. The ACAS guidance is clearest. I started a thread on this on the oregnancy board a week ago I think,have a look, people gave some good thoughts on there.

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cryingbabymess · 05/04/2015 10:19

My MS is crazy today! Literally can't move! Been crying again as I feel my DP just doesn't understand and likes to take the piss!! He's needing to go across to my dads today and I don't know if I can face it! I've not been outside since Thursday so I really should! Shock And because I called in sick to work last night I'm now working tonight instead!

Pyjama · 05/04/2015 12:21

How did it go Buttermilly?

I've been sick this morning, still feeling a little grotty but feeling much better than I have for several days. Wondering whether I should risk eating a yummy Easter nest I made yesterday....

roughtyping · 05/04/2015 13:05

Really don't understand the shared parental leave thing - have looked at a few websites and can't get my head around the money side of it. Will look at the ACAS website (think someone recommended it up thread).

Have eaten two bagels, a bowl of clusters and some chocolate pretzels today. Think I might explode. Taking DS to cinema but regretting booking tickets as the sun is splitting the sky! Heyho Smile

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roughtyping · 05/04/2015 13:39

annbag is it the same I.e. The last x Weeks of the 52 weeks is unpaid?

roughtyping · 05/04/2015 13:40

Just not sure whether I want to give up my maternity leave for DH Wink although if I went back for last couple of weeks of June id get paid my salary over the summer holidays, and DH could be off..

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Mamama31 · 05/04/2015 15:37

Annbag yes! I'm only 6 weeks today....meh!

SnozzberryPie · 05/04/2015 16:29

I'm interested in the shared parental leave although with dd we planned for dp to take some leave towards the end of my maternity leave but she turned out to be a bit of a boob monster, so in the end we did it so that dp had one month at the end. It was less time than we'd hoped but it had a really positive effect that dp was (and still is) just as capable of looking after dd as I am, so I don't feel like I am the only person responsible for childcare.