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StoneBaby · 11/01/2015 13:24

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StoneBaby · 19/01/2015 18:00

flower no name will be revealed. Will tell the sex to a few people but the name is secret to me and DH UNTIL DC is born.

We've been in our house for nine years and last year had a big extension built which now the kitchen and our old kitchen became a utility room with a downstair toilets. We still have some finishing touch to do as well as putting a new flooring in our bedroom and living room due to the carpet been wrecked during the work but we DH is doing those when he can.

I'm aiming to stop working on 30 June and have a week of 'rest' prior to baby arrival and will be back to work mid-November.

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misseskimo · 19/01/2015 18:09

We're finding out sex, but won't be telling anyone names. Me and DH have got two names each for B/G and will decide on the day what he/she looks more like, and then will announce... I know a few people who announced their names in advance and I honestly thought it was odd...

Though we now need to think of a new boy name as DH has decided he is vetoing one of them due to an old joke his best friend had about him when they were teenagers... I don't know the full story, but as it's been vetoed, I don't mind saying that it was something about he would grow up to have a son named Damien, but that Damien is the name of the devil-child? Some Only Fools & Horses reference that I don't get...?? He was swaying to let me use it, until we found out our original EDD was 13th, then he said it was a bad sign and wouldn't use Damien... EDD is now 7th, but he still won't budge... So new name brainstorm will happen sooner or later! Lol

broodylicious · 19/01/2015 18:16

Lol miss! Yes I remember the only fools' Damien! Grin

naty1 · 19/01/2015 18:23

Damien from Omen films

WantToGoingTo · 19/01/2015 18:34

We have decided on names but no one is knowing until baby arrives! Our little secret :)

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StoneBaby · 19/01/2015 18:39

We have started discussing about names yet. We'll do after the 20w scan. DS has already asked and given his opinion on some of the names I suggested! His choices are Batman for a boy and Lawa for a girl Hmm

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broodylicious · 19/01/2015 18:47

Aww I like batman Grin we shan't ask dd her opinion and will only discuss after she's in bed - otherwise it'd be something Tumble, Justin, Upsy Daisy.... (Cbeebies references for those without dcWink)

Naturegirl82 · 19/01/2015 18:58

We won't be telling names. Didn't with dd1 and really hoping for a suprise on the sex this time as well.

Thepurplegiraffe · 19/01/2015 19:20

I was just watching the Damien episode the other day! With that and the other one not sure I could use that name.Smile
DH and I struggled to agree on a girls name last time so I have no idea how we will do it again. We also had a short list and decided on what felt right when she was born. We haven't really talked about it yet this time. I have a name I quite like though but it starts with the same letter as our surname. Is that an issue???

jmojo · 19/01/2015 19:26

broody we want to know the sex and will tell everyone, but keep names to ourselves. I remember one of the bigger complaints from my couples was the "advice" they were getting from family and friends about their name choices!! Grin

broodylicious · 19/01/2015 19:32

Exactly jmo! My mum is a retired teacher and my sister works in a school so when any name discussion came up while I was pg with dd, there was always "oh no, I taught a really naughty boy called that" or "it'd remind me of that smelly girl with head lice in y4" or whatever. Then, they come up with "oooh I was thinking and I've come up with a lovely name if it's a boy..." Drove us mad! But they enjoyed themselves so guess they had funGrin

jmojo · 19/01/2015 19:33

thepurplegiraffe we have that problem as both of our first names start with the same letter as his last name! (Even worse, i had to double barrel my last name so as not to have a first middle and last name all with the same letter!) So anything begining with that letter is OUT!

Thepurplegiraffe · 19/01/2015 19:38

Damn it! I should have married someone else!

jmojo · 19/01/2015 19:48

Haha, well my husband survived being the same letter first and last name! It sounds good. It is just the ridiculousness of all of my names having that letter too!! Wink

Thepurplegiraffe · 19/01/2015 19:53

So he didn't mind? I can't decide if it sounds ridiculous or not but this is a boy name.

Broody, my BIL is a teacher, he vetoed so many names that my poor sister liked for just that reason. My DH just vetoed mine because he is an arse. Talking of DH, I told him he could decide if we find out the sex this time. Regretting that as he refuses to decide!

jmojo · 19/01/2015 20:00

purple no he didn't mind at all. He loves his name!

BadIdeaBear · 19/01/2015 20:09

My married name means I have the same sound at the beginning of my first name and surname. I really like it, actually - doesn't feel daft.

Threeplus1 · 19/01/2015 20:13

I don't mind revealing the name before the baby is born. I find that finding out the sex and deciding on a name makes the baby seem a part of the family already and it definitely helps the older dc to bond.

Just like finding out/revealing the sex, each to their own I suppose

Thepurplegiraffe · 19/01/2015 20:13

Thanks ladies, I won't completely discount it yet then.

Butler4 · 19/01/2015 21:28

Random question? Met the midwife a few times on my local 'team' and she seems pretty young. Anyone else found themselves thinking 'is she older than 12???'
Argh trying not to be that person who judges someone on their ability to do the job based on age as I get it all the time at work but can't help it!!

SophieBarringtonWard · 19/01/2015 21:37

Butler how many years of experience though? My midwife looks pretty young but I know she has had 6 years of experience working in busy hospitals!

Re: names - ARGH is all I have to say. Find it really stressful choosing a name, happy to discuss names for other babies until the cows come home, but get totally stuck for our own! We definitely won't be announcing a name before the baby because there won't be one because I actually feel really superstitious about it. Until the baby is safely here I won't call it a name, also don't particularly like getting things ready for it. Don't know why I feel like that as there is no big history of baby loss in my family (apart from my great grandmother who had a stillborn son which she ascribed to the negligence of the doctors).

Butler4 · 19/01/2015 21:41

Sophie I don't know, can you ask people how much experience they have? My guess is she is early 20's. So no idea! I know I am being a bit unreasonable. I'm not bothered by it cos you never know who you are going to get but have thought about it a few times now!

jmojo · 19/01/2015 21:44

Butler haha! I used to be that midwife! I wish i had a penny for every time I was asked!! I was still being asked at 30 (i have freckles). At one point i was inteoducing myself and saying how long i had been qualified just to head it off! Don't worry i am sure she wont mind if you ask!

jmojo · 19/01/2015 21:47

Plus even if they are newly qualified, they have gone through 3 yrs min of hard training, and you have to do 40 deliveries, 100 antenatal checks 100 postnatal checks (correctly) and a lot more before they let you qualify!

jmojo · 19/01/2015 21:53

Ask if she likes working at the hospital then ask how long they had been at the hospital. Ask if there are a lot of students on Labour ward and if she trained there. That should give you a good idea without asking outright.