Due November 06 - the home waddle

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I thought not NJ ... put your foot down if you go in and state unless it's absolutely necessary you're not having it, and they can examine you in the normal way !

oh damn was hoping I was buying some time as his head is not engaged LOL !

I think I might do Debz, I really don't fancy the access all areas route, like I said I am sure they might as well put a sign up inviting all the nasty bugs and dirt to a party in my fanjo!! LOL

Hopefully it wont come to that NJ posistive vibes for contractions to p*ss off LOL ! but agree seems you would be open to infection (pardon the pun) LOL !

My babies' heads engaged at around 36-37 wks, and this 3rd one was just beginning to engage at 36+6 last wk, acc to m/w, but yes, you can go into labour without it being engaged, I know mums who did even with their first baby.

NJ, I also asked my m/w if it can engage and come back out again, and she reckoned that once it's engaged it can never come back out!but she's probably just giving the textbook answer. Maybe your LO is a little maverick abnd not a textbook baby, hence the contractions as well, and he's probably perfectly OK and healthy (but may give you the runaround when he's 2 or 3!! LOL).

LOL Debz

Chubley, that will be the same text book that says BH don't hurt, and all women can have a natural delivery..... I hate text books! LOL

I wouldn't fancy the smear thingy either, have also never heard of it being used in labour, not even when with 1st baby the m/w kept trying to put a scalp clip on the baby's head to monitor him, as monitor belt kept failing to work and I was moving around a lot to turn him from being back to back. Painful! 2nd time much better - no internals at all (they didn't have time I got there so late!) so going for as little intervention as poss this time as well.

He he LOL !

You lot are really funny!

Charlee, I love the picture you paint of you currently at home!

Tired, - I loved your reference to a sunroof delivery!

He he !

My m/w told me head can pop in and out of engagement if it feels like it, - and often does!

I think I have that text book - full of weird pictures of really happy healthy pregnant women, sometimes having sex, but mostly just happy!

Grrrrrrr

And none of them have a stretchmark or bit of cellulite between them do they? I wonder where they find these women....

LOL, NJ. And the same textbook that says all women can breastfeed successfully and will have happy smiley babies who cry for about 20 mins a day, LOL!

Didn't mean to sound smug about having as little intervention as poss, just don't like medical procedures on me, as I've never had any ops or illnesses so am not used to it and they'd just make me terribly anxious. Would rather have labour pain than internal examinations, scalp clips, epidurals, catheters, drips etc, but will be asking for lots of gas and air! And using a TENS machine which should be arriving later this week.

NJ, have you got a tens machine or thought of getting one? It might help with the contractions, but the bad news is that it's still not really possible to sleep thru contractions (but you might get a bit more sleep than without, IYSWIM).

I hate those women, they are the same as the models in the catalogues with maternity clothes, some of them are so small, you can't even see they are pregnant from head on!

Must admit I have been thinking about a TENS machine, I am quite sceptical about drug-free pain relief of any kind, I am quite sceptical of pain relief really LOL, but if this is what is going to be happening from now till the end of November, it might be worth a go.

Well it certainly cant make it any worse so must be worth a try? Its supposed to help back pain in general so not just for PG women. NJ did you have a natural birth with your first i.e no pain relief at all?

LOL You would think so after my pain relief thing wouldn't you? No, I had the intention of only having pethadine and gas and air, except they sent me completely doolally, and after I had given birth I was told I'd had an epidural - which I'd had no idea about - until I tried to stand up and it actually kicked in and sent everything numb, so although I had had the epidural it didn't actually work until after he was born anyway! This time the pethadine and gas and air can be saved for DH(!!!), I am having none of it, would rather go straight to an epidural and know about it than get caught up in that again!

NJ: How did they manage to give you an epidural without asking?

NJ: How did they manage to give you an epidural without asking?

By the way, - there is a funny active thread going on at the moment 'Things they don't tell you about pregnancy'!

No, they had asked, but I was too far out of it to say no, so I wasn't aware of it at all! According to DH, I was a right PITA!! I refused to drink anything, so they ended up having to put an IV in for fluids, then I asked for a straw (WTF???!!!) and I would then drink from a cup with this straw as long as DH was holding the cup! LOL

Your MIL sounds like she woudl make a good sitcom, NJ!

It would be some small recompense if she ended up making you rich and famous! Start writing it all down!

Evening

NJ last time i was in hospital last week they used the spectrum to have a look at my cervix, it didn't hurt but was uncomfortable and quite un dignified and she couldn't see it anyway so they had to do a digit internal anyway. I also had the 'machine' to measure my contractions aswell but that wont tell them if the contractions are actually doing anything usefull or not so you will have to have some sort of internal but like you say a digit one is alot more comfortable and less embarassing than a spectrum one, im sure they will be as nice as possible about it.

Im only having an epidural if i can this time gas and air made me really really sick and i have had bad experiences with pethidine in the past and quite frankly the tens machine annoyed me more than anything but thats coz im a moody cow when im in labour!

hi everyone, iv got a tens machine and find it brill, as i did with dd, really helps in early stages, just takes the edge off.....completely useless later on tho!

i vote gas and air.........just like weed.........not that iv ever tried that of course!!!

oh and NJ when i went in a couple of weeks ago was examined with one of them things......wasnt very dignified but all doc said was that i wasnt dilating and not to worry and sent me on my merry way!

Now I am seriously f*ed off - if I wasn't before!! I can now only sit on my hard dining room chairs, sitting on the sofa just kills me, laying down in bed hurts like hell, so now I can't even have a nice cuddle with DH I really don't think I can handle this for much longer, I am at breaking point, I can't sleep, can barely eat, I couldn't even give DS a proper cuddle tonight The contractions are just taking the piss, they have been stronger than last night, once or twice now to the point where I can't talk with them, but they have been very irregular, sometimes nothing for 20 minutes, sometimes two in 5 minutes.

I cannot even try to sleep on a f*ing dining room chair.

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NJ - have you tried a glass of alcohol? I read in a herbalist guide to pregnancy.. it might relax the muscle (womb)....

Well it sounds liek this speculum thing (was that what it was called?!!) is quite the norm really, so shouldn't be a problem infection wise, it just seemed really strange!

Pupice, I had half a stubby lager on Friday night and a small glass of white on Saturday, it didn't seem to do anything to contractions I was having then, although as bad as they were then, is nothing compared to them now.