Hi all, have been a bit quiet for a couple of days. Hello newbies!!!
cinnamon I was so shocked and sad to read about your FIL. What an awful thing to happen. I hope you and dh are holding up ok, thinking of you. Very glad that things seemed a little more positive re your little boy's kidneys. Some flicker of light in a dark week. Fingers crossed things keep getting better from here.
I have been getting BHs on and off. I'm not worried, but am getting a really painful bump at times. This didn't happen last time. When I am walking sometimes it is really sore. I walked 20mins to a friend's yesterday and had pain all down the right side of my bump like stitch, it made me puff and pant and hold my bump up and keep wanting to stop and rest. It's a bit unnerving since I never had anything like that before. The bump feels very tight like it is contracting when that happens too. Weird. Had MW appt yesterday too and she was happy. Says I might still be able to have a water birth despite high risk and perhaps even if I need the prophylactic IV antibiotics they are considering. So that is good news. She advised me to write a birth plan and discuss it before the event.
We bought our first baby boy purchase today - a Christmas jumper for next year and a set of dinosaur babygrows from Next in first size. 
My dd was 6lb 6oz when she arrived at 39+5 - although I was ill for a lot of my pregnancy. This time lots of people keep saying he might end up coming early by chance or planned (though my obstetrician only put early delivery at a chance of about 10%) so we bought First Size. Dd had no clothes that fit her until a few days old since all the newborn stuff was huge on her!
Feeling annoyed and a bit worried this evening since we were at the PILs for dinner, and my BIL and his family were down visiting from Halifax. It was great to see them, our nieces are 10 and 8 and dd LOVED playing with them all evening. Unfortunately my lovely steak dinner was interrupted by a hot wet patch appearing on my left hip and I quickly realised that my bag (for those who don't know I have an ileostomy so have to wear a stoma bag) was leaking. It hardly ever happens - in fact it just doesn't with the bags I am settled on now. It's the first time in months and months. I didn't have any spares and had to rush home and sort it out, change my clothes and go back. Not embarrassing just awkward! But I'm worried because I think it's because my shape is changing, the bags don't fit as well. And the small hernia I used to have around my stoma is definitely markedly larger this evening. This evening now my replacement bag is uncomfortable and feels like it pulls where the join is between my skin and stoma. It hurts when I stand up too a bit.
I know my hernia is getting worse and I told the stoma nurse a couple of weeks ago and I have had a new fitting for a new belt to support it. It won't arrive for weeks though. The consultant surgeon said he could see me but to be honest he wouldn't elect to do anything until I have had the baby obviously so there isn't much point at the moment. He will just put me back together afterwards... >sigh<
I am also getting terrified of how the labour will ruin my abdominal wall this time - I'll be pressing much stoma with my hands as much as I am pushing to try to stop all my insides falling out! People keep saying it will be fine but I am getting really worried.
And what with the hernia getting worse, pain on that side and weird changes in my output from it sometimes I am getting worried I am heading towards blockages. Oh I so hope not... That could mean drips and NG tubes and I am just not up for that...
I'm clinging to the 90% though! they are good odds, whatever I have to go through to get there I suppose!
Signing off from my long whinge now because my right back and right abdomen are really cramping up and feel horrible, must wriggle and rub!
Thanks for listening to the whine...
25w