November 2014 - thread 9. The one with the babies.

[amy83firsttimer]

Waddle aboard ladies.

Good luck Crazy xx

Looks like in our area we are not entitled to HV attention before baby is actually here. Or maybe they are still visiting those with closer due dates, with me they still have 3 weeks to go.

Hi everyone,
I was on the first thread and been meaning to get back on and see how everyone is getting on, after a very eventful 9 months never got round to it! Had due date of 6th nov DC3, but due to complications was very speedily induced on 28.10.14 and pleased to say my two boys now have a beautiful baby sister, happy to be home with both of us healthy and settling into chaos of number 3. Good luck to everyone patiently waiting and Congratulations on all the new babies welcome to the world.

Xx

Congratulations Donkey!

Argh we don't have central heating we have storage heaters :( but the house is lovely and warm.,

You're all going to hate me but at 36+3 tonight is the first night I have felt honestly uncomfortable, my pelvis aches!!! Baby kicks are getting actually a bit painful now when it really goes for it. I actually feel pregnant for the first time In my pregnancy!

Congratulations Donkey! Glad everything went well.

Congrats donkey and good lick crazy!

Argh , autocorrect - good LUCK crazy!!

And good luck for tomorrow Crazybit!
It all feels so real now.

I have just eaten a scone that I did not need. I often find myself just shovelling sugary food into my mouth when I'm not even hungry. it's rubbed off on my husband too, he's been eating as much as I have and now looks about four months preggers.

Slightly off topic but I have just discovered the thread 'Am I being unreasonable' and I find it both oddly fascinating and infuriating. It's addictive spends the next hour reading through the thread

hulk SONY threads (lurking not posting) got me through 6 months of night feeds!

Long term lurker here too, due ds 20/11, already have a dd.
Still at work and starting to feel tired but have another 2 and abit weeks to march on through yet.
Lovely to see new babies appearing!

Hah, sounds like a solid plan Utopian.

And hello Dizzylizzie waves

Seems to have tailed off - we went round to BIL / SIL 's house and had a glass of red and a chat so at least I've not been fixating on it, just occasionally going "ooh".
Secretly hoping for Halloween baby

Worrying about work after having a chat with my line manager this evening, was meant to be starting in a new department after half term but doubt they are going to let me be in a classroom with potentially violent kids ( special needs school) I've only been there since September so I'm seriously worrying whats going to happen, I don't want to lose my job, I absolutely love working at this school :(

Morning everyone! Happy Halloween!

Was hoping after yesterday's pains etc that I would have my own little pumpkin today but all settled eventually and actually managed a good sleep if you don't count all the toilet trips

Re-done the hospital bags last night, had tried to go from 3 bags down to 2 (well 2 plus the changing bag) but it just wasn't happening I don't manage to travel light when I'm going anywhere never mind into the unknown!!

What size of clothes are you all bringing for your little person?

Ark they can not dismiss you for being pregnant, obviously as its only a new job you more than likely won't qualify for SMP but look into maternity allowance.even though iv been in my job for over 2years due to being off for quite sometime with pregnancy related sickness I wasn't earning enough to qualify but still got mat allowance which is the same amount!

Okay I'll have a look into that. Stressing about money is not what I need right now!

Ark work also need to do a pregnancy risk assessment on you and will need to find an alternative role for you for the next 2/3 weeks if they think you will be exposed to potentially violent situation.
If you are worried about it get as much information as you can from citizins advice regarding your emplyment rights and also advice on mat allowance, tax credits etc

ark check this site out - it's very clear and they also run an advice line.
In general though you are gold-plated while pregnant - just get your midwife to produce you a MatB1 form to show your employer.
www.maternityaction.org.uk/wp/

Congratulations Donkey.

Good luck Crazy.

Welcome Dizzie.

Had a quiet day with the knitting yesterday (strawberry, my Mum's been knitting as well although as we didn't find out she's stuck to white and a speckled white, she was a bit miffed!) various twinges but nothing definite. Am planning more of the same today, and then DH needs to ask DFiL to come round tomorrow to help with putting the blind up in the nursery. I suspect we'll also pop to Mamas & Papas.

We're also making tentative plans to go to a bonfire display next Wednesday. Obviously if something's happened by then we won't, but a good friend was due just before bonfire night a few years ago and baby still hung on until four days after DFiLs (pyromaniac) fireworks so fairly sure that baby won't be scared out.

I'm having a massive panic that I'm so not ready for this. I don't have any choice now I know but it's all so sudden and I'm worrying so much about money. We wanted to buy a house and be settled before anything baby came along and now I don't know if we will ever be able to afford somewhere! All the things I had planned for the next year and now won't be able to do. It sounds totally selfish and it is but this is going to be so hard! Sorry for the moaning Im just struggling to be excited about baby coming

Ark try not to panic. Even with 9 moths to prepare no first time mum is ever ready for their first baby. It's definitely a learn on the job type of job! This time now is solely for you to get your head around it, there's nothing you need to do, it's all fine to leave until baby is here.

Hey ark, you're doing amazingly! Even with 9 months, and 2.5 yrs trying before that, and having to have IVF to get pregnant, DH and I are still having frequent moments of "oh my god, we are having a BABY?!!!"
Like someone else said upthread, to start with, they don't need very much, so don't feel bad about spending time trying to get your head round things rather than taking time shopping. All the obsessing over slings and prams is just a way to kill time :-)

I know this must seem a long way away now but in a few months all us first timers will be on exactly the same page, floundering about, and noone will be able to tell who had 9 months notice and who had one!!

Ark I have a friend who was planning exactly like you - first get married, then change the house and then think about babies. So they got married, they got a bigger mortgage and moved into a new place and started to think about having baby. They could not get pregnant and after tests and checkups if appeared that she has quite a few female health issues. Guess what? She was beaten herself up that they have been far too much focusing on material things and now she has health of an old woman and cannot have a baby!
Eventually it all worked out, although she spent in the hospital most of the 2nd half of the pregnancy, and now they have a girl of four. At the same time she is still struggling with her health issues, now more related to the spine and bones.

Remember that whatever happens and whatever you do there always will be something you will think it didnt go right. There are so many couples in UK who would give up everything to have a baby. You are young you have time to get settled.

Just print out a hospital bag list and buy all what you dont have from there, some basic clothes for first weeks of the baby and you'll be fine. Do the internet shopping, saves lots of time and money and you will be all set till end of november. You have a whole MONTH to sort things out!

And if it helps Ark me and DH we are lately also often go panic like "Oh my God in 3 weeks we will have a 3rd person at home!" despite having bought most of the baby stuff after 20 week scan in July.

Thanks guys.

I just don't really feel like there's a light at the end of the tunnel at the moment. My partner got made redundant at the end of August and was happily having a break for a bit till this happens and now he's struggling to find work. I don't know it just feels like this is the biggest mistake in the world right now and I'm struggling to get out of that mindset