December 2014 thread 8: turn up the heat - the Christmas turkeys are cooking!

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stationery sorry your DH is uncooperative. Do you think it's anxiety about it rather than apathy?

looking an hour, once a week is a pretty big ask for a mother of new born. Agre with other comment - could try local hospital?

Having a crap week here - eldest child has a UTI - everyone else sick with cough. Feel like having a cry :(

Stationery that is crap, but agree could he be anxious and just burying his head in the sand instead of braving it out? My DH gets very nervous in situations where he has to jolly along with other men, because he's not very "blokey" himself and pretty shy. I hope he comes through for you, though. It's a real shame.

Rooner, you have a good old cry if you want one.

I'm at work and don't wanna be. Six days left including today, though

Thinking on it, my mum had a student observe her with her third baby, but it was all arranged through the student's university and the hospital she was working with. Definitely not word of mouth.

It could genuinely be that he's too busy at work to get away just now. Classes are mid-afternoon 20 miles away from his office and as he's the project manager of a team he has organised it so that any current projects finish this month so he gets all December off (holidays plus paternity leave). Just wish it had been more than a brief no as he went out the door this morning - he was out at football last night and had an 8am meeting this morning so had to be out the door by 7, at which time I'm only half awake. I'll question him later but try not to nag (must remember I do actually like him, it's just hormones that make me want to scream ).

Tips for extracting a bottom from my ribcage, anyone?

Oh bugger it! Those nighties from Bon Marche are not button-up :( just button-up "effect". The struggle is real!

I got my front buttoning nighties from primark - they had some maternity ones :)

I bought mine from primark, didnt get maternity ones just normal ones 2 sizes bigger. They are in the style of an over sized check shirt and have button fastening only 7 pound each so bargain

I asked my local Primark where the maternity stuff was only to be told there was no specific section and it was just in amongst normal stuff all over the shop. Sack that, how am I meant to find it?! Not a big Primark shopper at the best of times as it's so disorganised but that really annoyed me!

Espa - yes that annoyed me too!

I have never wished more than to be slim enough to fit into Primark clothes. Everyone is raving about their button-up nighties. Why is this so bloody hard? At this rate I'll just be saying, fuck it, and going topless at the hospital!

I know it sounds a bit terrible but when I decided not to breastfeed I was quite cheered by the fact I didn't have the trouble of finding front opening nighties and nursing bras etc I'll do the first feed or two so the baby has the colostrum and if by some miracle this baby takes to breastfeeding I'll give it a go but after last time with DS I think it's better for my sanity to plan for formula feeding.

Chips we're planning for both too. Am really hoping bf works out this time but I'm not going through what I did last time. Broken and bleeding with a dose of PND is something I intend to avoid!

I'm glad I'm not the only one monkey! I was and am fully sold up on the benefits of breastfeeding, but it's definitely not easy!

Oh no peace can you return them?

I looked in my local primark but def no maternity & nothing suitable for bf so think am gonna try matalan next.

monkeybaby sounds similar to my experience of bf last time too! I lasted 3 weeks before getting an infected nipple & I stopped cold turkey - something I definitely wouldn't repeat as the mastitis was excruciating. I felt tremendously guilty for a long time & shed a lot of tears over it. Ds also developed cows milk intolerance so I felt doubly guilty due to that. But we all got through it & no lasting harm has come to him from having formula.

This time I'm going with the attitude I will give it a try but if it doesn't workout I'm not going to beat myself up for switching to formula.

Yeah I can return them. They haven't arrived yet, but I went in store to buy huge comfy pants and had a look. The dressing gown is lovely, on a more positive note!!

I'm going to give breastfeeding a bloody good go but it's not the end of the world for me if we just can't.

I think I might end up making some nighties when I'm on maternity leave. Perhaps you guys can put your orders in if they come out looking decent, haha!

I lasted 8 weeks but still bear the scars of a hole in each nipple! I think I set myself up for a fall as I had never anticipated not breast feeding and ended up a guilt ridden teary mess dreading each feed as it was agony. And DD fed every 1.5 hours (little chunk) so I never got time to heal. I'd spiralled into PND by then and it took my Mum to suggest I should stop as I'd lost all sense of my own judgement.

It doesn't help that breast feeding is pushed so hard so you feel like a shit Mum being judged by everybody if you do ff. also we had no education about ff so when we switched, we made mistakes that could have been avoided. Fortunately there were lots of Mums on my MN/fb group to tell me what to do and that it was ok :)

I got a couple of button up nighties and a couple that button half way from matalan. Not maternity ones just huge size

I got the checked nighties from primark too. Although I need to reinforce the buttons as a friend said they all popped off hers the 1st night she slept in it.

I really really want to breastfeed. I'm trying to keep an open mind, but I know that I'll be gutted if it doesn't work out :(

Antenatal class tonight was all about bathing and safe sleeping and wotnot. It's sent me in to a "I have no idea what I'm doing" panic. It'll all come naturally, there'll be plenty of people to get advice from...I know this but it isn't currently stopping me freaking out!

Feeling a bit emotional tonight anyway because DH goes back to work tomorrow. He's been off a few weeks as the company he worked for went bust. Obviously it's great that he's found work so quickly but I'm really worried about how I'm going to manage these next few weeks. He's been great at doing stuff round the house or helping me to get out and about with the wheelchair. Worried that I'll end up housebound which will make all my negative brain stuff worse. Bleh

Ah Catface chin up! You've got this my mum said when she had me, she thought she'd learnt everything at the antenatal classes, but then when I was born she had no idea how to even pick me up. The midwife came onto the ward and gathered all the first-time mums around to show them how to bathe the babies and change their nappies as no one had a clue!

Growth scan and consultant appointment at stupid o'clock tomorrow morning. Too tired!

Still huge. Estimated 5lb 14oz
32+4 today.

And no more scans or consultant appointments. I asked if that meant I'd be discharged but no, still having a consultant-led birth on the labour ward. NCT woman says there is one birthing pool on the ward, but I'm too scared to ask if I'd be allowed to use it. Trying to be positive and remember that just as long as the baby comes out healthily, it's all okay.

Is the baby huge all over Peace e.g. head size, or just long? I have heard so many stories of scans getting this stuff wrong.

It's good that they have signed you off as they must think all is ok?

heading off shortly to find some of these lovely primark nighties. I take it they aren't the sort of things you will EVER wear again?

catface - I'm sorry - I didn't know you needed wheelchair. Is that the nasty SPD? I know what you mean about negativity building when you are in the house. Have you got family or friends that can drop in each day?

It's not SPD. It's by back and hips that are the issue. Physio gave me crutches and exercises, but crutches are so exhausting and short walks still leave me in pain so I borrowed a friends wheelchair. Means I have a bit more freedom...as long as I have someone to push me I can actually go places and do things without having to worry about distances etc- unlike on the crutches.

I'm trying to stay positive. I think today is the only day when I don't have something planned. Trying to be productive/keep myself focused and do tiny little bursts of houseworky things.