Due in November - Part 6 - The Ring of Fire is approaching !

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Here you go girls - somewhere new you for us to discuss our burning bits

Apologies for my gate crashing friend, however she has been a member on here for years and has just decided to pop in a be nosey LOL !

Hopefully, Creeyjess this is not early onset of labour LO head was not even engaged yesterday so don't scare me LOL ! I should also like to point out that I should hope you're not going to be "knocked up" again otherwise your DH might have something to say as you made him have the snip

Please no one read this post, it is going to be long and moany and absolutely nothing to do with babies or pregnancy or anything, but I just need to get it off my chest!

On the 5th of August (yes nearly two whole months ago!!) we sold a big bundle of DS's old clothes on eBay, the buyer paid straight away, and didn't live too far from us (my DH drives past their street regulary for work) so we offered to drop the clothes off, for free since he goes there anyway, and to save the buyer the £12 P&P (the cost of postage for us was £11.67 or something stupid like that when the VAT was added, so I would say very reasonable postage costs for the buyer) they decided they didn't want the clothes dropping off (which we thought was a bit strange, but fair enough if they didn't want us near their house....) it took a week for them to send an address (we always ask for confirmation of address due to being let down in the past) and then when they did send it the message went along the lines of:

(address)
(address)
(address)
If you are sending via courier a different address will be needed as both me and DH are at work 9-5.

They knew we were sending it via courior, as it was stated on the auction, and they hadn't bothered to supply an alternative address, so I emailed back and asked for the new address, they sent the number and street name but not the postcode, which I needed for the courior, so I emailed again and asked for the postcode, they sent the postcode with a different house number this time, but bearing in mind this had already gone on for a whole month by now, I didn't question it assumed they had the first one wrong and sent the parcel via courior, only to have it sent back to me saying there was no such address! So I emailed them again and explained that we were still more than willing to drop the parcel off (it had been sat on my dining room table since it sold, I was sick to death of it being there!!) but if they wanted us to resend the parcel they would have to pay for the postage again, as obviously the courior wasn't going to deliver it for free, after over a fortnight they sent back saying sorry for the delay in getting back to us, they had been on holiday(remember that bit!) and asking to have it delivered to their own home address (the original one listed with eBay) but to send it via Royal Mail, so when the postman couldn't deliver it, it would be taken to the parcel depot place where they could collect it, and that they would pay the extra postage costs no problem, which they did, finally got it sent off and out of my house, they left good feedback just saying 'Goods received thanks' after all the messing around they had done! So I left a neutral feedback, said that they had paid quickly but had taken well over a month to supply a suitable address, which I think under the circumstances I was quite right to do, and if I'd have been feeling mean I don't think a negative would have been to harsh really, but as I said they did pay quickly so thought it would be only fair to not completely ruin their feedback.

Now the fun starts....

Last night I got an email from them saying 'why the negative feedback?' and a reply to the feedback (on my feedback page if you follow?!!) saying seller sent to wrong address, had to pay 2 very expensive P&P charges, and took 7 weeks to send' (or something to that effect!) which was obviously made to sound like it was our fault that it had all taken so long, so I replied to the feedback they left saying they had supplied the wrong address, hence the double P&P charges. Then I checked their own feedback and saw that they had replied to what I left them saying that we had messed them around, and that we had gone on holiday for two weeks, (obviously as you all know we have not been on holiday for even two days let alone two bloody weeks!) so I replied to that saying I was 8 months pregnant (not a total lie, I am due next month, could be interpretted as 8 months!!! ) and that we hadn't been on holiday anywhere. Also sent an email to them to say that I hadn't left a negative feedback (as they had asked about in the their first emailed) and that the feedback system was there to show others how our transaction had gone, from a buyers point of view it had gone badly, and that I had left a truthful feedback, unlike theirs. Woke up this morning to a very abusive email from them, basically telling me to f* off and to watch my back in the future..... I am really pissed off, I have reported it to eBay and ignored the email, but I feel like sending them one back with matching words to theirs!! GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!

I feel like going to their house and taking the clothes back, can't stand the thought of my littel boys clothes with them! (LOL so I know I am pregnant and hormones are driving this absurd thought, but I don't care!!!)

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR AGAIN!!!

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Right now I am feeling a bit better for getting all that out, I shall return to my normal calm nice self!!

I am feeling absolutely huge today, I had been feeling so much better since he dropped down into my pelvis, but he seems to have had a growth spurt over night, could hardly get my coat done up this morning (which considering I was a size 12/14 before I got pregnant and the coat is a size 22, is quite bad really!!) walking back from dropping DS off was fun, I had a shooting pain going from "my bits" (LOL love that expression!!) up to my belly button, wasn't sure I was going to actually make it back to the front door, of course I did put the key in and came inside and it stopped hurting, so I don't know if he had been led somewhere funny, or if I had been walking funny due to the extra growth?

If I am still sat here in an hour will someone kick me up the bum and tell me to start the blitz please - I have decided to clean the house from top to bottom (literally) I can do it in my head, but just can't seem to get going on it!! LOL So if I am still posting past 11 o'clock tell me off please

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Thanks mygirl, (can't believe you read all of that!! LOL) I will get on to it now

morning girls
well total lack of sleep last night so am probably a bit dumb today!
NJ what a nightmare, it's good to get it of your chest though.
I'm dissapointed today as my dh has taken up smoking again, he gave up a month and a half ago for bump and i was really proud, since then he's had the occassional one until yesterday, this morning he comes to kiss me good bye as he goes to work and he reaks, when i commented (not very good at hiding my feelings on this one) he put on that hurt face saying "well i won't smoke round bump." I've never smoked and am trying to be supportive but my sence of smell is so strong at the momment it makes me feel really sick - am i being unreasonable?

Delia, it is really hard, obviously you want him to give up for all of the right reasons (and so he should) but, it really isn't that easy for him, add to the fact that if he is trying to give up, he probably feels guilty and not strong enough for going back to it.

Maybe it would be easier on the both of you, if you take a step back, don't make him feel even worse about lapsing back, give him the strength to try again.

I will never forget the day I decided all my own with out telling a soul that I was giving up, DH, who is normally right on the ball and get's these sort of things right all the time, came in from work, and just made absolutely no fuss or even managed to say 'oh well done' or whatever after 2 years of him on my back about it every day, I nearly threw him out of the front door!! He is also a non smoker, and has never smoked before.

I guess what I am saying is that from your POV, he should just give up and be done with it, why wouldn't he? He doesn't want to be smoking with a baby in the house.... it just isn't that simple from his POV, however bad it is making you feel, he is feeling it 100 times over. Give him the support and strength he needs to give up!

Sorry, just read that back and it sounds really bosy and horrible, didn't mean it to be! Just trying to give you his take on things. Sorry again

Its difficult Delia I smoked 20 a day until I found out I was PG and gave up without another thought and not had one since and don't intend going back to it after LO is born either. However DP does still smoke but has promised faithfully that he will not smoke in the car or in the house when LO is here. I know what you mean about the smell, some days I can handle it other days I just can't. The only thing I will say is that it is an addiction which some can kick without any help or problems and others struggle.

Thanks girls, I am trying to be supportive and have told him how proud i am of him and congratulated him along the way. I ignored the odd ones over the last week or two but this morning it really got to me. Will perservire (sp?) and try to be strong as long as he dosen't leave me in the labour room every five mins we'll get there!

Can anyone tell me, when MW tests your wee is it just for protein etc or can they tell if you have an infection?

Debz they look for infection to thats how they spotted the one i had early on.

FGLH so pleased that the trace went well and everything is fine.

Debz - lol at your mate warning you'll have LO at your desk.

NJ - what a mess, some people really do take the biscuit, ignore there last mail and just block them in your mail box so you don't get anything else from them.

Finally started to get some bits sorted for LO, also started talking to family about baby sitting for DS when I do go into labour - my MIL has been a star, she is getting me a copy of her rota so that we know where she is when and has said call her whenever. Have spoken to DS school about him being picked up by someone else - the staff have only met me so far lol.

Right should be working off to get on. Have a good day and speak tomorrow.

H x

People are begining to be quite concerned that I am working so late .. 1 week before LO is due apart from the normal moans I am quite healthy but am regretting leaving it so late LOL !

lol I worked until 2 weeks before my due date and DS was 2 days early oops! but felt fine and it worked well for us. Not done that this time mind you, I finished about 6 weeks ago now.

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morning all!!!!

this lo keeps getting hiccups, only it's lying against my right hip and it's not pleasant, at all!! keeps sitting on that nerve in my leg too, feel like i have to shake something off it.. don't like it, make it stop someone please!!!

i'm sat here trying to finish off paperwork for work before i start mat leave (currently on annual leave) and it's doing my bloody head in, i honestly feel like crying!! i'm doing 4 appraisals, they just changed all the paperwork, i don't know what i'm doing with it, boss is being unhelpfull to say the least, she just keeps sending it back with notes on it telling me whats ewrong with it even though i've told her my brain just won't get it!! feel like sending it back and saying f##k it i'm not doing it (whilst stamping my feet like a 2 year old).. i just wanna do menial things that involve no brain work, like hoovering and dusting (my house needs a top to toe clean too) aaarrrggghhh!!

nj, i do hope your off cleaning your house, when your done can you motivate me to do mine please!!

debz, a standard urine dipstick checks for a lot of things in your wee not just protein... they also look at the ph, glucose, ketones, blood, hb, protein and nitrites. diagnosing an infection is taken by looking at a combination of these.. and sending of a sample for the labs to test!

oh yeah, and my nipples REALLY hurt in this cold weather!! am sitting here snuggled in a blanket to keep them 'quiet'

LOL Sara I am not going to have finished bt tonight, I have just spent the best part of two hours, de-cluttering our bedroom (to be fair, I have cleaned out every drawer and cupboard, and under the bed), cleaning the windows and polishing in there, have still got to put all the clean washing away, change the bed, take the dirty washing out, move the rubbish out, wipe down the skirting boards and hoover! A room a day, not bad going!! LOL Sorry about your work though, have a break from it, get your head together and start again when you feel a bit more like it.

Debz, is everything OK? Do you think you have an infection?

nat, i am havong a break, i'm mning!!!! trouble is i've been putting it off and off and off and now i want them gone from my life!! i never feel like doing them!

a room a day is a good idea... sounds like you've been working very hard today!!! i need a nap just reading about it!!

Well I'm not really sure LOL ... when I stand up I feel the need to wee even if I have only just been and my wee is quite dark. MW not said anything about an infection and think the need to wee is LO using my bladder as a headrest or something. Its not uncomfortable to wee or anything and no aching back a al kidney infection so I don't really know

Right I have had my lunch - a bounty, a peach and some cheese and onion pringles, (very healthy!!) I suppose I had better get back to it, only problem is that we have a massive huge great big bay window in our room, which is lovely, lovely views of the countryside and the cows and the horses, but it is absolutely chucking it down and blowing a gale again so it looks awful, but it kind of fills the room with gloom and doom, oh well, gives me an excuse to put some good feel good music on and cheer myself up!!

Catch you all later xxx

Sorry x posts, Debz try drinking loads and loads of water, if that doesn't help ring the midwife.

debz, i've found that i'm reluctant to drink because i have to pee more often.. lo's pressure is not helping me!

are you drinking ok? also what are you drinking? if it's lots of tea/coffee or juices, you may need more plain water... any stinging/pain when you pee? does it smell bad? do you feel well in yourself, do you feel hot?