March Mummies 2015 - ever hopeful for the return of sanity and departure of sickness as we approach second tri!

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New thread - think this is number 4?! Can someone post the link to the stats please? Thank you

Well it's not me!

Maybe it's Durham, she has HG doesn't she? Hehe.

Haha if only Coaster
I can safely say I'm no royal

Poor old Catherine, looks like the HG is bad again. Let's hope she doesn't have the same media hysteria as last time - can you imagine the pressure of giving birth knowing that lot were outside??

When i was pregnant with dd we had to start from scratch so we started shopping early but didnt have much money so didnt finish shopping until close to due date. with ds i started shopping at 20 weeks then had a break as christmas came around and then i went shopping in feb for the last bits he was due middle of march born april 1st. this time we have started early again dont need much as been given a cot and have some next to new things put away from ds and dd. im intending to buy bits as i see them on sale. get all the essentials early on and then have a shopping spree end of january to get all the nice extras. before i have to start on ds's birthday presents

hey all have just about caught up now after two weeks in france. The land of wine, cheese and pate :-( :-(

Now at 14 weeks + 3 sooooo excited.

Also really annoyed I told my small team at work of 8 people before I went away that was pregnant we are a team of friends so didnt worry me. I didn't want to do the big reveal to then find out whilst I was away my manager did the big reveal for me to about 100 people in a department meeting. Some people I hardly know, some I wanted to tell personally and I know some people have had problems conceiving. So upset!!!!!!

To those with sciatica rubbing a tennis ball on the sore spots can help to release some of the pressure while waiting for physio or dr's appoitnment

Something I read on another thread has got me thinking. Is there anyone else in here who has zero experience of babies?!

I have no babies at all in my family, my younger brother is only a couple of years younger. I have no close friends with children. I basically haven't a clue! I have held a baby occasionally but always been terrified and felt really awkward. I've changed nappies but on much bigger children, even almost adults as I work in special needs. The only part of my experience that I think might help is that I'm used to trying to work out what's upsetting someone who can't tell me!

Just wondered if there's anyone in the same position.

Another thing I'm wondering about is breast-feeding. Is there anyone here who isn't planning on doing it? I was going to at least try, but try not to put too much pressure on myself. However, I can't breastfeed on my current medication. After the past few weeks being really difficult, I'm starting to realise that it may be best for me and my baby overall, if I stay on my medication and don't breastfeed. At the end of the day, my mental health is important for both me and baby. I have plenty of time to think about this and consider other options, just starting to realise that it might not work for me and I'm not going to be forced into it if it's not right for me and my family.

coastergirl I had zero experience of babies pre DS! And even if I had, I suspect it is probably not much like having your own 24 hours a day. The thing that I found hardest to adjust to was not the holding or the changing or the feeding...but that I was "on call" every single moment of every single day. Even when I was relaxing in the bath or went for a massage (as my DH gently pushed me into having a few weeks after birth) or went shopping or swimming...I was still "switched on" to being his mummy, constantly. It was a hard adjustment for me and not one that I think general practical experience can prepare anyone for. You just can't appreciate it until you experience it yourself. That's not to say it's a bad thing but just...it sorta took me by surprise

Re breastfeeding, as ever you have to do what's right for you and your family. And no one can tell you what that should be. Yes, breast is nutritionally best. But that doesn't mean everything...breastfeeding has had a hugely negative emotional impact on a friend of mine, causing her to almost spiral into PND. There's no "should" when it comes to you and your baby. I would always advocate giving it a go but damn - who am I to tell anyone they should even do that? And pre-empting any pressure you might feel, it entirely depends on your area. I was pressured into the opposite when DS wasn't gaining weight and I was struggling with BFing, and it really pissed me off! Stop shoving cartons of formula at me, and help me!

Anyway, like I said, there's no right or wrong, only what is best for your family. Lots of women don't even give it a go for plenty of different reasons other than their mental health. They made the right decision for them and their baby. That's all there is to it :)

waves hi! Can I join in? Pregnant with DC3, due 11 March. Ds1 is 4 (first day of school tomorrow!) and ds2 is 2. Very excited for no.3 :) .

I'm just caught up too after a wedding in Spain this weekend - no cured meats and wine for me :-(

Also minimal sleep as we got back to airport in early hours this morn and car broke down! Typical!

Am hoping that over-tiredness today will help me sleep through the inevitable nerves tonight before scan in the morning eeek!

P.s. Can't believe Kate and wills have stolen our thunder in the week we were likely to go public with our news!!!

Feel almost as sorry for Clueless and Olive as I do for the MS sufferers, well not really, but it would be torture for me to be around all that amazing food and not be able to eat it.

I've no experience of babies either Coast not family, a friend had a little one a few years ago, probably held him a dozen times. Close friend has a 3 month old at the moment. I have held her 6 times already Husband has held her twice. That is it as far as our experience goes. Friend has offered to let us try out nappy changing, but we declined. Decided its best to go into parenthood with our eyes firmly closed.

Oh and sorry, I missed you. Hello Lizard congratulations.

Thanks Zebra. I'm hoping most people are of the opinion that you should do what is best for you and your family. I've read so much about women being made to feel like a terrible mother if they don't breastfeed or don't have a completely natural birth etc. As if this whole thing isn't stressful enough!

Butterpuff love the plan to go into it with eyes closed :-) My husband has more experience with babies than I do, as he's the eldest of 7, and he's more natural with kids. I'm used to being with kids who don't talk!

Weight gain!

I'm 13 weeks and have had the most awful morning sickness, pretty much 24/7. I know I'm not alone, poor Durham for one. However I tend only to vomit in the mornings and the rest of the time it's extreme nausea, especially at night, sob. Anyway all I can do is keep feeding it as it's the only thing that gives temporary relief.

So I weighed myself today and have put on 9 pounds! Now granted I was 8st 10lb pre pregnancy so I know I'm not overweight but still. And it's pretty much all belly fat :-( Carbs have become my best friend.

Anybody else turning into mrs blobby?

Scan on Wednesday, surprised by how apprehensive I am about it.

coaster it is my first and DP second which in someways seems to make it lose a little bit of its sparkle as he knows what to expect and I don't. However i am going with the theory of every baby is different.
I have looked after babies a bit but do not feel anything like prepared!!

Sp1rals I was reverse of you. Started at 8st 9 (heavier than I should have been I'm not quite 5ft) awful MS mostly sick in mornings then extreme nausea. Ate lots of white cheese rolls and porridge but couldn't stomach much by the way of dinner. Lots 9lb.

MS has gone now, have re-discovered my love of Cadbury fruit and nut and dry roasted peanuts. Weight is rapidly piling on and shall be Mrs Blobby in no time.

I'm with you, Sp1rals! I'd say water retention due to carb grazing. I've not lost weight at all either and have huge blobby belly at 11wks looking like 5 months pregnant even after all morning sickness and eating a lot less than I do normally. But I went on not to gain much anyway, so it may not mean anything right now hopefully (3rd baby here)

Did anyone feel distinct 'butterfly' flutter movement in lower abdomen as early as 9wks?
I've had one and off but haven't felt it for the past week....:/

I know weight gain at this stage has no bearing on baby size, guess I'm a little apprehensive though as baby 1 was 9lbs and baby 2 was 10lbs 2 oz. So I have form as a giant baby maker. And I'm 5 foot 5 and usually 8 stone something so they KILL me in late pregnancy :-(

Sp1rals! I've put on 10lbs - most of it on my gut! Too many carbs - I started having toast for dessert after dinner most meals. I dread to think what I'll be like in 6 months!

I've put on 2kg - 5lbs? - and it's all carbs. I NEVER EAT CARBS. Dammit. Trying not to stress about weight gain but i still have baby weight from DS and my stupid MWs last time were obsessed with BMI. If anyone has info on why measuring BMI in pregnancy - or indeed that it's not a thing done consistently in ante natal care - I'd be very grateful!

coaster it doesn't matter what anyone thinks about what you do with your baby. If they dare to say anything, ask them what relevance their opinion has. I might have opinions and ideas on how I want to raise my children - and some people (maybe in just the MN world) judge me as some kind of hippy "lentil weaver" who believes in extended BFing and co sleeping and attachment parenting and all the other "things" people like me do. But it really doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if another person does the opposite - my opinion has no bearing on them whatsoever, unless maybe if they asked me directly in an advice seeking way. And even then, I would hedge my response very diplomatically. One thing I've learnt - you have to do it your way. I might not agree with leaving babies to cry but it's just that...unless you're asking me you should do, I have no right to foist my opinion on you :)

So maybe the MW's might gently press BFing on you, and it might be good for you to consider a way to get some colostrum into them initially...but if the effect of that is a decline in your mental health, it's not the right way to go, clearly. And even if - even if! - you had no reason not to BF other than you just don't want to, that is your right.

So I would probably do your research about the benefits of colostrum, if you could take a "holiday" from your meds to do this and what effect this would have on you, if there's meds you can safely breastfeed with, and to balance things - read a lot about babies given formula from birth. Because you need an informed decision, a balanced one, with all the info. And then you can politely tell any HCP where to go if they try to pressure you one way or another :)

zebra can I take you with me if someone starts trying to press things or ideas on me please?! :)

Why, of course

I've just learnt that...I'm sure people raise their eyebrows at what I do, and maybe I privately have an opinion on what other people do, but it's no ones business except the parents of the child.

I have a very specific idea with my son. I don't want to tell him no, you can't climb that - because I don't want him to be afraid of running free and not feel the exuberance of play. I don't want to make him afraid or think he's not capable, that he'll fall. Instead I say go ahead, try, I'll catch you if you fall. It's just something that was really important to me and DH in raising our child. Consequently he's way, way more advanced movement wise in the playground and I don't say that to be boastful. He just is. A dad said to me once - I can't believe you're letting your baby climb that, that's awful, I'd never let my baby climb that.

The implication was clear - you're an irresponsible parent. It really upset me. To my core. I wanted to say to him - you don't know me, you don't know my baby, you don't know what we do or how I've cultivated this. You don't know that he's been doing this for months and he's never fallen. You don't know that's he's naturally cautious and has self preservation, that he tests out the hand holds or the weight distribution. You don't know us.

But I didn't because I was mortified at being judged. And it really brought it home to me. I don't know anyone else or the path that led them to where they are now. So I might have ideas and different opinions but I will not judge and I won't offer my opinion unless it's asked. I'd hate for anyone to feel that because of me.

Will step off soap box now :)

I have some specific ideas too when it comes to raising this little girl I'm growing. I want her to grow up knowing it's brilliant to try things, even if it doesn't work out, to know that she doesn't have to like something just cos people think she should, to know her opinions are just as valid as other poeple's and that there's a lot more to life than just coming top in a test (can you tell my childhood was all about the test results??) and to know that's she's special just for being herself!

I'm just not as good when it comes to disagreeing or pushing my point when it comes to medical stuff, which is stupid considering how often I see them cos do diabetes etc. maybe I just need to decide I don't care if they don't like me, they just need to listen to me!!