October 14. thread 11?! Will be see any babies in this thread?

[mrsb87]

Plonk your bums down ladies!

Aha! www.mumsnet.com/pregnancy/labour-and-birth/pain-relief-epidurals

shirehobbit - yeah, I think those are available at my hospital. The reason I'm thinking about all this stuff today is that I've got an appointment with an obstetrician on Tuesday to discuss birth options, so I want to be a bit clued up before I go in. I don't know all the details of the pain relief options available, but as well as me not wanting an epidural, I'm not even sure if it's available to me because of the blood thinning stuff. It was a question mark at one point. I talked with someone at aquanatal the other night who is a trainee midwife (and pregnant with twins), who said that she also believes from what she's see, that it's sometimes mind over matter with epidurals, and even some women who shouldn't be able to move, can get themselves off their backs with help.

Basically if I could be guaranteed an epidural that allowed me to move around still, and change positions etc, I'd snap someone's hand off for it. That's surely the perfect pain relief?

Hhmmmmph.. I just looked on our calendar to check the time of the consultant appointment on Tuesday and noticed that boyfriend has put ANOTHER 'walk' with a mate in his diary for weekend after next. Seriously? At that point will have an 8 month pregnant girlfriend, who has cried twice in the last week about her missing going hill walking more than she's missing booze. This weekend he's been in the Peak district, and now it looks like he's off to the Brecons. Presumably leaving me to decorate a bathroom. Fat chance. There's a conversation in the pipeline for this evening, he better not have a hangover. [random-irrational-anger]

That is not irrational anger - it's perfectly justified imo!!
Even now, after subsequent pregnancies and life with a new baby, I do have to regularly remind DH just how much my life is changed and how little of the old 'me' there is (I used to do a lot of endurance sport). It's not that I would change anything, but I am allowed to mourn and miss what used to be. Sometimes they just don't get it, I'm afraid - taking the dog out for a slow, whale-like potter is NOT the same as a day spent in the fells!

On the pain relief front, as I've said before, I was anti-epidural too - but at the time it happened it put me 'back in the room' as it were and was therefore a very positive and empowering option.
Doesn't make it my first choice this time round, though.

Hope your consultant appointment is useful and helps ease your mind.

My boyfriend says the right things about life with a child. This time last year I was taking painkillers after pushing it too hard climbing Mount Toubkal to get to the top before it got too hot, this year I'm taking painkillers after 'pushing it too hard' getting up and down off the floor for a few hours. I mean really. He knows that I want to get back to the mountains, and we've already talked about how he'll have the kid in order for me to do those things. But he said it 'You're lucky really that I'm the sort of bloke who will willing look after a kid for a weekend'. No lovely, I'm not 'lucky', I just didn't choose a total berk to be a parent with me. You'll be a parent too... it comes with sacrifices, but that should be for both of us. Soz.

I know, realistically, I won't be able to do the stuff I used to do for some years, yet (I can't disappear for whole weekends for events, or dedicate hours to training - that's not fair on him or the kids) but I will get back to the shorter stuff ASAP and I know I have his support for that. Doesn't stop him putting his foot in it on a regular basis about playing football or going out with his friends and how different that is for him now... !!??

Im having dull like cramp feelings in my lower back today & off and on period like cramps in my lower belly.,. Starting to panic as im only 30 + 3 weeks! ... This was how my labour started last time ... i thought it was just braxton hicks combined with crampy feelings, ended up at hospital 9cm dilated with a breech baby ... Anyone else having this type of pain ?

If you're worried stigz call the midwife unit! They won't think you're wasting their time. Best to get checked out I'd say.

Second the call to get yourself seen - this is what they're there for.
Hope all is ok x

I ache in some way around my bump, period pain type stuff, on and off nearly all the time - but then I have done the whole pregnancy. If it was a new feeling I would ring someone just to be on the safe side.

Goats that is pretty shitty that he's scheduled another jolly away when he knows how you feel. My DH trains with his amateur football team on a Monday night, they play a game every Saturday afternoon,& he would normally train on a Wednesday night too but this clashes with weekly band practice, he also plays football with his friends for a couple of hours on a Thursday night, and has to work 1 in 4 weekends. Right now I don't mind it so much but when baby arrives I'm thinking it will seem like quite a lot of his spare time being spent away from us - does this seem like a lot to anyone else or am I just being daft? I'd hate be to be the stereotypical nag and would rather he came to the conclusion of his own accord!

And yep Stigz give them a ring to set your mind at rest :)

Definatly worth calling Triage Stigz
Is anyone else doing/planning to do perineal massage and if so what oils will you use? Want to avoid getting thrush or something.Also when are people starting to drink raspberry leaf tea if you are? It's getting closer!! Ah! I'm so excited to meet our baba but getting nervous about the birth!

Mum2kiss marks and spencer have loads, I literally just got a lovely purple one for £16. Primark only have white ones and matalan didn't have any! There is so much to get for this hospital bag, every time I go into a shop I see something I need lol

Not had a single cramp the entire pregnancy stigz I would get yourself checked out but likely Braxton hicks.

Can I just put a shout out for onesies? I was totally against ever owning one, but for those first few weeks in November time, when you have sofa-bound days and long interrupted nights, especially if breastfeeding, they are awesome.

George I was just reading about perineal massage for the first time yesterday on here www.netmums.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-week-by-week-guide/34-weeks-pregnant
Tbh I just thought "Ick" - I'm a bit squeamish haha! Not against the idea though, just need to get a grip I suppose (no pun intended)!
I think the raspberry leaf tea is for 36-37 weeks onwards, that's when I'm planning to start anyway.

Yes for the onesies! I will be getting a few when they start coming into the shops. I can't wait for this winter with my baby, all snuggled up in front of the wood burner

Our bathroom is still out of bounds as dh and fil are today fixing the dodgy floorboards under the loo. Next weekend the shower is moving and the weekend after our new bath will be in! Can't wait for a long soak!

Yeah, I have the perineal message in the diary for week 34+. Still trying to rope the partner in as the whole thing makes me a bit queasy....silly, I know.

The raspberry leaf tea's already in the cupboard to begin at 37 weeks. Might start a few days early - just in case baby decides to come out with my cervical stitch at 37 weeks.

Stigz, I hope you managed to call and everything was OK.

The dreaded piles have arrived. I'm amazed I've avoided them for 32 weeks. Has anyone here got any experience of them? I have one very sore one and I feel like crying with it today. What is the best thing to put on them?
Any thought of any perineal massage makes me shudder at the moment

Hope all is well Stigz

Me thanks for clarifying the two different injections. I am very impressed that it actually says in the little book they gave me, which one is used here and it's the one without the sicky side effects.

The only place I found a thin dark cotton dressing gown (it's black) is on very.co.uk oddly enough. It's £16. I can't wear polyester as it makes my hair static! I did like m&s bright pink one but our sofa is turquoise and I had visions of first days of baby pictures being swamped with masses of overbearing background colour!

I was 17 days overdue and my skin was apparently all cracked due to the fluid reducing over time so my mum has asked me to please have an induction if necessary. According to my notes though these days if you go over 40 weeks they would monitor that fluid level so you'd know if things were 'urgent' or you could bide your time I think?

Meant to add I do find the age thing a bit ridiculous. I'm 35 and both mum and MIL keep calling me an older Mum. Er, not in today's London I'm not!

Kirsti - regards your bloke and his 'commitments', I think he might find that actually he WANTS to be at home more. I'm pretty much certain that my boyfriend will. There have been some odd occasions since I've been pregnant when he's responded to something with 'yes, but I would just prefer to be at home with you' or 'I just had to get you out of there, people were knocking you and it was quite hard work to watch' when I hadn't noticed an issue, or felt that he should be at home. I think it'll be double that when there is a baby in the mix.

He has admitted that he's finding himself getting weirdly emotional about stuff - angry as well as upset, that he just knows is all about uncertainty and some sort of random empathy kicking in. He's very level headed normally, so quite interesting for him!

stigz I had this yesterday and exact same panic. But went today. I was cramping low down and back pain too - was scared. But all ok today.

Thanks ladies for concern... Rather embarrsing but i just needed a big poo!! Soz if TMI :)

I am getting so paranoid about going into labour early .. Because of how quickly it happned last time and now i know that this baby is breech aswell ...

First time around i was booked in for c/section at 39 weeks, she decided to come at 38 weeks, i thought i was getting braxton hicks all day which where a bit more painful than what i was used too, plus back ache & cramps, then about 7.30 pm i had a bloody show and after that contractions just came thick and fast like every minute ... Got to hospital & was 9cm!!! And my little girl was safe on my arms by 9pm!

So i am anxious that if i do go into labour again it will be even quicker this time and again she might not be in the safest position .... Oh the stress & worry of little children ;)