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Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

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TinyTear · 07/08/2014 16:15

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

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TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

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Stuntman · 27/08/2014 09:40

I'm the same OneDay, no nausea yet despite it starting by week 3 in my other pregnancies. Not much I can do but wait and see what happens. I had a MMC with my third pregnancy so I won't believe it's really happening until I have my 12-week scan.

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TinyTear · 27/08/2014 09:55

i have low level nausea, and still have breastfeeding aversion but it passes quickly... those are my main symptoms... one week until the next scan...

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FizzyPinkWine · 27/08/2014 10:09

Oneday, I'm with you on the no symptoms thing. I'm 6+4 and nothing, bar very occasional stabbing pains in my nipples. I keep googling 6 weeks pregnant and no symptoms, to try and reassure myself.
Lig, glad the spotting seems to have eased.

LIG1979 · 27/08/2014 11:51

If you think that some lucky people don't find out they are pregnant until they are months along it must be possible to not have symptoms and all to be fine. I also know lots of people who have not had symptoms and never had a mc so I don't think it means much to not have symptoms. Unfortunately, I also think it is possible to miscarry when feeling sick too (result of my googling last night).

Does anyone else find it tough admitting they are pregnant? I almost don't want to change my life in case it doesn't work out. Luckily,I have gone off tea, coffee and alcohol but didn't want to ask about whether some homemade tartare sauce had raw eggs in case it didn't work out. Silly I know. I would also have gone home from work if I was properly pregnant or felt like this for some other reason but for some silly reason feel I can't.

Bristolian1 · 27/08/2014 20:46

With you on that lig. I have to tell people because of my job, and have not enjoyed it at all. I keep thinking about having to 'un-tell' them. It still doesn't even see real.

I'm still low on symptoms too fizzy and oneday and 6 weeks tomorrow. Feeling pretty nervous about it all!

chiliplant · 27/08/2014 20:48

I did feel v under the weather yesterday so I'm tempted t put the vomiting down to that. I'm almost too scared t get hopes up of it being a pregnancy symptom. So silly!
I think we all will b relieved when three months are up!x

dancestomyowntune · 27/08/2014 21:01

hi everyone! lost this thread for a while and only just re-found you all. i have had an eventful 10 days. some spotting weekend before last that had me positively convinced i was going to lose the bean Sad epu suggested keeping scan app for yesterday as more chance of seeing some progression from previous scan. so i did.

yesterday we finally saw beans hb. been dated at 7+2 now Smile and a due date of 13/4/15. dh was really worried cos i couldnt stop crying in the scan. i truly had convinced myself it was all over. i do have what looks like a dermoid cyst, and they can see where the bleed came from.

another scan booked in two weeks but feeling so much happier. Grin

FizzyPinkWine · 27/08/2014 21:16

Sorry to hear you've had a bleed dances, but great news about the scan! It must have been brilliant to see the heartbeat.

Shetland · 27/08/2014 22:55

Glad all looks well dances must have been a scary 10 days.

LIG I know what you mean. I'm pretty much acting like I'm not pregnant at all, but at the same time it's on my mind the whole time.

I did go to my doc's today to register with the midwife. I was in two minds about it, because on the one hand it makes it official and I don't feel ready for that, but on the other hand I may get an 8 week scan on the NHS (I have previously) so I need to get in the system in time for that and it generally takes a couple of weeks. I suppose if I do mc its best to have it in the system for future reference?

Still feeling a bit queasy here and there but not entirely convinced I'm not talking myself into it!

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TinyTear · 28/08/2014 08:47

looking good dances

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Bristolian1 · 28/08/2014 10:53

I actually feel quite ill today! Finally some symptoms... Not sure whether to be pleased that there is actually something going on in my body or miserable because I feel like death!

Congratulations on your scan result dances that is brilliant news

shetland I think you are very brave for registering with the mw

dancestomyowntune · 28/08/2014 10:56

well the midwife has rung and i have booking in next thursday. seems more real now Smile

lila35 · 28/08/2014 11:02

So its pants feeling rubbish but hooray for some symptoms!! Hopefully we'll all be feeling better when/if ( more of the when, I am still working on this positivity thing!) we get beyond the first tri!!

I had my prebooking in midwife app yesterday, have had to make an app for the real booking in and am in next Friday, I have a bunch of paperwork to fill in and some leaflets on screening and scans and the blurb on diet, exercise and all that jazz. Not that I don't know exactly what to do already but she was very nice, very down to earth and totally understood my terrifiedness when she asked how I was feeling. She is a bit of a warrior to, when i told her about my cyclogest hooha with my gp she was on the phone and it was sorted within minutes, she rocks!!

8+6 today....I can't quite believe it, hang on in there little squidge!!

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TinyTear · 28/08/2014 11:16

it's good to have people fighting your corner... i am happy my gp didn't have a problem giving me cyclogest... i am now waiting for the next scan before contacting him to recheck the thyroid again...

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LIG1979 · 28/08/2014 14:03

Sounds stressful dance and glad they was a healthy bean in there and they found a non-sinister reason for the bleeding.

Lila sounds like a good midwife. The pre-booking and booking in sounds like a bit palaver.

Good news on feeling crap Bristol. Shetland I know with dd I felt even sicker with nerves on scan days and so there was an element of stress sickness adding to the nausea.

I am still feeling crap and came home today from work. Wasn't doing much so decided that I would come home and nap. Got a busy day with dd tomorrow and not sure how I will get through it. With dd I started feeling better around 9 weeks so hoping that this happens again. I am finding that the nausea and exhaustion is helping take my mind off the worry of loosing this bean.

OneDayLikeThis2013 · 29/08/2014 15:04

Great news about the scan dances!

5+6 here and still no nausea Hmm

Am I being paranoid/ungreatful at this stage? With my last pregnancy I had bad nausea from 4 1/2 weeks right through to when the MMC was found at 10 weeks. The sensible part of me is trying to reason that I had nausea last time and it ended badly so maybe not having it is a good sign for me this time.

lila35 · 29/08/2014 18:06

Its still a tad early for nausea oneday Theres still plenty of time for it to come along, mine hasn't been consistent since 8 weeks and I had whole days with out it between 6/8 weeks, try not to worry although thats easier said than done xx

Can I go to bed yet? Wink

LIG1979 · 30/08/2014 18:58

Hello.
Hope everyone is ok.
I had a scan today and all looks good Grin . A little blob with a heart beat measuring 7+1. Sort of expected to feel happier but instead feel quite numb. dh on the other hand was very excited. Not doing well with the nausea and already tucked up in bed. Sleeping is the only relief I get at the moment.

One day, I don't think nausea has too many rules. It seems to hit everyone differently and hit different pregnancies differently. Last time mine hit early again and was going by about 9 weeks and completely gone by the 12 week scan. Praying this happens again.

Tiny - when is your next scan?Â

FizzyPinkWine · 30/08/2014 19:10

Hi all, I have spent most of today at the hospital. Bleeding and cramping since early this morning. My HCG is only 123 at 7 weeks. Waiting for the inevitable really. Back to the hospital on Monday for another blood test but the way the bleeding is now, I really don't have any hope.
Good luck to you all. X

LIG1979 · 30/08/2014 19:17

Oh no fizzy.so sorry it hasn't been good news. I hope you are back home and you are being looked after by other other half. hopefully it won't be too physically traumatic and you can focus on your mental recovery. (i am obviously hoping for a miracle and your bloods on Monday are going in the right direction but don't think you need false hope now.)

dancestomyowntune · 30/08/2014 20:02

sorry to hear that fizzy

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TinyTear · 30/08/2014 20:25

So sorry fizzy...

Good news Ligo

And my scan is Wednesday

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Bristolian1 · 31/08/2014 00:12

So sorry to hear that fizzy, I hope that you are being well taken care of.

Shetland · 31/08/2014 08:46

So sorry fizzy ((big hugs))

That's good news LIG Hope the nausea isn't too awful.

lila35 · 31/08/2014 08:59

That's just awful for you fizzy.

Good news on the scan lig,I'm sure you'll begin to feel more optimistic as it sinks in.