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Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

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TinyTear · 07/08/2014 16:15

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

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TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

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Shetland · 02/10/2014 07:38

Good luck london and carebear

I'll be having the flu jab too. I've have it for the last few years with no problems.

CareBearWithFangs · 02/10/2014 09:01

God I feel dreadful! Appointment at 11.20.

Good luck to London.

LIG1979 · 02/10/2014 09:52

All the best carebear and London.

Oneday - I know you are talking sense and my dad is a dr who specialises in vaccines and he has explained it several times. But it happened every year I had the vaccine and I was so ill with proper flu and not had anything as bad since. Thinking of getting dd done though to reduce the risk to me (as she gives me most of my bugs) but not sure if that is a little hypocritical.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/10/2014 11:00

Good luck with your scans today london and carebear

im undecided on the flu jab, ive never had one but having had proper flu a couple of years ago I really dont want to go through it again whilst pregnant, ive never felt so awful in my life, I was hallucinating and couldnt even lift my head off the pillow, so I guess im leaning towards having the vaccination.

My hip really hurts and ive got a headache because im so tired because I cant sleep for more than 2 hours at a time that ive been really naughty and come home to bed whilst my charges are at school, ive even resorted to taking paracetamol which I really didnt want to do but I just cant cope anymore.

jbee1979 · 02/10/2014 11:15

good luck with the scans today ladies Smile

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 12:11

Thanks Ladies Thanks My scan is not till 4.30pm

Stuntman It sounds like you had a very thorough appointment. It must make you feel great that they are keeping an eye on you.

Tiny I thought that the glucose tolerance test is usually done at 28 weeks?

No smells or horrible taste in my mouth for me, in fact I have no symptoms at all. Sometimes I think that I'm a little queasy but I'm sure that this is an excuse to eat something. Speaking of which, I really must watch what I'm eating - I weighed myself this morning and I've put on 8lbs...... It must be all the bread & cheese that I'm eating :(

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 12:12

CareBear how did you get on with your scan?

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TinyTear · 02/10/2014 12:30

It is at 28 weeks but I am having one at 16 too as I had gestational diabetes in my previous pregnancy

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CareBearWithFangs · 02/10/2014 12:47

That was stressful. Had a meltdown in the hospital car park over parking, only one space in the whole car park! And I bumped someone's car trying to squeeze into it. Tears immediately welled up as soon as I got into the hospital. Was a bit of a wreck by the time we went into the scan and I cried throughout. But the baby is there, healthy heartbeat, everything where it should be. She couldn't do the nuchal test as the baby was in the wrong position but she said it looks fine. Their booking me in for another scan and I've moved the nifty test to this Sunday.

So a few things I can cross off my worry list. And hopefully within the next sort of 15 days we'll know if I can cross off any more worries.

I now feel absolutely drained though. How's everyone's day going?

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 12:49

Tiny thanks for your reply. Just out of interest, is the gestational diabetes diet just cutting sugar from your diet? I'm keen to follow a GD diet as I'm a lot heavier now than I was in my first pregnancy & I'm keen to avoid having GD. Thanks :)

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TinyTear · 02/10/2014 12:58

hooray CareBear lovely the baby is all fine, and homones are a bugger but parking is serious business

London cutting sugar, cutting carbs (reducing quantities but not completely), I was told to stop the fruit juice and cakes and so on, but to have some rice, some pasta, some carbs just not in the amounts I was having... I was shown several photos and had to choose my usual portion of rice or pasta and then shown the ideal which was much smaller Grin

Babybels were good for snacks

I was doing ok with diet but was also on metformin and then insulin at night the last week

My downfall was the breakfast and morning readings... i couldn't have ANY carbs at all for breakfast, not even porridge... had to do eggs, bacon, fry ups, yogurts, cheese...

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LIG1979 · 02/10/2014 13:00

Great news carebear. Although sounds like a stressful run up.

London - to avoid GD it is best to follow a low gi diet. This means avoiding high gi carbs. This means things like white bread, rice and potatoes are bad but whole grain bread, basmati rice and sweet potatoes are a better option. When not suffering from nausea I try to follow a low gi diet for my pcos and to avoid GD. It is quite easy to follow at home once you learn what is good and bad. After following it religiously for several months I found I could keep regular periods and clean skin by just following it most of the time say 80% and avoiding sugary drinks and haribos!

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 13:13

Cross posted with you Carebear. Great that baby is doing well & sorry about your car. I hope that you have distressed now. Where are you having the nifty?

tiny & LIG thanks for your advice. I will start looking at GI diet this weekend. I think I can cut out sugar (I've gone off chocolate) but cutting out carb will be very tricky for me. I usually have porridge for breakfast.... I do not eat eggs or have fry ups.

Actually scrap that, cutting sugar will NOT be easy. I've been eating Mentos and Moan Joystixx for the past 3 days!

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TinyTear · 02/10/2014 13:18

Porridge is one of the best things anyway. They were surprised i was getting high readings after just porridge made ith water a tiny bit of milk and cinnamon... so i am now sticking with porridge instead of cereal...

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LIG1979 · 02/10/2014 13:21

London- chocolate isn't actually that high gi. The fat in chocolate lowers the gi. The exception is white chocolate that is sugar. Sweets on the other hand are very high gi!

I have gone off chocolate again with pregnancy - it is a shame as I really miss the idea of it. With dd I couldn't eat it till 26 weeks and then only white and milk chocolate.

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 13:25

I've been having the overnight porridge made with yogurt and fruits - it's delicious :)

I think I might leave worrying about this GD business until I have my booking in appointment with my midwife - more than 2 weeks away!

Has anyone seen the article in the Daily Mail about this woman who kept her weight down whilst pregnant? She was rude & dismissive of bigger & pregnant ladies :(

CareBearWithFangs · 02/10/2014 13:48

I have also completely gone off chocolate, I didn't even know that was possible.

Low GI diet sounds very healthy. Once I get over the horrible morning sickness I really do want to be as healthy as possible. During my last labour I just didn't have enough stamina to keep going and was completely wiped out by the pushing stage, and I was actually really really healthy back when I was pregnant with DD so it'll be even harder I guess this time round.

LittleBairn · 02/10/2014 13:54

I've never had GD but my weight and the fact that I seem to have blood sugar issues in general mean I try to be conscious of the fact I'm more likely to get it.
Instead of overnight oats (which I do like too) I do a overnight chia breakfast: chia seeds, flax seed, banana sliced up in coconut milk. Sometimes I would add raspberries and high quality coco to it too.

I swap sweet potatoes for white potatoes. And only eat wholemeal carbs.

LittleBairn · 02/10/2014 14:00

London honestly I felt she was a dangerous example to some women. she seemed to be so preoccupied with her weight to an obsessive degree that made me wonder about an eating disorder. I will be interested to know the babies birth weight.
The newspapers are so depressing when pregnant, last year I saw one artical claiming a study linked a mothers mental state when pregnant to teen/adult suicide. FFS talk about a tenuous connection!
Sometimes it feels like the new modern way to blame the fall of man on women.

CareBearWithFangs · 02/10/2014 14:41

Yes little I agree. There's also some article trying to blame woman for something. The stress one always annoys me. I can't control whether I'm stressed or not but hearing constantly that's it can be dangerous in pregnancy makes it worse!

London I'm getting the nifty done at thisismy in Leeds. One of the few places round here that do it.

CareBearWithFangs · 02/10/2014 14:42

*always not also

lila35 · 02/10/2014 15:35

Great news on your scan carebear, shame you had such a stressful time in the car park.

Good luck for you London, not long to wait now!!

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 16:13

Ok I'm here now, didn't take that long to get here after all. Nice waiting room but it's absolutely packed!

CareBearWithFangs · 02/10/2014 16:40

Thinking of you London, fingers crossed.

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/10/2014 17:23

Thanks Carebear.

Well I had my scan & baby wasn't co-operating at all. It took her 40mins to get the measurement that she needed. The doctor really upset me as she kept going on about how she can't see anything because I'm so fat :( She actually questioned if I'm sure that I had NHS scans as she can't see anything due to the tummy fat!! She then said that I needed to have an internal scan, because yes you guessed she couldn't see anything. Even when she was doing the internal scan she wouldn't stop talking about my weight. I know that with the a BMI of 33-34 I'm obese but I've never felt so fat or horrid in my entire life! If this is how I'm treated privately God knows what the midwives at the NHS will be like. Maybe I need to get used to this rude & personal comments about my weight.

I was sorely tempted to walk out but couldn't face the stress, hassle or the embarrassment. Needless to say that my first experience with the FMC has not been positive at all.

I'm now waiting in the waiting room to have my harmony blood test. The waiting room is still blooming full so I can't even complain to the receptionist.