The final *JULY 2014* The one where we ALL move to post-natal

[justhayley]

Hiya so this will probably be our last ante natal thread Really hope that our postnatal thread is as busy.
You ladies have been a great support, and it's been fab going through pregnancy with you all. I honestly don't know how I would have got through the last 6 weeks of 4am wakings without you.

I'm not due till 24th and have no signs baby is still coming early so will probably be the last one one here - don't forget me!

Anyway will love you and leave you - actually will now pop back onto our regular thread for a chat

Happy birthing

auntie I'm planning on getting used to my sling before dh goes back to work so can do stuff! Agree not sure how will cope with everything by myself - plan on using bouncy chair whilst I shower, that or try and shower before dh leaves for work - that depends on if we've slept through!

Luckily dh didn't go into work which was good as was able to take me to nurse- who said I didn't have an infection. ..so confused! And help whilst health visitor here. Poor Theo has awful constant poo because of my antibiotics that I'm taking for said possible infection! Confused yet...me too! Hope will sort self out soon!

kiwi make sure you look after yourself and don't take any risks, does sound scary. Hope you are ok

blue hope you found dh and he hadn't spent a fortune! I would love a routine however Theo fancies feeding every hour- dehydration caused bu antibiotics again...joy of joy! Hopefully not too much longer!

I managed to go for a walk today! Woo

Ickle I didn't realise you could BF while on antibiotics? For dehydration, try powerade. It's easy to drink as it's not fizzy and it'll help with more than just fluid intake.

Thanks guys. Starting to feel better but still iffy. I can't take codiene as it gives me worse headaches when it wears off. Hopefully a good sleep will sort it.

Evening all.

Milk is coming in, and I'm fighting off the baby blues - did loose it yesterday when DH came home with the wrong dummies. I was also close to a proper meltdown today when he told me that unfortunately my phone is dead as can be and data retrieval might be impossible (he was told this in phone shop)
I was going through in my head of all the photos taken in the last 18 month that are now very likely to be lost forever, and when I realised he took pictures of my last ever bf of DD on her 1st birthday I just welled up...thank God I remembered that DH did back up all photos last summer.
So I asked him to check and those precious photos ARE on the PC!!!!

Was very happy for rest of the day, in fact I actually don't care about any phone numbers etc being gone.

So I might have a tomorrow or before the week is up, but for now I win!
Suck on that hormones!

Good luck Kiwi, sorry about migraines/headaches.

*might have a meltdown tomorrow....

ismarah can with these but obviously side effects!

kiwi hope you are already asleep!

zing bless you kust jeep going you are doing a fab job! So glad photos are backed up!

I'm having my hair cut tomorrow as a bit of a treat- going short so can't just tie it back but will look nice quickly! So bored of looking a scruff and only been a mummy 11 days! Luckily hair dresser comes to me so don't need to worry about Theo needing me.

I seem to have avoided the baby blues but do get a bit fragile almost every evening between 6-8. I wonder if it's tiredness catching up with me as it then passes after dinner and I'm mostly OK for the rest of the day / night in terms of fragility.

Also so far have had no signs of PND which is something I (and the HV) worry about. Not done any of my planned proactive things yet though...feel like bean needs to be a bit bigger somehow before I start dragging her places / leaving her for 2hrs. I'm being silly, right?

Why would you leave her for 2h? Not being silly to listen to your body and respond accordingly! I also get emotional through tiredness and the thought of a potential night with no sleep about 7-9ish think its normal. I have a good cry and dh tells me I can and will get through it. I then smile, nod and eat chocolate!

Ismarah, I'm the same at that time of night - it's the not knowing how the next night will go that I find stressful.

Kiwi I hope you are doing ok?

I'm showering in the morning at the moment before DH leaves for work.

DD was given a referral for tongue tie today, appointment is on Monday. It would just make a lot of sense as feeds take forever and I'm still in pain with lipstick nipples on both sides despite regularly being told I have a good latch.

Going to buy nipple shields tomorrow - I'm hoping I don't need to use them for every feed but maybe 1 in 3 just to give me a bit of recovery time. Been expressing a little too but DD won't take a bottle yet so need to keep practising that.

Ickle one of my possible self-care activities is yoga - the sessions in town are 90mins which when getting there and back and a bit of additional faffage adds up to about 2hrs.

When my parents were here we went out for about that long right after I fed her and DH was fine. See, I AM being silly.

ickle sorry to hear Theo is having side effects from the antibiotics - Leo had the same with the ones I took, although they seemed to go away by the 4th day of taking them, hope the same happens for you!

And I tend to have my daily meltdown around 3am, when he insists he's still hungry after I've been feeding for nearly 2 hours...

Oddly its on day 7 now only started day 4 really...another 5 days to go! Still putting on weight though from 7lb1 birth to 7lb13 now!

Oh ok ismarah get the 2h now, don't start until you are confident dd will be ok as otherwise will surely have opposite effect to relaxing intention!

Theo managed 2h sleep so far tonight here's hoping in not back here until 3 something!

We seem to be on a 2 hours of on-off feeding, 1 hour of sleep night schedule :(

Ah ickle - hope it improves! I managed to lose my last day's worth of antibiotics, feel bad as I know you're supposed to complete the course. Going to ask health visitor / midwife about it as I feel better though!

Oh dear its that feeding is like Theo yesterday! He would sleep for an hour which means I would have driftef off for 10-15mins hy time I got him down. Better tonight as hes sleeping over 2h so I'm waking feeling refreshed! One more sleep pre long morning nap and we should be sorted!

Difficult with antibiotics as you say should complete but if you've lost them.., I would ring gp ask for phone appointment see if they want to prescribe an extra day or not worry?

Good idea, might try that!

Man I want to sleep...

Hope you managed to get some sleep its and don't stress about antibiotics good news that you are feeling better!

we were doing so well until last time I put him down when less than an hour. Got dh to try and comfort him but no good wanted more milk! No doubt he will now sleep until late morning but I be awake. Feel so much more human than yesterday anyway. Also helps that know 2h between feeds isn't great so things will get even better soon!!!

How is everyone else doing?
No news from hayley for a while!

Evening wobbles are very normal y'all!

Everyone with kids, no matter how old the children are, find evening hours the hardest! You are tired, they are tired but there's still so much to do before you can sit down & relax or go to bed.
And a newborn/small baby is more demanding in the evening than during the day - they need more feeds as they are trying to "store it up" for the night, because eventually they will sleep longer and longer through the night (YES, THEY WILL!)

Do you remember that scene in Friends when Phoebe's brother is all over his older girlfriend, snogging her face off?
At first Phoebe is revolted and keeps telling them to stop it, then realises she is being ignored so changes tactics and say "ok, keep doing it, I want this to happen" (or similar) - she can cope with the unpleasant situation as long as she is still in control. Even if she has to pretend she is in control.

I think of that scene often. And I joke "ooh, I want this to happen" and somehow pretending I'm ok with what's going on actually makes me feel better!
It's weird but it works.

So try it next time. You might laugh at the surreal-ness of saying out loud "I want this to happen" which will at least cheer you up!

So much for my comments about routine yesterday- DD basically screamed or fed or slept a tiny bit if on me or DH from the moment we got home yesterday through the whole evening. And spent last night either asleep on me or snuggled next to me!! Think she's got trapped wind/constipation.

To make the evening even more fun DS (hot and v overtired) had a 'night terror' just as we were about to eat dinner. Bless he was so so upset and in a total daze when he came around.

mrsa2 on feeding with tongue tie-my bf lady said I should try the 'biological nursing position' which is easier for a TT baby and has basically saved my poor nipples whilst we wait for the referral. She also suggested filling a medicine syringe with expressed milk and gently giving that rather than using a bottle as TT babies often struggle to get back to breast after a bottle. HTH

SO so engorged again this morning-already had to pump a bit so DD would actually be able to latch.

Thanks Blue, off to Google the biological position. I'm really reluctant to start using bottles until we get bf cracked but it does worry me that we don't have a back up plan if she just won't latch one day. That said we were using syringes in hospital so you're right, could do that again - I do worry about chocking her though, even with waiting until she is sucking before using the syringe. Thanks.

We had a fun night with DD awake 10pm, midnight and then 2-5.30 including a projectile vomit all over herself, me and a pillow - luckily not too much over the bed.

She's still fast asleep, looking angelic. I wish I was still asleep too but it's so light in our room and I need a shower before the midwife comes at 9am anyway.

39+ 5 still no baby! Still cramping, irregular period pain ache and getting fed up! This baby is too big now and it hurts!

Bean gets so frantic sometimes when I BF, it's like fighting a drunk but hungry octopus. I find it very frustrating.

Think we may be doing advanced level BF now though - we're lying down. #proudmama

Oh howly I feel your pain-was exactly the same leading up to DD arrival- sooo uncomfortable and definitely ready! Hope it happens soon for you!

ismarah love the drunk angry octopus description-perfect!

mrsa2 hope you find it useful!

ismarah why don't they realise hands just get in the way! I'm sure Theo has delatched himself by pulling on my breast when feeding...silly man!

blue hope you manage to get some sleep in the day today!

So I had more sleep last night than previously so why am I so tired? Dh gone food shopping, I know I couldn't manage all that walking but still a bit resentful of just being able to go out without thinking of baby. Ita hitting me that even a brief trip to shop needs to be thought about...what if he wants feeding half way round?! I'm sure by time I'm up to doing that will be able to time for after a feed etc but still!

zing love that idea will give it a go!