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Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

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SassehMonsta · 01/07/2014 13:43

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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htbftm · 13/07/2014 10:14

Glad you re having a beter morning Miraculous! I echo what others say particularly Big hairy! Many congrats on your little boy Nicky! Cant wait to find out what mine will be! 18+4

LotsaTuddles · 13/07/2014 11:23

Glad you're having a better day today Miraculous glad you're feeling more positive too

monkeybaby2 · 13/07/2014 16:51

Peace, just caught your post about whether to lie on your side or back for sleeping. It's not about discomfort, it's to do with blood flow around your body and to your baby. Lying on your left side maximises the flow to the placenta, helping your baby to grow. On your right side is fine too, just not quite so beneficial. You're advised to avoid lying on your back as the weight of your uterus can compress the vein meaning it's harder to get blood around your body (and make you feel faint) and also reduce the supply to the placenta. I'm not really sure how much of a problem that is at the size we are now but I guess more so as we expand. I find myself on my back (and not for a good thing...) sometimes at night and I'm thrashing around so much at the moment I'm trying not to sweat it too much.

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 13/07/2014 17:12

I'm working on the assumption that if I'm getting better quality sleep, it's doing more good for the baby than if I'm uncomfortable on my left side. Plus I always roll onto my back/either side in my sleep anyway, so whatever!
Hope everyone's having a grand weekend? Mine has been brilliant for once Smile

monkeybaby2 · 13/07/2014 19:01

Good plan, I get so hot at night at the moment, am going to try sleeping under just a sheet tonight.

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DrewsWife · 13/07/2014 19:13

My left hip is so painful that I cannot sleep on it for long. So I have been up all bloody night tossing and turning. Grrrrrrrrrr.

CallingAllEngels · 13/07/2014 19:20

I always sleep on my side anyway, at the moment lying on my back makes me feel a bit ill.

It's too hot for pjs here atm monkey . I've been sleeping in knickers and then rolling my duvet between my legs and boobs.

Managed to sleep funny on one of my ears last night, hurt like hell when I woke up this morning.

Lovely to hear you're having a little boy whatsmore .take it easy!

16w

Ladylel · 13/07/2014 19:21

Today we brought an oyster max. Much more exciting playing with a pram lol feels more real now. 2 days until we find out! Eeeeeee

monkeybaby2 · 13/07/2014 19:35

Down to knickers here too. I'm usually freezing but I seem to overheat so easily at the moment. Argh, for a good nights sleep!

espa · 13/07/2014 20:06

How much weight do you put on on your legs when pg? Just tried my Topshop maternity jeans that came this week but there doesn't seem much give in the legs in either size I ordered although the bigger one would be too loose at the back of waist no matter how big the bump.

Think I'll maybe keep the blue pair just now and if I really like once bump gets bigger (and if they still fit!) i'll get the black ones again.

Pepsiaddict · 13/07/2014 21:39

Just back from a few days away and catching up on the thread! Haven't got through it all yet......

Not sure if it's been mentioned but there's a newish blood test that's been introduced for rhesus neg mothers that looks at free foetal DNA and can determine whether the baby is rh pos or neg. maternal blood test is taken at 16 weeks. I'm def going to have it done and hope that I get a conclusive answer as I hated the anti-D injections last time (and DD was negative!). It was the only injection I've ever had that made me faint.

16+3

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 13/07/2014 23:02

Pepsi what was it about the injection that made you faint? I'm rhesus negative but I don't usually have a problem with needles. I've heard from a few people that it's grim, but not why?

Martie1 · 14/07/2014 00:22

Hi all

Happy Sunday! Have been having the most wonderful kicks all week from the bump, it's amazing. Been wondering if I was feeling baby from week 17 and since last Sunday been getting kicks daily. Just had a real overwhelming moment thinking that I cannot wait to meet this little person.

miraculouscongrats on the 19wk milestone. I'm sure you are wishing time away. Hope you got a nice sticky bun when you were out for coffee, your more than deserving of it.

I'm doing my best to sleep on my side but I always end up on my back. Training myself is tough!

18+6

Pepsiaddict · 14/07/2014 08:04

Taura, the cut off for the school year in Scotland used to be the end of Feb but there was an option to defer for a year - hopefully another Scot will be able to confirm or otherwise as I've lived in England for the last 13 years (sob).

R what to buy for the baby. Ignore the marketing things from the shops - you really don't need as much as they tell you to buy.
Moses basket - could have been a waste of money. Our room was too small to fit the cotbed into and dd was 8'7 at birth so looked like she'd outgrow it very fast, fortunately she turned out to be a dinky baby and fitted into the Moses basket until 5 months when we put her in her own room. I wish we'd got a crib so could have kept her in our room longer.

Don't buy lots of swaddle blankets / gro bags in first size - cotton cellular blankets are fine. Ditto to sheets for Moses basket - pop a folded muslin under the baby's head to catch posset so you don't need to change the sheet every time the baby is sick. Do buy lots of muslins, they make fab sunshields, sheets /blankets in summer as well as for mopping up. Other thing I found great was washable cloths for nappy changes, much better at cleaning than wipes.

No rush to buy a breast pump - you usually need to wait until bf is established first. If you need one sooner eg prem baby the hospital will let you hire one. The medela swing is great but pricy so wouldn't invest before the baby is born.

Sterilisers are regularly half price in Boots and Amazon. Some of the bundle deals (starter packs) aren't as good as they may seem initially. Babies can be fussy about what teats / bottles they like so don't invest in too many of the same type initially.

If you plan to use reusable nappies avoid birth to potty packs. They can be a huge investment but different nappies suit different children so wait until they are here or get some second hand so you can work out what suits your baby. They are often not great for bf baby poo containment anyway so a couple of packs of disposables for the first week or so is a good idea.

In my opinn an Isofix base for car seat is a must have if you have a bad back as otherwise bending around the seat to fit the seatbelt is difficult.

Birth ball - great for getting baby into the optimum position pre birth and also after. Our daughter liked being bounced on it when being cuddled as a newborn. On sale from the nct shop at the moment.

We didn't buy any toys before the baby was born and got given quite a few as presents. Our best buy was a fisher price rocking chair that vibrated and later a jumperoo. Babies tend to like bright colours so although the neutral ones look more tasteful they seem to be less popular. Ditto to toys - much as most of us dislike bright plastic is def appeals to children.......

CallingAllEngels · 14/07/2014 08:34

Great advice pepsi

Yy lots of muslins and waiting to buy pump...you don't know if you're going to use it (we ended up getting one because my milk was very slow coming in and ds wouldn't feed, our kraamzorg/do u la reccommended it. They had an offer on at Dutch mothercare that anything you could fit in this special paper bag was 20% off. dh shoved it in, half sticking out of the bag, but he must have looked like shit - ds was 2 days old- as they let him have the discount!).

16+1 and I should be packing instead of on mn

DrewsWife · 14/07/2014 09:22

Start going to car boot sales. I have bought loads for a few pounds each. A wee wash is all they need. Babies grow fast. Very fast. I have a 2nd hand cot coming. We bought at car boot sale

Breast pump £2. I sterilised it.
Sterilisation kit including brand new unopened bottles, teats and dummies for £20
Sling £12
Bouncy chair £2
Playpen/travel cot £10
Baby outfit unworn. 50p
Changing unit with bath and shelves £10

I nip to the car boot sale at Ayr race course after church

BigHairyLeggedSpider · 14/07/2014 09:26

19 weeks tomorrow. Very tired, nauseous and very late for work!

BigHairyLeggedSpider · 14/07/2014 09:29

Stupid question.... Muslin squares, are they the same stuff as the material you buy in rolls for making cheese etc? if so can I get away with a visit to the material shop and hem them?

DrewsWife · 14/07/2014 09:31

Run spider run... Take a bucket! Grin

DrewsWife · 14/07/2014 09:32

I think they are slightly thicker. But no harm in trying !?

DrewsWife · 14/07/2014 09:33

I use face clothes. They are cheap and cheerful. And do the job just as well.

SassehMonsta · 14/07/2014 09:41

The car I use (one of my dads) is broken, and the other one I have access to is being used by my sister, so I have no car :( Can't get to work without an hour and a half on a bus (+travel sickness? I think not) so staying home today.

Had a busy week/weekend, but now have a travel system and the offer of a crib and a moses basket. My sister graduated on Friday in Reading, and I visited DH's cousins briefly in Swindon, and went to DVD night from our pantomime in Feb, back home in Northants (All in one day!). Saturday I did nothing. Sunday, I got out for a few hours with my dad and my dog, which was lovely.

Travel system was free, and other offers are loans, so thats good - and the system came with an isofix base as well. Just can't lay pushchair flat enough that I would be happy with using it as a pram (ie, flat and secure so baby doesn't slide out the bottom!) so may have to adapt it myself with some foam and extra bits. Got the Graco Swiftfold Paloma, which doesn't fold as small as the Mothercare one I was looking at, and handle doesn't adjust, but its not too bad. Very grateful to the cousins for giving it to me, as ones DD has outgrown it and the other has a new one that her PIL got her. Will have to give it a trial run when baby arrives, but if we don't get on with it then we shall just have to get a new one anyway.

Don't feel that bump has grown at all this week :/ probably just me being paranoid, but I might visit a friend and ask her opinion ;) but again, no car and would need to get a bus - boooo. I hate buses. used to do 2+ hours a day of them to get to college and work, so glad that is over! Still feeling sicky first thing in the morning, and occasionally take some Stemetil if I think its going to be a long day/bad day.

18+2 today, and only 10 days until the next scan! Seeing Consultant for the first time in 8 days - eeek!

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DrewsWife · 14/07/2014 10:22

I have been given a lovely day off by my boss today. Sales figures have been poor so do I want a day off as it's quiet ..... Hell yeah.

So today is clearing out the living room and packing away baby bits we have accumulated.

I have struggled to sleep all weekend. I'm exhausted so just sat with a cup of tea. Trying to shift my brain.

I have the consultant tomorrow morning. Can see it far enough. And because I kicked off about being railroaded with birth choices. Ie. You had a section 18 years ago so let's just do that again... Ehhhh let's just wait and see thank you... Angry I have an appointment in a few weeks with the consultant midwife.

PunkyPod · 14/07/2014 10:42

Fab advice from Pepsi! The birth ball (I got a yoga ball from the sports shop) was so useful in the final few weeks. I'd be uncomfortable on the sofa so it was great. And then it was a life saver when DD arrived. She liked to bounce.

We also found the muslins very useful. So I don't think you can go overboard with these. I also put one under baby's head in the moses basket/wherever dd was laying to catch anything. And I didn't bother with sheets for the moses basket. just put the mattress in one of our pillow cases. it's pretty much the same size!

DD ended up being a baby who needed to be swaddled to sleep. We found these things called Swaddle Pods which are like zip us swaddles. the baby ends up looking like a caterpillar! LIFE SAVER!

We did get all the cloth nappies in advance. And I know that was quite a risk. Thankfully the 2 part system I had the most of was what worked best for us (birth-to-potty) but the all-in-ones not so much. I'll use them again with this one and see if they work any better. If not then I reckon i'll sell them and get more of the 2-parters. Cloth is really a fantastic way to go if it interests anyone. As long as you get into a good routine with washing and drying them, then it's not too much more work and the cost savings are huge. DD is just going through potty training now, she's doing fantastically and we're using disposables when she sleeps. it's strange seeing all her cloth on the shelf. But it'll be used again soon enough :)

Don't buy too much, you'll get so many presents that a lot of stuff goes unused. One of the best gifts we got was gift vouchers. That way once we'd got used to DD after a few weeks we went shopping for all the stuff we thought would be really useful.

Scan tomorrow, I am sooooooooooooooooooooo excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

20+1