October 2014 - thread 8 - more growing tums, shopping & pubic topiary

[Kirstipops]

Hi folks, new thread!

We went for rear facing for dc1 after seeing all the crash tests on forward facing seats! I imported it from Sweden as there were none available here at the time. I paid £285 and I've kept it for this baby. It's a maxi cosi moby I think...everyone said I was mad for paying get that money for a seat but in my opinion it made more sense to pay £300 for a are seat that could save her life than £500 for a buggy that was fashionable...I ended up with both an expensive seat and a fashionable buggy though lol! She stayed rear facing until she was 3 years old then we switched to the cybex pallas (no 5 point harness) also because it came out top for safety and it's been excellent!

Sitting here smelling like an Italian restaurant. The olive oil is not working - I still can't hear!

Fedup sympathies - I get waxy ears (on one side only) at various times of the year. It's been happening since I was at uni and is v annoying (especially at work!). Pregnancy makes it worse. Olive oil is rubbish, as is otex. Get to a chemist and ask for sodium bicarbonate ear drops - only cost a pound or two and properly work (it takes a couple of days). And remember: nothing bigger than your elbow in your ear. Cotton buds will make things a lot worse!

I'm so envious of you guys past the 24 week threshold. A week and a half to go here. Then my next big date to beat is 27+3 when my niece arrived. I've told baby, like I told J anything past 30, ideally 32 weeks is fine. 36 weeks is a bonus. J listened to me (a one and one time only event!) and turned up at 36 weeks on the nose!

Thanks for the links to the car seats and suggestions. We just don't have £300 at the moment for a car seat so I think we'll go for the Britax and hope that does up to 2 years and see how it goes from there.

I find it really strange that it seems like it is so much safer traveling backwards, but if we hadn't attended the event last night we would never have known anything about it or this new law that's trying to be passed.

Apparently I was brought home from hospital being held by my Mum on the back seat and she wasn't even strapped into a seat belt. How things have changed in 33 years!

Awful dreams here as well. Last night - I accidently dropped my 3 year old off the edge of a cliff. it was really vivid and real seeming - was then awake for two hours trying to calm myself down.

Car seats are so confusing! I can't find anything official about this change of law - does anyone have a link? We were going to reuse my daughter's but will obviously by new one if we need to. I'm really torn between rear facing being safer and forward facing being so much easier for long journeys. We're driving to central France tomorrow and the thought of not being able to have face on conversation or pass DD drinks, snacks, toys etc. easily is a bit dreadful... Clearly the thought of a crash is more dreadful but I suppose it's about weighing up the risks.

Portico that's awful it's your decision which if any contraception you want to use. I to would have been tempted to plant a coil somewhere where the sun doesn't shine on her!

My consultant was strongly recommending sterlisation after my cs but it's certainly my choice.

My ear keeps popping to really strange I've never had it in any other pregnancy

Binky its a great seat and if you want another kid then there's no sense in getting a 0-4 seat. Its much cheaper and safer to get one 0-2 and a 2-4 seat as and when you need them. That's what we're going to do. We got a 0-1 car seat with our old travel system (which the in laws paid for), the newborn will go in that, then into J's britax.

Captain could you sit in the back with her? I tend to do that on long journeys. Now I know we're much safer today but god long journeys must have been so much easier in the past when you could just hold your baby and BF a long journey away, or cuddle up to your toddler.

I remember when researching rear acid for dc1 discovering that it's not unusual in much of Europe for children to be rear facing until age 7 and in some countries it is compulsory. The only reason I knew about it was because I worked with a road safety officer who told all about it and highly recommended rear facing. I remember reading something that said although rear facing is safer car seat manufacturers don't sell those seats here because as brits we simply don't like them! Yet they sell them all across Europe! I remember using money we got for dc1s christening gifts to pay for the seat and we switched to that one once she was too big for the 0-1 seat...

Captain there doesn't seem to be anything official about it becoming law just lots of chat on-line. We looked it up straight away when we got in last night as we didn't want to pay out now, then again in 18 months time if our child was too big for the current seat to be rear facing and the law had come in.

Mum how does a 7 year old get their legs in a rear facing car seat, surely they are too big? I'm wondering how a 4 year old manages when I see my friends 2 year old in his car seat!

There was a gap in front of my dds seat where her feet could go, but they tend to just sit crossed legged. She never appeared to be uncomfortable and I suppose for some it may be more comfortable than having their legs dangling.

Fedup, i had a blocked ear for a good few weeks when i first got pregnant. The nurse at the GP's said there wasn't any wax & i could make it worse by using oil. She said it was just something that would go away on its own & could take months . So would recommend checking for wax first!

It was great for her to sleep in too as It seemed to recline further than forward facing seats. I do think if you don't want to go with rear facing (whether the law is passed or not) the cybex pallas or similar with a crash cushion rather than 5 point harness is your safest bet. They are suitable from 9 months I believe. ..

There is a Facebook group called 'Rear facing - The way forward' which is supposed to be really good if anyone wanted to know

Yes oddly having limbs hanging out of a rear facing seat is considered safer than forward facing. I suppose because limb injuries are better than head or spinal injuries?

With the rear facing car seats the thing I don't get is what if you are rear ended? There is only the boot to absorb impact whereas with a front crash there is the engine, then air bags, the front seat people etc before reaching the child?

Fedup, glad you posted about your ear! Last week and today I have been quite deaf in my right ear. So annoying!

I think a rear end crash would force them back into the seat, whereas if forward facing it would whiplash them forward? I wish I knew what they based the stats on.

Now I feel like a crap mum again for having a forward facing seat! I'm sure half of it is to lure us in to buying the most expensive thing - and saying 'no cost on your child's safety'
When I was young we didn't even have seat belts in our car and most of the people drink and drove!
I get the logic though and I was buying seats again I think would go rear facing.

Ugh. So over working and commuting. Bakerloo line smelt of sick and BO, and now on cramped train the stinks of stale booze men and mcdonalds.

Anyone else getting really sore bum - coccyx area? If I've been sitting down for a whole then stand up its agony. And then feel real pressure on my pelvic floor. Just me or shared thing with you ladies?

Ps. I can hear slightly better now - well feel less dead so perhaps the olive oil has done something - not just given me a greasy left side of head.

Dead = deaf

I had a really bad back on Sunday/Monday - no way of sitting would help it, started in my coccyx then sort of travelled up in to what felt like muscle. I was also KNACKERED on those days, and small was doing somersaults. I think it was just some sort of growth spurt or similar, because it's worn off now. My lower 'gut' area has felt weird all along - I thought initially it was to do with heparin injections making things feel tender, but now it feels more internal too - as if things are clanking around a bit.

I'm quite enjoying moving around so slowly to be honest. It's quite relaxing - I'm normally such a frantic person, now I just drift...

flip just seen your post - will look out for sodium bicarbonate drops / ask for these!
Ideally I want a doctor to just syringe it out but have no time to go to the doctor! Bleurgh.

What I have noticed in the last week/2 weeks is how small my appetite is. I wake up starving hungry, I have breakfast and lunch, then I could happily it there for the rest of the day. I'm munching on Rennies quite a lot after meals though due to heartburn, maybe they have loads of calories