September 2014 reaching the final stretch!

[ilovemonstersInc]

Last thread was full.
Some of us are in the last trimester and some nearly there!! Eeek not long left!

I read recently that your body won't grow a baby that you can't physically give birth to (it's only when people have rickets that there are problems as this affects pelvis size).

Katharinr I read that too.
I also read it's supposed to be easier too.
I did tear with 8lb7 baby but not with the 9lber (well almost 9lb) my sis tore with her 5lber but dm didnt tear with jher 8lb6.

My worry isnt tearing as its something that can happen but might not

My gm had a 14lb with 2 teeth!

I know this one will be bigger as they tend to get bigger but its tough. As long as im ok while and after delivery and so is he nothing else really matters to us. I was far too poorly last time to want anything else.

Anyone else with scans coming up?

Anyone heard from kicksandgiggles?

a 14lb with teeth already!! Wow!

I've been to a breastfeeding antenatal workshop this morning. Interesting but lots of info to take in! Has further put me off having pethadin though in case it makes my baby too sleepy to feed soon after birth. I know this doesn't happen to all babies though.

Ate a bit too much last night and had an urge to drink milk so had a glass before bed, then woke up early morning feeling like I was actually going to explode!!! Sooo uncomfortable lol. Does milk make anyone else really bloated?

Hi ladies,

Sorry I haven't been around for a while, I've been struggling a bit and had some time in hospital.
It's all a bit much for me at the moment and I haven't wanted to bring everyone down. I have had the steroid injections now just in case she comes early and even packed my hospital bag yesterday as I've had enough of being in hospital without anything.

When it comes to size, it's worth remembering that the weight of the baby is only half the story. Dd2 was 1lb heavier than dd2 but was actually still a skinny little thing, all the extra weight was legs as she was around the 50th centile for weight but over the 90th for length.

I hope everyone else is doing ok.

ilove I have a scan on the 8th July to see how baby is growing, but because baby could be too small rather than too big.

I am feeling bloody grumpy this evening. I am getting so fed up with DH having to work until 11:30 every Friday, Saturday and Sunday night. He starts at 11 or 12 on all those days and it feels like we never get any time at the weekend. He does get days off in the week, but it would be nice every now and then to not spend the whole bloody weekend on my own with dcs, not being able to do anything much with them because he's got the car.
I wouldn't mind so much but he only has to do it because his boss who is on 3 times as much money hardly ever works the weekends, because he wants to spend the time with his children - like his kids are more important than ours! Grrrr.

Sorry rant over.

fairy sorry to hear that, hope you are ok and baby doesn't decide to come just yet.

fairypant have I missed something, whats been happening with you? Hope your ok, feel free to unload on here that's what we are here for x

My lovely dh has today put together the changing table and drawers, and he's even put all the clothes away in the drawers in size order and the bedding etc. The changing table has been loaded up and he's done a few diy jobs in the nursery- all while feeling unwell with work stress. bless.

AND....guess what...he's even come up with a name or two!!!

Fairy hope everythings ok

hope all is well fairy x

blossom that's brill! Ive started washing babys clothes today. Will sort his drawers out tonight I think and get some ironing done tomorrow!

Tea I have a scan on the 9th!

Top I cant say much with my own experiences and pethadine as I needed a lot of work doing after delivery so dc didnt get a chance to have me first.. ds1 did but not much and ds2 didnt and drank 3oz of milk in one go..dh gave it him as mw said he was too hungry to wait.

Hello fairy hand holding and hair stroking, offered!

ilove I have a growth scan tomorrow!

Wow, good to know that not everyone with big partners / husbands have giant babies! I should clarify it's not my midwife that keeps telling me I'll have an enormous baby, but a work colleague of mine (but she has a daughter who is a midwife and this is what she has been told 'apparently').

Got back from nephew's party a couple of hours ago (it was a first birthday party combined with a naming ceremony for him, so quite formal and over a hundred people there). It was nice but I found myself having to answer the same questions about 100 times (when are you due, etc). Then MIL told me I was bigger today at 6 and a half months than SIL was when she was pregnant at mine and DH's wedding (when she was 8 and a half months) which, although I know wasn't meant to, (she's actually lovely), just made me feel a bit crap, as I'm sick of people telling me how huge I am. Then at the end we spoke to DH's grandparents who are, well, quite difficult at the best of times. They have told DH's parents several times that they want a great-grandchild who will carry on the family name (so a boy), and we braved it and told them we were expecting a girl, and they were just like 'oh'. Was quite pleased to leave in the end.

Sorry to hear you've not been well fairypants. Hoping you feel better soon.

Teabiscuits that does indeed sound crap. I'd be pissed off too. Can he maybe ask his boss if he can at least have 1 or 2 weekends off a month (not a lot I know, but sounds like it would be more than what you're getting at the moment)? xxx

Sorry everyone for what I realise may have been an unhelpful bit of news to share. Another friend of mine had a 6lb 1oz baby despite her partner being very tall and broad. Have I redeemed myself?

Sorry to hear you've been in hospital fairy, hope all is ok.

I have had countless comments about size that I am trying to laugh off including one from the doctor that based on how big my bump seems I could have a perfectly healthy baby in a couple of weeks..... hmmmmm.

Good luck with all the scans, hospital app. etc this week everyone.

Hope everything is ok fairy

Finally got two seconds to sit down and write something! Every time I so much as think about typing something a child arrives on my lap, so I'm great at reading all the posts, not so much at replying... I just had 3 attempts at making toast for myself and it is only at attempt no.4 that I managed to get some - does anyone else with dc already find that food just disappears from beneath their nose constantly? With 4 I don't think I'm ever going to be able to get to eat anything again

I think I am still a bit in denial at having 4! I'm really excited about meeting the baby but I'm also a little scared about having 3 other kids, all 6 and under and being able to look after them, do school run etc. whilst functioning on no sleep!!

With regards to having large babies, my DH is 6ft and quite stocky (as are the rest of his family...) but my dc were only 6lb14, 7lb15 and 8lb3, and my midwife reckons I am quite unusual in my babies getting bigger each time. My dc did all get stuck (including dc3 during my elcs!) BUT I have problems with a narrow pelvis which means they get stuck - this is rare though.

Those that are scared about tearing, I had an episiotomy and forceps with dc1 and a bad 2nd degree tear with dc2 (due to shoulder dystocia), but I can honestly say that I don't remember feeling them happen at all, it was just part of the pushing to me and I was so glad to be holding my baby at the end of it that I didn't mind about the stitching either - it just felt a bit stingy, but not really bad. They healed really well too so I wouldn't worry too much (I know easier said than done though!)

I have had so many different comments about my bump - some say I look big, others small! One of my friends said I looked a lot smaller at this stage than I did with dc3 - I then pointed out that I hadn't actually met her at that stage plus how would anyone actually tell!! I've carried exactly the same with each dc, but dc1 and this one are a bit more stretched out as this one seems to have its feet constantly underneath my ribs - ow!

Sorry to have caused concern, I guess I'm just minimising it a bit.

I had some excruciating back pain about a week and a half ago. Not contractions as it was constant and only lasted about an hour. It then settled to feeling very like period pains (which I always get in my back). That worried me to I called the midwife who got me to go in to the assessment unit to check me over. All seemed fine and they couldn't find anything to explain it. Checked my cervix (closed) and did a swab which indicates if you are at risk of early labour which came back positive. They insisted I stay in and have two steroid injections (24 hours apart) to mature babies lungs just in case. This was 1am by this time. I was tired and DH as really hard work. He wanted me to refuse it based on the fact that we were due to take the kids away after work the next day. In his defence, he can't cope with changes to plans and I don't think he earliest how bad it would be if baby was born at 27+3 without the steroids but it made it all the more stressful for me.
He also refused to bring anything into hospital for me as he had to get up early the next day to take his car into the garage (really!)
The pain died down and I had my injections. DH took the girls away as planned and I met them there. Was discharged at 1.30 am, walked home (about 15 mins as we live very close), packed and booked train ticket online before going to bed and got up at 6am in order to get a train to London followed by tubes across the city to meet them. Then followed two days of walking and I was completely broken. By the time I got to work on Monday I was literally shaking from the stress of it all, let alone the pain in my back and hips from all the walking.
There have been no further signs of early labour but it is a risk so I packed my hospital bag on Saturday just in case and will take it with me if there are any further worries. That's all I can do and I'm starting to calm down a bit now.
This is all against a background of dd1s gcse exams, worry about not bonding with this baby (I think I'm a bit shut off after a mc last year), dd2 having various school events and induction stuff for both dds with parents stuff in the evenings, lots going on at work and having the occasional phone call to mothercare trying to get the remaining parts of ournursery furniture delivered.
Sorry for the massive ramble, I guess I'm still feeling a little shocked by it all.

Oh fairy [flower]
At least you had the injections. Dn was born at bang on 24 weeks. You can imagine how small he was and he only managed 1 injection. He has been home for over 6months, coming on in leaps and bounds and is slowly being weaned off his oxygen which he doesnt need any more. Try not to stress too much about it all I know its easier said than done but we are all here to support you (hugs)
I think we all deserve a bit of
fasting has started so im not sleeping until 12ish. Waking at 1.30 to cook breakfast for dh, sleeping after 3 then up at 6 with ds.

Felt very shivery this morning but think it was due to tiredness as its happened before.

Wow fairy tough times, thats alot to go through in one weekend.

Just had my scan and baby is measuring fine, but u have come back on the cusp of having Gd so now I am waiting to see the midwife about that, gonna have to change my diet to a healthy one

Oh fairypants bless you what a horrible few days you've had. Please feel free to vent here if you need to - it's what we're here for. xxx

Cookielove hope it turns out not to be GD. When do you have to see the midwife? xxx

Oh fairy what a cack time for you; hope you start to feel better soon. My DH doesn't cope well with changes to plans either, know exactly how that conversation will have gone. Thinking about you.

I have my GTT tomorrow, have had loads of them in the past - PCOS since I was 14, and the docs used to like to do a GTT at least once every 6 months when I was a teenager; somehow this is stressing me out more! However, I seem to finally have got some energy back and was actually pleased to come to work today - just had a Y1 lesson that I loved, and it was nice to feel that I'm vaguely back on form. Prizegiving rehearsal later in the week will probably finish me off, mind!!!

cookie when do you see the midwife?

Wow fairy, you really need some rest and some TLC! huge hugs. You need to start saying 'no'. A few weeks ago my dh decided last minute we were going out all day, going all over the place and the first thing I said was fine but if any point Ive had enough we come straight home! Thankfully he agreed. Ive accepted that I just cant do what I used to and Ive adjusted my expectations and I spread things out over the calendar so I get some rest time otherwise I make myself ill.

Ive had a run in with mothercare store/customer services this morning but I won! So free bedding on its way to me tomorrow . Did anyone get a email from mothercare today saying something big is happening tomorrow...

dh is ordering the pushchair (uppababy vista) and carseat & base (besafe) tomorrow and picking up the cotbed, yay so excited!

...and heres a conversation from school pick up..

oh I didn't know you were expecting...when are you due?

me:early September...

really??!!! shocked face.

me;Yes, why do you think I look big?

Yeahhh, nodding while pulling a hell yes face and walking off.

bitch. walking off making note to self to tell her how rough shes looking while asking her if she feels ok next time I see her....

holls kitkat I was quite lucky that the diabetes midwife was working as a normal midwife today so i saw her straight away, I've been given the low down of what to expect and just got in from the shops with a load of stuff to keep me going.

Gutted I had just bought a yummy icecream to try and now I can't, although I am on the cusp of gd so hopefully i can keep my sugars low so I can try some :)

white hmmmm I have had emails from mothercare, just not read them, how'd you manange the free bedding?

This news terrifies me:
Midwife strike

After all the scenarios I've gone through in my head, this one hasn't and it now seems a very real possibility.

Seems like quite a few people get less than satisfactory service from Mothercare! I have just about forgiven them now though for how they messed me about with my nursery furniture as I got a £150 cotbed mattress from them at the weekend for £28 in their sale plus using some vouchers DH got from work Bargain!

Fairy You poor thing, I hope you can get a bit of rest, you deserve it!

whiteblossom That was rather rude of that mum saying that to you Maybe she's a bit jealous...?

Baby was having a right good shuffle about my uterus in the middle of the night, it woke me up and there was a big bulge poking out the left side if my bump! Probably either baby's head or bum I'm guessing. Certainly felt weird!!