We have fire in our bellies, we're incubating our little Penis Dragons. Thread 2

[PolytheneGirl]

New thread for all the nutty graduates of the Penis Dragon Busses.

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I say comfort should win. I need to get some new bras too, I'm getting a bit of an overspill look at the moment, not good.

How is everyone doing with the "foods to avoid in pregnancy" malarkey? I'm having a really bad week, keep screwing up, I are barramundi in the same week I had salmon twice (didn't realise barramundi is classed as a high mercury fish and they recommend you shouldn't eat any other type of fish for a fortnight if you eat it), and yesterday I had a lovely veggie pad Thai without realising raw bean sprouts are a huge no go. Feeling like a crap mum already :(

Choccy you poor thing xx

poly you have every right to be upset. I think I would call 111 with a 'bleed' and ask to be scanned. They have left you with no other option!

We told my parents yesterday. They are so happy and I knowthey will be an aamazing support. Had to ask my mum to calm down as she was picking what she wanted to be called. Im only 5+3!!!!

Haha, toots, my mum was the same, toss up between granny and grandma! And she's seen a crib she's getting us I'm not even 5 weeks!

Hi all. I'm feeling a bit better today, still just a bit down and fed up. I really don't want to lie and say that something is wrong, it feels a bit like tempting fate. I think I'm going to phone again on Tuesday and if I get nowhere I'm going to call my community midwife and explain the situation and how stressed out it is making me. I'm really worried now that I told them I'm going on holiday when I'm not that I've messed things up for myself!

Hope you're all doing ok. glad it went well telling your parents Toots. Sorry you're not sleeping well Retro and Fancy, I'm also a pillow hugger!

Just popped on to say I hope all you lovely ladies are keeping well! and so sorry to those who have had a loss.

Choccy, massive hugs to you, still praying for your sticky bean. Stay strong, and amazing, it will happen. X

Sazzle, A BOY!!!!!!! :) huge congrats! We have all boys in our fam, they are amazing!

Lovely to see all your pregnancies progressing ladies...and give me that bloat, sickness, gas, tummy etc any day!!!!! lol

Mama31 xx

Poly I'm at a standstill for December too. Have first appointment on Tuesday but no scan date yet for us either. I am sleeping like a log though, at least when I can, work has been pretty full on this week.

Sure we'll get there in the end. Can't wait for tuesdY though, as hoping that I'll at least have a plan by then!

Sorry to hear your news choccy, although I had seen your other thread. Here's hoping you're back with us with a truly sticky bean very soon.

We're up visiting my DPs this weekend, very glad I told them already; mum prided herself on being able to spot a pregnant elbow when she was teaching in the 70's! (No, I have no idea what a pregnant elbow looks like either, but apparantly I have them!)

Hey ladies!

Zermatt - try not to worry too much, just remember for future.
My boobs are actually more comfortable in a bra!! But i do have over spill!! Looking good!!

Mama HI! Hope you're well! Let us know when you have progress with the fertility referral.

Sooooo want to tell someone. I'm lying to everyone! But will wait until the scan. FOREVER!!!

Thanks English. (also longing for overspill lol)

knotty, I'm now fondling my elbows to see if they feel pregnant!

English, glad you're enjoying being back in the uk. I just know there's no way I'll be able to wait till 12 weeks to come clean! Neither DH or I are very good at keeping things quiet . I might just have to avoid people!

I think once I've had the second reassurance scan I'll feel more comfortable in telling our parents. I think my best friend will also be told then. Everyone else can wait. I quite like it being our little secret.

We will be telling family after the 12wk scan if I ever get one followed by a few close friends, then we'll just let the grapevine take it from there. It's been a very tough 6 weeks so far!!

Can definitely understand that with you not being happy with the last scan results. Can't see me having a scan before 12 weeks unless I have bleeding or anything else worrying. If I'm not then I can't see me being quiet for that long!

Will probably tell a couple of good friends just cause I need to tell someone IRL. And several strangers

poly, I can't remember, have you told your parents yet? Both our parents know, and we're telling BIL and SIL tomorrow.

Figure with each week I can keep my gob shut we're getting closer to the 'safe' zone, so am going to have to try and remember that! Can't wait to go and see my grandparents with a scan pic, esp as we're intending on using my grandads name if it's a boy

We haven't told anyone other than my GP and my consultant. Believe me, this is completely out of character.

Morning! I'm exchausted. It's a weekend long family gathering - 12 of us - where only my parents know. Covering it up is knackering me out and I'm not enjoying myself as an constantly on edge. It's so tempting just to tell a few more people to make it easier. But then not sure how wise that is at 7-8 weeks.

fancy, only you know. But I had a google for opinions, and one person said that they didn't tell anyone, then had a mc. They needed support from their friends, so told them about the mc. The friends were obviously supportive, but sad that they missed out in the happiness of the news and only got to share the sad bit. Next time they told them earlier.

I figure that if I want/need the support from someone if I did mc, then I'd tell that person. If it's close family who will be over the moon for you, but support you in whichever way you need (and that might be just leaving you alone), then I'd tell them and enjoy sharing the happy news.

That's just me though, I am by nature an over sharer, as is DH. The only way anyone close to us will not know before 12 weeks is if we manage to avoid seeing them!

It's totally up to you Fancy. Telling people is not going to make it more likely for something to go wrong, just more people to tell if it did (which it won't). Do what you feel comfortable with.

I've decided that as much as I want a baby (which is a LOT), I hate being pregnant - well at least at this stage. I had some pink cm last night so obviously spent the whole night worrying. I feel like I'm perched on the edge of a cliff waiting to fall. Going to the loo has become traumatic!!

I completely get you there English I still get stretching and panging cramps and naturally they send me into a quivering wreck. I run to the loo convinced I'm bleeding with every bit of cm. I'm really hoping I relax more in 2nd tri.
There's some close fam here and some not so maybe I have to do secret selective telling. My 10 and 8 yo cousins are here and I definitely don't want them to know yet, as it would be v confusing is something went wrong.

Ah, can definitely understand you not wanting to tell the kids. I don't want to tell DB as he's had a pretty tough few years. I still want to protect him and wait till it's more likely to be a good outcome and he's 26!

Oh yeah, I'm not telling my nieces until I get to 2nd trimester. My littler one is desperate for a baby cousin and has already decided that I'll have 2 girls called Rose and Odette! Although I'm sure now she's obsessed with Frozen she's prefer Ana and Elsa!

We're not telling DNs (7 and 10) till later though BIL and SIL already know.

I've told work now, so news is spreading out at school. Apart from that, only immediate family know and my best friend. Waiting for scan at 10+5 before letting the rest of my close friends now and then DPs on both sides have the go ahead to tell rest of family (my DM is better than fb at getting the word out). Other than that it'll be as and when we see people.

Last time we ended up doing a fb announcement at 4 months, but only because we announced that we were engaged and everyone was wondering why we were arranging a tiny wedding in 3 months that none of them were invited to (had a lot to do with DH's depression as well as the pg. He couldn't have coped with a huge do at the time. And we wanted to get married before ds arrived because being a foreigner it makes everything simpler to navigate)

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We had a few probs last time with some of DH's friend who we don't see that regularly. They got really arsey that we hadn't told them I was pg, but we hadn't seen them during the whole of my pg. DH felt pretty abandoned by his friends during his depression. Even though they knew what he was going through, none of them ever called to see how he was doing, or asked him out, or visited. I got a stroppy email at 8 months pg (me! Not dh even though they were his friends!) saying how awful it was of us not to tell them! Fuckers.

I hope you sent an equally shitty email back Calling! People can be so weird with things like that!
When we got engaged an old friend of mine (Who I don't see at all anymore - grown apart massively) got the real hump that I didn't call her personally to tell her. And it only came out about a month before the wedding when her DM told my DM how upset she's been!! I was so shocked! I don't think i'd heard from her in over a year at least! People are odd!!!

We had the same with our wedding. Because we had such a tiny wedding (partly because of dh, pg and short term planning) we only invited parents, siblings with partners and our dns. We fully intend to have a big party in the next few years around our wedding anniversary. We didn't tell everyone except through fb and when we saw people, but of course expected our parents to relay circumstances to family. My family and friends in the UK were all so lovely and sent us loads of cards and presents and messages. DH's family and friends jusf seemed to ignore it! Some aunties and uncles were stroppy because they weren't invited and hadn't been informed about it officially. Wouldn't it have been really weird to send people cards saying, "We're getting married! But you're not invited!" ?

Instead we sent a card afterwards with a wedding pic of us on saying we were married and hoped to be able to celebrate with them soon. And it was the same friends of DH who made a song and dance about the fact that we'd gotten married and they didn't know about it. Aargh! Politics!

Ah fuck 'em Calling! Whatever you do, people moan. We invited loads if people I didn't even know to our wedding and still had complaints from distant aunties etc that they weren't invited. You can never please everyone. If I had to do it again, I'd probably have a tiny one just like you (even though it was really lovely!) to avoid all the aggro.

No symptoms at all today...