November 1014 - thread 5 - the rainbow collective romping (and limping) into 2nd trimester!

[weeonion]

hi folks - thought we should have a new thread!

Welcome Kate. Xx

Hi Ladies

Another newbie here (having spent yesterday attempting to read through the thread!). Am 34 and expecting my first in early November (currently 17+6). Also Yorkshire, but over in Hull.

Spent the weekend with friends in Birmingham having fun with their LGs and discussing pregnancy/parenting as their youngest arrived Dec last year. Haven't properly met any other Mums to Be as I work full time, so will be nice to share the journey with you chapesses.

JackieP

Morning Kate and jackiep26

Welcome ladies, same as that - don't know any Mums to Be at all and when its your first especially you need to compare notes!

My MIL told me that 45 years ago when she was expecting her first, she lived in a village where every single young woman her age was a SAHM, and after their babies were born there was a bunch of them that would go walking with their prams every day and they would all congregate on the village beach and have a fag and compare notes. All of the husbands were away on the train to the city every morning and there was this great sisterhood left behind meeting up every day.

Only time in my life I've actively envied how things used to be, tbh. She had no family around her but still had tons of company and support.

At least now we have the Internet!

Morning everyone, welcome newbies!
Alita, I'm 18 weeks tomorrow too but I have got 22 bloody days to wait until my scan .
I want to have a melodramatic foot-stomping tantrum - I am so impatient, I need to know if it's a boy or girl, 'it' just doesn't feel right.

Doesn't help that after thinking I was feeling some light movements a few weeks ago, I now haven't felt anything for a while - maybe placenta has moved? Does that even happen?
Or maybe I imagined it before...

That popcorn looks amazing, plan to make a bucket load tonight!

I've started reading an interesting book about birth and breastfeeding by Michael Odent, I want to be fully educated and informed and in control but tbh the more I know, the more divided I feel... I now really really want a natural birth without synthetic hormones and opiates, it's better for baby and better for bonding blah blah blah, but then the more I read, (plus the birth pics in Ina May's book!) the more I think bugger that, I want an fully body epidural at the very first twinge.
It's a bloody mine field!

I too don't know any mums-to-be locally - I'm a nanny so I know lots of lovely mums with young children but I really want someone who is also a first-timer to drag me to yoga, drink Shloer with and hang out with after the baby is born too - the idea of all those village mums together is really lovely!

Ooh, also, a tip for those who keep falling off the thread of they don't post for a while; I discovered that (on the app) anything you 'watch' stays on 'I'm watching' forever, so you don't lose the thread and panic like I have been doing!

Thanks for the welcomes.

As for long waits for scans, I've got to wait 26 days (had to rebook when the date they sent me was one I'm in Cumbria with friends...). Not finding out what Blueberry is though. Want it to be a nice surprise.

JackieP

Just whilst we're mentioning the app...is there a shorter way to get to the end of the thread so you're not scrolling down for 3 hours first?! Anyone know? I used mumsnet last preg but only on full site so new to the app!

Hi Newbies!

For the mobile (Apple) app you can tap on the + button top right and then click 'flip thread'. You then have to scroll down to where you last read and then read upwards. It's not ideal but the best solution I have found. Anyone got any better options?

Jackiep - im from hessle so your my closest MN yay.
elliekins - that sucks!! i have 13 days to wait for mine (18 + 3 ) im absolutely itching to have it done had too much paranoia with this one after bleeding pains etc.
anyone else starting to nest.... i am a clean person anyway but yesterday found myself hands and knees on the kitchen floor scrubbing it clean person(usually use.a mop!) and then cleaning all the kitchen cupboard doors too. hubby was most distressed Haha.

Thanks kantha...definitely quicker! Thanks for the welcome ladies.

I didn't know there was an app! Will look into it...

Welcome newbies

16 week appointment with MW today, DP not planning on attending this one as didn't think there would be much interesting for him and he's going to go swimming with his nephew instead, which will be nice for the nephew as he has a new baby brother his dad is very hands-on with and I think he feels a bit neglected by male company. Sadly, now having an irrational panic that I am going to want DP there! Somebody give me a hefty kick up the bum and tell me to get a grip please!

Feeling so much better today after yesterday's wobble, not a hint of nausea. Thank God!

I had popcorn last night too (darn you, ladies!) but had mine smothered in farmhouse butter and salt. Disgustingly unhealthy, but who cares?! I am making up for it by having a smoothie as my still-mandatory mid-morning snack - today's is mango & raspberry, which was delicious! Banana, strawberry & blueberry for tomorrow, yum.

3 weeks until my scan. Boo

Ellie, I am like you - the more I read, the more I think I'd like to do it as naturally as possible but also the more I think 'drugs drugs drugs!!!' Eek!

Just to confuse everyone I've changed my Nickname (felt a Nana with my real name, and given that I'm Tawny Owl at Brownies who will persist in calling me Toni Owl... was JackieP26)

mismylinford - 4 days ahead of me - am now wondering if we'll end up seeing each other at Women's and Childrens? Probably not as they seem to kick out fairly quickly.

I have just got a knitting pattern book so I can use up my yarn stash on knitting things for the nursery, good job seeing as that's where I store it. I also need to persuade DH and my Mum that the Silver Cross Wayfarer is a lovely pram (and as we can get adaptors for the car seat we've been offered to fit on it). Not nesting as yet, possibly after Brownies and Guides have finished for the term.

Twiglet - here's a kick up the bum for you:

Agree with Kantha, Twiglet! My 16 week app was very straightforward and nothing monumental at all. You will be fine

toni - not planning a long stay in womens and children's i want to be in an out asap. was in there 3 days with dd and was like being in real life Jeremy Kyle was atrocious. i had planned castle hill with dd but it.got shut down the week i was due. midwifes are lovely just if u get stuck with an 'undesirable' its hell when u just want quite time with new baby.

Am 15wks today had mw appointment n heard baby hb which was nice.

Have washed curtains n lampshade cover today for nursery n hung curtains as were none in that room yet didn't know we had kept curtains husband found in garage n one of many boxes at weekend seems only thing we did keep. They are nice neutral ones with farmyard print on. Will need to get a blackout blind also.

afternoon all!!

I have just had my 20 week scan!!!

I had a it of a panic this morning about no longer feeling movement so rang homebirth midwife who told me at go to hospital to maternity assessment. They struggled with different dopplers to find a heart beat to no avail - by which stage i was in tears. well - a bit more than just tears to be honest - almost full on panic! Thankfully DP was with me. The staff were just excellent - really warm, understanding and caring.

I was sent for a scan and they decided to do the full fetal anomaly instead of waiting til monday!

All is good. L'il Green socks ( as we know call him / her) is fine, moving around alot and wriggling away - all checks were positive, measurements match etc etc. DP was quite emotional for some reason - especially at seeing their wee feet when checking for club feet. The reason i cant feel movements is that as womb has got bigger and moved up - my placenta is now right at front. Reassured by that.

We already know the sex so thankfully we weren't relying on this scan to find out as they couldnt tell due to position ( despite having me jump up and down, bounce on bed etc). i think i would have been mightily disappointed if i was all built up to find out and then not.

That was my next big milestone over. phew!

Another 10 weeks to next scan and then final one at 36 weeks.

weeonion so glad your ok

weeonion, I'm glad everything is ok. Poor you for having to go through that!

I had my 16 week scan to take measurements because of my low papp-a levels. Everything looked fine, luckily. The baby's been growing really well since the last scan. The doctor also said that 9 out of 10 times the low papp-a has no consequences, so I'm hoping for the best!

He found that I have an anterior placenta. So I may not be feeling movements as well as normally. Can the position of the placenta still change?

He also told me the gender, but I'm not sharing it yet. I want to tell my OH first!

Knowing the gender makes it feel so much more real though. First time I teared up at a scan. I feel much closer to the baby now for some reason. I'm glad I found out!

Lots of Yorkshire peeps - I am in West yorks. Welcome all newbies. I am going to be a First time mum as well - am worried about meeting people when on mat leave / before. We told everyone yesterday so now am feeling slightly worried that it might now all go wrong but at 16 weeks hopefully I am just being paranoid. I think it's just the feeling a bit better but not having movement yet that worries me. Although this morning the retching came back which was unpleasant! Still contemplating a Doppler as midwife wouldn't listen yesterday but then I worry I won't hear it and will panic even more! Still 4 weeks until my 20 week scan!

Great news weeonion. Glad it all went Ok in the end. Also blamber - fingers crossed everything continues well. Hope everyone else is good.

Boo...all you northerners! I'm in sunny Bournemouth anyone else from the sunny south?

Welcome newbies

weeonion my heart was in my mouth reading your post. I am SO pleased everything is ok xx

study I am in the south but much further east in Sussex

And blamber that's great news. I'm slightly envious - I so want to find out at the scan but DP wants a surprise

welcome Kate and Jackie!

Weeonion that sounds so scary! I'm really glad that it's all ok though.

Welcome to our newcomers!

I'm in the south too - Kent