November 1014 - thread 5 - the rainbow collective romping (and limping) into 2nd trimester!

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hi folks - thought we should have a new thread!

This will end up forcing me to rant about my view of society and it's rules on what's ok :p
in reality 24 isn't a young mum you've probably been fertile for over 10 years! It's society that thinks you're young. Our grandparents were married with babies around the age of 20! what matters is that you have your baby when you are ready for it, what ever age you are!
I'm not like most people my age who go out drinking 3 times a week and sleep through lectures.
I'm a student nurse who has do a responsible job on placements, I spend my evenings cooking dinner, doing homework with dsd and putting her to bed, and I manage the household budget affectively. occasionally I go out and get pissed but dont we all! People can't tar us all with the same brush!

Alita - try Sainsburys for the Mojito Mocktail juice. In the chilled juices' aisle in larger branches, although it's not always in stock. I was hooked on it over Christmas when I couldn't drink due to medication. I can't seem to find it on their website though to post a link.

Regarding younger mums, I look young for my age and I constantly see people looking at me, the bump, my partner, then looking for a ring. I laugh at the cultural differences in the world as at 32, my husband's family class me as an Old Maid who should have pumped out 5 kiddies by now. As having children young is the norm.

Hi everyone! Had 3 pages to catch up on! :-)
I am being treated like I have GD due to getting it late with ds. It's hard to know what to eat! Especially being dairy free & just this week veggie!
My private gender scan is on Sunday and I can't wait!! Sooo excited, I think it's a boy & dh thinks it's a girl.
I have an anterior placenta too once the midwife couldn't find the hb went for a scan and pip was so wriggly! Was scary though!

Twiglet and alita I couldn't agree more. I face exactly the same thing all of the time. I am also 24 and have a 2 year old ds and look very young. It annoys me more than anything some of the comments I receive. I hate that doctors and other health care professionals change the way they are towards me when I say what I do for a job it's like oh you're a teacher you must be ok then. Who cares if you're young and a cleaner, old and a lawyer what matters is you love and look after your children! Some people are just far too ignorant but it doesn't stop it from annoying you! I'd be fuming if I was you twiglet and hope something happens to the woman in terms of displinary.

total agree with the agism thing.
i had my own business (cafe) for 2 years and i organised networking meeting mainly people in their mid 40's and i couldn't make it to one meeting as my dd was sick. the next meeting was mainly about how i can be 23 (at the time) have a daughter and run a business. glad i sold my half of the business last year as found out last week the cafe shut bankrupt... another good move to get out when i did.

Mojito juice sounds like it's worth a taste! Best get me some of that!

Unfortunately there are always people with single minded views and will have an opinion about whether you are an appropriate parent. It's nothing to do with anyone else at the end of the day and the most important thing is that you can provide your child with a loving and secure environment, regardless of your circumstances. Some people have nothing better to do than to sit around judging others unfortunately.

Am 16 weeks today- feel like I've been pregnant forever but at the same time feels like the time is flying by!

Ooh I haven't seen in it Sainsburys before I'll have another look.

I think I need to be less impatient :P DP categorically told me I could wait until the 20 week scan and did not need to get a private gender scan for next week -.- hmph.

alita - i am very inpatient too i am 16 + 4 and to think i have 3 weeks to wait...argh.

Left work early today due to bad cramps. I'm resting now and the pain has subsided and is almost completely gone. I think it was my intestines though and not the womb. Maybe it was stress as well, with yesterday's bad news and being exhausted. I wish I could just stay at home and do nothing for the next 6 months. A shame maternity leave can't start that early

Well I have an extra scan at 16 weeks to check for growth. If all looks fine, do you think I could ask them to look at gender too? Impatient here as well.

I don't my FIRST scan till 20 weeks!

anna I don't think I could take that!

Re the ageism thing unfortunately there are people who just love labelling and classifying others on prejudice. And western parenting is ludicrously over-competitive these days. The best thing I find is to ignore people like that - it the best way to stop getting annoyed yourself, plus it's guaranteed to annoy them. Win-win.

has anyone thought about if they will breast fed or bottle yet?

Mismy I'm going to attempt to breastfeed, I'm actually more worried about that than I am about labour. I have hypersensitive nipples!

My sister has given me a book called "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" which looks pretty comprehensive!

I'm definitely going to breastfeeding. With DS it was harder than the whole pregnancy, induction, c section, and recovery put together, but we got there in the end.

i tried to breast feed with dd but i was exhausted after a 26 hour labour and she wanted to be on every half an hour after an hours feed as my milk just wasn't flowing right after two days and a massive crying fit i gave up. my care worker was very supportive and said i gave it a very good go but i always felt like a failure. so i want to be really really determined to make it work this time.

i tried to breast feed with dd but i was exhausted after a 26 hour labour and she wanted to be on every half an hour after an hours feed as my milk just wasn't flowing right after two days and a massive crying fit i gave up. my care worker was very supportive and said i gave it a very good go but i always felt like a failure. so i want to be really really determined to make it work this time.

Hi everyone, long term lurker here, finally got my head together to post..
I've been trying to keep up with what has been going on from the beginning but am usually on my phone and it's a bit more difficult.

Here are my stats
2 dds (14y +6y) and 1 DS (2y)
DC4 due 14th Nov
14+6

I got a BFP after EXDP had decided to move out, hence lots of head buried in the sand action..
I finally had my '12 wk' scan last week but measured at 13+6 which is about right going by the only time that conception could have happened. The sonographer has told us what gender she thinks it is too! was a bit shocked about that.

I tend to have B2B babies and DS had shoulder dystocia so my consultant has offered extra growth scans and early induction if necessary to avoid the shoulder dystocia.

I also have to get tested for GD as my dad has diabetes and DS was very large in relation to both dds.

I am huge, and have been since about 9 weeks, I didn't tell anyone for quite a while but dd2 kept insisting I was pregnant as I was fat so I had to confess.

Anyway, happy to get to know you all, and can I get my first interaction with you guys started wit ha TMI question..has anyone else got really itchy nipples??

I'm planning to as with ds I was lucky and it was all v easy. I do believe there are serious benefits, but also believe if you give it your best shot and it doesn't work for you it's not worth making yourself miserable over..

Welcome crazy and sorry about exdp. I hope you've got some family support. Yes my nipples are so so itchy! Driving me mad.

Had my booking in apt today at 16 weeks, so first bloods, urine etc tests for me. I got a vv quick scan for about 30 seconds so that was nice and unexpected - the baby was measuring closer to my original dates than it was at dating scan. Only a difference of 5ish days but I'm feeling pernickety about it!

Urgh I have to get the diabetes test too because as it's my birthday today I am officially over 30 and ancient! Also a grandmother had diabetes. Not looking forward to that but oh well.

I'm going to try breastfeeding definitely. I'm sure it's got to be best and my mum managed it exclusively with all 3 of us. And it's free

Yes I'd hope to breastfeed again, hope it will Work out but nothing is guaranteed! Dd had tongue tie which was a real curve ball but somehow we got there. I feel like I know quite a lot about it now after a tricky start. The frequency of feeds thing is a real shocker! MN's feeding board is great for all feeding questions too.

Thanks Greenstone, and happy birthday
I will likely try and bf, I did for a few weeks with the girls and over a year with DS but it is mainly due to it being free and so much easier for me than making bottles as I'm lazy. Saying that, if we have any issues I will not beat myself up about having to ff, plenty more in parenthood to feel guilty about imo.

Is their a stats thread?
Also, did I see mention of a FB group? It's so much easier fro me to navigate on FB on my phone.

Evening all!
Welcome crazy and yep , itchy nurps here too!
I also found bf much tougher than pg and labour. I had expected it to be hard but it was v v v difficult for us. Spent ALOT of early weeks crying, in the bf support unit and with alot of different people trying to get our latch right. I couldn't believe how emotive it was. We got there in the end, about 3.5 months layer. I was incredibly envious of those who found it easy but also reassured by the number i met through groups who found it hard. DD and i kept going for 2 yrs (not original intention).
I am determined to try this time but tbh, don't know if i have the time, energy and basic emotional reserves to invest as much as last time. Less likely to beat myself up.
I agree with others that MN was one of the main things that helped me!!
Keep an open mind, it may go fab for you but may not so think who and from where you will get support. X

Happy birthday greenstone!

Another diabetes tested here. Due to fathers type 2 diabetes and my age. Not that bothered tbh. Tis only a blood test and not an invasive procedure. Could be worse in scheme of what many pg women are having to cope with.
A dear colleague's son was recently diagnosed with rate leukemia and treatment is not going well. It was and is a serious reality check -helps keep things in perspective.