October 2014 - thread 5. Bigger bumps!

[Kirstipops]

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct

Thanks for the feedback on reusable nappies folks, nice to find some likeminded people on here giving them a go, don't think I know of anybody else who has used them, except my mum!
I don't want to find out the sex - at the scan will the scan tech be checking out baby's bits anyway though to check all is present and correct or do they only "go there" if asked?! Sorry if that's a ridiculous question, just wondered if I'd be asked to look away at that point and wondered how strong my resolve would be!!

With my first & second, they asked at the crucial moment before they went to look at that area...but with Amelia, both DH & I saw it before sonographer said it was a girl...was easier to spot cos we knew what we were looking at 2nd time around!

I'm still undecided whether to find out or not...found out with other two, but as we have one of each, it would be nice to have a surprise I think & give DH his 'moment' at the birth, if you know what I mean! He's really good support during labour but always says he feel like a spare part during them!

DH wants to know tho...he's a bit "but why wouldn't you want to know when they can tell you?!"

Another one here where MW only got the teensiest record of hb at last appointment...I've to go back a week on Saturday so she can hear it properly but I was only just 15 wks at last appt, so I'm not too concerned.

I want to find out the gender but dp doesn't. He says since he doesn't mind either way, there's no need. He was talking about leaving the room so I can find out and he won't! I don't think this is remotely feasible but he just can't see why not. However he has said a few things this pregnancy and then 3 weeks later it's been a different story so I am just hoping he will change his mind! I don't want to have to strong arm him into it as I like being a team together but I don't think he would be that upset if he did know so I really want him to come round.

Gosh that was really on my mind, can you tell?!

I also done want to find out the sex. I come from the theory that you we have few suprises in life and I loved finding out that Ds was a boy when I pushed him out! Part of it helped I think in going through 4 days of labour - wanting to find out gave me energy to keep going! I also have no preference either way, just a healthy one so I don't need to know now! But I will speculate of course!

People do seem to expect you to find out nowadays... So I will tell sonographer that we dont want to know. They either say look away or just don't go there. Some people saw willies 'by mistake' but I definately wasn't shown between ds legs when he was inside me still. I guess it all depends on their position but I would hope that if you didn't want to know the sonographer will respect that and try to keep it hidden!!

Not finding out here. He doesn't want to, and I don't mind whether we find out or not, so 'not' it is.

Mostly though I'm sort of enjoying the intrigue as to whether both of our firm feelings on it being a girl, are right. I'm happy to keep that going for another five and a bit months.

Good news on everyone hearing heartbeats, I've got my 16 appointment tomorrow at 17+2. I think I've felt movement particularly when I do the golden thread breathing exercise but it could just be that I'm a windy old soul at the moment.

Here's another reusable nappy thumbs up. I used a combination of Velcro bum genius in the day from 6 weeks and tot bots at night. When DD got older we used bamboo insets which did the trick. The bum genius were easy to wash and quick to dry (we haven't got a tumble drier). The tot bots took longer but we're extremely effective for the nights. I also got some money (approx £50) towards the cost from my local council which was a nice bonus. I'll be getting the out of the vac pack bag ready to use again come October.

Didn't find out the sex last time but this time I'm going to - just feel so much more practical about the whole thing and would like to prepare DD as she is sure it's a girl (whilst I'm veering towards boy). Just over two weeks until scan and I'm counting down the days.

Dare I say it but I think I might be starting to feel the second trimester calm - so much less tired and generally less anxious and emotional. Sickness calmed down (apart from this morning but that was the first time in 10 days). Do have huge clusters of spots though on chin and neck, yuk.

Here's to better days for all of us.

Good to hear about all the heartbeats. I have my 20 weeks scan in a week, when I'll be 19 weeks! So nervous already. I had another yesterday due to some bleeding (still, ugh), but was good to see my little bighead in there moving around.

My boyfriend has finally decided he wants to know (the MIL has been working on him, I think) so that makes it easier. Before we were the same LondonJen - I had visions of me hiding mountains of clothing for 5 months so he didn't find out. Hopefully yours will be as fickle as mine and change his mind! Looking at little baby clothes for boys or girls has helped him I think.

Great advice everyone about nappies. V useful as our local real nappy group no longer runs!

We're def finding out sex, if we can. They have already stopped telling you at two hospitals nearby so hoping ours will. We could pay for a private scan but dont think we'll bother. I'm not that fussed but it would be nice to know.

We have over a month til 20 week scan as having to go at 22 weeks. DH is working away at 20 weeks . We have asked for no testing for Down Syndrome etc. So what does the sonographer look for if we dont want to know about anomalies?

V jealous on everyone hearing heartbeats. Wishing they gave us 16 week appointments here. Won't see my midwife til 24 weeks and last time was at 8 weeks!

Weird dreamy night's sleep, with lots of getting up to wee... and loads of wee too, not just my normal teaspoon. Then woke up this morning to definite fluttery movements.. and then when I stood up, a definite bump. Clearly some major action been going on in there the last 12 hours!

Aw how exciting ohthegoats! Whenever I have the odd day or two of uncomfy stretching/pulling feelings I've noticed they were followed by the bump looking bigger! Other than the bubbles popping and forward roll feeling 2-3 weeks ago I don't think I've felt anything though. Midwife said it can be up to the 24th week til I feel anything for definite, I have an anterior placenta too which is maybe scuppering it.

Wow lots of overnight changes for you goats!

I had 3 separate times yesterday where I felt proper kicks. 2 of those times my hand was on my bump and I could feel it through my hand. Cant wait for dp to feel them too! Obviously as soon a he put his hand on my bump baby went back to sleep lol!

We booked a weekend break in the new forest for the end of the month. So excited!! I love travelling and getting away for a break. Dd is spending the same weekend in Weymouth with my mum so this will be like our last childless getaway before this little bean arrives!

16 week appt this afternoon! Yikes!

Seems like it's the season for 16 week appointments: I'm off to mine this afternoon too, after a whole night of nightmares! Really hoping to hear the heartbeat - it seems such a long time since the scan 4 weeks ago...

I am convinced I felt movement yesterday when I had my hand just above my pelvic bone but I know it's not common to feel it so early so it could well have just been the twitch of a muscle somewhere...

We had our 16 week appointment yesterday with Consultant. All good an da heartbeat but they struggled to find it so we had a quick portable scanner used to find where to look. It was nice catching glimpse of Schrodenburg.
From the start we were unsure about why we were on a Consultant pathway, there hadn't been anything to indicate it and our Midwife had not known why either. She did not arrange it an din fact had telephoned to challenge/question it but without any answer. The consultant then said 'I am not happy that you have seen me, you did not need to" or a very near approxiamtion of that which left me in no doubt she was blaming our midwife. This left me feeling considerrably pissed off. I explained that it had not been our midwife's choice and that she had tried to find out what was going on. My irritation though stemmed from the fact that I don't believe she should have told us she was unhappy with a decision our midwife made.
If she was unhappy or lacked faith in our midwife she should have those conversations behind closed doors. I wanted to feel that the team who are treating/suppoting us are cohesive and trust each other and work together (even if this is not true). And powerplay bulshit by doctors gets right on my threpenny bits. Rant over.

guess it shows how vulnerable I feel we are in this process.

Aha! There's hope yet then Porcito! The first thing he asked me this morning was if I would like a boy or a girl so I think it's on his mind now.

Exciting stuff goats! Am also ridiculously pleased for you that you weed more than a teaspoon. I hate when there's a big urge and hardly anything comes out!!

I am jealous of your trip Mum2kiss.

Puppy that is crap, like you say you want a team in place not people who don't know what one another are doing or why and openly question each others judgement. Hope you feel better getting it off your chest.

Heard Bert's heartbeat this morning!!! Midwife found it instantly. It was fab. Am 17 weeks, it's a beautiful sunny day and other than uncomfortable growing pains in the ole undercarriage I am feeling so happy today.

Only pants thing was having to have my bloods retaken as ones from booking in 'clotted' so couldn't be used.

Little un is kicking daily now only 2-3 times a day I'm glad the anterior placenta hasn't affected me being able to feel. We tried to listen to her with the Doppler last night found the placenta whooshing away but she moving about to much and kept kicking the probe looks like I have a feisty one :)

it shows how vulnerable I feel we are in this process

I hear you! I feel that I'm taking quite a lot into my own hands. I'm not asking opinions about things because I don't really trust that I'll get a proper answer. I know there are lots of unknowns about all of this stuff, especially at this still relatively early stage, but I still haven't ever managed to speak to a midwife attached to my GP surgery. I've left 10+ messages, and either I get no response, or an answer phone message left at a time when I've asked them specifically not to call (although this has only happened twice, the other times I get no response). I feel a bit fobbed off a lot of the time - it's weird, because I'm old, I'm a professional person, and I'm used to being dealt with in a professional manner, and it feels with all medical things (not just this pregnancy thing), that professionalism just isn't a 'thing'.

Regards feelings of vulnerability, I keep thinking that women give birth every day all over the world, without ever having seen a doctor, it's natural.. and that I should trust my instinct with if something is really bad, getting myself up to A&E. Meanwhile I'm reading things that are recommended, I'm trying to educate myself so that I can at least feel as if I have some preferences or opinions about how things happen.

Mostly I just can't wait until the medical stuff is over, and we get to take home a child that is ours to look after.. to just get on with life as a family.

Haha LondonJen - Bert is on our boys names list. My grandpy's name.

Ohthegoats that must be so frustrating! I read your post in the forum the other day it doesn't seem right that you don't have your own named midwife. Myn is only part time which is frustrating but at least I know I can reach her by text if nothing else

Lol goats we alternate with 'Bertrude' for the bean! Can imagine Bert sticking tho if it's a boy, I do like it! Sorry to hear you're getting messed about as well, it just seems so unnecessary.

Problem with Bert is it's not that different to my name, which would cause issues if it was being called down a garden for example.

No need to worry goats you namesis about to forever more become MUUUUUM!! Sounds nothing like bert ;)

I'm envious of you all getting to hear heartbeat at 16 week appointment.My midwife doesnt do that so I have to wait between 12 week scan and 20 week scan(still 3 weeks away) to know everything's ok and haven't felt any movements yet either...

mum2kiss I'm so jealous of your break! Our first wedding anniversary is in June so I'd like to get away then for a weekend maybe, seems so long to wait though! Good luck on your appointment today too.
Sorry to goats and puppy (and mrsthedog) for your shitty experiences, must be so frustrating!